whats the point of having a gf? sure you get to have sex sometimes but it sound more of an inconvenient money pit were you take her out for date at expensive places that you don't like while you listen to problems you simply don't understand or care about since they usually about friends of hers whom you've never met or you generally have no connection to and other "girl problems" you don't understand having a gf sounds like a chore to me
if being gay didn't have a big stigma around it men would be more than happy to date their fellow bro
Women aren't just a vagina with tits bolted on. I can understand why you would get that impression being on the internet all day, but in reality they're only slightly different from men. Some might even say they're people.
Joshua Ward
>it sound more of an inconvenient money pit were you take her out for date at expensive places that you don't like while you listen to problems you simply don't understand
If she doesn't pay for her half of the date then you're a cuck. I always pay for my meals on dates and don't demand to go anywhere fancy. Dates also don't consist of complaining about your personal problems. We talk about our interests, hobbies, aspirations, joke around, enjoy some activities. The first time I ever went on a date the guy took apart and put the salt shaker. I thought it was funny and cute how he gets curious about otherwise mundane things. Later on we walked around the city discussing how we predict society will be in the next 10 years or so then went back to his apartment and played videogames.
Nathaniel Richardson
You shouldn't find a gf, you should try to find a soulmate. A buddy, a female comrade that tilts you both to higher levels of happiness. That unlocks emotions such as pride, compassion, being on the same level with one another.
VERY HARD to find. But she's out there somewhere.
Carson Jackson
Almost as if your gf should also be your 'friend'. Aka support and understand you and have common topics of interest (or at least enjoy learning about new things).
Colton Smith
Find someone you get along with.
Michael Green
If you're all about that redpill, it's home comfort, affection and children. If you're going to be a little more contemplative about your life, it's about finding someone with whom you can gradually become one; emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Obviously not forever, you both have things to do during the day, but a partners is basically a family you can choose. And by God a good family that can be the best thing in the entire universe.
Alexander Lee
Then you don't date a girl like that, you date a reasonable one. Problem solved.
Only desperate people who would rather be in a relationship with anyone than be alone end up with trash. Pick your partners carefully, and if no one meets your standards, then it's okay to be alone until someone does.
Leo Baker
The point of having a girlfriend is for companionship and complimentary gender dynamics.
You don't have to care about what she says, so much as what she is implying. So you mold her behavior by playing the part while asserting your expectations. And if she reciprocates with your boundaries then she's worth it and loves you or respects you enough. And you reward her with what she needs because you are rewarded with her love, or sex as you call it, a result of fulfilling her expectations, which should coincide with yours.
Cooper Long
I think I'm genuinely missing something. I don't want sex, I don't compassion, I don't want love. I want to bring justice to the world and it seems like women (and other people) a more a hindrance than anything. Of course, people who share my goal are obviously important and I'd never turn away friendship with such people, but the average person and woman just aren't interesting. I do want children and realize a good mother is necessary for that, but with how awful the world is presently, I can't justify finding a woman to have kids with. I'd rather improve circumstances and then worry about luxuries
Cooper Clark
There isn't one, unless your idea of a 'point' is something that causes massive unhappiness and seismic emotional swings in herself and you. If so, then yes. Otherwise, a FWB or prostitute is all you need. If you want kids, either get a surrogate or wait for artificial wombs.
Jackson Williams
The point of any interpersonal relationship is to fill in the blanks and improve upon what you can do on your own.
>places that you don't like See right there you'd already be doing it wrong. Date women who go to the places you like (or at least would like if you don't already visit) and add to the experience.
Levi Rivera
Men date other men with or without a "stigma" around it. It's called, "People are fucking retarded and their opinions have absolutely no value to me so I'm going to do what I want."
Women are wonderful. They're not supposed to be our equals, they're supposed to make up for what we lack. They're so fucking soft. Snuggling with them in bed and hot-dogging her ass while you smell her hair is one of life's greatest joys. They love us in a way that's different from the way we love and so we learn new ways to improve our lives and express ourselves.
Anything we give them, they multiply and give back. Give them a house, they'll give you a home. Give them food and they'll give you a meal. Give them sperm and they'll give you a miniature version of yourself to love and teach and play with.
My bf and split everything 50/50 and help eachother pay for things if we dont have enough for something. I.E a new game system or something fun. Its beneficial to have extra income & also someone who keeps you emotionally sound during rough times. Or to enjoy fun things with, like canoing, movies, or playing video games.
Just remember everyone needs their space everyonce in a bit
Sebastian Gonzalez
Having a gf means more sex and less effort than trying to "date". It's way, way easier to maintain a relationship than to start one
Landon Ortiz
If this is how you cope then so be it, but don't shit up the board with your nonsense.
Baitposting faggot.
Jose Sanchez
Bump
Elijah Nelson
>wouldn't be a good friend, let alone a boyfriend >admits he likes men
It's okay to be gay user. And it's okay to be boring and void of emotions if that's your thing.
Matthew Hernandez
I thought these same things when I was in my early 20s. I felt cursed to be sexually attracted to women while feeling no emotional connection to them, and secretly wished I had been born gay. I recognized that this was an issue with me though, and not with women.
There's no real answer to this one, I'm 30 and have never dated or had a girlfriend, my advice is to have sex with escorts if you have enough disposable income and live near a city. I have only thought of trying to get a gf for social appearances and to make me look better in the eyes of my coworkers but that wouldn't be fair to the girl so I probably won't do it.
Threads like these are filled with posts which always make me laugh, in an angry way. I'm addicted!
