ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

GUIDELINES:
Before you post, check the FAQ.
Keep questions concise. Use paragraph breaks.
If you can't handle upsetting replies you'll ask anyway and won't know until it happens. Expect the worst.

FAQ:
>What do girls/guys think about ?
>Do like ?
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of .
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, bit by bit, step by step. There is no "magic moment" (or activity) that will instantly change you.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. "Signs" of attraction are meaningless.

>Where do I meet people for ?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Above all, leave your comfort zone.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me.
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Coffee is the preferred first date, but any of the following may work: lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, froyo, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park, .

>I'm insecure because of my penis
>Do women prefer penises of certain qualities?
>How do I my penis?
>
Fuck off

>Why can't just give a straightforward rejection?!
>Why are terrible? . .
Fuck off

> is only for hookups, don't go there for real people!
Fuck off

>Why is there no new thread?
Make one yourself! Try these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2

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Wait all of the text from that thread was wrong. Goddammit.

Girls,

Do you think you experience, sense, understand, or perceive anything that men can't?

Can you try to describe it please?

I'm 99% convinced women have some sort of greater understanding, or a sensory of some sort, that they all know and feel, but never really talk about.

Fine. Ask the Opposite Gender thread. Look at previous threads for the broken and nonfunctional rules/guidelines I don't care.

relax mate, no one cares that much. It'll last a day or so then die

Guys;
In the bedroom, what do you wish your girlfriend / wife did more? Specific answers preferred, "be less passive" is unhelpful but "take more initiative instigating foreplay" is helpful.

Are women happy?

Heh, possibly, but I don't know what exactly men do and don't experience do I?

In my experience most women have a better social intuition, are more perceptive to the social dynamics in groups. E.g. realizing a relationship is on shaky territory when the guy makes a great joke his girlfriend pointedly doesn't laugh at.

In my experience many young guys are also pretty oblivious to the sexual power games going on between the sexes (and in this case I'm mostly thinking of older men and younger women). This is also part of the whole discussion where guys go "oh that was probably just a joke/tone-deaf comment", because they are not experienced enough. When you have been aggressively, more or less overtly, pursued by men for years you most of the time just know when a comment is sexually charged. It's in the tone of voice, the (lack of) eye contact, the situation in which it's said etc. Yes it's complicated but no more than simply knowing (most of the time) that something is a joke, even though jokes come in many forms and are not easy to define on paper.

On average, yeah I think so, not significantly more or less than men are as far as I'm aware. But that's just an impression. Speaking for my own life experience though I have also never noticed a real discrepancy between overall life satisfaction of male or female friends and I've had relatively mixed friends thoughout life.

Not really? I find that most dudes just aren't as perceptive on an average situation due to a lack of interest, not that women have an automatic innate ability.

Girls,
Do you ever crush on some of your close friends boyfriends?

I’d love to get a blowjob or anything other than the dead fish pose out of my wife when we have sex. ...once a month.

In high school I was friends with a girl who dated a guy I had a crush on, but I guess it doesn't count because I crushed on him before they got together. Other than this, no. There have been a few boyfriends I found engaging and attractive objectively speaking, but no one I felt a personal pull towards. One of my closest friends has been together with the same guy for years, the "SO" I know the best, and while we get along fine I honestly have a hard time grasping that she is happy with him as her partner.

>2 grills have an in the open but also underground deal where they give backhanded insults, none of which I picked up on, just the icyness in the situation
>Gf has to tell me later
Seriously wonder if she lost respect for me for being so thick

>sperged a little and sent three messages to girl in a row
Oops. My first was me being passive aggressive about the fact she'd blanked me for a while and the rest were me trying to brush over it because I felt like a dick desu.

I doubt it, it's hardly uncommon.

Did I fuck up by being too keen for a third date? We went out for drinks two weeks ago, then again last Saturday.

Should I book anything for Saturday? No reply since Sunday morning.

No, nothing wrong with your reply. God knows what's going through her head but she was being elaborate and engaged with her responses and you didn't sound particularly eager just normal.

You messed up by not saying the cure for a hangover is more alcohol. It's like you're flying blind out there son.

