ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

What would girls think of a dude that constantly switches careers? I’m 23, and am a power lineman, but I want to switch into the army special forces. I’d make next to nothing, but I’d have fun doing it.

I do want to settle down though by the time I’m 30, and I’m hesitating to jump in the military for this reason. Any feedback would be appreciated

Are you jap?

No, I’m an American

Why is my ex gf telling me about her new rebound and how hes making her depressed cause he cant get over his ex girlfriend and that the relationship was moving too fast. She then in the same phonecall, tells me that she truly values my existence as a human being in her life. What's going on?

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Probably wants you back, or just wants to screenshot your stuff, to show her disinterested boyfriend she has options

No.

Not a girl, but in my experiences (slept with dozens of women and was married once plus a handful of short and long term relationships) girls really do not care what you do for work.
I had girls really love me when I lived in studio apartment with my father, like, crying in their car love me, like plan a vacation love me.
I proposed to my now ex-wife while I was living at my mother's house in my mid-20's. Ironically enough, as soon as we began living together on our own and I was making good money, she started to lose interest, or maybe I'm just a shit person once you get to know me.
Obviously there are variables, but your job or station in life is not going to hold you up too bad.
(They werent like some trash hambeasts either, came from all walks of life and were at least slightly above average in looks)

I think I just majorly fucked up. I've been crushing on this girl at work for months but I haven't really been doing anything because I heard her tell this autistic guy who asked her out that she has a boyfriend. I think we've been getting closer but I've kept denying it because I thought she had a boyfriend and there's no way that she likes me. Anyway, another girl at work has decided she likes me and aggressively flirts with me and now we text and are going to see a movie together. I thought I could force myself to like her because a girl has never expressed interest in me that way my entire life. I just can't though. I feel nothing but the relationship is really comfy right now and I feel like I have some advantages since I don't care about her. I feel like if you care about a girl, they'll leave you. OK, so now I'm getting "what the fuck?" vibes from the girl I used to like. Fuck, did she actually like me and did I just fuck myself over?

What's the best way a woman (late 20s-early 30s) should dress to attract a male?

I feel like I'm not getting guys because the way I dress is ugly. I have a tall and skinny figure with B-cup breasts but a round ass. But I'm still single. Again, I've been told the way girls attract guys is primarily through appearance and fashion sense, so I need to know what attracts dudes.

No what?

No you're not.

Just wear capris that tighten around your ass, works for most classy ladies with rumps. Just wear tight button ups that accentuate your breasts, or maybe some sharp V-necks

How is this even an argument? I live in Los Angeles

look at this guys. you inly live once, she is asking us (men) how to look beautiful

this is how you spot a trap

Just fuck the one into you. It’s honestly better to have a dependable body to sleep next to than some flame, in my experience. I’d much rather just come home to someone happy to be there than have to convince someone to come home with me

I have a couple of tight pencil skirts. Would those work as well?

The weather is getting nicer, so I would suggest something with spaghetti straps that doesn't show too much, while still accentuating your good figure.

Things to stay away from (imo)
-those fucking cardigan type grandma sweater things
-leggings
-overly tight shorts
-funny hats
-short hair
-anything overly revealing
This is assuming you're trying to find a man to be with, and not just to bang.
If you are just looking for a bang, just pick a dude and wear pretty much whatever then ask for his number and ask if he wants to come over later.

Cool, so you admit it.

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a girl with a bf gives me constant vibes every single time i hang out with her. how can i tell if its actually a thing she does or if im just crazy. i swear it feels like there is and im pretty much always right when girls are into me

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Skirts are alright but they don’t really contour that well to your body. I’ve seen very few extra endowed women who caught my eye in skirts.

depends where you go but for every day, I would say dress to show off dat butt. hopefully your hair can be fluffed up all pretty like, not saying its isnt fine but you get what I mean, you still got boobs so push them up. wear maybe small looking jackets form fitting clothes to excentuate your curves. All ladies have curves so do you. Guys go for the girls who look like they take care of themselves, more so when she is looking to attract guys.

Thanks.

