What is the purpose of this app?

Haven't left the city since I last turned Tinder back on

either ego boosting or shattering your self esteem

I'm ugly and friendless and still make matches every day, had sex plenty of times, and met two of my serious girlfriends on it ... I don't know what you fucks are doing wrong. It's literally the easiest thing in the world, like a shortcut to dating. It cuts out like 90% of the bullshit, especially the first initial hurdle of talking to a random girl in person. I'm seriously confused why there's so much complaining

>I'm ugly and friendless and still make matches every day
The bloody hell are you doing? I have literally had people comment on my looks just walking down the street but I'd be lucky to get 1 like a month on tinder and literally no-one ever replies.

It's for hook ups.
Next.
This claim is literally no more contribution than a post that just said "Oranges" in this thread, because you have zero proof of any of these claims and none of them represent anything else put forth.

Whether or not you want to put up proof is on you, I'm just guessing 'ugly and friendless' is a wild hyperbole because you want to try and appeal to something. Alternatively, congrats, you're an exception to the rule-- apparently, to you, that means the rule doesn't exist but hey. You said you were ugly and friendless, not smart, so we're still all clear.

There's no point for men. Women can use it for sex, serious relationships, or just validation. Most of them choose the latter, which is why it's pointless for men

I upload selfies, swipe on like half the girls i see, send funny messages then arrange dates. I mean the only thing I can say is you must have unflattering pictures that make you look bad?

Yeah be a bitter bitch all you want but i'm not going to post my pictures on Jow Forums. if there's anything that's a guaranteed failure on tinder or dating in general it's being outwardly bitter and/or a crybaby

it's for the top 20% of men to have sex with foids

>you're unsuccessful because I am
All I posited was that without proof your claim has no value and you immediately launched into the defensive.
Do you think you're subtle, or somehow not obvious, or are you just going to keep pedaling this bike as long as it gets a (You)?
>implying it's not the latter

It's an app that cause many people to fornicate. I do not condone the use of tinder.

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It's not hard to screenshot your match feed and black out the actual faces. But as the other guy already established; stupid or lying. I suspect a little of column a, a little of column b

I got the app twice and ended up deleting both times within 24 hours. All the guys were douchebags and the conversations were dry and boring. I'd rather be forever alone.

Okay, i'll partially take back "I don't know what you fucks are doing wrong" because I can clearly see what you're doing wrong

>You got a new match!
>PROVIDE PROOF TO YOUR CLAIM THAT YOU ATTEND "APPLEWOOD UNIVERSITY", STEPHANIE, OTHERWISE OUR MATCH HAS NO VALUE.

>extrapolating the goalposts this wildly
>this much of an overreaction when people suggest that maybe you lend credence to your talk of success
Ah, right, so you're just baiting for (You)s and, in all likelihood, don't even use Tinder.

Here's your last (You), Anonymous.

I thought he was asking me to prove that I'm ugly and friendless, which is rather redundant considering i'm posting on Jow Forums isn't it?

are you all really so far detached from reality your minds can't even fathom the concept of a male using tinder with (moderate at best) success?

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>now he comes down off his emotional breakdown
Was that so hard, Anonymous? All you had to do was post that in the first place, but here's you having your period all up in this bitch.

>I upload selfies
maybe this is my issue. None of my pics are selfies.

The app is used quite literally ny millions of people. Everyone has slightly different expectation.

For example: I talk to my matches like I would to a coworker, without bringing up anything sexual. If they bring it up, I move the conversation back towards finding out whether we are a personality match. So far I've never had a bad date, but my most common problem has been finding out that that my dates are religious zealots or proselytising conservatives. We get along well so they end up in the friend zone I guess. I'm not dealing with that baggage.

Meanwhile a friend of mine complains about the people on this app all being godless, shallow sex fiends with no morals. He's tired of one night stands and no one wanting to stick around.

We live in the same neighbourhood. But everything self-selects based on how we interact. The purpose of this app is what you make of it.

I actually know two people who found long term relationships with tindr.