I'm a guy with a question for guys about girls. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm in the process of entering one. It's kind of freaking me out because I've never been that intimate with someone before. Thinking about hugging and all of that scares me. How do I deal with this?

just fap. Any girl you meet will leave you for the next male friend who can supply her with more than you.

i'm beginning to realize i really don't like my gf that much
what do i do now

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Holy shit, are you me? Did you ever like her? I entered the relationship thinking that I could force myself to love her

She might have plans or not be sure and felt too shitty to figure out a way to tell you that wouldn't sound like she was rejecting you... and before she knew it she'd left you on read and is thinking how she explains not getting back to you sooner and... etc.

I think that if you fucked up, you'd already done so by the time you asked for a third date.

Think about leaving her. Duh.

I'd love to be surprised by a new lingerie outfit.
I'd love more spontaneity and having sex in random places.
I'd love for her to be more dominant at times, taking initiative and a more active role.
I'd love trying more positions.
I'd love more dirty/seductive talk, biting me, scratching me etc.
I'd love more communication about what SHE likes so I can do a better job getting her off.

Best thing a guy told ya before kissing you?

Haven't really talked to a girl since high school, maybe 10 years now, but she was part of my childhood friends growing up. I'm going to be back in my hometown in a few weeks for a little visit, and am friends with her on FB, so would it be weird to hit her up, and take her out for coffee? Just to catch up on things. Mostly asking for female opinions

thank you

I went to an auto show a few days ago and saw a really cute, blonde presenter. She was acting really shy, which I found a little odd considering her job. I was looking at her for a bit while my m8s were checking out cars, and then we moved out about 40 ft away to a different car. Curiosity got the better of me and I ended up staring at her, and after about a minute, I thought she was looking back at me, but I wasn't sure because I have terrible vision. Turns out she was looking at me stare at her, but I didn't avert my eyes. She mouthed something to me, which I couldnt make it out, and then I left the area. I've been thinking about it ever since, but I have no idea what she was trying to mouth. What could it have been?

Women have unlimited desire. Men have limited desire.

Since men can be satisfied, and women are always relative, women are therefore less happy but find themselves closer to God or the universe.

I was at the gym a few weeks ago and it has 3 floors. The 3rd floor is where most people stretch in shit. So I am up there and it was just me. A few minutes later this cute, skinny Asian girls comes up too. So it is just me and her. I am stretching and shit and she is doing her thing. She was wearing leggings and one of those crop top tank tops or w/e.

She takes it off and is now just wearing a sports bra. The tank wasn't covering any more than the bra did. She continues doing exaggerated stretching and shit and then my bud cam and we dipped.

Was she trying to get my attention?

That was me in high school when my friend begged me to date him and I ended up saying yes. Just break it off and don't wait forever like I did, the longer you wait the bigger an impact it will make. My story has a happy ending though, I sometimes run into my ex now and then while commuting and we talk like old friends about how dumb we were but it took a few years.

Maybe. Go back to the gym and collect more data

One time I did. Then I made sure we didn't meet with both of them as a couple while they were a couple (and that relationship lasted for years, so it was a bit of a hassle).
We do discuss crushes a lot with my friends, and interestingly we mostly have VERY different tastes in men, so this was kind of a rare occurrence.

Story time:
It did happen not once but 3 times that I had a one night stand with some dudes, and then a few months later my best friend would ask me like 'hey, how do you know this guy? do you mind if we start dating?'
But like, if was a one night stand, I don't give a fuck, really. I did warn them about the 2 that I thought were genuine throwaway dudes, that I think they should go for someone else, the third guy was really nice, though (just not my type personality-wise). They all ended up getting into relationships with those guys, which I found odd. Like I would not go out with a guy myself that I know was a one night stand for one of my good friends. But this way around I was fine with it.

I only know the most boring thing, when they tell me I'm pretty. I know I'm pretty, ane it's such a superficial thing to say, say something new, or just shut up and kiss me. lol
I love anything that relates to how the guy cannot resist missing me. Anything along those lines, really. Or anything random, funny, sexy, anything. Just don't bore me.

Not weird, just go and ask.
Don't be offended if she doesn't sound enthusiastic, though.

