/sig/ - self improvement general

One more book recommendation that I wanted to throw in is

>The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
and
>Spark Joy
Generally speaking these books help those that are messy and cluttered in their lives. The greater picture here is by the end of the book many people experience a change in their lives because they regain self-confidence and a sense of identity. It's helpful for those living in depression dens or neckbeard nests obviously but also gives great tips on organization. Spark Joy is the companion book but the main one is Tidying Up.

All of these books are literally about self improvement in some capacity, and provide the reader with both examples and tools that they can take from the books and apply them to real life. Telling someone who's experienced a lifetime of loneliness and rejection to meditate and remember people's names and smile generally won't improve their situation. This IS helpful advice in general but not to those who are battling bigger issues like they have nobody to win over and influence or are to afraid to leave the house, or too depressed to get out of bed. These are cognitive and emotional demons that need to be slayed before you even think about generic advice. They have much more they need to improve on rather than mid-tier "be nice to your coworkers and they'll reciprocate"

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Now let's move onto the "basics"
You would think that the basics of self-improvement would be something based in self-care because self-care will inherently lead to self-improvement in whatever situation you're in because if you're operating at less than 100% then you still have room to improve.

So the basics should start with self-care stuff as a triage type of thing for those who aren't even meeting their basic needs. A ten commandments type thing of making sure your basic needs are being met because if they aren't then that's the first thing you should work on rather than any personal development: get 7-9 hours of sleep, sleep on a regular schedule around day/night times, shoot for the daily dozen in terms of nutrition, no soda, no smoking, drink water, 30 minutes of daily exercise, shower daily, brush your teeth twice a day, ect.

This is nowhere in your post and your first recommendation for the basics is extreme.

>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do.
This is important but you can't just tell someone who's whole worldview is based around being a slave to emotions that they are responsible for them without any other followup. It's a really important point and generally shouldn't be at the top because it's too complicated for most.

I'm going to reply to this comment with the rest of your basics because they do not fit in this reply.

>Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time.
This is extremely generic advice. What exactly is the best me I can be? Is this not what literally everyone posting in this thread is planning on doing anyway? Do you think people are posting in a self-improvement thread to be worse?

>Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going.
Again this is very generic advice. Telling people to set goals isn't going to help them because most people have been told to set goals since they were children. Something like:
>Set S.M.A.R.T. goals rather than V.A.P.I.D. ones,
would actually help them because they'd learn more specifically how to improve their goalmaking.
>Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones.
Not sure what this even means, sounds like something I would read in a news article. If you're suggesting we learn routines and habits you should literally tell us how to do that.
>Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu
Welp looks like I was wrong in my reply and missed this one. You generally shouldn't be sleeping over 9 hours though.

>Learn Mindfulnes Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh
This is helpful and should be left in.

>Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego.
Not helpful

>Have the balls to follow any beliefs to their logical conclusion. Think critically, question everything.
This is good but you should include a pastebin on logical thinking or something, and how to think skeptically or creatively.

>If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on.
Doesn't have much to do with self-improvement, and should talk more about self-esteem. In general you should talk more about self-esteem.

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I'll gladly list those books. Thank you for the recommendations.

>Telling someone who's experienced a lifetime of loneliness and rejection to meditate and remember people's names and smile generally won't improve their situation.

There are a million things that one needs to do in order to improve that situation. I absolutely agree that the OP is nowhere near enough. It's there merely to point the way. And even that requires effort from the part of the person looking to improve. I can't make it happen for them. No amount of advice can. The OP tries to give leads to both mindset and practical things to to. It's not trying to provide a comprehensive guide that solves every problem of every person everywhere.

>These are cognitive and emotional demons that need to be slayed before you even think about generic advice.

Have you read Feeding your Demons in OP btw?

