My 26th birthday is next week and for a while I've been seriously considering trying a month or longer with no videogames and no social media, maybe even try to only bring up my laptop or phone if it's family- or work related. I want to lose weight, find a hobby, perhaps learn a skill, go outside, maybe make a friend again.
As I am right now my lifestyle is to sit inside nearly 24/7, play videogames, browse the internet with youtube going in the background, and only wishing I would better myself. I only really talk to my brother anymore and he also only ever plays and works. I am constantly self loathing and feeling guilty and useless for living this way. Despite hating this life for a decade, I never change, I never take serious enough steps, I never really tried to change despite knowing that it makes me depressed. I'm literally looking at my recent activity on Steam whi h says that I've spent 140.9 hours in videogames over the last 2 weeks. I have been NEET for almost a year, I currently don't want to work because a) I don't need to, b) It would get in my way to play games especially since I want to play WoW Classic for 18 hours a day when it comes out tgis summer, c) I'm too ugly, retarded, unattractive, unfunny, disgusting, unintelligent, weak etc for work anyway.
I'd love some general advice. Have you or someone you know been in a similar situation? Is my situation classifiable as addiction (to games/internet)? My biggest fear is that I'll simply be too unmotivated to do anything instead. Like if I can't use the internet or play, why even get out of bed?
bro I'm 26 and I've dropped tv and vidya nearly half a decade ago. It's all pointless propaganda, buy a bike or get a dog.
Austin James
19 here >kilsl self
Mason James
I notice my desire to play games and generally waste time drops pretty dramatically after eating better (try some cheap multivitamin at least), being productive, exercising, distracting myself less on my phone, and being consistent with when and how long sleep. I would probably quit altogether if it wasn't for the fact my gf still plays video games. Motivation hasn't been too much of an issue since it's mostly just routine, breaking routine fucks it up.
Xavier Bailey
Propaganda?
I've wanted a dog, but pets aren't allowed in this apartment. I own a bike, it's been collecting dust for over a year. I used to bike to work specifically to try to lose some weight - instead I was constantly nagged at by both coworkers and my parents that I didn't just drive, despite telling them that I need to lose weight. It got really annoying and demotivating really fast.
Blake Hall
yes, all modern media is propaganda. Go to /vr/ if you like video games. TV and games don't matter and only waste your precious youth. Also get a job.
I am desperate to try to eat better but I lose all energy, care and joy when I feel hungry, and I have yet to eat a "healthy" meal that didn't leave me hungry after an hour. I even gain weight when I count for 0g sugar and
Dylan Morgan
I haven't been a youth for almost a decade. I should be avoiding Jow Forums altogether not just /v/, but it's a habit to open Clover on my phone constantly. I think I crave validation which is also why this thread exists I guess. But on other boards I exclusively post to justify- and validate my choices. Getting a job does nothing good for me right now. As mentioned I don't even need one. But working makes me further depressed, I'm surrounded by irritating coworkers that can't leave me alone, and I can't get rid of them because I habitually speak in a humble and friendly way. I have hated nearly every coworker in my life but they would all think of me as a friend, and I consider this another of my weaknesses.
Gabriel Williams
I used to eat pizza every day from dominos and it would always make me feel like shit so I can kind of relate. At some point I eventually started cooking chicken breast/rice/broccoli pretty consistently with some easy recipe I made up; it was cheaper and it was a lot easier for me to motivate myself by thinking of the money. I think you're focusing too much on the end goal here instead of finding satisfaction in the little and more immediate things. I have so much more energy and a better mood when I eat cleaner on top of it saving me money since I'm not ordering pizza; this is a very practical reason that you will likely feel somewhat immediately (within a week). At least get some multivitamin and fish oil since thats easy as shit to do.
For some quick background im a 24 year old guy who dropped out of college a few years back due to severe depression and was also addicted to gaming and shit. Over the last couple years I managed to get a stable enough mental condition to get my shit at least kind of back together and go back to school and I have a year left. These aren't gonna be overnight changes and you need to make these improvements over time so they're habits and not things you gotta force yourself to do (at least all the time).
John Cox
hello to you fellow taurean. yes i get that way too you like your me time but all taurues are home bodies but you cant let it get in your way of being a fuctioning normal person.
all tauruses get lazy: but they are also hard workers too. its also because tauruses dont forget the hurt. it like the first time every time. the more you sit and think, the more you hurt. a little exersize to get you away from the games once a day couldnt hurt
Chicken is so good but so expensive, and buying frozen is a pain because thawing takes like 10 hours. I do have a ricecooker that I almost never use, and broccoli isn't too bad. How do I make it not dry though? To my knowledge all sauces are unacceptable.
I agree with focusing on end goals. Everything I do is done with an end purpose, like playing a game is only worthwhile if I play until I finish it, working out is for feeling better and becoming attractive, a hobby would be to show off how good I am etc. I also see things as black or white, good or bad, hate or love. I rarely allow a middle ground. I don't know where in my life that the "journey" or just "enjoying" something stopped mattering.
I haven't eaten yet. Woke up two hours ago. I should get groceries. I'll go get some chicken, rice and broccoli, and at least try. What do I eat for breakfast though?
