Want to break up with my GF for sex related reasons, we don't have sex enough and when we do it's not that good

>eternal fuck-buddy

I've never seen it put like this but it's so true lmao

That's what all girls are like in real life.
I bet you regret falling for the girlfriend meme now huh

What do you, specifically, do to generate passion in the bedroom? Please be specific and detailed as possible.

>Take more initiative user
>Stop putting pressure on me user
What she actually means is that you should seduce and arouse her. Build attraction. Don't "ask" for sex.

If you're willing to break up, you might as well double or nothing and tell her that you want an open relationship.
If she says no, you break up nonetheless.
If she says yes, you can fuck all the women you manage to, and still keep her around for what ever positive reasons you got.
If she says yes, and she starts fucking other guys and you don't get laid at all, you can still break up with her.

Im in the same boat OP, but for more reasons than just sex. Me and my gf haven't had sex in like two months (been together years), and it seems to be because she's no longer comfortable or into it because some time ago I convinced her to get an abortion because we both have no career prospects or further education yet and had no real way to support a child, so she seems to hold on to that distrust and resentment of me not somehow magically making it all work and "stepping up". She still is vocal about loving me and liking being around me, but the passion we used to have isn't really there lately at least on her end.. I don't know what to do. I want to make out but she usually gets bored after like 30 seconds or just isnt that into it..

Yes, be grateful you have one and love her normalfag

Foreplay, pillow talk, tell her I love her etc. Everything I'd normally do with a girlfriend. She just doesn't respond to it. I don't think it's cause shes bored either cause she refuses to do anything more adventurous like anal.

Whats the best way to break up with her that won't hurt her much and allow us to stay as friends?

>She just doesn't respond to it.
Then ask her why. Take constant initative and try new things. Girlfriends aren't from a mold, you need to figure out what gets them turned on. If you don't learn those skills, you will encounter the same problem with any future relationships, and be stuck in the same spot.

I do, she's very vague. She just says I don't know. It's really frustrating.

You said this is her first relationship, right? Does that mean you're the first person she's ever been with sexually?

She‘s unexperienced. What did you expect? She doesn‘t KNOW. You should be her opportunity to explore and find out what she needs, not the place where she‘s expected to come out of puberty with a fully developed sexuality and a porn-worthy performance to excite you.

>pillow talk
Greentext this shit. I'm pretty sure she's bored as fuck.

This. With someone less experienced, you get to make every single one of your sexual encounters a new, exciting, and fun learning experience and sex adventure. Instead, you're being a whiny, salty cunt who just wants his peepee touched the way he likes it without putting in the work to make the fun sex for her.

No wonder you prefer one night stands.

No I want to have sex regularly, which she doesn't...

How can she want to have regular sex with you if you obviously suck in bed?

If we go with your theory and I suck in bed, She'll want to break up with me and we don't have a problem.

It's the reverse though, she doesn't enjoy sex and I want to have it regularly, that's the problem.

No, she just doesn't enjoy sex with YOU. And if she's as inexperienced with dating as you say, that means she might not even know how to breakup or for what reasons she "should" breakup.

I get you're only interested in yourself and want to wash your hands of her, but you can't blame someone completely green at dating for not knowing how to do it properly. You popped her cherry, it's your responsibility as a boyfriend to teach her the basics of dating. Instead, you'll probably only make her feel even more unwanted and lost, not understanding what she did wrong because it wasn't even her fault, but she won't be able to have the reference points to see that until years later.

>she just doesn't enjoy sex with YOU.
Not even this. You aren't doing enough to make her WANT to have sex, no matter how good it potentially is. I told you hours ago in >Build attraction.

>new and exciting
>OP actively engages her and she gives him vague replies and a debateable sense of interest
Terminal singles need not apply their advice. Yes, you're a terminal single if all your partners dropped you like a bad joke.