>basics should start with self-care stuff
Problem with that is that once a person who can't even do that basic stuff reads the list, he'll get discouraged. "I'm a POS since I can't even brush my teeth every day" etc.
I assume most people know that they should do that stuff. I don't believe it's helpful to immediately patronize people by telling them things that they already know.
It's weird that you'd say "give more basic self-care advice" and then complain about the basic advice coming up.

> it's too complicated for most.
I only put it on the top precisely because this is Jow Forums and it is complicated. Normally I'd agree but I think a lot of people in here like to think of themselves as being smart. So, start with something difficult that very often people argue about - which I think is useful.

>This is extremely generic advice.
Yet people constantly compare themselves to others.

cont.

>Helpful routines.
It's generic advice specifically because everyone's situation is different. Like I said, I assume that people already know they should brush their teeth, shower etc. I'm not going to impose my view of when to wake up or when to shower etc. There is no universal rule. If people need help with this, I'll answer them in specific but I'm not going to teach people that they need to do EXACTLY this or that routine.

>Sleep
My google-fu provided sources saying 6-11 hours, so I went with that recommendation. berkeleywellness.com/healthy-mind/sleep/article/how-much-sleep-do-you-need?s=EFA_161110_AA1&st=email&ap=ed

>Stop being slave to your Ego
>Not helpful
Okay. Did you have a reason or was that just your Ego getting spooked?

>include a pastebin
True.

>Doesn't have much to do with self-improvement
I admit this line has more to do with making a clear divorce from other /sig/ threads where there was a very obvious bent towards white supremacy, sexism and so on. That said, I think it's still very important since it ties in with the whole "comparing yourself to others" thing. People are eager to find a way to rationalize why they aren't worse than someone, but usually less eager to admit that they are also no better ( I'm equating "worse" and "better" to "unvaluable" and "valuable" here ).

I fully admit I should rewrite the OP. Currently, it's a messy marriage of older and new /sig/ threads. I think there also might be a problem with board culture - I'm using an OP that was geared for Jow Forums and it seems on Jow Forums I might get away with being less obnoxious.

I've been meditating 15 minutes a day for a few weeks now and my I feel like my brain fog is better.
Trying Intermittent Fasting now.

can I get an Ayymen?

fag

Book of Pook and similarly No More Mr. Nice Guy helped me a lot with my agreeableness. I would recommend them to anyone who has needs but is too agreeable to put them before others.

y u do this?

This is a relatively slow general, what is up with that?

It's not well constructed for the board. I need to rewrite the OP.

I don't think people know what to make of it. It's sort of redundant for asking questions since that's what the whole board is for. Also I don't think people come to Jow Forums for a life overhaul.

I have a hard time directing and motivating myself, because I am not happy with myself at my job and only making ends meet.

I want to get into a career that deals with the outdoors but my degree is not anywhere near what's needed.

It's easy to feel dissuaded because I am an introvert and very few friends.

This is all at a glance, the problems are more nuanced but I don't want to turn this into a blogpost.

But you wanna be better, keep that in your mind and do more and more every day buddy, you can do it

I think it's okay to blog since it's within a thread.

Could you take up a hobby involving outdoors? If there were some hobby groups you could join, you could maybe eventually turn it into a profession.

Yes I'm sure they are abundant. I am in California, I haven't been applying myself.

I need to overcome my fear of moving forward

It's okay to be scared but the fear quite literally is in your head. You have the power to choose to not be afraid. Let that realization come to you when you've been scared for long enough.

I know you can do it.

Also, California is beautiful.

guys how in the fuck do I sit down and study for 8+ hours a day i cant stop getting distracted

also can guys who are 5/10 get laid in college?

yes i'm retarded

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Everyone says as much user. Many people tell me it's in my head, I just wonder how to get back to that, I only ever got this bad when I got a DUI 7 years ago.

It's expunged now but it still left me feeling violated for years

>The OP tries to give leads to both mindset and practical things to to.
the mindset? if you're pushing a specific mindset or philosophy that's not backed by science then you're just pushing your beliefs as if they're truths.