Asher Reed
Also, the few gay guys I have been friends with seemed like they were deeply unhappy. I don't think that having sexual relationships with men would live up to your idealized view of it, gays seem like they have a lot of issues with loneliness, scarcity of available partners, cutthroat competition to be young and good-looking, and of course drugs. Also the male-female dynamic seems like it has a lot of positive attributes that aren't present in homosexual relationships, but I've never been in a real relationship so I don't really know.
Pretty sure you're gay, man. Straight men don't fantasize dating other men over women.
Cameron Walker
Women are trash. Anyone deluded enough to think a woman is anything more than a pleasant hole and womb is worth having their opinion heard
Thomas Wright
What if I don't like going anywhere? I just like to stay all day in my bedroom jacking off.
Xavier Morales
> she's out there somewhere
Nope
Sebastian Martin
> then it's okay to be alone until someone does
So forever then?
Aiden Smith
If you keep waiting for the world to be perfecr before having kids, you'll never have kids.
Levi James
It's not bad being alone. Only good thing I can think about having a gf right now is posting photos of you and her on Facebook trying to cause envy on others.
Wyatt Lopez
I don't want it to be perfect, just better. And, as sad as it'll make me, I'd rather not subject my progeny to this torture if I can't make it better.
Hunter Gonzalez
Define "better". By most metrics, it's getting better every day.
Lucas Hall
Also, what are you actually doing to make things better?
Isaac Edwards
Generally, less materialism and more meaning. Struggle increases meaning. I won't say that this life is hard, but it's completely devoid of anything worth fighting for, except my existing family. But they're so wrapped up in the rat race that it's hard to connect with them, and I've been just living my life alone mostly. To the second question, I've been selling off my possessions and have been planning for an extended hike, potentially across the country. I'm hoping to remove as many distractions as possible, meditate/self-reflect, and find inspiration along the way. I already have a vision but I need to refine and critique it, as well as finding assistance if possible
Kayden Sanchez
Okay, that's a bit better than I thought. I agree that people need to find more meaning in their lives. As for how you're trying to solve it, it sounds like that'll help you. Not sure how it'll help the rest of the world though.
I expected "the climate is changing" and "I'll solve it by voting!" Though that's probably because I live in a city full of college students.
Don't be afraid to aim a little higher than just helping yourself.
Connor Gonzalez
I absolutely do not aim at just "helping" "myself." A huge part of my desire to go for such a hike is to clear my mind so that I can formulate a genuine plan to encourage (positive) change. I'm already at a place where I could live happily if all I had to do was exist. But since that's not an option, I want to help others and help restore meaning to life. Democracy was the greatest development in bread and circus before the television and smart phone. Voting does nothing, and the climate won't be saved by reducing carbon emissions. But the issues are much more far reaching and interconnected than people want to admit
James White
OK enough weed for you today
Kevin Powell
To love, start a family with and pass your knowledge on to the next generation with. Most people nowadays aren't fit parents though.
Kevin Russell
>there are no issues The depth of perspective from an NPC
Parker Diaz
>whats the point of having a gf? To find a person that you love
>expensive places that you don't like while you listen to problems you simply don't understand or care about since they usually about friends of hers whom you've never met or you generally have no connection to and other "girl problems" you don't understand You should take her to a date were you can have fun, dont think of her as a just sex object, do what you like with her, have fun together, that's the point of the date, coffee or restaurant dates only works for people that are good at talking.
If she starts talking about her feelings You have failed the date.
>having a gf sounds like a chore to me because you make it one
>if being gay didn't have a big stigma around it men would be more than happy to date their fellow bro No, that sound disgusting to me.
I've reached a point in my life where I don't even know what I'd do with wonan? Not interested in marriage and having children either
Josiah Richardson
I still want kids, but yeah, I'd have literal no idea about how to go about any of it i.e. approaching woman, asking her out, what to do on date, how to maintain relationship, etc
James Ross
People don't try getting a gf for rational reasons.
Justin Howard
I was wondering where you'd gotten off to.
But this ultimately. A relationship puts out pretty much exactly what you put in. That's why a lot of men complain about people who date 'up' or 'down' and don't realize personality won the day. But of course they wouldn't. About the only accolade their personality gets is for being atrociously tedious to deal with as an adult.
Aaron Myers
all you need is an onahole and a daki
Jaxson Cruz
My romantic attempts with women all failed. I've on a lot of dates, been in "love", never been loved back etc. In my late twenties I got jaded and exhausted. After rethinking my life goals and perpectives, I went the MGTOW route despite not fully agreeing with this label. Having said that nowadays i'm content with my Life.
Landon Bennett
That's fair. I wish I could manifest kids without women at all. I just want someone to carry my genes on, that's all.
Jace Phillips
>you take her out for date at expensive places that you don't like while you listen to problems you simply don't understand or care about
I''ve been in a half dozen relationships and this has literally never happened to me.
Where did you get this image of what relationships are like? Are you autistic and you spent hours listening to middle aged stand up comics whose only jokes are "my bitch wife"?
While I agree with your point about men making better partners, I could list 101 reasons why to have a girlfriend. But OP, do what you want to do. If having a girl feels like a chore to you, then just don't do it. The reason everyone else wants one is because , well, they just really want it. If you don't have that desire it's perfectly fine.
Nathan Bailey
Maybe this, too; I started having thoughts like this before I went gay.
Christopher Bailey
Oh well maybe fuckign a guy is fun for fags but if you arent gay its hell
Xavier King
dunno man, had more girlfriends than I can count last week I got a new one that, this time, I truly love she makes me quite happy to be honest, and gives me motivation to not be a procrastinating piece of shit making up excuses for not having one isn't gonna help you, mental gymnastics are a long way to hell