ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>When would that be?
That's on a case by case basis.

If condoms are the problem, try to get used to them by masturbating with one on, this also helps to get the best fit where you feel the most. Many guys have a skewed idea of their dick size and get condoms that technically fit but don't help the blood circulation. It should easily stay on but also easily roll all the way down and a real life big dick is 6"-7" not internet stats. Plus above average girth can also make the condom too tight even if you are (below) average in length.

If you don't use condoms, yeah it's scary but you have to create a grey area in between making out and hammering. Slip your penis in between her lips, grind on her naked, 69. You want to blur the line between foreplay and fucking. This also helps with pressure because there's no One moment where it is obviously expected for you to stick it in hard. Especially from a spooning position it is really easy to go from teasing and thighfucking to slipping it in and you can choose the moment under the guise of making her wait for it and surprising her.
Doing this is also a long term investment. If with your next partner you run into this again you'll feel much more relaxed (= likely to get hard) knowing it proved not to be an issue last time.

If all else fails get something to get it hard (Viagra or whatever off brand alternative) ONLY as a placebo. And really only as a placebo to relax your mind and take pressure off. Assuming you're a young guy you really don't want to fuck with that shit.

If a guy says he's going to "return to you cooly" what does/could this mean?

Never heard that expression. At a guess, it means he'll get back to you.

I guess then "return to you in a cool way" would be better phrased. What is the cool way of returning?

Any (serious) ideas for a sexy costume for a plus size girl I could wear for my bf's birthday on Friday night?

there is a girl I'm interested in she is 27, attractive, no kids, super nice and single

what's usually the catch? pretty much every girl I know is either married, engaged or pretty much locked in to be by that age

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it means he has a poor command of the english language

If there's a catch it is most probably a difficulty in having relationships to begin with. Being a commitment phobe for example, or still in love with her ex.

Having said that not all women are equally relationship oriented and especially if she's on the fence or negative towards the idea of kids she could just be only willing to date someone who really makes her life better and not just for the sake of being in a relationship. Not enough people do it but it's a healthy attitude to have.

I broke up with my 10+ years ex when I was 25, was single for a year or so.
It's not that rare, a lot of my friends got out of really long term relationships when they were 25 or so. Not necessarily a red flag, just probably started dating really young and the relationship didn't work out.

see Well yes it isn't his first language and I'm trying to translate this into English. It means like.. being a better version of himself.

Guys: when would you date a taller girl, are you actually okay with it or is it a deal breaker??? I think I'm just a tiny bit taller than.

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What's your first language? Maybe someone here can judge the original quote.

Men don't have hangups over how a woman look the same way women do.

I got somebody to pass my phone number on to a girl at work today.

I fucked up by not doing it myself, didn't I?

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guy here

>November '18 meet a girl working at a store near my house
>she's really obviously keen on me so I get her number
>we hang out several times weekly and talk on the phone, text throughout the day
>all this time her interest in me seems high
>she even talks about exchanging gifts on Christmas
>about two weeks before Christmas, she cools off on me
>starts having a tinge of attitude when she talks to me and taking longer to respond to my texts, also responds with one word, then quickly stops responding at all
>I sent her a feeler text after that and called her but she didn't pick up
>I assume she lost interest and immediately delete her number and stop texting her
>I liked her but it wasn't that serious to me and sometimes things just fizzle out
>anyways I still go to the store where I met her
>after a few weeks of not talking I run into her working one day, she thinks I'm mad at her
>tell her dispassionately that I'm not, which is the truth because I respect people rejecting me early on and moving on and I had more pressing matters on my mind anyways
>anyway the subject of us not talking comes up
>I tell her I texted her but she didn't reply and I never heard from her again
>she says she never got any texts from me
>even if that's not a lie, it doesn't explain the fact that she didn't reach out one time to me despite the fact that we'd been talking daily
>ready to wrap up the transaction at this point as I have little interest in talking to someone who blew me off so abruptly just a couple months ago
>she mentions that she has the same number and I should call her sometime
>at this point I've already long deleted her number and I'm not going to dig through 2 months of call logs to find it
>tell her "So do I.." and leave it at that
>she says I understand and I take that to mean she's getting the message that I'm over it and to drop the subject
>I go on about my day

It's probably not going to be the decisive factor but it's definitely a fifth grader move.

I'm delibaretly ignoring my ex but i shouldn't because she didn't do anything bad besides leading me on, while fucking some other guy

Am i even right being mad at her and ignoring her? I feel like shit doing it

That's just false.
I got rejected by guys over the way I look a lot.
I'm pretty tall for a girl (5'9) and I used to be chubby as a teenager, got rejected a bunch over this by guys who liked my personality and were my friends.