>It's not trying to provide a comprehensive guide that solves every problem of every person everywhere.
Which is why I'm giving you flack for it, because the OPs of these general threads are seen as starterpacks. Look at the sticky of threads like /lit/ or Jow Forums. They don't push an ideology, they give resources for people. If you want to make a self-improvement general thread then the OP should contain general resources for self improvement that mostly anyone can use. It should generally act as a starting point.

>Have you read Feeding your Demons in OP btw?

Nope.

>Problem with that is that once a person who can't even do that basic stuff reads the list, he'll get discouraged. "I'm a POS since I can't even brush my teeth every day" etc.

That's not an argument against including it in the OP. That's their issue if they don't want to use resources.Do you also think therapists should close shop because some people are too depressed to go to them?

>I assume most people know that they should do that stuff.
don't.

>I don't believe it's helpful to immediately patronize people by telling them things that they already know.
I mean people might already know to do some of the stuff but when you're in the depths of depression or anxiety or just having a stressful time it's easy to forgo these things, and being reminded to do them means a lot. it's only patronizing because you view it as such. telling people to maintain their hygiene when they're depressed is good advice, because they should be doing that.

Brehs how do I stop playing video games and doing non productive stuff and set up a schedule?

>I only put it on the top precisely because this is Jow Forums and it is complicated. Normally I'd agree but I think a lot of people in here like to think of themselves as being smart. So, start with something difficult that very often people argue about - which I think is useful.

Because people being on the defensive is the best way to help them understand a point, sounds like some solid guidance.

>Yet people constantly compare themselves to others.

If the advice is "don't compare yourself to others" then you're not doing a good job of communicating that because I'm not even sure what part of my comment you're replying to.

> I'm not going to impose my view of when to wake up or when to shower etc. There is no universal rule. If people need help with this, I'll answer them in specific but I'm not going to teach people that they need to do EXACTLY this or that routine.

It's not dictating someones life it's a reminder to keep up your own needs and to keep up with hygiene. It's like recommending someone get a formal outfit before going to an interview in a thread of employment advice, you're not telling them a specific brand or anything, you're making sure they're not missing the basics that are needed for the later more advanced work.

>sleep

the table in your source literally recommends 7 to 9 hours of sleep for 18-65+ year olds. generally under 7 is viewed as too little and 9 is on the higher side of average. 10 is a lot. 11 is almost half of a day.

>Okay. Did you have a reason or was that just your Ego getting spooked?
If you want people to stop being a slave to their ego, telling them "stop being a slave to your ego" doesn't accomplish anything other than telling them what you want. You don't explain what this means, you don't explain how to do this, so it comes off as very self-helpy nonsense advice.

Set up a schedule, adhere to it, and maybe reward with light video game play or something you really enjoy. You just have to cut it down and do other things.

The low hanging fruit:
- Sort your fucking sleep schedule out. Get up at the same time every day, regardless of what you’re doing.
- No screens for an hour before lights out at night. AN HOUR. It screws with hormones that prep your body for sleeping.
- Eat within a 12 hour window. If you can get this down to 10, great, but 12 will give you the majority of the benefits.
- Stop eating fake food. Pasta, pizza, anything processed. It fucks with your insulin which fucks with your mood more than you can imagine, especially if you’ve issues with anxiety. Refined sugar is the devil.
- Get some exercise. This isn’t Jow Forums so don’t worry about getting ripped etc, just hit the gym or play sports twice a week. The mental benefits far outweigh the physical.
- STOP LISTENING TO HEADPHONES LITERALLY EVERYWHERE YOU GO. This will be uncomfortable at first (because it’s super addictive), but if you’ve social anxiety this will help IMMENSELY. If you want something to do, take a book.
- Read god dammit. Be it fiction, non-fiction, whatever interests you. Now that you’re screenless for an hour before bed and have no headphones with you, you’ve got the time.
- Mobile phones ruin your attention which is why you can’t focus. Put your phone on flight mode an hour before bed, and don’t turn flight mode off until you’re at the breakfast table. The next level is turn off notifications on your phone and set time windows you check messages. Save this for when you’ve accomplished some of the others consistently.