Fair enough. I'm not terribly invested in hanging out. Just been thinking about her lately. Thanks for the response

No worries. My two cents is that you might want to focus on the "I have been out of town for 10 years" bit instead of the "been thinking about you lately" part, but I'm obviously just getting lost in the minuscule details here. Just have fun at home.

At a party if the guy goes for a kiss or touches you at a wrong place at the wrong time in a conversation it's over for the guy?

Hahaha thank you

>focus on the "I have been out of town for 10 years" bit instead of the "been thinking about you lately" part
Ha. Definitely. Would rather not come off as a weirdo

Use your fucking head

yes. The only right time to kiss is when she's looking at you, smiling, you've been talking for a bit, there's a pause in the conversation, she's still looking in your eyes and smiling, maybe leaning forward a little towards you. Then you can lean in slowly and go for it.
Touching isn't that important for guys, so you can skip that if you don't know how to do it.

I was hoping for another answer but it's better a harsh truth than a sweet lie

What makes you leave a guy?

All my relationships end after 3-4 months. They always give a bullshit reason too when they dump me.

one guy i left cause he a) hit me really bad, b) instead of apologizing he attempted to downplay it.

other guy i really liked, but i realised that they had way more chemistry with one of my friends, so i dumped him after like 2 months. (they ended up dating for years afterwards)

Girls

What the longest you’ve ever gone without sex (post-virginity)?

7 years and counting

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I don't track this precisely, but it's between 6-8 months. The older I get the bigger the gaps between partners get.

Why?
Why? Are these hook ups?

I always tried to be a good bf, so of course I didn't hit anyone lol. I really would like to find out what's wrong with me.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I think you're just not connecting with the girls and vice versa. This probably means that you just aren't compatible with them.
They stayed for 3-4 months so that's a good amount of time. likely means you're a nice person to date. but that you're not the right man for them.
do you already know these girls or are they tinder dates?

girls, confidence it's a must or a plus?

>Why?
It's borderline impossible for me to find a date from where I am, and the few dates I have had ended in heartbreak. I refuse to have casual sex too. I've given up for the most part.

Yeah, it's hook-ups these days. I stopped doing relationships since anti-contraceptives made me totally suicidal. I kind of want to just masturbate for the rest of my life, relationships are just not worth the hassle... But sometimes I still end up meeting guys whose penises I have just want to ride.

i like a good balance. a guy who knows himself. knows his strengths, admits his shortcomings. some confidence is a must for me.

Should I see her less often so that each time I see her feels more special ? I see her almost everyday and when we were getting to know each other it was nice and we flirted a bit but now I think I've been too friendly with her and she kinda stopped flirting

I want to have sex with one of my female friends, and there's a nonzero chance that she'd be up for it. How do I go about this without coming off as a creep?

question for uncircumcised and/or particularly sensitive husbands, boyfriends, manwhores whose partners have been fitted with an IUD: do the strings stab at the head of your cock ever or do you not notice they're in there?


question for any IUD'd femanons: did your periods get heavier (or otherwise affected), did anything else change, are you ever aware it's in there or feel it, and would you do it again?

Girls (preferably around mid-20's if any of you are out there)

Assuming you were on a date with a mid-20's guy you found cute, what is your reaction if he told you he was going back to college? Would you wonder why he is going late? Any answers welcome.

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I knew them, I don't think I'm good enough at marketing to try tinder

How do I find girls like you? Serious question. I don't use Tinder, the only relationship I was in lasted for 5 years, and I absolutely hate casual sex, but I have no idea how to find girls like you. I don't want to use Tinder. What do you guys do and where do you hang out? lmao

I need advice on shy girls. So basically I was with a group of friends at a house for the weekend and there was a quiet girl there with a “resting bitch face”, and once we were alone we chatted for a bit and she herself called herself a shy girl. The conversation went well but then we got silent and she went to the other people. We didn’t talk much after that, she did look at me a bunch of times and she sat next to me when we were with the group toghetter but that’s it, I didn’t make much of it , I assumed she was into this other dude she was talking with all the time, even though they are just friends. Then when we all got home she added me on Facebook and now I’m thinking, would she do this if she wasn’t into me? What do you guys think?

who cares bro
any girl that would be put off by you going to college isn't worth your time

You barely talked to her, it's too soon to say anything. Just try hanging out with her again, either with friends or just with her if that's possible

Cute little sounds like subtle moans is a big turn on but dont over do them

>Yeah, it's hook-ups these days
>But sometimes I still end up meeting guys whose penises I have just want to ride.
Roastie

Why are girls so mean?

