Friendzone

Met a girl on tinder a few months ago. Things progressed slowly since we both were inexperienced but it seemed good.
After 4 months we tried having sex for the first time but I couldn't get it up due to nerves.
We also met each others parents and I spent christmas at her parents house. I felt fine and was happy since it seemed we were getting closer.
Since we both love skiing we talked about taking a trip together. I was looking forward to spending a whole week together.
Fast forward to last night and she tells me she would rather just be friends. A week ago she told me she loves me. I don't fucking get it and i'm hurt and really confused. I feel lied to and lead on. She doesn't seem to see it that way. Says she is so used to being alone that she can't open up to people. Now i'm sitting here in the hotel room after she took the train back home. Crying and feeling like absolute dogshit. No idea what I'll do now. She told me to contact her if I want. She didn't even touch me once while I was crying my eyes out in front of her. How can she be so cold?
tl,dr: So called girlfriend dumped me during the second day of a skiing vacation out of nowhere. Feeling like shit and need to get this out somewhere. No idea what i'll do now. I just want to talk to her and be close to her. It hurts so much

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Here's your lesson kid - if she's your girlfriend then you fuck her, if you didn't fuck her she's not your girlfriend, now subtract 4 months, you've been a couple for the time you know her for minus those 4 months you didn't have sex.

Man - provides and fucks
Woman - takes care of kids and the man and siphons resources from the man to get protection from him

Sometimes shit just doesn't work out user.

Hate to be as harsh as ither guy but its the truth, women need sex, they may not need or want it everyday but its very important.
Now I know you liked her and it was hard to find her and feels like it was your inly chance but it's not. Give time time, you'll find another.
As for why you stayed soft thats pretty normal for first time and you should lighten up on the porn. Fap awayfor now but next time things start movi ng QUiT PORN AND JACKING OFF, your body will eventualy surrender.

She said she needed more time for sex. That she needs to trust the person. And when we did try to have sex during foreplay she was wet and eager.
why the fuck couldnt she tell me this shit before? Why drop this bomb on me during a vaccation? I'm so angry and hurt
Also I haven't watched porn since we started dating.

I actually couldn't get it up to fuck with my first gf because of anxiety/nerves/ended up thinking sex with penis in vagina isn't THAT great i'll just eat her out instead.

Then my 2nd gf taught me in one night basically how to have sex and get it up and enjoy it. It took like 5-10 minutes to get going, i came in 30 seconds and changed after that.

IT sort of sucks but if you're a virgin guy it could help big time having a girl who forces you to put your cock in her and really relaxes you and shows you the ropes. But if she's a virgin too goodluck with that.

I'm not a virgin and neither was she. I had much more experience than her. I simply need a few times to get comfortable with a girl.

Oh you never mentioned whether you were or not it sounds like you were.

Honestly you're totally normal, some guys are just more anxious then others and can't get hard on command so to speak in any given situation. I recommend viagra in the future, if you carry some form of it, the next time you need to have sex you'll be a champ. It sounds like she had some emotional issues anyway but you might've let he down. Relationships can be confusing.

Based
Bluepilled as fuck. What a shitty post.
>women need sex
No they don't. They want $$$$. If they wanted sex, there would be tons of male hookers for women.
Women find it insulting when you can't get it up for her. It screams "You are not attractive to me". Had the same issued when I had delayed ejaculation and ruined the girl's self esteem. Quit masturbating. Its not good for you.

Dude i don't care that I didn't get it up. Shit happens and it would have resolved itself in the future. She definitely had some issues with intimiacy. But why the fuck can't you say that beforehand? Now I'm sitting in austria wondering what the fuck I do. I'm angry at her for leading me on and being so fucking cold.

Wrong, women unless super uggo have 0 problem finding people willing to fuck them, for free. Males 9/10 have to actually put effort in, even chads don't always get approached by them.
Money is not all women either, know plenty of uggo active dope fiends still banging sober stacies because they have imahfixit complex.
Maybe your either a virgin but more likely never gave good dick out before. Both are fine but don't assune because I'm on here I know nothing about women.
Heres me banging your sister.

