Howdy Jow Forums, this one is a doozy so I don't blame anyone who thinks I'm trolling. But I'm really not.
>be me >6 years ago >be homeless after the Muhreenes >bounce around houses of women I'd date >meet two girls simultaneously >like both >date both >have kids with both simultaneously (accidentally, they didn't abort because they're Catholic) >they both find out about the other one >big problem but they simmer down eventually (yeah they actually continued dating me) >for the past three years they pretty much just accepted that I live separate lives when I leave the house >split the week between both for the past years >been slowly convincing both that we should all move and live together >they're willing to give it a try
They seem okay with it. I know that there's people who live like this. Muslims, Mormons (well at least back in the day), Charlie Sheen, etc. Other than jealousy issues, which I've taken into consideration, are there any other reasons why I shouldn't try this? It'd be nice to have all my children and all my women under the same roof. I don't plan on adding more women btw. I will be faithful to only these two (as I have been for the past 6 years). Also, I just bought a big house, and it's under my name and mine only. I can financially support both families, but the girls are career oriented and work, so it's like having two extra potential contributors. I think it's not as crazy as people might think. But I also don't want to ruin a good thing, as there hasn't been any problems and a mutual acceptance that I'm being shared has existed for a couple of years. Perhaps that might change once we all live together?
>inb4 all u want is a three some
No just tired of driving back and forth between two different homes. Lastly, one of them is a cuckqueen and gets off to me banging other women so I think jealousy issues should be little to none. Should I do it? Or keep the families separate?
No, they know of each other though. And they have met a couple of times. There has been very little interaction between them. None of it seemed catty or negative when it did happen.
Austin Sullivan
If it's not broken, don't fix it.
Nathaniel Scott
This is my biggest fear. But I also want to prevent something like either of them moving far away and making splitting the week between them impossible. I also want to be there to protect both in case something goes bump in the night. Can't do that with my current situation.
Jace Clark
Before you attempt to merge them, they first need to come to trust each other unconditionally. That can only happen if they become good friends and are both exceptionally open, honest and authentic. They also both need to trust you completely or it will end with both feeling like you favor the other.
Michael Hall
So do I have to set up like family time play dates between them? Maybe take out all the kids together to a park/museum/circus etc?
John Moore
Personally? If one of them were to talk about moving, then maybe I'd start considering that as an option. It sounds like too many things could go wrong going from a stable and comfortable situation to a chaotic one. I get your concerns about their safety, but unless they live somewhere awful, the chances are pretty low. Perhaps teaching them how to shoot and buying them guns might calm your fears a bit.
What about a compromise? Living in a house with a very large annex, so they both have their own front doors, private spaces but you can spend time with them both and they might get a little more used to each other. Maybe you'll all gradually integrate your lives that way. Still sounds like it could cause trouble though, but I can't possibly imagine being in the mind of a woman who is okay with this kind of situation.
Joseph Martinez
Have you brought up the idea with both/one of them already?
Yes, definitely! You won‘t be enough common ground. In fact, if you would be the only thing holding this family together, that will drive it apart in no time. I‘d say the order of important things to work towards is as follows: >exceptionally honest and sane relationships between you and each woman >exceptional maturity in all adults involved >complete trust between all adults >close friendship between the women >kids getting along very well >everyone having similar parenting styles, values, goals and priorities >having discussed EVERY detail before doing anything with everyone involved. Like, how would the sleeping situation be like?
If any of this doesn‘t yet apply, don‘t attempt it or it will probably do a lot of irreversible damage.
Jacob Lewis
Yes actually I should have mentioned that they're both seeking to move. Of course they'd both like me to come. No one's gotten a new place, which is why I want to take the initiative like a man, and get both families into one house. If they both move where they want to move, it's going to be a four hour drive between families. That's a no no.
Believe me buddy, I've taught them to shoot and they both own firearms, that being said I would still feel more comfortable with everyone under the same roof at night. Yes the house I got is pretty big, and one can easily have separate bed rooms or parts of the house for each one if they'd like. Believe me, my father, my brother, my friends and even I can't believe I'm in this situation.
Thank you for that thought out list. I will have to check on all of those things first and foremost to see if they're ready. Yes I've spoken to both, and they both seem skeptical but only because they believe that the other women is most likely not okay with it. They are both individually okay with it. I just need to prove to them that neither of them is skeptical, almost a paradox.