Some girls are just flirty. I had one girl with a boyfriend that basically petted my groin to get my attention one day but she’s never considered fucking me probably

What a cruel world

I think this is totally wrong, but I'm kind of a weirdo too. Usually when a girl dresses too sexy I view her in a more pornographic context, and less as a mother to children.
But it really just depends on what you are looking for.

It is what it is. She had a pretty solid body, the typical Latina curvy build that lasts until she’s 20. I jerked off to her enough that I just don’t care. I got all of what I wanted, even if it was in my head

>never considered fucking me probably
>considered fucking me probably
>fucking me probably
>probably
I think you probably didn't capitalize on a girl who was using some dude as a placeholder.
I've done this before too user, and I've also been a placeholder.
Sometimes girls just need a sure thing for their shattered self-esteem.

You’re Japanese, aren’t you?

She’s been with the dude for eight years. I doubt I was ever part of the picture, beyond a background character

Irrigators channel waters, fletchers straighten arrows, carpenters bend wood, the wise master themselves.

If I was the one asking him out 90% of the time was he not that into me or did he just get used to me doing the asking out? I was always too impatient to wait around for him to do so

It’s easier to psych yourself out and draw negative inferences until you give up. You need to be talking to girls, not reading about them.

I was in the same situation, just as the guy. 100% he got used to it. Also it’s possible you rejected some ideas he had or are really picky about the circumstances of dates (when, where, activities, cost, etc.).

He also might have just not been that into you though.

I don't usually dress slutty at all. Usually I wear long-sleeved shirts, longer skirts, black leggings, etc. I dress like a typical early 2010s hipster.

What do you think would best show off my ass without looking too slutty?

I never rejected any date ideas. I dunno man I don't get him. We dated on and off since I'm a student so was hardly at home, and he would message me much more frequently whenever I was back but never actually suggest to meet up until I did, that kinda stuff. I'm going back home soon for good and hes been messaging me a bit more but I don't know. Even his texts are rather half-assed.
I'm afraid if I don't put in this much effort he wouldn't bother trying either and it would fall apart.

He is a very good looking and likeable guy so I don't think he has any problems getting girls but I still felt insecure that he dated me because I made it so easy for him

Femanon you might just need to approach the guy that you like instead of trying to attract him, and it is because outside of already established social environments, men are very bad at the cold approach (this is all anecdote).
My friends have had their minds blown by the fact that I will just go and talk to a pretty girl for as long as she is willing to reciprocate the encounter. Men are often times (once again this is anecdote) scared to death of being rejected.

I've been rejected multiple times by guys. I've found the main guys I attract are autistic incel types. I have my eyes set on a few "winners" but I'm scared to death of talking to them because I feel out of their league.

Femanons, would you convert to your lover's religion if your relationship depended on it?

Depends on the religion and the process of conversion.

If it was Judaism or mainstream Christianity, then yes.

If it was a cult like Mormonism or JWs, hell no.

Only Islam or Catholicism

No.

Hot

Thanks for your insight. I was asking because I'm a Reformed (Calvinist) Christian in an Orthodox country.

>I've found the main guys I attract are autistic incel types.
Do they tell you they can't get girls or something? I can't really believe you can tell unless you are trying to rationalize why you don't like them. Seems like you're in the same spot as all women, wanting the really high winners without you putting the effort to be a winner yourself.
You are what you attract.

In what context were you rejected exactly? Because there are a few different kinds.
The kinds that come to mind are.
1. Too scared to engage
2. Wouldnt be seen in public with/would bang
3. Would be seen with/would bang/wouldnt date
Its hard to say, because for me, I unconciously sort girls into these sort of groups (in hindsight).

I'm not a Christian but I did study early Christianity when I was in college, and I would highly recommend exploring Orthodoxy and how Christianity became Christianity. The Antiochian Church, for instance, is the oldest Christian church in the world. Go for it.

I was actually raised into Orthodoxy and left it.

What is with this thing where I attract women who like sleeping alot and are perpetually depressed?

Yeah, these guys are usually virgins and are open about how they can't get laid. They have extremely autistic mannerisms and assume every girl who talks to them wants to bang them.