What you’ll notice is that everything above requires specific action. Don’t be passive in your actions. Passive actions train your subconscious for a passive life = feeling like you’ve no control or direction in your life = anxiety about pretty much fucking everything.

self improvement is for faggots. suicide is the real deal

>you're just pushing your beliefs as if they're truths.
Feel free to argue how you are not in charge of how you experience life. Read the Sam Harris book in OP first.
I'm giving people the most beneficial mindset they can possibly have and methods ( Meditation ) to help achieve that mindset. I thought you were familiar with CBT.

>They don't push an ideology,
They aren't comparable to /sig/. The way people look at life is pretty important. Philosophy has always been a part of /sig/ threads, well before my OP. I'm promoting philosophy that I've learned from DBT and Classical Tantra as I have yet to see anyone make a convincing case as to why they wouldn't be beneficial to people.

>Basic stuff
I agree to disagree with you. Granted my experience is anecdotal but I have yet to meet anyone with clinical depression who appreciated being told to "take care of urself UwU". I have met a lot of those people, not just online either.

>Because people being on the defensive
I absolutely want people to argue with whatever they see. Hence the "question everything". I don't care if they are agreeing or disagreeing with me at first, they need to question it.

>Work on becoming the best YOU...
>Generic advice
People still try to become the best someone else they can't be.

>7 to 9 hours of sleep
And 11 "may be appropriate".

>You don't explain what this means
Hence why there are books listed that help to this end. Its also advice that people have to understand by themselves.

I give practical advice, and philosophical advice. People who can't be bothered with the philosophical stuff can safely ignore it. People who got their shit together but are still feeling "lost" can take me up on the philosophical advice.

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>"Self improvement *general*"
>REEEEE this advice is so generic

>generic and shitty advice in sig
like pottery

So get to it

Will do in a week

>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do.
Bullshit that's not what the research has found. It has found that more attractive people are more likely to be hired and promoted and overall treated better, and the same applies for height. It's also been shown that taller and more beautiful people are more Intelligent. Basically your fate is determined by your physical characteristics and your attitude. Not you attitude alone

>tfw I honed up to the fact that while some people have been dicks to me in my life, its actually me who drives everyone away
>tfw I admit I could be doing better
>tfw been accepted for a medical course after deciding to get off my lazy ass and spent the last two years studying for my current qualification
>tfw getting more comfortable around people as a result
>tfw not nearly as angry as I used to be
I still feel like a loser, but I'm still working on that.
I can't believe how much better I feel as a result of being slightly more open towards people combined with the practice of regularly working towards a greater goal in life has made me feel though.
I've even started to help my dad feel better after his divorce by simply telling him to let go of his long term anger, as all it does is emotionally exhaust you and makes you feel shitty.
You can't build a foundation for a content existence by holding onto that shit, it takes up to much room.
Short term anger is healthy but fuck carrying that stuff around with you.

It's bad for your brain to try and study unbroken for that long.
Do an hour and then give yourself a thirty minute rest. Repeat if necessary.
Trying to do it in one sitting overwhelms your brain to the point that you can't remember the information anyway, kinda creating an oxymoron in the process.

Why would you want to double down on having a shitty personality if you were ugly though ?
And so what, of course good looking people get treated nicer, its unfortunate but thats just the way of the world and that'll never change. Hell, you learn that when you go to school.
Nothing gets better by standing still, it doesn't get easier to just be angry, you'll just be stuck in the same place but even angrier.
The world is a very unfair and cold place but I genuinely believe there is light to be found for 99.9999% of people.