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First 3 times i to fuck i only got half chub but then luckily met a girl who let me try 3 different times with her and it finally happend. I understand that subconcious Anxiety we have no power over, it sucks.

Yeah women need to be patient. It's not about them when our dicks don't cooperate.

Nothing hurts a girl more than a guy who loses his wood/can't get it up for sex.

For you, you know that it's related to your nerves. It's more normal than most guys are willing to admit even. You know that. But she doesn't. Girls believe the meme that guys are ready to go at a moment's notice and so when you're fucking her with a half mast the only explanation as far as she's concerned is that you think she's ugly. They have no chill and no middle ground on this issue.

Even in a long term relationship turning down sex with a girl tends to make them assume ridiculously terrible things like you're cheating on them or that you suddenly find them unattractive.

>women unless super uggo have 0 problem finding people willing to fuck them, for free.
And yet somehow they are picky and aren't fucking every incel on the internet. Men on the other hand will fuck anything that moves.
>Males 9/10 have to actually put effort in, even chads don't always get approached by them
Wrong. Check out Jeremy Meeks. Coping loser.
>Money is not all women either, know plenty of uggo active dope fiends still banging sober stacies because they have imahfixit complex.
A bunch of fat ugly whores having sex with drug addicts does not count. Fat ugly whores also have sex with black men. Does that mean ALL women want sex with black men? Exactly.
>Maybe your either a virgin but more likely never gave good dick out before.
I've actually banged more girls than you'll ever will in your entire life. You sound like a retard who doesn't know how biology works. Let it put it very simple.

A women has limited sex cells (eggs) which in short will cause her to be picky with who she has sex with. Also, women arent visually stimulated as men so they won't find every guy attractive. Men on the other hand have millions of sperm cells and men are sensitive to visual stimuli. That is why you'll always hear men settling with a looks match while women will always want to settle with someone better.
>Both are fine but don't assune because I'm on here I know nothing about women.
You actually don't and you sound like you get all your information from porn. By the way, I don't even think you're old enough to browse this site. Reported.

Okay Proffesor, if it's true you have had alot of different women how are you not agreeing with me you aren't picky?
Let me assume they were all attractive to your standards
Because you frequently get to fuck women YOU HAVE OPTIONS.
Same goes.for them uhh duhhhhhh

First hand experience with this. Women cannot handle rejection.

I get to fuck them because I have money, looks and I lift. The exact things women are looking for when it comes to choosing a man. I have poor ugly friends who have trouble getting laid because no women will ever find them attractive. If I wasn't attractive and poor, I would still be a virgin like you.

Alright now I know you trolling.
GG u got me Gary Stu

I'm lying naked in bed with her. How is that rejection? Besides the fact that she was willing to try it more with me.

Its rejection in a sense that you are not getting hard for her, thus she thinks you are subconciously rejecting her.

>Doesn't refute what I said
Good goy

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Yeah dude, women are illogical af with alot of things and men are with other things.
I didnt cum from sex or bj until my 8th partner. I didnt get hard until 4th girl i tried with who i dont count as girls i fucked.
Each one if they stuck around eventualy was " are you cheating on me?"
" am i ugly"
" im sorry im not good enough at sex"
Ect. This is why I quit fap. Porn ruined my sense of sexuality and relationship.

I stopped fapping and deleted all my porn. I'm done with that shit. I'll start jerking off again now that i'm single again but no more porn. And if they can't real with the fact that men aren't walking dildos they can fuck right off.

You missed the point completely. It's rejection to her that you had trouble keeping it up. That's all it takes for their brains to jump to the worst conclusions.

And even in your case where it didn't seem to present a problem immediately, I'd wager it was a big part of the reason she left a week after saying she loved you.