Not sure if a question is still going to follow but this
>she mentions that she has the same number and I should call her sometime
is where you should've said you met someone else and it's looking promising so you want to focus on that. Then tell her to have a good day brightly and see her next time.

Those kind of little white lies are part of social lubrication. You don't know each other well enough and what you had wasn't serious enough to warrant this awkwardness.

Either way, you can just leave it at this. You'll both want to get over it and not have animosity in the air so as long as you both act like nothing happened it's going to be a smooth ride.

Stop ignoring her, shoot her a message saying sorry but you have a lot of mixed feelings and you need space from her. You still wish her the best. Then continue ignoring her but with a better feeling.

It doesn't even matter whether or not what she did was "objectively" bad (which we'd need details for). It hurt you and on top of the relationship ending this is waaaay too much fresh drama for being able to casually and respectfully chat. Take a step back and allow everything to settle.

One exception doesn't change the rule. Who do you think has it harder in dating, you or the guy who's 5'6? Go kill yourself, stupid bitch.

Part 2

>be last week, go back to that store
>she's working and sees me come up
>says hey in a pretty excited manner and starts asking me how I've been
>she tells me what's been going on in her life and says she's been wanting to talk to me and that she got a new number
>writes down her new number and asks for mine (which is still the same number she had before and lost)
>give her the benefit of doubt and think maybe she had something going on and maybe to give her another chance
>give her my number and tell her I'll text her later
>I text her not too long after I leave the store
>it's been like 3-4 days at this point
>no response and no message from her
At this point, I'm well over this but I'm just wondering why she went through so much trouble for nothing? I feel I gave her a lot of outs from the relationship and communicated pretty clearly that I'm over it but she keeps bugging me every time I see her for nothing

Will a small sorry text be enough for my mind to be at ease?
She broke up almost 5 months ago, we were seeing each other for the last 2 months again up until last week, where i asked her if she's sleeping with other guys and i might have overreacted, told her that this arrangement or whatever is over grabbed my stuff and went home

I feel like shit and i don't even know if this is justified

>reeee women are so mean and shallow
>goes around telling random strangers to just end their life already

I hope you're not going around posting about how nice guys finish last somewhere.

It's just false to say that men don't care about looks. They do.
They reject girls over the way they look, or simply don't ask girls out (since they're the one who ask girls out mostly).
I know guys who are 5'6" or even shorter who date without huge issues. Actually I've never met a 5'6" guy IRL who was single, now that I think of it.
I know plenty have struggles, and I respect that, but to say that guys have no hang ups about looks is dumb.

Not entirely, but it's a first step and most of the putting your mind at ease will come from stuff like time passing and realizing you did your best in your own way, not from her or saying anything specific to her.

>justified
That's just not how it works. It is understandable for her to not commit exclusively to you when you're not together and you no doubt hurt her too during the break up. She should've volunteered the info, it would've been more respectful, but I get why she was scared to do so or felt like it would be rubbing it into your face.
It is understandable that you don't want to be with a girl you still have feelings for and a whole history with only to find out she has other people on the side you knew nothing about. You should've asked, but it's a loaded question that can easily lead to fights and well, it's understandable that you didn't.

Neither of you is right or wrong you just hurt each other and need space to heal. It's not like you called her a rotten cunt, your reaction wasn't out of line, just angry, and you have the right to be angry regardless of whether or not she objectively wronged you.

I didn't call her names or anything, i told her that it would've been nice to know if she was seeing other guys, nothing more than that
Probably my fault for wanting more, interpreting more into how she acted towards me

Guess i do need more time sadly, thanks user for replying made me feel a tad better
Been breaking my head around how and if i was treating her badly

Am I a bad boyfriend for not wanting to see my girlfriend while she is sick?

She is currently really sick with the flu. I don't have any sick days with my job so I can't afford to get sick. I have offered to bring her meals/food and offered to take her to the doctors today though.

If it is a viral disease, no.
If she's sick for a long while, tho, please go see her. Also maybe bring her some snacks or do some nice stuff for her.

When I like her.

30 pounds less will look sexy af

Shudda fugged er

dhe fakt u did nat fugg er gudd an ard mak er tink u no wana fugg er

I went on a date with a girl yesterday, it was pretty nice, but I wasn't really attracted to her. Idk if I'm being overly picky though, should I go on another date to see if the feeling changes or is that a bad idea?