It is fucking bullshit. What matters is genes and the fact that wheter your parents mutilated your genitals or not for a big fuck you

>The world is shit
>But I believe there is hope for 99% of people
So you're delusional

Nope.
The world is shit, its unfair, depressing and ultimately doomed.
But being angry at it doesn't change anything in life, nothing gets easier and without effort you stagnate.
You can stay mad at the fact your not good looking, which will never change (barring plastic surgery, but even thats limited) or just shut up, work with what your given and proceed to create even the smallest of joy for yourself.
Up to you, but bitching on the internet and carrying this world view is pretty much guaranteed to just make you more hollow and bitter as the lonely years pass by.

Please provide scientific proof that no ugly and short person can ever be successful.
Unless you can show that what you said is the case 100% of the time, you are just choosing to believe that you can't make it. If you want to operate on faith, why operate on faith that doesn't have a positive impact on your life?

Has anyone tried to do on Insulin reset? 2 weeks of less than 70g carbs and you should feel much better.

I never claimed 100% certainty, however if the chances were 99%, as it is with me, then statistically it's next to impossible. There would simply be no point in trying. Also there are plenty of studies on this it just takes a google search stop being a lazy faggot

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Who even cares about capeshit? I never watched a capeshit movie since 2007

I spent a good 30 seconds trying to figure out what "spoiled" meant and who these characters were.

i have really bad habits
i better get my shit together today

Luv threads like these!

So the thing that I keep getting caught on is boredom and stress relating to self-improvement. I feel like everyone does everything because it feels good on some level but I just can't make eating healthy and exercising and socializing gratifying. If I'm going to be honest it's lead me to do some really stupid self-destructive stuff just to stave off how bored I am. Is this normal? What do y'all do to manage?

Any books/advice on how to become more charismatic/foster charisma?

I don't need to do your research for you. You have made the choice to be miserable based on nothing but belief. That's all. Since you operate on belief, I don't see a good reason why you would pick a belief that doesn't advance your life

Are you focusing on what you could or would do, instead of what you think you "should" do?

What hobbies should a twenty something year old pick up that are rejuvenating and are also valuable skills?

I think that's part of it. A huge issue for me is that nothing really appeals that much. I'm bettering myself but there's no real end goal or reason for me to be doing it, because I don't really want anything that badly. I feel like I'm making myself do stuff I don't want to do so I can keep making myself do stuff I don't want to do. It's tedious and stressful and I guess I just don't see the point

not having 100% certainty is not the same as operating on belief. I keep repeating this, but even if the odds of me succeeding are 1% the chances of me being that 1% are very low. if that is a belief and it is right more often than its's wrong then I'm willing to take it

Also to build onto this I think a lot of my dreams are more doing things so I don't have to do other things than it is a list of things that I actually want to do. Like I'd love to build my own house one day, but that's not because I want to build houses, it's because I'm cheap.

Reading. Audiobooks, regular books. Either or both. Start with How to Read a Book by Mortimer J. Adler. Beyond that it doesn't matter what you read but newarcitea.neocities.org/4Mind.html has a big list from where to pick.

Any hobby that requires you to get out of the house is also good. Doesn't matter what. If you like it, it's fine. What are your interests? If you don't know, go ahead and try different things. Sign up for community college courses ( or equivalent ) if possible. Try something completely new.

To be honest, it sounds like you should try to do some introspection. Read some philosophy. Start with the Sam Harris book in OP.

sam harris is a literal who faggot fuck retard who op shills because he likes dicks and smokes them instead of marlboro

I recently had a spiritual awakening. Finally faced the negativity in my life full on. It hurt like hell but afterwards I felt at peace and different, like a different person.

Thing is I can’t really give advice on how to do this because it just sort of happened. Things got really bad with my psychosis and grades and out of nowhere I woke up. Anyways hope you anons experience enlightenment as well, hell even my voices stopped being negative.

