How do I find my wife sexy again?
I cheated on my wife for several months with a younger hottie, but eventually broke it off.
Now I want to crave my wife again, but all I find myself wanting are girls that look the opposite of her. My wife has tons of amazing qualities and is also very attractive. She gets hit on a lot, but I just am not feeling it anymore. How do I get that back?
How do I find my wife sexy again?
Fuck off, mate. She deserves better than you.
Let her cuck you
Yeah she probably does, but I want to become a better person. Why im asking for advice
No, I could never share her.
>I want to become a better person
Cool, that means coming clean and breaking it off with her. If you don't do that, you're still a scumbag that deserves to be hanged.
If I come clean and she forgives me, do I have to break it off with her.
No. But to answer your initial question, in that regard my man, you're fucked. Hard to go back to a less attractive woman in that way. Learn to appreciate her other qualities instead
That’s the thing, she isn’t less attractive. She is just as hot as the girl I was seeing. A lot of guys would love to date/marry her, but I’m the one who is married to her and I don’t feel excited about her anymore.
Can't help you there, man. For me when it's gone, it's gone, unless I do all kinds of mental gymnastics short of being almost like masturbation. What I did find to help with this sort of problem though is getting back together after a serious and long break up, but that's obviously out of equation in your case. Maybe couple counseling works? lol, sorry but couldn't say that with a straight face.
I wish moralfags would fuck off this board. Anyway. This is what worked for me op:
Stop watching porn
Only masturbate if you really need to. Make her your primary outlet for sex and pleasure and release
Try to spend more time with her. With job and kids it's pretty hard, but occasional dates do wonder. I also try to spend the last 1-2 hours of my day with her, go to bed together and cuddle to sleep
Bonus: try to imagine how would you feel if it turns out she also doesn't find you that attractive anymore. Sit down and try to speak about it. Maybe indirectly. Like I talked her into dress more girlish, while I'm still keeping my long hair from my teens because long haired metal heads is her fetish. Maybe you can change her, but also prepare to change
Also try avoiding other women. Be cold with them even it you make you look like a jerk. Friendship is not possible between sexes, you don't want to fuck them, so why bother?
>I cheated on my wife for several months with a younger hottie
No, I could never share her.
You know what they say about OP and being a total faggot and all that.
as someone who i'm guessing is in a similar life situation as you, this is great advice. I would have written the same thing but much more poorly.
Yes I understand I’m a hypocrite
All cheaters are
why are men incapable of being loyal....
Most attractive females aren't even fucking worth of loyalty when they are tantrum throwing, solipsistic narcissists.
An actual man understands that a modern female either bores the shit out of him or makes his life difficult and none that is worth the time.
See? Not only unloyal but screwed up mentally and emotionally. Where are the real men?
>tfw loyal but screwed up mentally and emotionally
That no one expects and no one wants to power through. I heard Steve Harvey say once that he had a friend who left his wife for a woman who did this one thing he liked. Now he has a wife that is 10% what he wants and he left the wife who was 90%. It will get better. Love waxes and wanes. Stay thru those waning times and you will have a stronger relationship.
You don’t deserve her. Your parents would be disappointed in you.
Men are not dogs to stay loyal without a fee. But heck. Even your dog expects food.
What I don't understand in women is that they are unable to follow this simple rule of thumb: keep his belly full and balls empty. It's that plain and simple. Also not being a cunt helps, but most women have this habit of making the life of their men a living hell.
make her get a boob job or something change the way she looks until she looks like a different person men are more attracted to new women
its called imagination.
do you still remember what drew you to her in the first place?
you need to start to remember all the small things that drew you to her and what you liked that she did etc you have to start again from zero and see her with fresh eyes again because all you see right now is whats over the fence
and as you know once she has seen you jump the fence the trust between you has gone and you cant unjump that fence...
Cheating scum deserve to be hanged. Do her a favor and ask for a divorce, then pray she doesn't fuck you over in court.
? OP was married, if you’re any sort of decent human being you honor your word and marriage is a promise.
Don’t you worry, she’s been polishing her coworker this whole time.
Im still married to her. I just want to make our marriage stronger, I dont want it to end or for me to end up cheating again.