How do I get over feelings of jealousy/my boyfriend not being very attracted to me?
He loves me and he says he is attracted to me, but there are clearly others he is much more attracted to. I know this is very normal, but how do I get over feelings of insecurity about it?
You're probably an uggo so you should be happy with what you have.
Just accept it or you will lose what you have if you can't come to terms with being an uggo.
Any tips for "just accepting" it? like what to do if he can't get off to me sometimes
It's normal for guys to want to fuck everything that moves. You could be a supermodel and you will still date men who not only find other girls attractive but will cheat on you.
At least you arent a guy. If your girl isnt attracted to you as a guy, that is a massive blow to the ego.
Attraction is subjective to each individual, meaning that no one truly finds someone that they are attracted to 100%. There is always someone better looking than you out there and the same rules for him. In the end you might of been someone he just decided to settle with because you look decent. Be happy he said he loves you and attracted to you but don't be surprised if he starts to find others better than you. Human's always strive for perfection even though it doesn't exist
I imagine it's even worse for women considering they waste all their money on cosmetics just to compete with other women
At least you're not a guy. 'cause if you're a guy and ugly, you're fucked for good. Even ugly women have somebody.
Be happy with what you have. If he's with you, it's probably for a reason.
What do you mean how is it different? Isn't it a blow to the ego either way if your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't attracted to you?
how should I react if he can't get off to me sometimes?
If he's watching porn, then that's the reason he can't get off to you. Porn gives you instant access to the hottest women, doing crazy shit, for free. Don't look to much into it, if that's the case. Just tell him to lay off it and to fuck you instead.
Getting enough sex?
Nah its a ldr so we see each other like every 2 months for a week. He's got lots of videos of me n stuff but of course since we're apart for like a couple months at a time he watches porn. But sometimes he can't get off to my videos and to me in person as well
If he can't get off to you it is most likely porn brain. In which case it is HIM, not you. On the off chance it isn't porn brain: work on your image you dip
Self image or physical image? :P
My wife is a hundred pounds overweight. I love her but I ain't fuckin her. What about you could use some trimming up?
The porn thing is definitely for real. Real life women just can't compete in terms of the mental and hormonal stimulation.
You have access to an unlimited number of females with very attractive bodies doing everything imaginable. Even if you yourself are a 10/10 mega supermodel, your SO will get off to porn of girls online only because they are new and novel. I mean even men with the hottest wives can end up fucking them less and less just because it's the same sex with the same person.
There are some couples that can fuck like animals for most of their lives, but they're the exception rather than the rule. It is likely a mix of both natural chemical compatibility and conscious effort to keep each other stimulated and mutually attracted.
I'm like average for my height. 115lbs, 5 ft 2 in. I know he likes women that are quite skinny but don't think my weight is an issue to him
Are you feeling unattractive or is he not attracted to you? I don't care what he says. You know from his energy. If he's not, I wouldn't stick around because attraction is very important.
It's porn. If you meet up again, have sex. For God's sake, he is starved for human contact. It's dangerous.
If you don't act, he'll drop you for real pussy any day of the week. Give him a reason to stay with you.
>inb4 'he'll stay for my winning personality :)
I'm like average for my height, 115lbs 5 ft 2 in. I know he likes when women are quite skinny but I don't think my weight is an issue for him
He's with you, not them. That should be proof enough that he wants to be with you. Carrying unrealistic expectations of what he seems attractive is just going to spiral into a self fulling prophecy with him leaving because you can't control your jealousy.
Well that's good at least. Could you tell my wife to lose a hundred pounds?
I know he's got some attraction to me
it should probably come from you
That's bullshit. Sometimes your dick just doesn't work. It can be stress, performance anxiety, too much thrusting, overthinking, any number of factors contributes to it. It has nothing to do with you and nothing to do with porn either.
>T been with a man for almost 10 years and sometimes his dick just doesn't want to give the goods.