>she said she needed more time for sex, that she needed to trust the person
My guess is that because of your bad sexual experience together she has assumed responsibility for it in her own head. It's somehow her fault that you couldn't get it up, and this has damaged her self esteem very badly to the point where she has decided that the problem was that you guys jumped into bed too fast and that the solution is to break up.

Honestly if you get in touch with her and explain yourself very carefully, that you love her and want her and that the sex thing was nerves because you're so into her, I'd wager she'll take you back.

Girls have mad self esteem issues.

Even a slight hesitation in the wrong place in a conversation can make them sure you think they're hideous and wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole. Seriously.

Lying in bed naked together and whispering sweet nothings to a girl does absolutely not offset anything that she perceives negatively. All the good stuff goes out the window as misread signs as soon as something that she takes the wrong way crosses her path.

I doubt that. She stated that the issue was her having trouble with letting anyone get close to her. That it always has been the case even in her past relationships. Ii believe her when she says that. You also can't force feelings.
I'll decide in a few days if I want to talk to her or if I'll just drop it.

Just take some 25mg of sildenafil before sex and you don't have to worry about all of that bullshit. It makes foreplay better because you are less anxious and you don't lose your boner during activities that don't directly involve stroking your cock.

I actually went and got my dick checkd cause I was a bit anxious. It's all fine. Just have to wait for my test levels. He gave me a viagra prescription so I was prepared for it the next time we tried. It's all so fucked up and I can't stop crying .

>Women need sex
>No they don't. They want $$$$. If they wanted sex, there would be tons of male hookers for women.
Must feel really bad to have never seen a woman actually enjoy having your penis inside her.

Come back to me later once you've finally learned how to properly have sex with a woman and then tell me again how ''women don't want sex''.

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>Must feel really bad to have never seen a woman actually enjoy having your penis inside her.
I have. Just ask your mom.

>Come back to me later once you've finally learned how to properly have sex with a woman
Come back to me when you actually lose your virginity.

>I have
No you haven't. If you honestly believe women don't want sex, it's because apparently you've never managed to pleasure a woman to the point where she wants to have sex with you solely for the sake of having sex. Without any other kind of shit in return like money. I've had the same fuckbuddy for months now and i've never took her on a single date, ever. Nor have i ever spend a single penny on this girl other than for condoms. The only thing i do is come over to her place, have sex with her and then i leave. But despite my complete absence of commitment, she still asks me to come over atleast twice per week to fuck.

>But bro, I've slept with XYZ number of women. I know what i'm doing.
I don't care. Your lay count has nothing to do with how good you are in bed. You could have slept with a 100 women and still not have a clue about how to actually pleasure a woman.

>One study found that money bought more sexual partners, but it didn' necessarily buy more sex.
>One study found that money bought more sexual partners, but it didn't necessarily buy more sex.
>Studies show millionaires may enjoy better and more adventurous sex
>One study suggests that women enjoy sex more with rich partners
>Another ties frequency of sex to happiness in both men and women
>Increasing sex may provide a mood boost similar to a $50,000 income gain
If you're thinking that the benefits of a hefty bank account could help turn up the heat in the bedroom, you're at least partly right.
>Money might not buy love, but it can allow for a sizzling sex life.
>About 70% of multimillionaires -- with a mean net worth of a whopping $90 million -- say they enjoy better and more adventurous sex, according to a 2007 survey by Prince Associates Inc., a marketing research firm specializing in global private wealth. Fully 63% of rich men said wealth gave them better sex which they defined as having more-frequent sex with more partners. That compares to 88% of women who said more money gave them better sex, which they defined as higher quality writes Robert Frank in an article for the Wealth Report entitled
The Rich Libido

cnn.com/2012/10/04/health/kerner-sex-money/index.html

>Men think more about sex than money. Women think more about money than sex.
>Those were the surprising results found by Money Magazine in its 1996 survey

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>The funny thing is people don’t really like talking about money. The survey found 73% of women and 60% of men said having a spouse who is open about personal finance and credit makes him or her more attractive, which doesn’t quite line up with the 96% who say financial compatibility is crucial in a partner. As for those who are cagey about money, 59% of women and 44% of men say avoiding talking about money topics makes person less attractive

Get rekt retard.

