How do I get the enlightened feeling of "tfw no gf and don't care" even when I'm at school or work and can't masturbate?
How do I get the enlightened feeling of "tfw no gf and don't care" even when I'm at school or work and can't masturbate?
I never cared about girls, i just focused on my hobbies and friends, tho i did have a lot of female friends
>tfw no bf is in another thread, faggot
If you only feel well after jacking off, then you have a pretty big problem. Do you fap every 45 minutes at home? How do you handle your problems?
>Do you fap every 45 minutes at home?
Why every 45?
Men need to cool off in between orgasms.
I jack off like 1-3 times a day. At home the desire isn't as bad, it's mostly when I'm out at work or college and I have to see all these chads with their hot ass girlfriends walking around.
>it's mostly when I'm out at work or college and I have to see all these chads with their hot ass girlfriends walking around.
Deal with it. Mental health is about understanding and dealing with the issue at hand.
You feel jealous of other men, ok, how do you plan on dealing with that? Can you stop comparing yourself? Can you love yourself some more?
i cant wait to go complete hardcore good
tomorrow i promise
I don't really have control over my thoughts. Like I can't just see my mom die or something and force myself to stop thinking about my mom dying. Like ya, if I could live life on autopilot and ignore every failure or unfortunate thing in my surroundings that would be ideal, but I'm not a monk.
>I don't really have control over my thoughts.
Well, you kinda do. You can't just decide to stop feeling inferior and have it magically happen. But you can work on it and maybe solve it.
Can you honestly say that it's only women you have a problem about? Do you feel jealous of other stuff? Do you feel lesser in other areas?
Do you like yourself?
Most of my problems stem from me being shy/timid/awkward in social situations and it being impossible for me to form connections with people around me, which there doesn't seem to be a direct solution for.
>Most of my problems stem from me being shy/timid/awkward in social situations and it being impossible for me to form connections with people around me, which there doesn't seem to be a direct solution for.
Ok, what have you tried so far? To solve the problem.
I do it once an hour. At work I just go to the bathroom to quickly do it.
Be in a bad relationship so you can feel free for the short while you’re not dealing with her bs
Nothing really. Like I said it doesn't seem like there's any real solutions to that problem, it's just a product of me not being properly socialized and growing up without a father and with an uninvolved mother as a child, being bullied in school for being too much of a pussy to talk to people, plus too much time spent alone at the computer. I'm also a little stupid which doesn't help my case.
> Nothing really.
That's your only problem. Not taking responsibility. With work you could (maybe) work on the other stuff.
You are an adult, so don't blame mommy and the bully at school. Your life is yours. By not trying to make it better you are the one making it worse.
I do try to make my life better in ways that I can. I have a somewhat busy schedule with full time college, part time work, lifting 3 days a week, running 3 days a week, independently studying programming with time I have left, etc. I do all the things that people recommend you do to improve your life but it doesn't seem like any of it helps my ability to effectively socialize, so I've kinda just given up on it and admitted it's my weak point and that I'll probably be a pretty solitary person for the most part, and it fucking sucks but that's just the hand I've been dealt.
>I do all the things that people recommend you do to improve your life but it doesn't seem like any of it helps my ability to effectively socialize
Lifting alone, running alone and studying alone doesn't allow for socializing.
What have you done in class and at work to socialize? Joined any study groups? Any other activities?
>Tfw I feel the same even after
THat's because jacking off won't fix your life.
Usually people at work and class will talk to me once, understand how socially crippled I am, then never talk to me again, so I always end up being the weird quiet guy who everyone is on edge around. I don't want to join any activities or groups, it just makes me feel like I don't belong and fucks up my self esteem even more. Like people talk about socializing more often making them better at socializing but it just makes me even worse because I'm so afraid of people and interacting with them only reinforces my fear.
>Usually people at work and class will talk to me once, understand how socially crippled I am, then never talk to me again,
Would you talk to someone as awkward as you are?
>Usually people at work and class will talk to me once, understand how socially crippled I am, then never talk to me again, so I always end up being the weird quiet guy who everyone is on edge around
Do you make an effort when you talk to those people, i.e. asking about them, their interests, etc?t
Honestly just accept the fact that you don't need someone to make you feel better. Focus on you and fuck everyone else.
this ^
Fap less and download an app like Tinder or Bumble, which will hopefully show you how offputting the average girl seeking a BF is.