so i think this guy i was with had the intent to take advantage of me. He kept asking me to drink with him and at one point he tried to get me to drink vodka. I know some people out there just really like sex, but if you make someone drink to the point where their ability to consent is compromised, it just feels really shady that you'd be okay with doing that.
im not saying i was raped, i was conscious enough to consent, but if i had drank that whole shot like he asked me to i think most reasonable people would agree that my consciousness would be compromised.
what bothers me is that he was willing to let me drink that much. he is definitely not stupid. he definitely knew that having sex with a girl while drunk would be trouble, there is no way in hell that didnt cross his mind, which makes me feel like he did it with the intent to take advantage of me.
i dunno anons i just feel worthless. like all im good for is just to be a fucktoy and then be thrown away and forgotten.
sometimes i hate how sex hungry males are. thelyre like animals
id much rather have a man who values me and treats me with respect than a young good looking guy with potential date me. wish me luck anons im not gonna give up just yet.
Colton Myers
>i dunno anons i just feel worthless. like all im good for is just to be a fucktoy and then be thrown away and forgotten. >sometimes i hate how sex hungry males are. thelyre like animals Oh and this is your fears talking
It's valid to feel this way, but laws of attraction will manifest whatever you believe you deserve. You need to like, work on your self-image stat, and then you'll find yourself in the company of good men instead of men who want to rape you.
And as a fact-check, from my experience women have more desire than men, only they're too afraid to express it ;)
James Cruz
He might have just wanted to have fun with you either. Me and my fiance used to get drunk a lot when we were younger, it was fun as fuck and most of the time we didn't even do anything sexual. Not everything is sinister you know.
Luis Hughes
Okay wtf is your point? Literally no one cares if you werent raped or "almost raped."
This is an advice board, not a venting board. Go post this on your blog
The worst part of your post was how long and dragged out it was. You wrote multiple paragraphs for dumb shit. Just say "i went on a date with a guy who was uncomfortably pushy to make me drink. I feel like he had the intentions to rape me. He didnt though." Thats it. Omfg.
Evan Morales
thanks i guess now i know how to post
Jordan Martinez
Not him but yeah you sound awful. If you're awful then you'll attract awful men.
It's not rocket science.
just stop being awful
Asher Gray
aw...well i guess you could be right. i guess things are more fun with beer
i just worry sometimes i dunno
some bad news i have is that he said he wanted to hang out again and then he texted me saying he's hoping im doing well.
but then when i responded he didn't say anything back. its been 24 hours and he still hasn't responded and normally he'll respond at least once a day.
Nathaniel Ramirez
Why hang out with a guy that you wouldn't want to fuck with is beyond me. News flash: girls and boys can't be just friends unless the girl is ugly or a family member. And since you gave consent, it seems like you're overreacting.
Brody Hill
but how do i sound awful?
was it awful that i assumed he was sinister? i guess thats true...
Dominic Rivera
>get consent >she still thinks it was rape gotta love this modern day era
Jaxson Hernandez
but i mean, i wanted a relationshp from him
today i looked on his okcupid and i saw that he had been on it within the last 24 hours. i feel like he's talking to other girls.
we aren't in a relationship but we've been talking since january. shouldn't he know if he wants to be in a relationship with me or not by now?
Jayden Harris
The way you talk/type is annoying. You dance around the point and you contradict yourself. Does this help make it more clear for you?
Cooper Sanchez
lol
someone in real life would never help me like this. hahaha
well that cheers me up for some reason.
Jonathan Cruz
but yes that does make it more clear for me
Bentley Brooks
Well I don't know this guy. Maybe he did just want a one night stand. Or maybe he's just been very busy the last 24 hours. Exorcise your common sense and just see how you feel about it. You were right not to drink the vodka at any rate, but I still say you shouldn't immediately assume he had bad intentions. Only because my own intentions, were I him, wouldn't have been bad.
Nathan Gomez
It's fairly easy.
If you're ugly, he probably just want sex If you're stupid, he probably just want sex If he looks like he's a player, probably just sex
If he truly loves you, he would've showed it fast enough, probably fairly quick after sex. If he's just acting like nothing happened that night, he probably didn't love you
Jack Roberts
>im not saying i was raped, i was conscious enough to consent, but
lmao he didn't even need to bother to get you vulnerable. no chase no fun
Jose Miller
>i was conscious enough to consent
So you did have sex with him anyways? You are trying to take the moral high ground but you went to a party and consciously chose to drink and have sex with some random guy. You are no better than him. If you want someone to love and respect you then don't do shit like that.
