Finding girlfriend a hobby

I'm not trying to get her to like stuff I like, I'm basically each time asking "well, what do you like?" Then helping her walk out how she can make it happen / try it. My hobbies have nothing to do with her, which is why I'm helping her find some.
She's just stuck in that shitty trap that so many folks my age are stuck in - knowing that TV isn't a fulfilling hobby/past time all the time, but it's the only thing they did during their college years so they never find anything that makes them passionate. It feels like I'm living that fucking greentext from that guy who just calls women "holes".

I'm pretty close to just making a therapist appointment for her and driving her there. She's just very dismissive about finding help, "what, so I can just hear about how I hate my sister?" No you dumb bitch, so you can seek help for your fucking weakness that is crippling your life. Some days, lads. I love this girl, and when she's happy it's great, but about once a week it's the tears, the anxiety/depression tantrum. I don't know how to get her to fix it.
I always put a hard $50 limit and say "when you make your third project, you can spend more".
I know, but some days I worry she can't do it because I've had 3 years of this and there's been exactly zero progress.

Do things. A lot of things. She will compare herself to you and feel bad for doing nothing, then ask her to do things with you

Sounds like you make her comfortable. I'm trying to fight doing that for my girlfriend.

Comfort isn't always good.

>something to look forward to each day
gardening :)
my belief is that people are biologically programed to enjoy growing plants

Get her into drawing, something cheap. Also it is a long term process, for most people a hobby is not love at first sight, it only becomes real fun when you start getting better at it.

Something artsy? Perhaps crafts? My aunt does designs with paper over other things like that for a hobby, I think it's called decopauge.
When I was younger I used to make small earrings for myself and doll accessories out of baking clay. Went to special classes for it. But it's meant for younger people, like teens and kids.
I'm sure there's plenty of ideas on pinterest.

Why does OP feel like he's gotta spoon feed his girlfriend like this? Is it not her own responsibility to take care of herself and to entertain herself?

Has she tried exercising? Reading is a hobby. Sex is a hobby. If she's got time to complain, then she's got time to suck on deez nuts.

Reading maybe? Start her off with some easy and childish stuff like Harry Potter, stuff that is only one step up from TV. Then maybe she'll become interested in drawing or writing afterwards.

It's hard to be supportive AND pushing someone.
I do MANY things, that's a part of the issue. She's left behind more often than not unless I pry her out of the apartment.
That's...actually a really good idea. I'll see if she wants me to build a couple planters for her and get her to talk to our landlord about planting in our front lawn area. I think she'd like that.
She understands that proficiency takes time, she's not having issues with "oh I made something ugly, I hate this hobby!" She just doesn't get genuine fulfillment from it. So, we're trying more things!
She's...not highly creative. I think that's the problem with her trying artsy stuff, she really heavily relies on inspiration, to a level where most times she's just copy+pasting things. Any ideas on how to help her break out of that?
I'm trying to help my loved ones through a personal flaw. That's not a good approach to do so, she was raised in a way that tough love or "just buckle down and fix it" doesn't work. She needs praise or she loses steam.
She likes reading, she just kind of sucks at finding new stuff. I'll push her on it.

>she's not having issues with "oh I made something ugly, I hate this hobby!" She just doesn't get genuine fulfillment from it.
That's the thing though, you can't realistically expect to get fulfillment from a more complex hobby instantly. It happens but most of the time a huge part of the fulfillment is noticing yourself getting better and being able to do things you couldn't do before.

>no you dumb bitch
yeesh op, you might wanna reconsider your relationship with this girl. that sounds like resentment.

Force the bitch to do yoga.

>finding someone a hobby
You guys really have zero idea how hobbies work, don‘t you?

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Therapy before another shit hobby.
Seriously, if she's tossing all of them, she likely is depressed and lashing out.

It was hyperbole, it's okay. She's my everything, that's why I'm trying this hard.
>he doesn't help his partner when they are struggling
I'm just looking for more ideas - she isn't very good at coming up with things on her own, so I'm just trying to grease the wheels a little.
My thoughts.

she may have adhd. it presents differently in women. ditto depression. anhedonia is a sign of depression and it's a bitch to treat. heard through the grapevine that ketamine may be something tho

dump her
she needs a job

She has a job
Fucking terrible advice

kek does she have an inner voice? Ask her. I have a lot of hobbies and they all require or facilitate self reflection. The reflection is what I enjoy almost as much as the activity itself.

tell her to try archery