>so i match with this girl on tinder
>really hit it off texting
>really hard to get her to meet me
>still text alot, exchange numbers snapchat etc
>she suprise me at work, im on a smoke break and all of the sudden shes right next to me
>get nervous as fuck and spill tonnes of spaghetti
>still text tonnes
>still refuses to meet me
>I get autsimo and mad and just say this aint going no where and delete her
>walks into my work place one day many moons later
>definite vibes smiles alot, blushes, looks over her shoulder on the way out and gives me the biggest smile
>hit her up, catch up have loads of fun texting
>wait a few weeks befor asking her out again
>she just changes the subject
>wait a week mabey ask again
>says something along the lines, haha mabey
>try and set up date
>brick wall
>asks why she disses me
>she goes on about getting out of a relationship and how shes still in love with ex but how hes moved far away
>leave it at that
>still text alot
>try and get her to meet me a month later
>nope...
>she eventually drops how she thinks im weird and cause I sperged out when she jumped me, and how im looking for something serious shes not
>bitch ofc im wierd so is she, thats why we click so well
>ask her out yet again a while later
>she calls me desperate
>I tell her you wanna see how desperate I can get?
>completly remove her from everything
>over half a year pass, fuck some bitches look for love
>can only find pussy and massive redflags

Part 2

What pisses me off most is that I never actually got to know if we clicked well irl, shes been this big ass question mark in my life, you know a kinda "what could have been"

>get enlisted
>forget all about love
>get laid a few times with one night stands, cause dick needs to empty
>decide having an empty dick does nothing desu
>decide to hit her up again
>shes off in Australia doing good
>still hit it off, become best friends on snapchat, no talk of meeting for obvious reasons
>after a few week she stops replying
>to my last 3 messages
>decide to leave it at that why waste I just

don't know what the fuck is up with her she was really happy that I got in touch again, then she just stops replying, wont initiate ever, leaves me fucking dumbfounded, doesn't help shes like one of the cutest girls ive ever seen, along with a personality thats just a 10/10 in my eyes

Femanon here: How do you feel about boomers teaching everyone that it’s ((specifically)) not okay to hit women? I wanna punch them, personally, especially when they stammer and beat around the bush when you bring up hitting men.

It's not ok to hit people.

How am I supposed to figure out if a girl is honestly into me or if it is just my ego feeding me disillusion's? Someone help.

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Exactly.

This sounds like an angry dude larping as a woman about how "unfair it is"

Societal norms take a lot of time to wear off.

It was your weight not height

>Dating a taller grill

When I was very young, me and the other kids used to fight each other with wooden swords. Things could get really out of control and we often got more hurt than we wanted to.
But through that, we learned how hard you can hit someone and still be their friend after the fight. If you go crazy on one kid, every other kid will distance themselves from you.

Beating up a woman is not needed.
They do not pose a physical danger to most men, so beating them up is no more okay than it is to beat up the weaker kid when you were a child.

If you beat up one woman, every other woman will know and stop being friendly towards you.
So there are no upside to beating up a woman.
It makes you look bad, losing control of your anger means you lost the argument, and no matter how cruel women can be, beating them up doesn't make them change.

Ain’t got dick, dude.

Is it weird to ask a person if they are seeing someone after knowing them for a couple weeks?

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Do women like the idea of being in a relationship with bi-men, and where+how do they tow the line?

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>tow the line

>toe*

>draw**

Nope. Highly unusual.
It works better when the female is the bi, but usually not when the guy is.

Most guys are bi and just pretend to be strait. You do the math.

>guy gives reason of "I don't want to hurt you" as a reason to break up

Am I right for thinking it's bullshit excuse?

>bullshit excuse
Probably, but that doesn't mean he doesn't think it's true himself.

It is a bull shit exscuse. I used it to soften the blow on my ex when we broke up instead of saying I didnt love her.

Nope don't do it. I'm bisexual man and I can tell you that really turns them off. Even bi girls don't like bi men. Somehow knowing that their bf likes dicks as well makes them uncomfortable

I’ll be fine with it if he is just bisexual in attraction and hasn't fucked a man. I dont think i could date a man who had relations with other men. It’s just gay to me and i’d feel weird about it. I’m bi myself but i’d never be with a woman

You sound like you have issues you should deal with.

Depends: I once said it and it was true. Reason was that I was diagnosed with some severe mental illness and I was forced to go to therapy in hospital.
I really couldn't stand the fact that my ex gf was dating a suicidal man.

Met a girl who said that ad herpes last year and treated.

Is it safe to get a bj from her or kiss?

How so? Because i don’t want to think abot my bf fucking other men? The same would apply to me. I went on a date with a girl once, but it was too weird and i never did it again.

None of us wants to think about our gf fucking other men. (Well, except the fuck fetishists.) Still, most of us have to accept that it happened.