It's like this: I'm on good terms with the guy until one day he decides I'm the scum of the earth and starts treating me like shit to get me off his back, or ghosts me entirely. They never give me a reason.

That's why I'm thinking I should stick to having quick flings instead of getting emotionally invested in any man.

You're seem well put together but you're life isn't on track and that blend invites people who's tendencies mimic it. I.e. people who are attractive on the outside but disenchanted on the inside. You subliminally invite these people into your life because of your life.

You're basically me.

Ok, my guess is one of three things that jump out at me immediately.
1. You are saying things you shouldn't say, maybe by emasculating them in some way (making them put you in the category of nagging older lady or possible too promiscuous to be taken seriously)
2. You are shooting too high above your "weight class" and you need to lower your standards.
3. You are a tranny

>virgins and are open about how they can't get laid.
>assume every girl who talks to them wants to bang them.
You know, I would think this is a lie but there is a guy in this very place that does this exact same thing like an idiot. Sad really.
And no don't do these "quick flings" It will actually make you worse, mentally speaking. From the looks of it seems like its already having a toll on you.
However, there is a bit of missing context here:
>I'm on good terms with the guy until one day he decides I'm the scum of the earth
People don't do that unless they are unstable. If this is happening frequently then I'm sorry to say that this is a problem with you. Either saying something or doing something to cause it.
Don't ask them what's wrong because they will never tell you, this is something you need to find out yourself.
Do you insult them? Is your banter too hard for the guys you're seeing to handle? Or are you a rude person and think this is normal.

>tfw life is finally on track but I don't seem well put together at all
Not sure what's worse.

I don't believe I insult them. I'm usually very cautious with them.

>Talking with girl friend
>Context is way to rooted in personal stuff, but basically she starts complaining that it's annoying that people think she's super innocent
My overthinking's running rampant, did she just imply she's done some shit?

Hopefully, the less innocent thing shes talking about is her doing it with you.
Could have used that opportunity to make a joke about that instead of overthinking it like what you just did.

I thought about it, but I couldn't think of a way to phrase it that didn't feel forced.

It always feels forced mate.

"Don't worry I know you're not super innocent" Then that's it. Let her run with that. Simple.

Eh, next time. Now that I think about it the complaint was somewhat completely unprompted too. Maybe she did want me to run with it, but she's got a bf.

Is all hope gone?

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The former. I'm in your position but if we use the skills we've learned from putting our life on track and utilize them on our outwards appearance we may finally have the best of both worlds
>Tfw recently bought exfoliator and my skin has been looking youthful again
Identify and attack user

Don't try and read between the lines desu. When I was a lot younger a girl I knew would tell me how she hated that all her friendships with guys were ruined by them wanting more. Apparently I was supposed to take that to mean I was the exception... no wonder you're all so confused, lads.

If she were single I would've asked her out eons ago, maybe she can sense that or something.

Ah well.

I'm going to be honest here, I actually laughed at this shit. What kind of conversation are you attempting here?

Why do Girls go to the bathroom together?

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looks like a generic cute conversation

I don't really mean physical appearance as much. More that, while I'm back on track, I'm not entirely sure where the track leads and I've only just started the journey everyone else is well in to. I had some interest from girls because I'm happier and a lot more confident but they start to lose interest when they realise how much uncertainty is ahead for me.

I wanna take a nap with her :c

Tight dresses. High-waisted pants which highlight your ass. Wear vertical stripes to flaunt your tallness.

well you're going about it in the wrong way ya dingus

Tell me how then!

Either experienced gender.

Can someone just tell me one more thing?
Is it worth the pain? Is it really? Please, tell me. I feel like half-parent half-child in a scenario where a parent must send their child off to another country. The decision probably will still be made, must for all I can tell be made to understand at least what I want, but I don't want to go because I know I won't just find what I'm looking for and it scares me.
Maybe it shouldn't scare me so much. Maybe I'm somehow prepping myself to feel worse, but I don't know that.

So...

