Tl;dr BF is still friends with his ex, am I right to be upset?

I would never allow that. I had to deal with something similar with my gf at the start of our relationship. She was with her ex-bf for several years. And he would call and text a lot. I told her bluntly she could be that person to that runs when he needs her support, etc or she could be with me, but I wasn't going tolerate both. I made it clear I would have zero issues walking away if she didn't respect my boundaries. And she chose me, and blocked him.

I should point out I did it in a way that was respectful because I didn't want her to resent me. I just made it clear what I needed in the relationship in order to make it work. I didn't even tell her to block him or that she couldn't talk to him at all, she made that choice on her own

>It's a non issue for retards and cucks

ftfy

>It's fine for people to be friends with their ex,
No its not. Its fucking weird

this isnt me, dont know why people try to troll

Like I said, it depends on context. My ex and I broke up years ago, his sex drive was non existant after a few months of us dating, and now there is 0 romantic interest and we mostly just send memes. occasionally see each other with mutual friends. So in some cases I think it's fine. If you personally aren't comfortable with that, that's fine.

In other cases, like OPs, it is definitely not fine.

Sure, I think that's a very valid feeling to have. Maybe you feel like you're not the most important thing in your boyfriend's life. Maybe you feel like this person is stealing your boyfriend's attention. Those sort of feelings are very common in relationships and very valid barriers to successful ones. I can see why you'd be hurt.

My advice is to re-consider what you want your boyfriend to do. You feel hurt and devalued. I imagine your boyfriend feels the same way. You've asked him to drop one of his longest and closest friends. It would be very immature to attempt destroy your significant other's friendship. Instead, let him know how you feel and that you want the same type and strength of relationship. Say things like "I feel hurt that when we dont see each other often. I'd appreciate it if we had more solo dates, just the two of us. How about dinner at tomorrow?"

This might very well succeed, but it might also not work. Please give repeated attempts. It will likely take at least a month to see a change. If your boyfriend does not to consider your feelings, he might not be the right person for you. However, if you communicate correctly, I'd bet he comes around.

Did you break up due to sex drive? Mine is low and I lose my erection during sex a lot (partially physiological, partially psychological) but I'm contemplating getting off-brand viagra just so I can fuck her good so she won't leave me. Thoughts?

I think it's possible for ex to be friends but as long as they are friends and just friends. No sexual relationship, no intimacy in bed, and no prioritizing ex over current relationship.

Give him an ultimatum

Huh no, it was actually just a mutual decision, mostly based on other factors.

Does his mouth taste fishy?. If yes, then break up.

Fpbp

It's a bit of a dilemma. I was friends with my ex briefly, but it ended up becoming a toxic fwb scenario. I'm a guy. I would never do it again and I'd expect my ex to do the same. I feel that, even in the most mutual of scenarios, it's probably for both parties' benefit that the relationship lie dead. If the breakup was particularly bad, it should be even moreso that case. Both people need to grow away from each other, and that will mean changing into some different from the person they were, which likely means the ex you knew 3 years ago is not the same person as your ex now. There's just no reason to keep that bridge open outside of unkempt baggage.

I'm a guy, fyi. Also, him pointing out your guy friends is fucking moot since you've (likely) not fucked, whereas he's obviously fucked his ex.

However, I'd expect the same treatment about hanging out with friends that are girls that weren't my ex. This is all just me, of course. YMMV

I think you're right to be upset about the general boundaries he's crossing like hanging out alone with her, if he's constantly bringing her around your place when you live together that's also crossing a line, honestly what do you expect though? It's not like they became friends while you were dating and you and this guy have been together for 4 years, you should have nipped this in the bud early on.

It's natural to be upset over it, but they could legit just feel only friendly feelings and nothing else. You accept that's a real possibility, right? I think it can work if you trust him enough...and he's done enough to earn that trust.

I've been in a genderswapped situation and I was okay with her hanging out with her best guy friend/ex. Now I am the ex and they're together. Don't let yourself get hurt user

She literally set you up with him.
You aren't insecure about her you are insecure because you think tou can't compare to her and that is sad for you.

You should break up because you are already becoming controlling and you deserve to be confident in your relationship while he deserves someone who trusts him. Unless they have given any specific reason to doubt them, or your instinct is right, and he has some feelings, it doesn't matter anyway.

this a load of bullshit and you are either a woman or a retard
here is how male perspective goes:
>yey my crush is my best friend and we fuck too
>no more fucking, curses
>but shes so nice to introduce me to replacement vagina, however i still crave her vagina
>i shall wait it out with replacement vagina (fucking is still very good, need) till original vagina is available again

very fucking simple, you are right she should break up because its a lose lose for her

I mean you've projected yourself into it,so we know how you are. The way you phrase things reflects your character. Saying the same thing as me but the way that you did is top kek and even more sad than op's pitiful situation.

you sound like you fuck dogs

More projecting I see
Okay have fun with that "lifestyle"

People who are Still Friends with their exes, either still love them or never loved them at all

this will explain better than i can

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>friend dates
Girl come on. Are you 16 or something?

Oh, turns out they ARE 16. Why are zoomers so retarded?