ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

The general move is to put your lips over your teeth as best as you can and attempt to put as much of the dick you can stand in and out so that your lips are doing the work. It will hurt a bit if you do it rougher on biting your lips, but it's worth it because it ends up plumping them. If you can't fit it all in, just drool/spit and yous your hand to continue the motion in repeditive strokes.

*use

I would take extra consideration on how we fuck the first few times so there's less stress on him. Otherwise no effect.

You have the makings of greatness in you, you just need to push yourself to your full potential.

I mean more in terms of foreplay stuff though

I took your advice Jow Forums.

I was overthinking being left on read by a girl I have a crush on at my work over the weekend. you guys told me to just chill the fuck out and leave it along as it probably had nothing to do with me.

I left it alone and she ended up contacting me, and yeah it had nothing to do with anything I had done.

So thanks.

Different user here. What if the guy was not just a virgin, but he's also never been on a date before you, and never even kissed? Literally zero experience. Also you're both in your 20s.

Is it even possible for me?

My fiance has been physically abusive towards me in the past. can it be possible that she still loves me at the same time? or was the physical abuse a sign she doesnt

she is always sorry about it afterwards and makes up for it. she hasn't done it in months since we got engaged and got professional help after I left home for a couple of weeks when she shoved me. we just had a fight she had the look in her eye that she was going to physically flip out at me again, picked up a book to throw at me but stopped herself and just started to cry and apologize.

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Dont care either way, but my process forwards would depend a lot on the knowledge.

If he didnt tell me, i would assume he knew what he was doing.

If he told me, I'd take more charge and guide him a lot more, and ensure to talk him up so he didnt become afraid of performing.

Either way, it doesn't matter. If I'm about to have sex with someone, I am not backing out at that point, unless I get some really nasty information (he has a STD/GF or wife/etc.). It's a myth created by a few guys who slept with turbosluts. Same with dicksize.

Oh, thank you, femanon. Are you an angel? May you be happy everafter and awake with a feeling of cheerful lightness every morning, God bless you.

That’s still something you have to communicate with him, not us.

>ensure to talk him up

Don't do this, it has the opposite effect and comes out more like patronising bullshit.

Sure.

Listen, it rarely shows when you go out, unless you really are letting it destroy your confidence. And hell, I have been with a guy who has had 4 previous girlfriends, who *still* acted awkward and dropped his spaghetti when he was around me, and that's not a problem. Being nervous and awkward is normal, and it is frankly a concern if you aren't the slightest bit of awkward or nervous.

The issue is if you act like you are worthless. If you think you are worthless, most people are prone to assume you are right. If you act like you are awesome, conversely, people will also assume you are right. Dont worry about your awkwardness and nervousness.

Boys, do you think that make up is dishonest or "catfishing"?

Girl I like at work keeps finding excuses to call me amazing.

People at work already think something is going on between us but girls in your opinion do you think this is flirting? This week she found like 4 or 5 opportunities to say it.

I will admit it does make me feel good, even if it isn't flirting.

sometimes

Not at all. I like seeing my crush in her different styles of make up.

>Don't do this, it has the opposite effect and comes out more like patronising bullshit.
Nah, you got the wrong idea. I'm not talking about porn lines here. It's much more of the
>we got time
Lines, and not the "Give me your big dick" cringe.

I also tend to make them eat me out first, because at least in my experience, it tends to heavily boost a guys confidence to get me off first, and it means I dont actually need to get off during penetration, so the pressure is just off.

It could be flirting, sure, but that's true of most behaviours in the right context.

"20s" is pretty broad.
From my experience browsing Jow Forums the general consensus seems to be that if you're younger than 25 it's still possible with aggressive rehabilitation; this includes seeking therapy/counseling for any social issues, engaging in hobbies that are meaningful and productive (enhancing your body, mind, and gaining experience that makes you a more well rounded and interesting person), and avoiding pathological behaviour (excessive internet usage).

Now if you're over 25? You're fucked. And I say that as someone who is 27.
So get off Jow Forums, see a therapist, and find some real hobbies. Don't let yourself become me; I'm just waiting for my parents to die so I can kill myself.