That makes sense. I’m fine with knowing that my bf has been with other women and i never cared about that. It’s different if its a man/someone of the same sex. Then i would not be able to get the thought out my head that he’s gay and i’m just a beard or baby maker

>I’m fine with knowing that my bf has been with other women and i never cared about that.
Sounds hypocritical.

I dont see how it’s hypocritical if i keep the same standards for myself. I dont want my bf to have been with other men sexually, so i wont be with other women. It’s true that i went on a date with a woman, but we didnt do anything. If he’s with other women, that is fine to me.

Yup. Preach sister. That’s why we don’t date bi dudes

It's hypocritical that you're fine with him being with other people of one sort but not of another sort, for no apparent reason at all.

No one?

I gave my reasons why i’m not fine with my bf being with another sort. Choices have consequences whether you like it or not. You asked this question and i answered.

Also, gay sex disgusts me on a personal level. I have gay friends and they are fine and i care about then. I am not religious. It just grosses me out.

i never want to think about gay people fucking. I would not be able to stop myself thinking of my bf fucking another man, besides the fact that i dont want to wonder if i’m just a baby maker for him.

My boyfriend got the flu and I took care of him while he was sick. As a result I am now very sick. He wants me to come stay with him, so he can take care of me (we don't live together), but I don't want to. I don't hate staying there, but when I'm sick I would rather be in my own bed.

I really don't want to hurt his feelings, but I don't think I'll will be able to properly rest at his place.

Then don’t go?
Not sure if you’re asking for advice, but this is one of those things you could save time.
Instead of writing this here, write it to him...

I'm not the one who asked the question and your reason wasn't reasonable.

>Also, gay sex disgusts me on a personal level.
>It just grosses me out.
>I would not be able to stop myself thinking of my bf fucking another man
Like I said; sounds like you have issues.

If you post an instagram story like one of those "DM?" and then yes / no votes and a guy you never talked to before says yes would it be weird and would I show of my desperation power level?

Today I held a door for a girl and she thanked me and said "good to see there's still some gentlemen around."

Now I'm so used to reading redpill/MRA/MGTOW/PUA type bullshit on the internet that I think that 'gentleman' is codeword for 'beta male.'

Does it matter if my reason is ‘reasonable’ or not? It makes sense to me. I’ve had no problem finding people to date. It can’t be that unreasonable and you are projecting

>but when I'm sick I would rather be in my own bed.
This entirely understandable. He should come stay with you so he can take care of you.

You could try test the waters.

Maybe lay the ground work for some plans/a date starting with "hey once we get out of this busy period would you like to X?" and see how he responds. if he jumps at the idea because he is just overworked and does want to see you then all good.

what am I supposed to ask a girl to do outside of class if I
>dont have any hobbies that I can invit her to (I have hobbies but none are casual first date activities)
>live in a shit area with nothing to do
>am too autistic to make conversation for extended periods of time with no activity to keep me busy

>when I'm sick I would rather be in my own bed.
Tell him, he should understand. You can always throw a "idk I'm weird like that" at the end

>You can always throw a "idk I'm weird like that" at the end
Don't do that. Don't diminish yourself unnecessarily.

That's ... not what hypocritical means

I’m afraid to try meeting a girl from tinder because I’m such a catch that she’ll never want to leave me and I don’t want to be a jerk. Should I do it anyway?

Is it weird to be attracted to a girl because of her personality rather than her looks?

I like an "ugly" girl with a good personality, but I have low self esteem and dont think girls who are as attractive as me could be interested in me, so its probably cope lol

I feel really guilty for thinking shes unattractive tho

How do I ask girl from work on a date?

why is my friend being sketchy? he’s moving in a couple days but won’t give anyone a straight answer when they ask where he’s going, always says something like “it’s a complicated situation”

Girls, which one of these shallow things matter most to you: dick size or fashion taste?

you will grow to appreciate her looks over time, trust me. i dated a girl i intially thought was below average but who had a great personality, her looks grew on me.

I mean, I guess dick size? I don’t really care at all how a guy dresses, I’m lucky if the guy I like puts on a clean shirt with no holes in it. That said, dick size doesn’t matter that much to me either. I wouldn’t want a guy with a microdick but beyond that I don’t care. I actually prefer 4-6 inches, and anything bigger than 8 sounds painful.

Attractiveness is subjective. Maybe everyone has different taste of attractiveness, based on their own level of attractiveness as well. Like, you see yourself in the mirror and you just KNOW what’s attractive to you and what’s not. It doesn’t have to be ugly, someone could be beautiful and you’re not attracted to her.

Ive come to find her face cute. but her body just doesnt do much for me. shes very skinny and I like girls with hips/legs/ass