My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. We moved in together last May.
I had an iud but it failed. I found out I was pregnant very early on and decided to keep it. I am 4 months pregnant now and won't get an abortion either way this far along in the pregnancy.
I am not the jealous type but I hate being lied to. About 5 months ago we were hanging out when he got a text from a random person and I glanced at his phone just to see who it was. He grabbed his phone out of my hand and hid it like he was guilty. I asked him and he explained that he had been feeling lonely in our relationship and he had talked about it with that girl. I looked at his phone and saw a text that he had visited her house when he was out of town but he said that she was just an old friend and nothing happened. I had enough trust that I believed him.
Meanwhile, that was a lie and they had actually had sex. I just found out yesterday after I asked him why he is secretive about his phone. He always took it with him when he left the room and would act weird if I would ask to Google something from his phone.
He did tell me when I asked and also told me about another girl that he was talking to a few months after the first girl. The second one was a coworker that he was emotional/flirting with. In his texts with her there are many plans to meet up but he says to me that he never did meet up.
I am more upset that he lied about it than actually doing it. And not telling me his needs before he did it.
I love him and will forgive the lying this time and he has said that he wants to continue our relationship. I plan on going to couples therapy. He was sexually abused as a child and as I understand it that may cause him to be more likely to cheat. So I have an understanding that it's not all black and white in life.
1. Do I believe him that that is the extent of the cheating?
2. He has talked about getting married. I see this as he wants to continue with me but I'm worried.