Relationship coming to an end

My girl dumped me for another guy. We were together for many years and since they hadn't had sex yet (I know the usual cliches and red pill stuff, inb4 she fucked him already, etc.), I was hesitant to let it go too easily, and I got her to agree to give it a bit of extra time with me first. I'm not certain that I want to keep her, but I don't want to let go just yet, just in case I'd regret it in the long run.

Well, long story short, we shared some cute moments last night, and then I seduced her, we had sex, and she came after just a few minutes of the ol' reach around. I sort of thought that giving it to her good would help win her over somehow, but she started crying about ten minutes after we finished up. She had to leave due to a scheduling thing that I was aware of before we did the deed (meaning it wasn't just an excuse), and she's coming back later tonight.

What does this mean? Should I simply give up on the idea of this relationship? I don't have a ton of trouble with women and I think I could do better if I put forth the effort but I've got some lingering romantic feelings for this girl, so if it can be saved, I'd like to at least try in the short term.

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She missed your fuck. She doesn’t love you.

Either accept she is now your dirty little fuckbuddy or go no contact.

“When she's saying that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care, right, yeah, yeah
Now I'll relate this a little bit
That happens more than I'd like to admit
Late at night she knocks on my door
She's drunk again and looking to score
Now I know I should say no
But that's kind of hard when she's ready to go
I may be dumb
But I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self-esteem”

>She missed your fuck. She doesn’t love you.
I know she doesn't love me and that's not such a big deal. I'm just wondering if she can love me again in the future or if it's guaranteed to be over. I know countless men have been in my position before and countless will be in the future... surely one of those guys out there has managed to salvage it and go on to marry the woman, right?

I don't really have a plan and I'm just playing it by ear, trying to do all the shit I didn't do right over the last few years. I was also planning on fucking her a lot and just doing a lot of coke or something... I'm a bit confused right now, actually. I do have decent self-esteem, and if all I get out of this attempt is sex, then at least I won't feel like a cuck when she finally leaves.

What does the crying mean, though? Why cry after good hard sex? It was objectively pretty damn good sex

She will never love you again.

>She will never love you again.
Why?

Ask her, nibba, gatdam
If she wanted to be with you she'd choose you, not Chad thundercock.

Get outta here, this is just circling an empty tree already.

>If she wanted to be with you she'd choose you, not Chad thundercock.
sigh

well at least I can fuck her, I've got some viagra here and I'll turn her inside out like that pig from Galaxy Quest before Chad gets to her

Are you really this delusional and retarded? She obviously feels guilty for fucking over the other dude purely for sex.

She as a person have some issues
But you and her are so sickened with lust that you both turned retarded
Beauty is temporary
The kingdom of heaven is forever

There may always be lingering feelings. It's completely fine as long as you don't act on them.

She cried about the sex, so she feels guilty about having done it. Maybe she really cares about the other guys feelings or something.

Find someone you're certain about. Someone that doesn't cause ambivalence. Someone who you can have the fun sex with AND you want to be with in the afterglow.

Women can't romantically love men. Read Otto Weininger's "Sex and Character"

>Well, long story short, we shared some cute moments last night, and then I seduced her, we had sex, and she came after just a few minutes of the ol' reach around. I sort of thought that giving it to her good would help win her over somehow, but she started crying about ten minutes after we finished up
Sounds like you're dating a mentally unstable girl. Why bother with her? Her crying is the crying of guilt she feels because she does in fact have feelings for you, but she is torn about something else.

>Maybe she really cares about the other guys feelings or something.
She clearly doesn't know what she wants and just gives into impulses. It's as simple as that, this bitch needs to learn some self control

this, prolly u are a permavirgin

This is true. In any case, the girl is bad news.