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But what if I literally don't know what I'm doing? I've never been on a date before so I don't know how to behave on a date, how to keep up conversation in such an intimate environment. Due to inexperience, if I ever get to go on a date with a girl, I'll probably be super reluctant to move in for a kiss or even to cuddle up to her or anything. I don't know how to kiss, literally have no idea what the motion of my lips is supposed to be. Are there any women who are willing to deal with that? I feel like a girl would literally have to teach me and hold my hand through everything.

I try my hardest to not let it affect my confidence, but it is hard when you've got deep into your 20s without ever even going on one date or having one kiss. I'm constantly asking "what's so wrong with me that it could have come to this?"

As someone with a background in HR (now business analyst), I take *all* the opportunities to call my coworkers awesome, even if it can seem like excuses.

It just boosts the overall office morale and mood, especially since I am not actually in a HR function, so it seems genuine.

That said, I only give praise where praise is deserved. Maybe you are just one of the few people who actually deserve it in her eyes?

If you're my type, you're in my target. Period.

>I can kill myself
fucker, do you think they would be happy?

Oral is considered foreplay. Or did you mean like not sexual acts? Practice dirty talk? Lightly massage and drag your nails over erogenous zones? jerk him off?

Femanons, what is your dream romantic situation? (date ideas, bed shenanigans, princess carry, etc.)

Jesus fucking Christ, fuck this guy.

Your life isn't over if you still have ted had sex at that point. No you don't need a therapist, and no user I'm quoting your life isn't fucking over. Stop being such a massive pussy, Jesus Christ. It's pathetic mate. Don't think like that.

Fuck this place. The mentality you have plus "all women are whores" shit I read everyday is weak as shit.

The ones that do have very poor object permanence, so don't date them.

It's just surprisingly common these days. More and more people get to mid20s without much experience here.

It'll be weird, but most of it is more natural than you think it is.

Dating talk is funny. People will tell you to be "an active listener" (aka. Ask follow up questions to anything she says, and keep the conversation on her tablehalf), but if the conversation dies, or she asks about you, pick a topic you like. It doesn't matter how dumb it is. I've literally been impressed by a guys response to why he was an accountant, and the answer was just super lame (something something "making it all reconcile and explain all differences), but the sheer energy, drive and obvious passion he had for it, just made it leave a really good impression on me. Even if you have no such topic, then overblow it. You might feel weird, but weird aspects is what makes you unique, and why we remember you. This guy ghosted me after date 2, and even to this day, I will never forget him. That's a really good thing.

Regarding kisses and everything else, that's a bit worse, mostly because it can come off as lack of interest. The most obvious is if a girl cuddles in, and looks at you with just inches from your face. Doesn't matter if the kiss is awkward at that point, it'll still be great.

>Fuck this place. The mentality you have plus "all women are whores" shit I read everyday is weak as shit.
So true :3

>I also tend to make them eat me out first, because at least in my experience, it tends to heavily boost a guys confidence to get me off first, and it means I dont actually need to get off during penetration, so the pressure is just off
What if he can't get you off? That would be a huge blow to his confidence.

I have negative thoughts which I know aren't true but I can't help strongly feeling them. It feels like overwhelming emotions. Like even if I know someone is genuine I am suspicious and wary of them. Wondering who can relate...

I'm
I've literally just entered a relationship with a twenty eight year old fella in your exact situation, so, yeah, I think there's definitely a chance for you.

No, but after they're gone their happiness wont matter any more; and if they wanted me to be happy after they're gone they should have gotten me into therapy as a child so I wouldn't turn into such a fucking mess. People talk about the damage unloving parents can do, but doting parents can fuck a kid up just as much.

When did I say women were whores?
This isn't about women, at all. This is about a fundamental inability to form connections with another human being due to mental illness and associated self-destructive behaviour patterns.

I'm just warning that guy to break the cycle (if he still can) before he becomes trapped in a prison of his own creation.

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>What if he can't get you off?
I dont know if I'm weird or something, but I literally get off in a minute or two at most from oral. It's absolutely insane how good it feels, and if I dont try to hold it back, I am shaking within minutes at most.