>spirituality
what a fucking faggot

That's good to hear user. I'm starting to increasingly think that "spirituality" is an important aspect of life. Not necessarily religion though, but something that science hasn't yet been able to pinpoint in the human consciousness.

I try to live in the moment then when something pisses me off or get any emotion I dont turn it on my self rather that the emotion I feel is is just from a reaction. I dont go further than that and I wont spiral down.

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lynch siggers

>I'm willing to believe that I'll never make it

I mean, if that works for you and makes you happy, you do you.

Can this book teach me how to be more discipline?

Also there is a good app or something i can use to check what i have to do daily or weekly?

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I started taking an adult high school class (US History 2) this week to earn the “adult high school diploma” thinking that it might help me cope with major depressive disorder. It’s all just so tiresome, though. This is already the fourth time that I’ve taken US History 2. I’ve never been able to pass that class. I should have been done with that class over thirteen years ago. I’m thirty years old now.

I just find myself sitting there in class going, “why am I doing this, again? I already got the high school equivalency certificate after I passed the GED exam back in 2010. I’ve already been told by some people that the adult high school diploma and high school equivalency certificate are the exact same thing, but one of my cousins told me that having both supposedly looks better on resumes. I’m pretty sure that nobody cares, though. Nobody has ever asked me for proof that I have a high school equivalency certificate in any of the job interviews that I’ve been to. In fact, I actually managed to get myself hired for a mall cop job and they never asked me for proof that I had a high school equivalency certificate. So why did I spend over $100 to take the GED exam if nobody cares?”

And each time that I register for US History 2, they make me start all the way from the very beginning of the class. So I’ve had to watch the same, “America: The Story of Us” episodes three times now. And I’m sitting there as a thirty-year-old man surrounded by loudmouthed teenagers.

Every night I pray to God, “dear God, if you really exist, please take me back to the year 2006. It kills me that I’ve wasted thirteen years of my life. I want to go back to being seventeen again so that I may be able to finish high school and go straight to college within that same year.” I’ve been praying to God every night about this for the past year. The other night I could swear that I felt something trying to pull me out of bed by my feet as I was quietly praying.

How do you keep fit and sane when your body is fucked up in so many different ways?
>born 3 months early, now 21
>circulation to extremities has been messed up since birth
>every single ligament has been weak since birth
>absurdly flexible as a result
>core and back muscles weak and less likely to switch on since birth, meaning I fucked up my back and crushed a vertebra last year doing squats, in a situation where the injury would never have happened for normal people
>back injury fully healed, no damage to the nervous system so mobility and feeling are still 200%, but a slight ache and the GP said to not lift above 10kg
>can't relax when sedentary as a result of this injury, lower back is basically permanently tensed up so that the muscles protect that section of the spine
>physio said I should be able to go way beyond 10kg but I'll need to work on core and slowly increase weight
>on another note, still unemployed 4 months out of university
>no money, cannot pursue hobbies, vegan parents so can't eat the right food or enough food to maintain muscle mass at home, cannot buy my own
Is there even a fucking point? I'm so messed up physically I can't see any point in living

Keep binge eating. I’ve lost all my gains. I’m fat as fuck, keep getting to 220 and then eating my way back o 230lbs. At 6’1”. Feels really bad

Also gave up my ego and made an appointment to get an SSRI script like my dr told me to. I’m hoping to get into a part time job without having constant panic attacks and that will give me enough structure to stick with a diet while I get used to dealing with people again. Just feel so fat that it’s adding a lot to the anxiety issues I already have

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Listen to your physio, for one thing. It sucks that your body is the way it is but there is no "only one right way" to how a body is supposed to be.
So you can't do heavy squats. Then work around that. Tell your physio what you want and figure out a way to get you there that is safe for your body.