>It cuts out like 90% of the bullshit, especially the first initial hurdle of talking to a random girl in person
IDK about you boys but I'd rather make the first move in person. In person im charming and confident, through text I come off like an autistic rapist.

>In person im charming and confident, through text I come off like an autistic rapist.
I have this problem too. Only reason I even try use tinder is I work so much it is next to impossible to go out and meet people.

it definitely is, but i work 9-5 and am pretty much never in a social position to approach women unless at the bar. tinder is like a convenience thing and coincidentally weeds out the flakes without you wasting any money or effort on them first

I'd consider myself in the upper tier of dudes and gets shit ton of matches/messages/dates. Makes me feel shallow and sad mostly. This week I've cuddled and had sex with 3 different girls and I feel like a nomad and I have to break 3 hearts. I delete it often but I'm shallow and probably in the same boat as alot of the hot girls on there

This pic sickens me

It is what you want it to be, also according to the local demographic. I had a bunch of fun dates and friendly outings , 1 long term gf and 1 girl friend I started going hiking and exploring the country with.

It's for women to get an ego boost by flipping through hundreds of men that would fuck them daily and for men to feel like they are putting some attempt out there to find pussy even though it's utterly pointless for most.

Its 90% hookups where the occasional person ends up calling the girl the day after seeking a relationship because some guys think "if she's willing to fuck me straight away, means she loves me". The other 5% is non-tinder types who want to see what the thing is about but end up getting no matches or they find out the only girls that match them are turbo sluts or low-tier girls who would settle for anyone. The last 5% are people who are just desperate to fuck, that includes everyone on the scale from 1-10 except only up to the 5/10 mark where you either need a great personality to get laid or you're good looking enough for a 5/10 slut with low self worth to fuck you

I got a slow trickle of matches but almost nobody who wanted to talk. Kind of felt like I was a very quiet voice in a cacophony of singers. So I deleted it.

Hinge was way better for me, same kind of slow trickle but a bit more actual talking. It gives you a much better chance to distinguish yourself from the crowd. Still deleted it. Real life will have to do, it may not happen often but the babes in real life are interesting.

I knew a dude who got really good at B&W film photography, took a bunch of arty nudes of himself and slayed on tinder and social media. I think if you are very good looking you can do well with just about any nice photo. If you aren't particularly good looking, you can still destroy it by being ... "glamorous." Same rules kind of always applied to sex game if I think about it.

If i don't even get any matches at all.
I must be extremely ugly right?

i only get a few matches where they never reply nor even unmatch me.
So i'm sure those are just bots/fake accounts.

The worst is getting a match, obviously the male always has to message first. Then the girl un-matches without saying anything.

I mean, why even bother.

Even as a 7 I had a fairly rough time. Plenty of matches but ghosted by every one somewhere along the line. 7 is just enough to be swiped right on. Girls have a stupid amount of options on tinder.

I've been on it for a while. Swiped nearly all women to the left because they're not appealing or not matching me. Got a few likes but probably from ugly women. Purpose is mostly hook up.

OKC was slightly better but not much. Had 1 date which was awkward and she just didn't really like me.

"blind" dating is mostly awkward, you'd need to really enjoy doing that for it to work out.

As always; it's different for women, they have it easy and love it. That's just how the world works, no hate.

>ugly
>matches on tinder
That's not how it works lol. Post profile/matches

It's for finding sex yeah, but casual sex doesn't have to be 'mindless'.

You have to be reasonably good looking but there is also an art to making good photos of yourself and selecting the most appealing ones.

Either this is a very dedicated LARP or you are completely lacking in self-awareness. If you are successful on Tinder, you KNOW you're attractive, and you're certainly not "ugly". Why you're trying to slum and pretend that you're something you're not is beyond me.
DO NOT upload selfies unless you are very attractive. Girls can get away with it, but guys need pictures of them doing stuff/having fun unless they're really good looking.

lol cry more faggots.

I'm 5/10 on a good day and still moderately successful on tinder whether you believe it or not. if only you weren't autistic and had this bitter attitude, you could be too. It's called taking good pictures, having an interesting personality, and getting good at texting/flirting.

