my best friend tried to kiss me. we were studying together today and decided to go for lunch. after we finish eating he stopped talking and just started staring into my eyes. he moved closer as if he was gonna kiss me but just stopped before my lips. so we were in the middle of this cafe looking like fucking weirdos with our faces suspended right next to each other
he apologized after and just said "sorry but i couldnt help from trying to kiss you right then". then he said sorry about 5 more times. i said nothing. just felt a bit sick desu. i excused myself and went home. thats where i am now
i can hear my phone buzzing and i think its him messaging me but im too scared to look at it. hes never made a move on me before in 2 years of friendship, i had no idea he was interested in this. i threw up a bit when i got back home and i've cried a bit too.
no hes fine. when i first met him i had a bit of a crush in fact. i just really wasnt expecting this. idk. im not interested in him like that any more. i feel betrayed, like all the friendship was for nothing.
Blake Nguyen
Fpbp desu
Jonathan Lewis
Well you have 2 options here 1) you become great couple since you're already best friends 2)you never talk to him again because he has feelings for you If he's decent looking I would recommend trying to date. You might develop some feelings for you
Landon Butler
FYI it's 2019. Science has taught us that sexuality is on a spectrum and that we all fall somewhere on it. The cool part is that we can slide around on it too.
Unwanted sexual contact is a big no no. That's what I'd be focusing on. Anybody touching you without your permission is not ok and your friend needs to respect these boundaries.
Liam Cook
Yea but the friend in the story did not make any contact which should be the main takeaway here, so he has already respected those boundaries so your whole post is just dumb.
this is stupid as well, you have no idea when the feeling started for you and imagining it was at the very beginning is just being conceited. If you're not interested in the guy, just tell him that you're not interested in a relationship but still want to be friends. (if you still want to be) But ruining a perfectly good friendship over someone showing they are interested in a romantic/sexual light is a bit premature, especially when you don't even know his reaction to the refusal.
Liam Stewart
>i feel betrayed Why? Some of the best relationships are build out of long-lasting friendships. Just because you're an autist and can't handle the transition to a more intimate relationship says alot more about you than him. Girls and boys being friends are bound to fall for eachother if at least one or both of them are fuckable. It's just common sense.
>and your friend needs to respect these boundaries. He didn't even kiss her, he tried. Even if he did, he was testing the waters. Don't pretend like this is some type of sexual intimidation. Otherwise u could argue you were probably a rape-baby too.
Landon Sanders
have we confirmed that OP is female?
Easton Hill
yes i am a girl
i really don't want to date him. not only that but i've just broken up with my ex bf one month ago. i thought i had comfort in my friend
i read the texts he sent me now and he said he had feelings for a while. i don't think he's ever had a relationship before
idk i can't explain it. i just feel queasy about it
Juan Scott
OP you need to post a picture of your sexual organ in an aroused state so that we can confirm your sex
As for actual advice, I'd say you should talk to him about it. In person. Set up a time that works for both of you. Give a little space for working through it before then. In my experience it'll be best to have everything on the table and clear, but it depends on whether you're comfortable doing that with the guy
Nathaniel Morgan
Being a part of the shittiest generation in all humankind history has its perks, you gotta admit. fucking retard...
Andrew Foster
Feeling a bit nervous is completely understandable but it really is going to be for the best to just let him down sooner rather than later. If he reacts really poorly then I would recommend cutting ties with him.
Sounds like he may have been waiting for you to break up before he took his chance.
Ethan Ortiz
Yikes and cringe. You're gonna get dumped, bro. Remember me
Carson Cox
>In my experience lol. your experience is shit. don't bother next time
John James
This
Christian Taylor
>betrayed jfc OP if you can't handle the possibility that literally any of your male friends might want to date you, then I think that tells more about your lack of handling social situations than anything else. Do you have to date them? Absolutely not, but to say you feel betrayed is a bit much. You make it seem like your impression is that he has had this two year plan of trying to fuck you guised as friends. He probably genuinely wants a romantic partnership with you.
If you don't want that, perfectly fine. Nothing wrong with that. But crying and throwing up is quite a over the top reaction to having a friend almost kiss you. He's sorry he did it because obviously he got the vibe you don't want anything more.
Cameron Cox
I AM THAT FRIEND, i only tried to kiss you cause the heart wants what the heart wants, in fact I LOVE YOU. I know these feelings are strange to you now baby, but will you marry me???
Christian Young
No yeah you're right, it's better to just leave everything up in the air in a confusing situation between two friends. Just don't fucking talk about anything so both parties have to guess as much as possible
Anthony Anderson
Congrats, OP. You confused weak-willed humility with empathy and built a friendship with a guy who wanted to get in your pants, and he's a pussy for not having expressed his feelings for you sooner because he didn't want to risk you completely rejecting him.
The fact that you both perpetuated this relationship makes you both at fault. Tell him you aren't interested and that this friendship is over because there was a breach of trust. He'll get over his feelings eventually and it will allow him to to grow to be a better man.
My advice to you: don't become friends with a man who doesn't have a lot of male friends.
Logan Thompson
You're getting the responses you are because this board is full of thirsty guys who wish their girl friends would be their girlfriends. You are being projected on.
OP, it's valid and natural to be uncomfortable when someone you thought you were friends with turns out to have feelings for you. Unfortunately, there's really no easy answer to this. If you have feelings as well, you can try a relationship. If not, you either have to try to carry on as before (which will be awkward) or call off the friendship.
But you can't recapture what you had before he tried to kiss you. There's always gonna be a tension. I'm sorry.
Anthony Nguyen
I think that depends on the length of time and the guy in question, but I will agree that it most likely is going to be tension filled for a long time. Especially since it sounds like the two of you are young.