>She obviously feels guilty for fucking over the other dude purely for sex.
I figured
but yeah I did need someone to tell me, that's why I'm posting on Jow Forums of all places. Cut me some slack, faggot

Funnily enough, it's at the top of my reading list already

>She clearly doesn't know what she wants and just gives into impulses. It's as simple as that, this bitch needs to learn some self control
Well, I got her to agree to see me for at least a month or so, and yeah I'm certain she does feel guilty because of the other guy. They were never dating, though—she's just got another guy in the chamber, as women always seem to when they pull this shit

>Why bother with her?
Many years of history, and she's normally very stable, except for this, which I think is somewhat understandable. Plus, she's only a woman, after all

Understand that having no emotional connection to a person or situation makes it extremely easy to make judgements about what people should or shouldn't do. If you've ever been in a long term relationship or found yourself very emotionally connected to someone you'd know that how you behave in these situations and the "right" thing to do are often not as easily deciphered as you would think. Its very easy to claim that somebody else doesn't have self control when it isn't your heart and mind being pulled in all different directions. I don't think she made a very wise decision but, obviously, there are some intense emotions she still has for OP. Whether you want to characterize her behavior as malicious or not is up to you but the simplest explanation is that she's confused and confused people do not make great partners. OP and this girl could benefit from forgiving themselves, finding a way to make themselves at peace with the feelings they still have for each other and mutually deciding to put this part of their relationship in the past. Human beings are far more prone to being in love with periods of time than they are with people. Obviously, the comfort they find in one another is very strong but its also preventing them from moving on in any kind of meaningful way. OP and this girl should have an honest conversation and either come to a concrete conclusion as to where they plan to take their relationship or officially part ways. That's my suggestion.

This is true. It's always harder from the inside. I've been in a very similar position more than once though, and that's why I know it doesn't end well if the girl isn't willing to have that conversation, like you said. I'm currently being pulled at in a different way, and I'm doing everything I can to be objective about it while not interacting.

I know she's bad news, from the outside. You still like her, though. So you can take that chance, we won't fault you, see if it leads to anything meaningful. That way, you don't have to take our word for it, but be weary, because I've been in similar positions. Good luck, OP, follow your heart, it's what you'll do in the end anyway

>I know she's bad news, from the outside. You still like her, though. So you can take that chance, we won't fault you, see if it leads to anything meaningful. That way, you don't have to take our word for it, but be weary, because I've been in similar positions. Good luck, OP, follow your heart, it's what you'll do in the end anyway If you've ever been in a long term relationship or found yourself very emotionally connected to someone you'd know that how you behave in these situations and the "right" thing to do are often not as easily deciphered as you would think
Yeah, true.

And the issue here isn't really her self-control—I know for a fact that she struggled with this for a while, but being a woman, she failed to communicate it properly in a way that I could easily understand, and here we are. I'm not trying to cuck for this girl and I made it clear what I want from her and that if it isn't going to work within the next few weeks then I'm going to cut my losses and move on.

Frankly, I'm still in a position to get fairly attractive women, so I'm not worried in that sense. I just don't want to accidentally let a LTR go and be like 45 years old, divorced with kids like half of the people in this country, and look back and realize that she should have been the one.

Even if it doesn't work out, at least I won't feel like I got dropped like a sack of potatoes by an indecisive woman with her stupid fucking woman logic. Worst case scenario, I can feel better about my sexual prowess, too

>if the girl isn't willing to have that conversation
We had that conversation and that's where I'm at right now. I'm in a sort of limbo with her where if things don't improve in the next month or so, we part ways and that's that. Things are going okay now and I'm doing what I can to make sure she doesn't just zone out and repeat the cycle. My goal is pretty much just to ensure that she's not being too hasty and that I even want to stay with her (for not only this but other personal reasons), because I myself don't know anymore.

>I know for a fact that she struggled with this for a while, but being a woman, she failed to communicate it properly in a way that I could easily understand
>her stupid fucking woman logic

I regret giving you thoughtful advice. You're a cunt and I wouldn't suggest that anybody emotionally invest in anybody like you.

>I regret giving you thoughtful advice. You're a cunt and I wouldn't suggest that anybody emotionally invest in anybody like you.
Yikes, you are far too touchy!

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Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah.

He's right. What's the point in giving advice when you let memes dictate how you feel about your partner? You're a fucking retard.