Yeah I know, that's why I want to figure out how to control it better
Dubs checked.
DTMFA
he's said he can get off to other porn sometimes when he can't get off to vids of me/sex with me
You've clearly never been married.
Male user in a ldr here, I can't get off to my girlfriend and I don't know why, my guess it's not about porn itself, but self stimulation. For what I understand she can't do it the way I like it because she doesn't know how and probably can't do it at that rhythm.
Hey, retard. Read above. I cracked the code, and you're wrong. They're both ldr and she doesn't put out. So he watches porn instead. Boom. Mystery solved.
nope
So then maybe you just don't feel attractive?
well I put out every time we're together
Stop watching porn. Ignore looking at lewd things for like half a week to a week, and then look at your girlfriend's nudes. We'll see if that works.
Maybe. I just know that porn gets him off when I can't sometimes and need to find a way to deal
How do you get over it? Not care. Seriously, stop caring about the details. Worry when he's not meeting you halfway or showing you affection at all. Penises are weird stupid creatures and men are visually stimulated by random things. Keep being the best you you know how. Be honest and open minded with him and hold him accountable for showing how he feels for you. Other than that you both should eat right, sleep well, and bone as much as possible. Other than that you can't blame yourself for his failings.
good tip
Kek. I like that you can find humor in the suffering of it all.
In case of males it means, that their female will cheat on them and get pregnant from another male. For females it does not matter, how many other females their male fucks, because they still can have their own baby with him.
Why don't you sometimes watch the same porn together and masturbate? Can be a ldr netflix and chill thing.
Have you tried making yourself more attractive?
Not sure OP, I'm not the guy. If pic related was about of legal age I wouldn't need anyone else. Everyone has their own preferences in women. To me that girl is a 9/10 or almost perfect. Like I said to each their own.
we aren't really into the same porn but we've talked about maybe doing that
yeah, anything you had in mind for making oneself more attractive?
With my ex, I really did love her. She was extremely cute, and if she did herself up she could be "hot". But most of the time, I found her very cute, and always was attracted to her.
It's just human nature to look at other people, and even to think they're attractive; that doesn't mean you don't love your SO or don't find them attractive/etc. I don't think it's worth getting jealous or angry over unless your SO is like.. actively seeking out others; but that's a whole other problem.
If you're really worried, why not try and spice yourself up like how he likes, or just directly ask him what you'd want him to change?
Find a less attractive boyfriend?
yeah that's true, I used to do more of spicing myself up, but its been a while. He seems to like it when I do tho
I don't think that's a solution, I really like this one lol
Depends on how far you're willing to go.
The best is go to the gum. Just because you, or may not be naturally skinny, doesn't mean you won't look better getting some muscle tone.
If you're makeup isn't at it's top game, that's something you can improve. Including fake eyelashes. Might be just me, but those fake eyelashes are super attractive(assuming they're not ugly cheap ones)
Also upping your hair game. Texture and volume does wonders.
But really it depends on how much time you want to invest in looking better. Like, is it really worth it to spend 1-2 hours every morning to max your aesthetics stats?
But I still do recommend going to the gym
yeah I go to gym, could def go more
For me, nothing makes me softer than a girl making advanced plans to have sex with me like it’s some sort of calendared business event that she’s allowing. Literally had chicks sucking on my cock for like 10 minutes before giving up.
If it happens occasionally, it's pretty normal and it's not a competition. Porn and real life are very different and you can't compete with fantasy. No one can.
I'm a guy in a relationship with a girl who I think is not that attractive.
She'd go up several points for me if she went to the gym, got a waist and a thick ass. Now that's just me but I'm sure most men like their women curvy
Based and redpilled
>I know this is very normal
no its not very normal its normal in your mind because you think you must be with ppl who you choosed, but you are a retarded female and your shit decision is already causing your problems
Yeah cheating isn't really a thing
>There are clearly others he is much more attracted to
What makes you think that?