Was in an ldr for nearly a year and broke it off because the distance was too much and it was too hard on both our mental health at that point. Over the time that we were together I formed an intense bond/connection, whatever you want to call it, with him that I've never had with anyone else before. I can honestly say he was my greatest and purest person. Having to go from being so invested in each other, to falling out, to not talking at all, has been very tolling on me in pretty much all the ways it could be. I've tried everything to really distract myself but he always comes back into my head at the end of it and most times even during it. I honestly felt like I could've spent my whole life just with him and would've never grown tired of him. The way he loved me and showed how much he cared for me is beyond anything I could've imagined anyone feeling for me.
He is the most generous, patient, kind, supportive, and understanding man I have ever met in my whole life. There has not been a day that has passed where I don't miss him. And even though it hurts me, I wouldn't trade anything in the world if it meant I could forget him. I constantly feel a deep pit in my chest, like I'm caving in on myself and a knot in my throat. I hope that later in life we can be connected again. I feel like if that were to happen it would be like we never even stopped talking. Like we just said goodnight and now it was the next morning. You can think that ldr's aren't valid as a relationship all you want, but to me and him it definitely was. I worry about him and how he's doing. we talked recently and he didn't sound to be doing so great and like he's going into the deep end. And it really hurts me because I know he is worth so much more than he gives himself credit for. I wish more than anything I could just be there to hug him and smooth his hair and kiss his head and just let him know that things are going to be alright and that he just has to try. I just don't want to see him ruin his life.
Is there anyone else with an experience in losing the one you feel closest to? What did you do?
Do you think if two people love each other enough they could go years without seeing each other and still feel the connection?
Is there such thing as a soul mate?
Noah Cook
Tl;dr
Fuck off roastie skank. Gargle my jizz bitch.
Kevin Fisher
There might be a thing like a soul mate, ornsth akin to it. Ams dont listen to everybody here, yes mostly LDR s dont work, sometimes they do though..
Benjamin Sanders
You are such a sad and lonely individual who only talks like this because you've never had an ounce of any kind of affection or a genuine connection in your life.
John Jones
Yeah. It all seems like a big practical joke some greater force is playing on me
Joshua King
Cry more slag
Imagine wasting 1 year on a fake relationship lol
Parker Davis
Dubs into dubs checked.
user why did you break up? Why not just say, look i know this ldr thing is hard so lets just keep things slow?
Joshua Hughes
It was just too hard to do with everything else that was going on in each other's lives as well. There wasn't any solution we could find to try and keep it together. If it weren't for distance and the other things, we would still be together. Not a doubt about it
Robert Butler
Ok the solution is simple, just promise you will be there for each other. Even if you didnt speak for months you will continue as if nothing happened.
I know it might be late, and it actually isnt my intention to kindle a flame thst is doomed
Matthew Baker
No, I get what you're saying. We broke up with no hard feelings, and I expressed to him that I still want to be friends later on and I didn't want to just act like I never knew him and forget. And he said he didn't know if he could because it would be too painful for him. But then he texted me recently and we talked for a bit, but I told him I didn't think I could just talk casually yet. And I can tell both of us still have things we need to settle before we get to that point.
I guess by me telling you this is to just show how that wouldn't be an option for us because it's either we're together or it's too much (for now)
Ethan Lewis
Damn, a tragedy. Also the friends thing, dont say that, never say that. It is a lie and everybody knows it.
Just let it cool down and when the dust setlles, make your move. You dont need to keep talking in the mean time. There is a risk one of us will meet somebody else, but c'est la gie
Austin Garcia
Thank you, hopefully things will all work out.
What's your initial, user?
Colton Mitchell
This sounds exactly like a situation me and my girl had a couple months back.
Hunter Richardson
Are you guys on talking terms? And was it an ldr too?
Brayden Murphy
26 M user here. Just recently did something somewhat similar by cutting ties with a long-distance Ex who I've known for 8 years, and dated for 4, although in my case, she was becoming hyper-toxic to me.
The best thing you can do right now, in my opinion, is just take a deep breath at the point in time you come across this, exhale slowly, and just focus on your life, living it day-to-day just doing anything you can to make YOURSELF happy, and just...do you in general.