You're not sexually compatible. My first girlfriend was her first serious relationship and we had tons of fun in bed. My second was with a girl who had more experience and she was much, much less fun, adventurous, passionate or involved about sex.

I'd tell her it's not working. I think personality, not experience, is the problem here.

no
this is a basic compatibility issue. lack of compatibility is a perfectly valid reason to terminate a relationship

How's this advice? all you are doing is presuming shit that isn't true. Fuck off

How do you do that without looking autistic?

Think I'm going to have a last hurrah effort to see if she's willing to become more intimate and break it off at the end of the month if not. I'm living abroad for 2 months for work over summer so I'm not sure if it's worth continuing the relationship long distance if it isn't going to work long term.

>How do you do that without looking autistic?
With your effing girlfriend, user? I can't even into what you think a relationship is. Touch her, tease her, kiss her neck when she doesn't expect, send her texts during the day telling her that you can't stop thinking about the way she looks, have a lot of eye contact, be conscious of your body language and posture, grab her and lift her off the ground before you kiss her, dance with her and swirl her around, whisper dirt in her ears and slap her ass, tell her to lay down so you can give her a oily back massage, all in all just be more fun to be with

Think I need to break it off, I do over half those things and she'll usually just brush it off and say shes not in the mood right now or she's too tired. I don't think we are sexually compatible.

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Have you tried doing it with an attitude of outcome-independence? Women sense neediness super fast.

Break up with her. If you're letting your sex drive dominant the 'love' you actually have for her, then she simply deserves my friend. You're her first relationship, she's vulnerable and inexperienced You should make her want to enjoy and have sex with you wholeheartedly

>If I suck in bed, She'll want to break up with me
you're not dating another dude retard you're dating a girl. we haven't got the same hormones urging us as you guys have. on top of that you unfortunately were this girl's entry into becoming a sexual being. she has no basis for comparison of enjoyable sex to drive her toward wanting to break up and find something better like you're supposing she'd be driven toward. that, again, is viewing things solely from a guy's perspective (which i'm not faulting you for having, just pointing out where it's getting misapplied so you can start to see all this shit more clearly). there was never any starting point of unbearably distractably horny for her to default back to. the constant craving for sexual satisfaction isn't there for us as a built-in hardwired integrated feature. instead what we come with is a slot for an expansion pack. strong sexual desire can be cultivated in us but until/unless that's happened, unfulfilling sex isn't gonna cramp our style (or at least not to any noticeable degree we'd easily be aware of, but digression aside)

>cont

>In neither your fault nor hers.
I hate it when people say that.

Fault exists.

And it's always on somebody or shared across a specific number of people. If you think critically, you can accurately attribute fault from any problem to the people accountable.

Like it's such a cop-out to say that nobody's at fault. It makes it sound like you have nothing to learn. That the world "just happens" to you. Victims of fate. Like no. You have humanity, try and use it for a change.

>moar, not gonna like this post either

you're putting her in a shitty, shitty position here m8. that much i am absolutely faulting you for, though really she's as much to blame for it as well if you were upfront with her and she knew the score going in. had you both been inexperienced, you could come to each other comfortably, meeting on common ground, and move together through and past the awkward shitfest of "hey this kinda sucks. yep. like it's still fun but kind of a let down from what i was expecting. yep same here, think we're doinitwrong? iunno, probably. wanna try x and y next time? yeah definitely, and maybe we could z beforehand and see how that goes." as it stands currently however that impulse isn't going to arise in either one of you. she's not gonna look to you to figure shit out together because you presumably already know what you're doing, have already gotten the hang of it, and are now showing her the ropes. put your goddamn ego aside for two seconds here and realise that if she didn't really know what to expect and doesn't really seem to like sex it's necessarily a direct result of you not fucking her well, and that moreover you're both morons for getting together in the first place

thus far you're not so much an asshole as you are just young and retarded. the level of asshole you're on will be determined by what you do next. that's if you were honest with her. die in a fire if she's under the impression that sex is important to you in the same way it's important to her