Cameron Robinson
>I just need to prove to them that neither of them is skeptical You can‘t prove that to them, they have to see for themselves. That‘s why they need to start getting to know each other.
How old are the kids? About 5? Boys, girls, both?
Xavier Watson
You must be pretty hot for two different women to let your (at the time) homeless self move in and impregnate them. Did you ever watch Big Love? I'm poly, so I definitely think your situation can work out, especially with plenty of planning.
Connor Myers
Living this way will remind them both that they're not enough for you. That will literally be the first and last thing on their minds every single day. They will initially express some resentment toward each other, but this will eventually redirect toward you. They will cheat on you with each other, take the kids and flee to Ecuador to begin a lesbian weaving collective.
Kevin Perez
The real question is how can I get into a situation like you? Teach me your ways
If they are Catholic, the appearances aren’t going to be good if you all move in together. Are you going to have 2 master bedrooms? Do you each have your own bedroom? How will the kids take it?
Oliver Moore
If they are both down try making them friends first. If they cant get along when they go out together they can't live together
Jackson James
Yes they're a mixture of boys and girls. The eldest is around 5. They're good kids.
No I haven't, I'll have to watch the movie. Truth be told, generally speaking, I am not hot... I'm kinda fat, bald, hairy, not tall, but I've been told I have a handsome face, so who knows, maybe I'm not as ugly as I think I am. I don't think it's my looks truth be told, I just think that nowadays it's extremely easy to get women by being overtly masculine (and it has to come natural, not faked). I think most women are tired of men who don't know how to lead or take them by hand. Even what today we call "Alphas" today, are mostly still guys seeking validation from women, they dress for women, lift for women, and live for women. Once the girl gets to know this seemingly "Alpha" guy, they see that he's really not that different from insecure onions betas. The best way to earn a woman's respect is to treat them like children. Take them by the hand. Lead them in life, and kick them to the curve if they don't conform to your will. Creepy short murderous manlets like Charles Manson have devoted females itching to be his wife, I think that an exotic masculine personality coupled with not caring about what women (or anyone) thinks, can take you a long way with them, almost quite paradoxically. Almost everything men have been taught about women is wrong. As a matter of fact, I've had multiple women trying to join me in a relationship despite them knowing I already have two relationships and two families, goes to show that women are desperate for something I am providing.
A possibility lol. They'll probably write a (((New York Times))) best seller about their "struggles" with the patriarchy. But seriously, if this is the case, do you think they already have these feelings and that by having them live together they'll come out of the wood work?
Mason Morales
I wrote a little bit about how in this response. But to expand on that... For starters, realize that this is technically possible with any women. You don't have to find "special" women who are down for these situations. You have to MAKE the situation, and mold the women. You have to create a situation where two women love you and respect you, so much to the point that any decision you take will be supported unconditionally, and even if they don't like or approve of the situation, they will just go along with it anyways. Now, getting them to love you and respect you is the actual hard part, and this requires personality and character, looks won't help much in this department. You have to work with the cards you were dealt. So try to play to your strengths. I'm not very good looking, but I am an exotic individual and I stand out. Remember, women hate casual. They date either extremely successful men, or no life losers they're trying to save by playing mommy. But they HATE dating normal boring cookie cutter average men. Find a way to stand out as an individual, but regardless of what path you choose to standing out, one constant is that you pay them no mind, and do everything as if you expect them to just go along with it. I brought up my other family to one of them in such a nonchalant way, that even though she was surprised, she saw my calm and "walking to the store" demeanor that she didn't flip out and she just went along with it as if it was normal, because I treated it as normal. I don't know man, in a way, as cliche as it sounds, be confident, and be yourself... It actually really works lol
Nolan Wright
The plan is two master bed rooms. Guess I'll alternate where I sleep. I don't think the kids will take it badly since my children really love me and they just would be so happy and excited to see me on a daily basis.
Ian Reyes
What do you work anyways if you have enough money to buy a house and support 2 families
Aiden White
Boy, maybe you start off with everyone havin a cuppa coffee foist, chief
Jeremiah Jackson
Made a lot of money playing blackjack, and then opened up some online businesses with said money. What's it to ya you some sort of fed? Jk haha