I barely have to overact the orgasm for the guy to obviously be pleased with himself. It sure seems to help even the guys who has never been with a girl before.

>More and more people get to mid20s without much experience here

But in my case it's not just "not much experience". It's literally none. Somehow I've gotten through all of my life so far without doing anything romantic sexual or intimate with a woman. I'm not a recluse either, I socialize normally. But I have literally zero experience with dates and anything physically intimate. I've had to watch as my friends go off and get dates and girlfriends while I just haven't. It's not just some inexperience, it's a level of inexperience that most people could never comprehend. Even a lot of asexual people have had more experience than I have, and I'm horny as fuck lmao.

The problem is I just can't go in for the kiss. I'm too scared that I'll be a bad kisser. I don't want to humiliate myself or ruin my chances by kissing like a retard.

Practice with a prostitute.

I used to think like you. Enjoy the prison of your own making. If that's how you choose to perceive your relationships with other people you deserve a shitty life. Absolutely pathetic.

Don't have the money for anyone that would be of any use and that wouldn't give me health problems.

Not really, but too much of it (joker style) is a massive turn off.

Keep it subtle.

As for what it might say about your personality?

You hide your flaws for confidence, I should not expect a humble attitude.

I much prefer someone who can own up to the fact they are not perfect (no one is), then someone who must hide everything they dislike about themselves.

Sounds like time to turn yourself over to the state with that paranoia/schizo/mpd feels if you really feel you can't control yourself.

They raised you to not to become a dumbfuck in the end and not to become paranoid of social standards. They gave you life, because they loved each other and because they ... still love ... you. (tears-tears ;_;) Your destiny isn't circkled, it's full of straight lines

Why do you think you are qualified to diagnose people? So ignorant.Having a username on an user site doesn't make your words matter.

What exactly do you do if you know a girl is being physically abused?
>flirt a bit with this girl I see at the gym sometimes, mostly fun because she gets a bit flustered when I do, and it helps my confidence a bit
>dont know much other than her name and a few extra things I picked up here and there.
>She stops showing up at the usual time, find out from someone else there that she changed her schedule due to moving back with her parents
>she is probably mid 20s, so that's odd
>dig around with another girl there, who says her parents apparently forced it because her mother got sick, and they needed another hand
>I change my schedule to catch her again
>try to talk more actively to her, rather than just the casual flirt
>she responds fairly positively.
>We grab a cup of coffee after training one day, but she tells me that she is a bit too overwhelmed by her parents at the moment
>I'm fine with just keeping this up, we exchange numbers in case she changes schedule again.
>one day she suddenly shows up with very covering clothing on now, that looks very uncomfortable to train in
>I spy a bit on her (yeah yeah yeah, creepy) and notice a blue mark around her neck, and a yellow/blue mark on her right arm.
>I try to talk to her, but she is obviously not in a talkative mood.
>as we leave, I notice her skipping past where her bike usually was. Turns out she is taking the bus instead, so I offer to drive her home
>even as I drop her off, I can hear some angry fucker scream inside the house when she opens the door, and I'm all the way out on the street inside my car
>she refuses to talk about it, but the more I look, the more obvious is it that those marks hurt a lot, even when she is working out
It's so fucking frustrating to look at this, because I know what is happening, and I want to stop it, but it's just technically not my business, even if I want it to be.

No, make up is a legit tool for women

Yeah I haven't heard her say it to anyone else but then again i go out of my way to help her due to my feelings..

It might be special attention but that doesn't mean she's in love with you. Most people end up with a work husband/wife and it doesn't mean you'll ever end up dating that person.

The answer to your unasked question is to try and advance the relationship and see what happens. That's the only way to know if she's into you.

Why should i even wake up anymore.