If this board could get rid of its distorted incel way of thinking, you'd realize that not all girls on tinder are stacey-tier whores who only message you if you're some ripped 10/10 supermodel.

Dude you don't even have friends. Stop lying on the internet and people will stop picking your lies apart

The amount of salt mongering and incel energy in this thread is staggering

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Are you fucking still in this thread, dude? Jesus Christ, those (You)s are tasty, eh?

no these people still show up
if you increase the search radius, match with a bunch of people and then decrease it, you can easily see who exactly matched you
the thing is that sometimes tinder never shows these profiles which explains why I had +25 likes but only 10 matches

This
Im a solid 3 i got rekt multiple times

Why the fuck do like 80% of the girls I match with want me to use Snapchat after we hit it off on tinder a bit? I hate Snapchat. I don't really want to upload stupid pics of me walking outside or of my food or whatever shit I'm supposed to be doing, and even if I did, how am I even supposed to game them from there in the first place?

It's more personal and it's easier to filter out creeps.

What if i dont have a snapchat and think the premise of it is stupid and tedious? Cant i just prove im real with a timestamp selfie or something?

Ask for whatsapp instead.

>you are very attractive.
I dont know of I can really be the judge of that but I am fairly confident I am rather attractive. I have older women commenting on my looks constantly, I assume it's just because they have more confidence than younger women and not just some on going joke perpetuated by all older women.

unfortunately this is more or less correct. im a 5/10 male and ive got like 15 matches in the past 2.5 months, and almost all the girls are kinda far away, too ugly, whales, etc. The couple good matches I got either never responded or responded once.

Its not much harm trying but its a game you will generally lose if u arent in top 20-30% attractiveness level.

What I haven't seen once in this thread is how your Tinder "score" affects the # of matches you get. You can be good looking but have offputting photos or a personality that isn't well conveyed online. In that case you get fewer right swipes which drops your score and shows you to less women. I remember getting no matches for weeks but then recently remaking my account and getting like 15 in six hours.

And yes you can meet people on here. A lot of people on Tinder suck because Tinder is a product of modern dating. The only reason it is so successful is that it appeals to your average emotionally unavailable millennial who likes the wall that texting/internet provides, along with making it easier to "filter" for what you do or don't like. Of course it's not perfect at the latter.

Its all about mindless sex.
Either hook up with people who deem you fuckable or gtfo.
If no one deems you fuckable, suck it up and delete your account.

you didn't pick anything apart, you just have autism.
i don't mind posting because surely someone who is less of a faggot will take my advice and work on their personality, flirting skills, and photo skills instead of just going "lololol u have to be a supermodel Chad to get even 1 match"

I believe you for what it's worth. There's definitely a way just about every guy can be successful. But what holds one man back is not always what holds another back, how they must improve/what they must do is typically sort of unique to their situation, and in many cases they have to deal with a lot of rejection and other trial/error until they figure out what the problem is. Then it becomes easier IMO. But you have to be willing to endure and not give up.

You're right but at least from what i've seen on Jow Forums is that people's #1 problem is their attitude is wrong, and they get bitter, or feel entitled to sex, or mad at "the system", or mad at society, or mad at women etc etc... Like an average person can do quite well on tinder if you play your cards right, and yeah it does take a lot of patience. I mean if i really put effort into tinder I could get maybe 1 or 2 dates per week, yet even in that case I'm still probably matching with like 10% of the girls I swipe right on.

Exactly, dating is very much a numbers game. Most men who are successful with women have bombed with them more times than can be counted. I think what a lot of guys lack, including myself in the past, is the kind of drive and motivation necessary to even truly put in serious effort into getting a girlfriend/women by investing in themselves and becoming more attractive.

>take good pictures!
takes only mirror selfies for photos
>Dont be an incel and improve yourself
Can't even get off his ass to make friends

Just shut the fuck up already. You're full of shit. It's not autism to notice that no 2 things you say even go together. But since you won't, at least post your bio, Mr. Personality. Let's see it.

I should add that despite my language towards you, I don't particularly dislike you. I just don't understand why you're creating this false narrative to give objectively poor advice and not tempering the expectations of an average guy using the app so his self esteem doesn't get demolished.