Unless he's completely blocked you in all forms, he may still yet want to talk to you at a later period in time, but do NOT let yourself become a dumping ground/punching bag for his drama if he ends up reaching out to you under more dire circumstances.
You will be okay. Have hope, look forward towards greener pastures, and don't dwell on the past too long. Whatever has happened, has happens, and whatever will happen, will happen.
Noah King
Thats a weird question, but it is "I"
I doubt i know you or you know me, since nobody in my life is in a situation like yours afaik
Hunter King
Bump
Jackson Adams
Ah okay, I figured you might've been who I was talking about because of how you phrased your last reply
Hunter Garcia
Thank you, I appreciate what you have to say. I'll be more mindful from here on out.
Colton James
OP, take this from someone who committed to an LDR and moved for it: you don't find true love, you make it. There will be others like him, and even if he is a great person, it is monumentally risky for you or him to move in together, especially if neither of you aren't properly established. This can cause crazy unhealthy power dynamics long term. Take some time to heal your wounds. You can be sad, but just know that it will be okay.
Hunter Cook
Aw, shame. I was hoping that there was some stuff going around me i wasnt aware of.
Good luck to you OP. I hope you can make it work, if not find somebody who will make it work with.
Always remember to relax and smile.. oh and try to pet kitties, life is hard but is slightly easier if you can pet kitties
You sound very sweet. I'm sure he would like to re-connect with you.
Matthew Morales
How long ago was this? Did you ever meet?
Jason Fisher
I feel like I know you but that would just be sad
Carson Barnes
It was maybe over a month ago that we broke up, and a week ago we last talked. We met once, it was the most memorable time of my life.
Ethan Rodriguez
My first initial is F
William Cruz
Thank you :) Good luck to you too, I hope a kitty crosses our paths.
Jack Phillips
Yes, I completely understand what you're saying. We were about to live together (I was moving to be with him) but we mutually decided not to follow through because it's financially unwise and there was no way of knowing if we could function living together. That was one of the reasons we broke up. Even though we believed we would be perfectly happy, there was no certainty in our hopes.
Anthony Fisher
Thank you. I care for him very much and I hope we reconnect one way or another. I wish the best for him and hope he makes out okay.
Late as heck reply but yeah we are still together and it is a LDR. She is coming to visit me this September and I am pretty stoked. I've known her for like 2-3 years but only started being more serious since like a year ago.
She is more of the emotional one between us when it comes to the distance thing but I have my moments. It sounds pretty cliche and trite but honestly we just talk it out through skype calls when we can. Lots of our arguments and issues come about during just sending messages(misunderstandings or misread emotions) but when we are able to see each other face to face, things begin to work out a lot better. Don't take face to face interaction for granted and don't downplay your own emotions. I am sure as heck not perfect nor is she but she is the first real lady I have been able to say "I love you" to. Take the time to really reflect on what you do and why you do what you do. We all have flaws but some come about much more due to circumstances and the like. Somethings just don't work out so be open to that but that doesn't mean you have to close your heart to him or any potential people in the future. Do things for the right reasons and life has a way of rewarding you. You sound like a good person so don't despair.
Jackson Bailey
I'm happy that things are working out for you two :) and I totally know what you mean about the face to face thing, it always made me feel more grounded in the relationship when I could see him. Even if things don't come together in the end, he will always have a home in me.
Michael Flores
I get what you mean OP. Have been in a simular situation myself. The best thing to do is get your live back together and be happy again. You can always contact eachother later. Don't cling on to him in an act of despiration though. Talk to him when you're back in a position of power again. I know I wouldn't just go and talk to my longdistance-ex again. Not out of the blue anyway. Then again, you too seem to have split up on better terms than I have. I think the fact that you still like eachother makes it way harder to get over this. It's way easier if the other person actively broke things off. Easier to be mad at someone.
Reading what you said, I understand how you feel because i've been there.. But there is sort an illusion since you only met once, of course that will be a magical feeling and to never see eachother again after that just feels wrong. But there is the illusion that things were perfect because u only met once, oh i know that feeling cuts deep. LDR's are another kind of hurt.