Had a fwb thing going on with my ex the last 2 months Thought she'd want more, asked her and she had already slept with another guy I bolted, was distant with her and told her that this arrangement of hers is done

She texted me that she doesn't want to continue this, because she's having guilt thoughts all over the place and she doesn't want them That this is hurting me and whatnot

Texted her drunk that "the only way this could continue is just the two of us"

Her answer was she doesn't want the intimate stuff to continue, if i wanted to stay in contact i should text her

Went drinking a week ago, texted her that i don't want to loose sight of her, she replied "i'd verym uch like that too :) we're gonna figure it out!"

last thing i heard from her, i ended this shit almost 3 weeks ago, not once did she text me how i am (i feel like a depressed piece of shit mind you)

TL;DR: after 3 months met my ex-gf again for 2 months, we started making plans for trips, sleeping with each other, she was distant for a week, talked to her and she slept with someone elese because she felt pressured

>I'm not a recluse either, I socialize normally.
>I've had to watch as my friends go off and get dates and girlfriends while I just haven't.
At least you have friends.
Which means this is more of a confidence issue, and not something rooted in mental illness. Ask your friends for help and some pointers; you have that support group available, so why not use it? Also maybe try plying yourself with alcohol to lower your inhibitions.

When I said "you're fucked" here it's really only relevant if you have legitimate mental problems -and- are at an advanced age. It's not a death sentence unless you have both.

It's not as if I don't want to get better but it's naive to think a 27 year old manchild with no friends, nonexistent social skills (plus a handicap that hinders their development), and with otherwise literally nothing going for him in life can suddenly turn it all around. No one should have to tolerate my presence while I gain competence in things I should have mastered over a decade ago.

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What the fuck are you talking about...?

Welcome to women, is this your first rodeo?

Exes are a trap. It's easy to fall back into them even if your original break up was messy. Feelings don't just disappear and they're lying in wait, ready to reignite when you run into your ex while you're out shopping and the two of you get to bantering.

Put her behind you and don't fall for the trap again.

My first with an Ex-Gf yeah

>Put her behind you and don't fall for the trap again.
I won't user, i feel betrayed enough on some level and disgusted by her that i won't re ignite that fire at all. Still, it hurts.

Report it as an anonymous tip.

She will get (irrationally) angry if you tell her you'll do it, even more so if you tell her you did it, but at the end of the day, she *needs* this fixed. And yeah, that will end in a clusterfuck, and her parents will absolutely blame her, and she will be a mess for the next couple of years. But at least it will end. Because that abuse wont stop. In fact, I am honestly more worried about what you can't see, both the mental abuse, and potentially further and much worse abuse.

I doubt it's a person you would want to date, but at least helping another human being out of a situation like that, should be something anyone should do.

i want to catch up with some poeple i haven't spoken to for years and years including one of my exes

how'd i go on about this particular case?

the other guys, it's pretty easy i believe but with a girl things might seem more complicated?

What is your so-called handicap? I believe you're just searching for friends in wrong places or not searching for them at all. You adapted moody mindset of a negative person and it's tearing your psyche apart ...and brings you down. Start developing things you like.

Dude, fucking stop.
Drop her. Cut her off. Move on with your life. Delete her number, block her everywhere, avoid the places where she's at. Focus on yourself and things that make you happy. Hang out with your friends, spend time with your family. In a while, when you start feeling better, meet new people.
Truth is that the first break up sucks, most of us have been there and it is painful as fuck. It is going to be ugly for a while. You think it is the end of the fucking world.
Then you meet someone else, someone who is just SO much better for you, and you fall in love again. At that point, you just wonder why you were even sad to begin with.

Not the first break up, i put an end to us seeing each other again

>I doubt it's a person you would want to date
But I do. I dont want to ruin my chances forever with this girl. I was beginning to like her before I learned this, had I not caught feelings already, I'd just report and move on.

I want to navigate this somehow that ends up in my favour, while helping her as well. Is there no way I can do that without triggering an irrational anger?

Should I take this as a good sign?

My friend let it slip to another friend of mine that I like her. (well he said that I was drunkenly talking about her after she left one night)

And this same friend still is urging me to just ask her. IMO it probably says alot that she didn't respond negatively. Though not really positively. (atleast that's what he says.)

I've seen you post about this in almost every thread for a month. Just stop.
Shit happens, you broke up, move on.

Do you need help?