I mean, is there really no alternative to dating?
My father told me mom was his first date. I was told long ago that those who wait make better decisions but may have minsintrepeted the exact meaning, I thought dating was a game for stupid people and that their must be some other method like developing a friendship and waiting to see what happens, I used to think eharmony would work, I used to think I'd just meet someone one day and it would just happen, but that doesn't appear to be the case.
I was so convinced dating was silly. I thought I'd figure out some perfect form of relationship where cheating didn't matter (I can thank that one dumb open relationship whore for that. Not sure why it took until the incident at that one con to realize it would wear on me).
But in the end it was all excuses. I couldn't even talk to girls the small handful of times they asked me out directly.

to talk to each other about who they are with, confirm each others suspicions about a guy or to check their face book. Girl talk.

Girls how does this sound?
>about 20 minutes of light petting, kissing, light teasing, light touches to inner thighs, around vagina, ALMOST touching vagina, but never quite
>continue with teasing, ever so slightly touch vagina through panties every now and then, but pull away, slip hand into panties, but only brush tips of fingers over vagina, pull away
>continue slowly escalating a little bit and pull away in this fashion
>finally start stimulating directly, do that until she moans audibly
>go down on her, making my way down slowly while kissing every inch
>lick pussy to orgasm
>15 minutes penetrative sex
>Cum hard
>Cuddle
>Repeat abridged for round 2

2-3 hours for the whole process.
Did this last night. Would you have liked this from my description?

Open relationships only work for men who can get sex just as easily as women.
You have to have good game to have a relationship like that, it's pretty obvious, yet some retards get into it, being complete chumps and watch their girl getting dick left and right while getting next to none themselves.
Ofc that sucks, you have to be able to get lots of pussy easily for it to be an equal relationship, don't even think about it if you don't have game, or even TROUBLE attracting women, are you insane?

You missed the point of my post... I'm also not gonna read that since it looks like opinionated drivel either way, so there's that too.

I should've posted this to GIOYC remembering the guidelines to ATOGA and removed some of it.
Damn. Well, actually, I'll just go ahead and repost it there with some of it edited and/or remove. Bye.

Wow, fuck off then.
Incredibly rude. Now I wasted effort on some beta retard.

Yeah, nobody cares.

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I like teasing/a teeny bit of fingering but I dislike oral so it's meh to me. I'd rather just get teased until I'm wet and get down to business but that's all personal preference my dude. 2-3 hours also sounds really long but that's coming from someone in an ltr that has sex almost every day.

Are guys put off by very tall girls?
I'm 5'10, meaning taller than the average guy, and have never dated.
When going out all men always seem to prefer my short friends. My bf (5ft2) and I have been frequently mistaken to be sisters, because we look fairly alike (similar face, same hair, same body type), so when it's always her who gets approached (even by very tall guys) I can't help but think that it's because of the height issue.

Nature and nurture. Also tons of shitty choices bases on these two.

>I prefer to sleep...
>Alone
Based.

Maybe it's your face? Also attitude/posture.

>are you guys put off by the girl as tall as a model
Just the the previous femanon, the issue is either your face/posture or attitude.

both i guess

after a night out i've texted my ex drunk, asking her if her family would be ok with listening to electronic music (i'm the dj at her and a mutual friends birthdy party)
and the next day she replied with 5 texts stating what she ants to hear and what not
i didn't reply to that
couple days after i get a picture of her theatre show
i didn't reply to that

should i feel bad for not replying to her?
it's only been 2 months-ish since we were seeing each other again and me finding out she was fucking with another guy during said period and surprise, shes with that guy now

Nah, sounds like you're doing everything fine. You're being mature enough by taking care of professional shit but you don't owe her any extra attention.

hmm okay, at first i did feel bad for not answering her, because last year i went to her other show but this time i'm not too eager to go at all
also
she asked me if she could bring her new guy to the party before her birthday party
which she already let me know a couple of weeks before that i would "expect to see her with a new boyfriend at her party"
still weirds me the fuck out honestly

It's not that I dislike them, more that I assume you aren't into shorter/same height guys.
Or would bail as soon as some tall guy gave you attention
I'm 5'10" and have dated taller women, but they had to either make the first move, or at least make it clear to me that they like me (I flicked my hair in his periferal vision once isn't enough)
Also wear flats