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2 years ago i had a short fling with his best friend, how big a deal is this if I want to pursue him romantically?
it lasted 3 weeks and ended super amicably. me and his friend also never actually had sex, which he may or may not know, if that makes a difference.

whore

Way to beg the question and ignore personal dispositions at the individual level, champ.

Yeah but how? Can I just start chatting with her on Facebook? If she’s not into me and my friends find out I tried asking her out I would be humiliated.

Funny thing is she will justify it being okay.

"Please" do not reply to my posts if you are not going to make an attempt at answering my questions, thank you.

I did. I told you that your question is a fallacy. Your question doesn't deserve an answer that assumes "all girls are mean" is true. Fuck off.

how many words was it
>henlo
>see if it fits in the tailpipe
>come save me
probably one of those

"Please" do not reply to my posts if you are not going to make an attempt at answering my questions, thank you.

a year

I don't know how many words, but it was 4-5 seconds long. I could make out an exaggerated O, so maybe
>stop staring

must

I was honestly answering questions. What do you have to add? Besides recycling old and boring memes.

Having sex a few times a year these days is suddenly a lot, and if I say having sex a few times a year is okay is "funny"? Yeah, just fuck off, hypocritical moron.

>hypocritical moron.
How am I a hypocrite? I don’t do casual sex. I keep sex for relationships

A couple of questions.

How would you feel about a 30-something guy that doesn't look his age trying to start a relationship with you?
And,
> is only for hookups, don't go there for real people!
What's the explanation for this? I still have that impression so I'm yet to give it a try.

Online dating is a terrible idea. It will destroy your self esteem

Then why does the OP have that "Fuck off" as an inb4?

>stop staring
>come save me
>same mouth shapes
nailed it

Yeah, right. Go on. How many relationships? Since what age?

Because it’s not healthy for you

>yeah. Right
I’m 28. I’ve had 2 gfs.

do you really think that it’s an impossible feat for someone to stand by morals? Kek

It's funny you asked this without asking our age.

Ah. My bad. It's bait.

Again, since what age?
And how long were you single in between?
Careful on that high horse.

Internet dating is bad for people under the age of 26 because women at that point have lots of options so you don’t meet any quality girls there. This changes as they pass their prime and become more interested in settling down. There’s no harm is doing but don’t use apps like tinder. I’ve not used it but I think eharmony would be better.

Just make sure internet dating isn’t your only means of meeting someone.

>What do you guys think?

>WHAT DOESSSS IT MEEEEEN GUIES
fuck off faggot

But I will give you advice on shy girls: they're fearful. Just be careful, they're too consumed by fear to even have a proper social life, it's likely that they often tell fibs to keep peace, and have a weak backbone. I dislike shy girls. For good reason.

First gf at 21. Lasted 1 year. Second girlfriend at 26. still going.
>careful on that high horse
Lol

Creepiness is in ambiguity. Be direct and shameless, and you'll never be considered creepy. Even if it doesn't work out, she can call you everything in the book except creepy.

nta, but the way it seemed like you framed men as just penises wasn't the best way of describing your sexual encounters, although I don't get offended on other men's behalf

Yeah texting her is fine. If those friend hangouts happen often you can try meeting her there again, if it was a random encounter then you'll have to ask her out through text

>If she’s not into me and my friends find out I tried asking her out I would be humiliated.
Have some balls and assume your choices. If they're your friends they won't mock you for trying, they would mock you for being a pussy who's too scared to ask out a girl

I don’t even know what to say to your moronic post. From mocking my perfectly appropriate question to giving me useless advice I didn’t ask for. I need advice from a woman or a nonvirgin, not you.