>I want to navigate this somehow that ends up in my favour, while helping her as well.
Broken and distressed girls are the easiest lay in the world. She'll regret it, and it wont last, but I guarantee you she's an easy fuck if her whole world start burning. Vulnerable and emotionally unstable situations like that are ridiculously easy to abuse.
>Is there no way I can do that without triggering an irrational anger
We dont know her. Your post give very little insight into who she is. She could be a slut who has fucked half the gym and her coworkers, and thinks she knows exactly what is best for herself, or it could be a shy and timid and forgiving girl, who understands it had to be reported. But the chance of her getting mad at the report is extremely high. No one, no matter the situation, can handle having their entire world turned upside down like that.

We're not broken up again
I'm having an awful time with getting over it though

>Tell him that I love to take cherries
That's a turn off to be honest. As stupid as it sound, I'd say it's a big red flag.

Just fucking ask her and get it over with so you don't have to wonder anymore.

>What is your so-called handicap?
Aspergers. Coupled with severe social anxiety. When I'm expected to talk to someone I talk too fast, get tongue-tied and jumbled, then my brain stops working and I run out of things to say. I struggle to keep people and stay personally engaged, and it's so extremely awkward I make even my own family members feel uncomfortable talking to me; I've gotten through life largely by smiling and nodding.

>start developing things you like
I don't like anything. And many of the things I used to like I can't enjoy any more.
Trying new things is also expensive, and because I'm socially retarded I can't build any kind of career, since any decent-paying job has a heavy social component.

There's no helping people like me. I'm an evolutionary dead end and the detritus of society.

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Glad I'm not the only one who thought that namefag was being stupid.

As a girl, hearing a guy say "he loves virgins" is a huge flashing neon sign, saying "DONT APPROACH" to me. It sounds like a person who would instantly jump at the opportunity to fuck another virgin, or dump you right after taking yours.

Not entirely sure who she thinks this would be a positive response for.

Well, I wish it was that easy. It's partially that her and I are working on stuff together thats larger in scope.

(fwiw, last night she messaged me asking if I wanted to meet as she was in the same neighborhood as the meeting I was supposed to replace her at. (she probably assumed I went and was alone. But nope.... Granted its like 50/50 if it was just a cover or if it was legit for me to fill her in on stuff..)

How many times to reschedule before calling it a loss and moving on? A girl seemingly liked me for a good few months but now we don't see each other too often. I think she gave me way more chances than I deserve.

Now that I am asking her out, something unexpected happened which is fine and she couldn't make it, then for a suggested reschedule she was busy. I'd like not to be the sort of guy who stays attached to lost causes and don't want to make her uncomfortable either. I think I'll ask her out one more time then call it quits if the response isn't encouraging. That sound good?

They say Aspergers is an imaginary desease. Try do vocal exercises before the mirror. Like talking to yourself and then replying. Try to catch the perfect time for answers. You sound like just a shy person. I believe shy people can be engaged into even relationships.

>I don't like anything
That's your biggest problem.
Even your friends can't make you like things. Don't be that moody, pls. :)

No, putting an effort to make yourself beautiful is a girly that trait most guys like.
When you ear "I like you even without" is more of a compliment than an honest opinion. It's like saying "I love you for what you are and not for how you make yourself appear".
Some girls looks awful with make up because they don't know what they are doing.

>It's just surprisingly common these days.
This is a misconception people here sometimes have. It's *not* common to be virgin in late 20s, it's common to not being married or not having a child at that age. It is common to lose your virginity during your puberty.

How do I stop being a soi boy and not feel self conscious about my autistic posture?

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I'm almost sure makeup ruins the skin. Like fuck, the mental gymnastics needed to worsen your skin by hiding the fact you're worsening it.

It can be great but girls need to realize make up is for accents and any base improvements it adds are inferior to a better diet, exercise and lifestyle.

>It is common to lose your virginity during your puberty.
Funny, I thought your puberty ended much sooner than 18.

Most sources also say that at least 25% are still virgin by the age of 22. Take that as you will.

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Guess I'll just report it and see what happens.

