I've tried for years to fit in and be around people even managing to get engaged and be looking after a kid in my own house but I can't ever keep it up. How do I stop craving company when I clearly hate it some much and can't click with people ?
I've tried for years to fit in and be around people even managing to get engaged and be looking after a kid in my own...
> How do I stop craving company when I clearly hate it some much and can't click with people ?
Why don't you ask yourself how to engage with people instead?
Because i've tried for so many years
What have you tried?
To learn social skills and ways to be happy
What have you tried? What have you actually done?
Spoke to every person i'm close with and they've gave advice. Watched tons of videos online and looked up info on it. Tried different ways of talking to people and changed how I act seeing if my personailty needed changing. I don't what to do as I physically can't do some normal people things
>Tried different ways of talking to people and changed how I act seeing if my personailty needed changing.
This is what I'm talking about. Prep work is useless. What have you actually done? I'm talking about action.
Like what do you mean by action though ?
> Tried different ways of talking to people
How did you try to change? what did you do?
> changed how I act
Ok, how did you started to act? What did you do?
I know it's rough but keep going. Just love, man. Trust the person talking to you this (every) moment to see exactly what you're going through and let them feel it with you. They want to know if you feel it the same way they do. We are all asking the same question in our own way.
Being nicer to people asking them about what they like and helping others just to not be a dick. Made plans first, making sure people feel comfortable,giving people loans and not trying to over bother them with texts and calls. Pretty much what other people do with each other but I don't feel right and feel closer to suicide every week.
>Pretty much what other people do with each other but I don't feel right
Do you actually care about other people and want them to feel fine, or do you just play a role to be granted the "reward" of their friendship?
Not really. I try to but I honestly only care about myself and maybe one or two others slightly. I know I'm an arsehole but I've tried to change and I can't
Well, try therapy, religion, whatever helps you connect. If you feel bad about it you are not a sociopath, so you can change. If you want to change, of course.
I heard therapy was a meme though?. Oh shet I could be a sociopath.
You feel bad, so you are not.
Therapy is only useful if you actually try. It's not a magic medicine.
That's not what being a sociopath means
Maybe I'm confusing it with psychopath. Get an expect to diagnose you, trusting online strangers for this sort of thing is not smart.
What sociopathic traits just only talk about myself etc ?
As I said above, don't take a diagnosis from an stranger online. Try a professional.