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>abloo bloo bloo if you don't believe my degenerate fantasy t-then you can't please women
What an awful projection you got going on there. A shitty one too.
>I've had the same fuckbuddy for months now and i've never took her on a single date, ever.
Cool, tell me how fat and ugly she is
>Nor have i ever spend a single penny on this girl other than for condoms
Yeah, as if being poor is an accomplishment, nigger.
>The only thing i do is come over to her place, have sex with her and then i leave
You sure you don't have her pegging you first?
>But despite my complete absence of commitment, she still asks me to come over atleast twice per week to fuck.
That's gross. Imagine the smell.

>Your lay count has nothing to do with how good you are in bed.
And yet some how you have authority because some fat chick let you lose your virginity to her. Talking about lacking self awareness.
>You could have slept with a 100 women and still not have a clue about how to actually pleasure a woman.
The difference is that I've slept with women that have can easily have an orgasm with me simply with penetration while you have to struggle to get missionary with that fat slob you call your "fuckbuddy".

It must truly suck being this sexually frustrated.

>bragging about fucking ONE girl
Get a load of this virgin

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My first gf told me she loved me 2 hours before calling me to break up. Same as you, we didn't fuck. Don't take words at face value. Deeds over words my man, and it was obvious she wasn't into you. Girls literally get fingered by strangers and you mean to tell she postponed sex with the bf for months because she wasn't "ready"? See what I mean?

Your duty as a man/bf is to fuck her and give her direction and tactical support in whatever she wants to achieve, not to be her friend.

Can agree. Girls turn insane and depressed when rejected. I rejected a girl a few weeks ago and she basically became a shut-in and lashed out at everyone who tried to talk to her, posted passive aggressive shit and shit on Instagram

Again, must be pretty difficult to swallow if you accepted for yourself that the only way you can get a woman to want you is if you have money in the bank.

>The difference is that I've slept with women that have can easily have an orgasm with me simply with penetration
I highly doubt it. If that was the case, how on earth could you still be convinced that women don't want sex? Your posts has seriously contradicting points bro which is why you're probably full of shit.

>women don't want sex
>i'm such a sex god i can easily make women orgasm from penetration
Yeah right faggot.

>bragging about fucking one girl
Am i bragging? Lol. I'm simply giving you a personal example of me having sex with a woman without having to do anything else in return. I'm sorry if that disproves your conviction about women not wanting sex.

>if you accepted for yourself that the only way you can get a woman to want you is if you have money in the bank.
Is this how poorfags cope? LOL what a joke. The studies I posted prove my point, but continue coping.
>I highly doubt it. If that was the case, how on earth could you still be convinced that women don't want sex?
Because women do not seek sex as much as men. How retarded are you to not understand this simple concept?
>Your posts has seriously contradicting points bro
I'm not your "bro", bitch. My posts don't contradict each other. Everytime you reply, you get refuted and you still do not understand that women value money more than sex.
>Yeah right faggot
You probably don't know how a clit looks like. Why are you even replying? Do you enjoy getting embarrassed?

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>personal example of me having sex with a woman without having to do anything else in return.
Sounds like your sister

haha i have boner where is yours

You're laughable dude.

>Studies i posted prove my point
Not at all. Initially in you said women don't want sex, they just want money. Now you're already diminishing it to ''they want money more than they want sex''. That's not the same thing. Those are definitely 2 different statements. One is an extreme, the other one isn't. I was criticizing your initial statement if you didn't realize it.

Just admit that you simply screwed up your initial statement so we're done arguing here. Though you probably won't but instead continue calling me a virgin because calling the other person a virgin makes your argument stronger... right?

>Muh semantics
Show's over. You already lost the argument.

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Yeah I see that shit now. Doesn't stop it from hurting but i'll learn from it. Next time I wll be more forward. I wish I could turn of my brain and just forget her. I'm tired of crying.