How do you deal with ungratefulness and negativity?

Oh shit, so
>he's actually a lot older than me (10 years)
> has 3 kids.

He also didn't like my one best friend, and I honestly felt like he was right.

I was a really bad teenager, and would do drugs and drink a lot with these people.

As soon as I started hanging out with him, I started to better myself and now I am going to school and he is very supportive.

I miss my old friends a lot, but I feel like it is somewhat for the better.

No, but we are in the tri-state area

Just tell him you think he's a dick straight up, and if he doesn't choose to acknowledge how dumb he is then you'll leave.

thanks, lol

There's more red flags here than in China. Why are you doing this to yourself? Girl have some self esteem and get rid of this loser.

Fucking spank his shit. I would have done so, and loudly, at the bed in breakfast.

>he's a genuinely good guy
>he just insults and criticizes 80% of what I do, choose or give to him
>he told his whole family about it and they all probably think I'm retarded

He is an asshole. I'm guessing he acts nice to other people right? He has power over you in a relationship so he can get away with acting like this. The longer you stay with him the worse it is going to get.

Girl.
I'd say my boyfriend is a bit of a cunt at times and he's much nicer than your boyfriend. I literally never heard him say a bad word about something I decided to buy for him, whether it was take away dinner from a fast food or 200$ birthday gift.

You are honestly better off single than staying in a relationship that makes you feel miserable and insecure. Loneliness has its drawbacks, but it's better than what you have now. Build yourself up as an independent human being, and find someone new that doesn't make you feel like shit

Just meet new friends in school, dummy.

my gf could give me a box of farts and I'd at least PRETEND to like it. Like, what the fuck kind of person doesn't know you are at least supposed to pretend to like any and all gifts?

Here's a handy little trick to keep your man in line.

Next time you give him head, bite down as hard as you can.

I'm trying, I feel like I lost some self-esteem when my friends left me

That's what I feel, but on the flipside, he's allowed to not like things, I just got upset cause he was so rude about it

I know, I think it is the only thing holding me back, I'm just so scared

I have, but we aren't very close yet. They're really cool and always ask why I am upset and stuff, I am too embarrassed to tell them

This.
For our first Christmas together I got a vinyl record delivered to my boyfriend, and they sent him the wrong one. He didn't even tell me he got the wrong one, went out and bought the one I wanted to get him (I wrote him a letter where I referred to the album I originally meant to buy him). He told me after a year.

Have you talked to him about it? I mean outside an argument. Not while emotions are already up.

I used to have a problem with sounding condescending. I never meant to, it was just in my tone and speech style, and I had no idea when it was occuring because people generally don't tell you that shit. They just shit talk later.

I couldn't fix it until my partner actually told me what an issue it was and we agreed that she would point out every time I did it. It actually completely changed the way I thought and spoke over time because I was willing and needed someone there to actually help because I simply couldn't here it myself.

I am leaning hard towards break up with that dumb bitch. But if you want to help him I've got two solutions:
1. Set aside time, say you need to talk, tell him how he sounds, that it's a problem, and that it needs to stop or you're leaving, and you'll help him.

2. Nothing like a good dose if magic mushrooms to make someone realise what an assfuck they are. Try that out. Results guaranteed.

Update: I talked to him, and he had suspicions that I was still upset.

I told him I have been crying a lot still, and that I feel helpless and really hurt when I try to do something nice for him and he insults/belittles the things I do.

He uninvited me to a family birthday dinner, and I just said,
>What's the point of our relationship?

I hung up, lol

He called me back, and I am invited again. I think I am going to have to end this, soon.

Thanks, guys, for all your wisdom

My God.
Yeah this dude needs to lose someone to get it.

Get yourself a meetup account. You'll find plenty of new friends that way.

Just fucking block the asshole and move on. Honestly. It's not even worth breaking up with a man like this.
>"I have an issue with this behaviour"
>"WELL THEN YOU CAN'T COME TO MY BIRTHDAY PARTY AND PLAY WITH ME ANYMORE"
The fucker is 10 years older than you, yet he's literally 5.

I hope you were hooked on some kind of horrible drug when you decided to date this guy. Ghost his ass and move on.

Agreed, OP is dating a child.

Yeah, this guy has it right. He sounds like somebody whose parents took it wayyyy too easy on him. You can't fix that spoiled-brat entitlement, you shouldn't take it personally, and you shouldn't put up with it any longer. Life's too short for that shit.

He sounds like spoiled manchild.

OP here, and this is late in the thread but he called me again just now and apologized, and said he was acting like "a little bitch."

He said I can hold this against him as much as I want, but that he is grateful to have me in his life and to even have gotten a gift.

He also said that he would've felt worse if I spent all that money and he would have to lie about not wearing them.

Don't let him gaslight you
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_engineering_(security)

Time to break up with him, and from the other info I've seen, this sounds like a strange relationship

The best way to deal with an ungrateful boyfriend who doesn't appreciate you or the effort you give him is to dump him. It's been proven that being around someone who constantly complains and is negative is bad for your own mental and emotional health. He doesn't even have the maturity to TRY to practice a little couth - he just blurts out whatever autistic rants that pop into his head without considering how rude it is or how it'll make you feel.

This little shit doesn't deserve you, sis. There's a prince out there begging for someone like you to come into his life. Dump him. You deserve to be with someone who will worship the ground you walk on and bend over backwards to make you happy. Trash this fuckboi, throw him and his swishy pants out the door and say good riddance.

OP knows damn well what to do but doesn't have the courage to act on it. She prefers to remain a victim because it gets her sympathy pats on the head from others.

>"B-but he makes me laugh when he's not busy insulting me. He's not all that bad! Who will watch his children if I go?" (Dating single parents is like playing someone else's saved game, btw. You getting her sloppy seconds.)

Sure, he's gaslighting you into a mental and emotional box of his own design and sure, he's estranged you from anyone who may not agree with how he keeps you under his thumb, but you know....at least he makes you laugh sometimes. That's worth putting up with all this frustration and manipulation, right? Sure.