Aaron Wood
>what bothers me is that he was willing to let me drink that much. I think you should reflect on what you say here. Now ask yourself if he told you to stop would that mean he is treating you like you aren't an adult? You decide how much You consume. You feel like a fuck toy right? I can understand being used physically while your needs not being met. He didnt do his part. However I ask that you rethink on this because if you feel like it was rape and you know it wasnt, then it still isnt. Mainly because rape is a serious thing that leaves victims traumatized. It isnt something you feel and talk to this online about, it's something very very traumatic. I dont think you fully understand what rape really is because it's not something what you described. It's far worse.
Cooper Wright
and you had sex with him?? The reason the girls who feel this way have these experiences with men, is because they are in situations with the same type of men, and these are the men that they choose to be with, even sexually.
Nathan Martinez
user why'd you have to say it like that now i feel bad dang.
Joseph Jackson
I don't know why women say they can't consent when they're drunk? I've been full out wasted a few times and I never made any poor decisions like doing dumb shit that could get me hurt and fucking people. Is this not common? Do other women lose all control of their actions?
Elijah Ramirez
This. The one time i was drunk more than ever i still rejected a fat bitch because i reasoned i had standards i shouldn't cross.
Evan Gray
I am sorry you feel bad, but rape is something very serious. Men's lives get destroyed whether it's true or false. People don't care about what is the truth, if a guy looks like a rapist they are happy that your accusation confirms it. I had an issue where people accused me of being a sexual predator when in fact I was a victim myself. People dont like talking about it because the rapist or sexual harasser makes it seem like its legitimately their fault. So in the end I cut ties with my graduating class from college because they accused me of being the aggressor when I was actually a victim.
Josiah King
is this bait? so what if you got yourself drunk bitch, did he force you to drink VODKA (oh em gee, vodka, ohnoes) or anything else did he put drugs into your drugs then savagely teared your anus a new one? no? you blew him anyway?
learn to have some fucking responsibility, if you dont want to be drunk then dont, its perfectly fine to fuck a bitch while shes drunk and not passed out not my fault you feel shit, newsflash, you are our fucktoys, holes to get our dicks wet, thats right, thats what you are by default, if you wana be more than that, you gotto show how you are more, and that starts by not swallowing the dick of a guy who you just met, random entitled little whore
Nicholas Fisher
The detail you're leaving out here is that you can just turn around and leave. Of course there are plenty of scummy guys out there, had two guys try that trick on me (one a random guy, the other a distant acquaintance) and I left/blocked their number and moved on.
Don't you have some sort of self-preservation instincts, an inner alarm or somesuch? That little voice telling you that going into a stranger's car is too risky, or walking through a park at night in a shitty part of town?
Chase Lopez
People missing the point of OP.
The point is that she was the totally fine with fucking him but he didn't care and he would have fucked her unconcious body just as much as he would her consenting and that is a turn off if someone would either have sex or rape you.
In the end there was no rape, but the guy still would have been fine with raping her.
Jackson Morgan
I understand that, but the fact is that didnt happen and she had a one night stand. She might be thinking too much on the guys part. For all we know he could have been thinking "jesus this girl is drinking a lot" and not say anything out of fear of being rude. Plus wasnt the guy drunk too? I dont think he is in any position to tell her to stop when he was drinking too. I mean men dont simply let women drink, men do it with them. My point is often time the vibe and feel you get from a person can be wrong, and be to total opposite. But your instincts could be right as well. But look at this experience and stay away from guys like him that give you that vibe or learn more about them to be sure.
Kayden Johnson
This being 2019, you can retroactively withdraw consent and sue him for everything he's worth. Which, right now, probably isn't worth much, so I would say hold on to that card in case he becomes famous, runs for political office, etc. in the future.
Carter Anderson
Sorry user but you were raped yes. Unless before drinking you had active consent that that was going to happen, it WAS rape.
Josiah Jenkins
Don't put yourself in these situations. Men are allways going to throw drinks at whoever will pick them up. I don't care if you went out but you're poor and want to get drunk for "free". Accepting their behavior shows as much of your character as it does theirs.