Have you looked into super low-bar jobs? Janitorial etc. stuff? It sucks but it's better than nothing. Ask your parents to give you something to do for money. Or ask them to hook you up with their friends etc. Also have you impressed upon them how important it is for someone with hypermobile joints to build muscle? I'm sure they don't want you to get injured doing mundane chores.

You are 21. I know you want to get to it and it must be frustrating when there are so many roadblocks on the way but you've not seen a fraction of life yet. Life is all about changes so there's absolutely no danger of you staying in the situation you are now - on the contrary, to stagnate you would have to put conscious effort into it. It's okay to feel frustration but don't give up hope since that easily turns into resisting opportunities. If you only try to grasp for what is ideal, life will pass you by.

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Honestly it sounds like losing weight isn't what you need to focus on right now. If you just keep losing and binging, you're just putting yourself into a cycle of failure that does nothing but feeds the "I'm a big fat loser" self-image.
It's okay to focus on what you actually can do first.

The fact that you agreed to meds is great, and that does take guts to get past your Ego like that. Put the weight loss to the side for at least a few months. If you get the thought "I should lose weight", acknowledge the thought but ask if you could or would. If you just feel a sense of desperation, thank the thought for the input but resolve to focus on your mental health first. If you get to a point where you feel nervous or apprehensive about losing weight, then you can try to push past that. But desperation is not a good place to start. It seems you've tried it a few times and failed, so it's time to try something else.
Take your time, focus on your mental health. Also yeah, having a structure in the day "imposed" by a job does make things easier. It's brave of you to put yourself out there and I think its great that you can see the benefit of doing that. Panic attacks must suck but if you have a connection to a doctor and you're on meds, I'm sure you'll be able to manage. Also learn to do micro-meditations through out the day so you let your brain have some breathing room.

Have a cat.

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>praying

found ur problem bruh

How do i see my blind spots?
I‘ve started to become paranoid af about my own motives and hidden agenda. Basically, i no longer trust myself. What do?

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Secondary languages, cooking, music theory and an instrument, a martial art or boxing.

Got new records for all my lifting exercises today except one. Feels good to progress again after nearly 2 weeks of failure. Still early in the program too.

Good job user!

Try journaling.

How to deal with a group of 3 bullyes harassing my 14 old sister? One of them is a Gipsy and his family is like a mafia (they don't have guns but they can jump on me and beat the shit out of me). I was thinking about speaking with the parents of the others 2 and message the fucking Gipsy. I have captures of him treating my sister via WhatsApp and a a he even call her

To keep myself entertained and semi-happy, I’m currently living in this ridiculous fantasy world in which benevolent extraterrestrial beings are communicating with me telepathically to teach me how to build VTOL aerospacecraft capable of traveling up to 40% the speed of light and armed with weapons that can implode planetary cores so that humanity may soon be able to fend off an invasion by a hostile extraterrestrial species.

thank you, I really needed this

Damn that sounds tuff, best to move her to another school or perhaps a new neighborhood if its that bad.

If you really want to deal with it then go speak with the gypsy's parents.

That fucking sucks.

Like others said, try the parents. If that doesn't work, try the school ( if they go to same school ).

BE THERE FOR YOUR SISTER most of all. If you can't physically defend her because the assholes are always in groups, at least be supportive and loving of your sister. Though I get the feeling you already do that so that's wonderful. You're a good brother.

Kinda sad to see this gone from Jow Forums, but I like the idea of /sig/ moving from board to board to help people with their problems. After Jow Forums has had it's full, let's tackle a real problem child: Jow Forums.

pomodoro technique, 25 minute uninterrupted work + 5 minute break. don't think about doing 8+ hours, just think about doing the next 25 minutes. take a longer break once in a while, this is not a problem AS LONG as you go back to sitting down and studying afterwards

use less internet, it's messing up your brain's capacity to think deeply and concentrate on long bouts of text

do this for multiple days a week for multiple weeks and it will stop being hard

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I miss Jow Forums though...