You're delusional, and i hardly care if you believe me or not. I'm not even making an outlandish claim lmao. i'm not going to post my face on Jow Forums no matter how much you autistically screech

>s-ssomeone put modest effort into something and as a result experienced moderate success ?!!??!?
>THEY MUST BE LYING HURR DURR

>15 options
>look the same as him
>still bitching

Can always hide the face.

Okay, allow me to redpill you on Tinder...

I'm slightly above average and when I get to talk with a woman IRL, I usually find a way to make a connection, have a good time and maybe get into her panties. Shit, I even had some women approach me since I put more effort into looking good. Yet on Tinder, I seem to have a slightly harder time. And I know why.

>It's hard to make a good connection or find similarities to start the conversation
It's super hard to initiate something when your match gives you nothing but an empty bio and a few selfies. Sure, you can always ask something trivial like "how was your weekend", but that doesn't really set you apart from the crowd. Dating, in the beginning, is all about finding similarities.

>Both men and women being super picky
There's *lots* of people on Tinder and the bigger your theoretical supply of matches, the more picky you are. It's kinda understandable because if something doesn't go your way, you have people lined up for you. This applies for both women and men! I'm pretty sure I've wasted a few opportunities just for having my standards too high.

>It's mostly text-based
I can best make a conversation when I have the person in front of me. It's common knowledge that most of human communication is nonverbal, so it really makes sense. When I'm depriving myself of the major way to communicate (taking up nonverbal cues, being able to look women in the eyes, use different tones of voice, ...), it's super easy to come off as a turbosperg.

>Tinder's business model
Tinder wants to sell you shit. Of course, they'll put you lower in the "stacks" that are being shown to people, because they want to sell you some premium/gold membership. When you first make your account, you get a little "boost", and then you get matched just low enough to want to spend your money but just high enough to keep enough self-esteem not to delete your account. It even applies to good looking people to some extent, and isn't really rocket science.

C.

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>actually try to have a conversation with a women instead of using some stupid pick up line
>no response

Haha. Epic.

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Tell me this, how much is a match actually worth though?

I can get plenty of matches, but rarely will it actually lead to anything. Thought was the whole thing with men on Tinder. You can be extremely average and still get a few matches but it doesn't mean anything if it won't lead to anywhere (bonus points if you live somewhere in the Midwest like Iowa and there isn't a whole lot of selection to begin with).

Because you're full of shit. I'm and I've had way more success IRL simply because of the way Tinder as a platform is designed. You're a self-proclaimed ugly and friendless loser. No one with any kind of self confidence or drive to succeed talks that way. And then you have the nerve to claim you're successful in the one place everyone knows you wouldn't be. You're never going to post your profile so just STFU. People who see through your bullshit aren't autistic they're sick of your shit. By the way, calling people you don't like autistic isn't exactly a winning personality trait, Mr. Self Improvement

90% of people on Tinder approach it as a game. It's used to give you a quick ego boost or as something to do when you're on the train. The less you care about Tinder the more successful you will be.

Tinder rocks my socks!

So you must be lying solely because my experience from you is different, you must certainly be ugly otherwise you would be getting dates. Post your face or I won't believe you and will continue to shitpost about how you're lying on an anonymous advice board.

See how that works?

>I have older women commenting on my looks constantly, I assume it's just because they have more confidence than younger women and not just some on going joke perpetuated by all older women.
LMAO no, young women have more confidence then you could imagine. MAYBE when they're teenagers they have insecurities but by the time a woman is in her 20s, she confident enough to reject Chads. Think of it this way: Men with the lowest confidence would swipe right on anything hoping that they can find any woman to like him. Whereas even the average woman won't settle for anything less than a perfect man, because her confidence is high enough that she thinks she's a perfect woman.
The wall is real, and young women having insecurities is a myth. Older women aren't complimenting you because they're "confident" it's because they're getting desperate.
women don't care about "personality" beyond wanting the man to be dominant and assertive.
You are either fucking 1/10 morbidly obese women or you are way above a 5/10. How tall are you?
>you'd realize that not all girls on tinder are stacey-tier whores who only message you if you're some ripped 10/10 supermodel.
they literally are though and we have objective evidence to back this up. Any woman who isn't obese has impossible standards on Tinder. Even if you match with them, she has 20 other matches and will ghost most of them.

