I’m dating a habitual liar

I’m dating a habitual liar

So my girlfriend of 6 months is a shitty liar and I let her get away with it. Here’s the thing though, she’ll lie sometimes just to be with me. Like she’ll make fake excuses at work or with her parents to leave early and such. That’s the good. The bad is when she tries to lie to get her way. So she texts me earlier saying she can’t pick up something for me cause she’s going to work early, her boss called her to come in early, no worries it’s whatever. I thought of being the good boyfriend. I’m off so I’ll pick her up for lunch. She says no, she doesn’t get a lunch. I’m like what. She goes yeah no lunch today. I’m like how you obviously get a lunch for a 9 hour shift. She goes yeah when she went in they said why are you here early go home. So she simply went home. That’s the lie, that her boss told her to come early. So I used to work there, I’m like ok I’m gonna talk to our old manager about how fucked up that is, she texts me this.

I guess my point is would you stay with a person like this? Like there’s no saints in the world and everyone lies?

Or am I being a complete beta faggot and need to dump her for constantly lying?

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You don't need to dump her, just set her straight. This is some bullshit, and you should not let it continue. It's bad for both of you, and other people.

You shouldn't have tolerated it to begin with. Put your foot down and be firm about it. Call her on her bullshit, stress integrity and honesty as important values, and try to reassure her that you won't judge her if she'd just tell you the goddamned truth.

If you find out she's cheating on you, dump her dumb bitch ass.

That’s why I’m like people lie all the time

Like maybe she was tired and didn’t want to pick up my thing (it wasn’t important), but her house of cards collapsed.

I’m going to talk to her after her shift and tell her how nasty she got over the phone (this texts was like an hour after once she calmed down).

But that’s what I’m like conflicted about, make all the she’s fucking Tyrone jokes, I know she’s not cheating, she’s just a shitty liar. But a lot of the times it benefits me. Like I told her to call out of work tmrw for Easter so she could come to my family function and she said ok without hesitation. Or she’ll lie and tell her mom she has a shift when really she’s off and she’ll come over and fuck. She’ll lie at work and say she’s late cause of car trouble, and really we were watching a movie or something.

she might "accidentally" lie, like when you lied a lot in your younger years you might respond automatically with a small lie to make someone feel good, but then feel awfully bad if it might come out. thats why she is trying so hard to set it right, her heart is in the right place but she needs to learn to think before she responds and tell her she never has to lie and that u got her back.
The hardest part is to say this to her without telling her u think she's lying. You could ask her if there is anything she wants to tell u and hope she comes clean which makes it much easier, but if she doesn't then you could tell her she can always trust you and you always got her back.

She is obviously cheating on you dude.

Dump this cunt and find a new one.

I thought about catching her red handed but there’s really no 100% sure to make sure I’m right

I just want her to apologize for the nastiness over the phone, and I wanted to hint that I don’t want her to lie to me

Then I started debating about putting up with this shit, cause I try to be honest with her as much as I can. When I lie it’s to protect her feelings or when I’m surprising her, not when I’m trying to deceive her

Am I reading it wrong that you kind of like it when she lies for you? Is your objection that she lies, or that she lies poorly?

If it's the former you need to put your foot down and help train her out of it. A lot of it sounds like it's coming from a place of insecurity or laziness "I just don't want to do something so I won't, but because I feel bad I'm going to tell you a little white lie."

If it's the latter then help her improve her lie game.

But to answer your question in the OP (that I honestly didn't see): no. I wouldn't stay with a pathological liar. Honesty and integrity ARE important values to me, and I won't stay with someone who casually dismisses them as frequently as your girl does (the occasional white lie is fine, but casual everyday manipulative lying like this? Nah.)

I'll tell you what, upside-down Satan
The fact that you like that she's lying to get you off is simply enabling her, and it will bite you in the ass. You're willingly making her a weak and unreliable person, just so you can fuck at hours where she should be doing more responsible decisions. People who lie end up not being eble to gain other people's trust, eventually they will doubt themselves, and it leads to ruin.

Go youtube searching 'Jordan Peterson tell the truth or at least don't lie' and take it from a clinical psychologist.

Could you get a source other than Peterson? That guy makes me cringe (but I'm not OP so I don't count).