Matthew Davis
the secret to chicken is marination. the longer it marinates the better it tastes...
you need to start watch sam the cooking guy videos.
breakfast? toast?
Owen Moore
I can agree that I love being lazy and that I go out of my way to work hard as long as it's appreciated by coworkers. I guess I never work hard for myself because I don't believe I matter. Ever since early childhood I've been convinced that me dying does nothing to the world or anyone I've met. I hurt a lot and can't forget pain from all years back. I absolutely need exercise. But do I quit gaming, internet? What else do I spend 10 hours a day on?
Marinated chicken mmmmmm. Was thinking about dry rice though. Maybe just some onions?
Isn't toast/bread THE worst thing anyome can eat? I love some good toast with a little butter, cheese or orange marmelade. But it's a whole day's worth of calories in just the breakfast.
Grayson Jones
I usually get chicken breasts, cut them into pieces, and cook them in a covered frying pan and let it marinade in a mix of spices, onions sauce, and spicy mustard right now. If you want to save money you could get chicken theighs and bake them in a glass container (glass tends to do a better job than metal here). Go grocery shopping while you have motivation, sugar free cereal is an alright breakfast but you could also just get some basic sandwich stuff with whole wheat or sourdough bread. Frozen chicken doesnt save much money where im at since a lot of the weight is water. You could try adding tofu to the meat too if you want to save money. Try limiting eating out or ordering food. to 1x a week or less if you do more than that.
Daniel Thompson
Walking right now. Yeah I only ever eat wholewheat or sourdough already since I like the taste more. Been eating it for some years. I don't get takeaway or eat out even weekly, HOWEVER my parents invite me sometimes several days a week and I seldom say no to free, nice food... they do however rarely make healthy food, always white bread etc.
I'm so hungry it hurts but I'll go buy some stuff.
Hudson Morris
So I bought some stuff including chicken, rice, broccoli and toast, but also some vanilla quark + musli/granola which I had for breakfast.
The first thing I did after putting my groceries away was to start my computer to put on some youtube on speaker, which I looked at while eating. Now I'm already going back to the mindset of just sitting here, maybe I'll start up a game, I don't really feel like doing anything, god why can't I just feel like going outside, or go pick up my weights and lift, or maybe grab some paper and a pen and doodle something. I can in this moment feel how my brain is fighting itself.
Ryan Barnes
you dont have to quit gaming just reduce the hours: maybe lose yourself in a book or a movie instead? you know try expanding your brain or at least learning something new.
and yes tauruses are true foodies... they love and appreciate every part of the meal. including the making and eating of the meal
toast isnt the worst thing you cant eat. too many processed this and ready made that are the worst thing you can eat as too many hidden salts and sugars. just cos its fat free doesnt mean it hasnt got em to make it taste good.
I'm probably considering quitting with games and internet for a month, as mentioned in OP, because I can't stop using it unless I DECIDE that I'm NOT ALLOWED to use them.
I don't know how to reduce hours. I legitimately can not figure out how to do that. Everything I do is always all or nothing and I don't know why I do that. Yeah I got some sourdough toast, my favorite variant. I seldom eat ready made foods.
One thing I have to admit is that I drink a lot of Pepsi Max, the zero calorie sugarfree variant of Pepsi. It's that, water or milk for me anywhere all the time. I've read on multiple sources for several years how bad it can be but the only claim is that it increases sweet cravings, but I don't eat sweets often anyway. What I DO worry is that it has made me addicted to caffeine. I feel out of energy nearly constantly every day, though I've been this way since childhood, and I used to drink regular coke until maybe 5 years ago in which I completely quit sugar drinks and have loved Pepsi Max instead. I can't say I feel extra negative without it, but having a glass or can never feels bad either.
Gabriel King
Cutting won't help, but replacing it will be hard because reading books or something doesn't really quite tickle your fancy like internet does.
Leo Myers
Let me try to help you. I see your IQ isnt exactly rock bottom, so i can start with a bit more stuff than usual. Anything can be an addiction if you let it get to your bones. Just remember that you let it happen so you have the power to stop it. You are in control by default unless you give it up voluntarily. Now some more practical advices. -RUN. Its a miracle boost, it will make you feel better. -swap the pepsi for black tea. -count calories. -learn to warmup when you wake up, it will help you with literally everything. I am talking about 5 min max warmup - just move the joints a bit. -take a shower every day 2nd level of tips -get social - talk to the cashier, smile to people on the street, make small talk with people at bus stops, etc. It will get better the more you practice -look better- watch one of the 103123034812482 dress up gurus for men out there, they say a lot of smart stuff, i recommend alpham as always. ; get a nice haircut at a professional barber but let him pick a proper haircut for you -workout and start counting your carbs, protein, fats -cut out sugar, replace it with honey
Jason Ward
I'm 25 and match 99% of your description except I have a job and wish I didn't. I hope you get a decent answer because I'm so god damn unmotivated to change my ways but I'm so fucking depressed because of that. I don't know what kind of mental illness I have that let's me know I'm not living correctly yet I won't do anything about it. I guess I want to live miserably for the rest of my life.