I feel like as a male if you aren't white that's practically a deathblow.

Any nonwhites in here with any kind of success story?

>women don't care about "personality" beyond wanting the man to be dominant and assertive.
>You are either fucking 1/10 morbidly obese women or you are way above a 5/10. How tall are you?
>>you'd realize that not all girls on tinder are stacey-tier whores who only message you if you're some ripped 10/10 supermodel.
>they literally are though and we have objective evidence to back this up. Any woman who isn't obese has impossible standards on Tinder. Even if you match with them, she has 20 other matches and will ghost most of them.

Men of Jow Forums who do not have mental illness: ignore this incel retard and avoid adopting his corrupted, self-defeating attitude, or you will be doomed to never achieve success.

if you are anything over a butt-ugly 2/10, you have a chance.
>work on personal grooming, hygiene, good fashion
>then take good pictures which show off the above as well as some that reveal your hobbies or interests
>have a short, concise bio that is NOT self-deprecating or just a list of your preferences in women
>learn how to get good at flirting, making interesting conversation, and picking up on subtle hints than women give you (i.e. just have a good social personality or fake one if you're not social like me)
>accept that the majority of your matches will end in failure, but realize that tinder is the largest dating app and if you live in a decent sized city you will never run out of choices and sometimes even second chances with the same girl(s)

That is all.
I can't stand this incessant shitposting any longer, if you want to be an misogynistic and autistic shithead (Why did i expect anything else from Jow Forums? is this Jow Forums?) then go ahead, but I'm not going to give you anymore (You)s. If you have any serious questions (other than post your face) I'll answer.

I'm not the one making outlandish claims regarding tinder success. You are. You sperged like a child about how it's unfathomable that anyone can get ghosted or lack matches if they put on a nice shirt and take mirror selfies. Literally every other tinder experience in this thread contradicts yours. So which is more likely? Either everyone else is lying, or you are. I don't give a shit about your face. You claim you're ugly, sure, we'll go with that. Post your bio that gets panties wet. Crop it.

The issue has nothing to do with misogyny. I don't give a shit that women have the advantage of selection on Tinder. It's not "ree roasties" or anything like that. If 9/10 women were messaging me first, you bet your ass I wouldn't even swipe on 5 or 6's. It's just the way that it goes for online dating apps. Don't make this some weird soapbox thing. Guys swipe on anything with a vagina and a pulse. Girls can afford to be picky.

one-night stands

I mean if you want something long-term probably okcupid

>superliked Ramona
haha

>this thread again
Stop LARPing you faggot. You KNEW Tinder was a hookup app and you installed it anyway. You probably just almost got some girl's number, then she ghosted you, and now you're pretending that you wanted a happy little relationship instead of some puss. There's nothing wrong with wanting tang, but don't be a little bitch about it.

>see female profile
>first picture is a closeup of her boobs
>second picture is a neck-down shot of her in a bikini
>if you're lucky you might see her face by the third picture
>"I'm not after hookups; I want a relationship"
It's not just whores and manwhores, retards use it, too.

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>The issue has nothing to do with misogyny.
>>women don't care about "personality"
>>women don't have insecurities
>>women are stacey-tier whores

Go outside

Let's be real for a second. Everyone cares about looks. Personality matters, but we're talking about TINDER. What does insecurity or being a stacy-tier whore have to do with anything? Sounds like you don't like women too much. My point was that when you're inundated by attractive suitors, you tend to take the cream of the crop. Feel free to mental gymnastics your way out of that, but it's the truth regardless of gender.

What kind of question is this? Tinder is for casual and meaningless sex, retard. Theres probably a small percentage of couples who meet on tinder, but thats just pure stupidity

>Tinder is for casual and meaningless sex,
Then why every one of my 5 real life meetings ended up with friendship...

>why'd i get friendzoned lol
You know why