I dont want to take advantage of it, but I must admit, I'm a bit worried about your post. It sounds like she might just fall in with whomever comes by first.

Should I be offended the guy I’m seeing rejected me for sex this morning? We did do it twice that night, but he never turned me down before.

>Most sources also say that at least 25% are still virgin by the age of 22. Take that as you will.

This is completely irrelevant without giving additional statistics to reveal what percentage of that 25% are virgins willingly vs unwillingly.

Being a virgin at 22 due to abstaining for personal/religious reasons is COMPLETELY different to being a virgin at 22 just cause no one wanted to have sex with you.

>mean
At least report the median, but to be fair you need an actual statistics to make some conclusion. These are just pretentious stats they use for clickbaity articles.

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I'm in the library and I have an hour to decide,

Should I leave a girl a note with my number/instagram or hope I see her again outside(No guarantee I'll have the courage to say shit cause I'm already ultra nervous at the idea of leaving the note for some reason)

Told this story before but its developed and I'm growing more confused and frustrated.

>fell for a girl
>doesn't like me back
>work with her
>too weak not to fall into her orbit
>stay friends rather than cutting it off
>admit feels
>rejected.jpg
>start falling out constantly
>always fall back into eachothers orbit
>she sends me a message on Valentines while I'm on holiday
>"Happy Valentine's day :) xx"
>follows it up 8hrs later
>"Just wanna double check, I said happy valentines as a mate not a lover hahahah xxx"
>still talk to her for a bit
>think on it when I get home
>enoughisenough
>kill conversation with her
>ghost her
>block and delete her on everything
>a week later
>forgot WhatsApp
>message from number I don't recognize
>open it
>shes sent me a picture of us together

I do not understand what she expects of me. Either shes lying about her feelings around me or shes just fucking nasty, playing with me for attention.

I should add shes a bit of a slut and has no qualms about shagging randoms

Girls
I'm overbearingly wholesome. I tell people to sleep/drink water, I go out of my way to validate people's emotions, including other guys. I try to get people to tell me what's making them upset. I can say no, but I hardly ever want to. I don't drink or smoke. I can't stand horror movies and I'm extremely quick to forgive. One of my dreams is to be a father. (I'm not religious though)

Is this a turn off?

>asymptotically approaches 1
Does this mean I'll lose my virginity at 35 if I still haven't made it by then?

Yeah, you likely won't be the father to your own kids with that mentality.

Though you might find a woman who needs what you offer. Maybe.

No it means you'll definitely lose your virginity as you approach the age of infinity.

Good foreplay involves non-physical arousal and light petting. For the first part, get down there and talk dirty to him while looking straight into his eyes. If he has a roleplay fetish that's the perfect time to whip it out. For the petting, start with a really slow handjob and get him all lubed up down there. I recommend two solid moves:
1) Holding his cock pointing a little bit upward, put the pad of your thumb on its underside right where the head meets the shaft. This is called the frenulum. With light pressure, roll your thumb in clockwise or counterclockwise circles. That area has a huge amount of nerve endings and it feels great.
2) When giving a handjob, don't pump up and down. Slide the first hand from tip to base with moderate squeezing pressure, especially at the head. As your hand reaches the base, start the other hand doing the exact same motion from the top. Keep replacing one hand with the other so that it's a single continuous motion. It'll feel like he's doing this long, infinite thrust down a tight pussy. It doesn't take much concentration once you get a rhythm going so you can focus on the talking stuff.

I think she wants your attention, ignore her.

No, but I do expect to see a girl with little or no makeup at some point before I commit to a relationship.

No. That having been said, if it becomes a repeated issue you should ask if there's something wrong. If he gives you a genuinely nasty and insulting answer, THEN you can be offended. But there's a 99% chance that his answer will have nothing to do with you and probably make perfect sense.

My boyfriend of three months was in your situation at 24 and he's the best partner I've ever had. I just had to guide him a little bit at the beginning that's it.

How many tries does it usually take to get pregnant?
As a kid I thought it was a one and done thing but now it sounds like it could take weeks of unprotected sex.

And what happens to the semen? Does the vagene absorb it, does it leak out or what?

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