Is it possible to have purely platonic friendships with a girl?

No. I tried this many times, but was always met with brick walls. Women are defensive with male friends because they have to be, with all the potential creeps and jealous boyfriends out there. You can get as far as small talk, but prepare for the "my boyfriend" line when you're only trying to be genuine. Genuine friendships aren't possible save for the rare unicorn.

Close friendship ? Nope, either one falls for the other or there's no point in being friends. Casual friendship / being part of the same friend group ? Yeah sure

Pointless twist, to be h.

>Is it possible to have purely platonic friendships with a girl?

If you're attracted to them, this will likely factor into everything you think and feel about them. Best thing you can do is lay it on the table. I'm friends with a number of women I'd enjoy in innumerable ways, and they all know it. We're still friends because we want to be and we all respect each other's position.

You can say plainly that you're really attracted to them, but not looking to act on it. The more you admit it, the easier it becomes to lessen the conscious priority you award your mate-seeking thoughts.

Besides, if they can't handle the knowledge of it and still be a friend to you, it's their problem and not yours.

no

because the thing about friendships is, when you look at the big picture, they always get better over time or worse over time

So if your friendship with the girl keeps getting better and better, how can you possibly just stay friends?

Otherwise it'll get worse over time, and the result is obvious.

And that's not counting the serpent is ALWAYS in the garden.

>you're really attracted to them, but not looking to act on it
But thats just fucking with yourself and denying your nature, and for what? For a female, who is probably not even that interesting? Come on, I dont even have time for male friends due to the uselessness of most, let alone adding the burden of enduring the feeling of wanting and not being able to have. Please, user, that is just inflicting suffering on yourself.

Yes, as long as you consider sex to be just another friendly activity to do between friends. I love being friends with women because when you are with women your monkey brain gives you more chemicals than usual but even if all I want to do is talk about anime (and the only thing I want to do is talk about anime, don't give a shit about anything else) eventually for some reason we are fucking.

Sex is fun though. Nothing quite like playing kid friendly boardgames and then getting your dick sucked in a kid friendly way.

Women are incapable of forming platonic friendships with anyone even other women

Based and gaypilled.

>gaypilled
An attraction to the mind cannot be gay

Unless it's another dude's mind. Then it's pretty gay.

It's possible just keep in mind the forces of attraction may find a way to bond both individuals and when that happens the next step becomes harder to avoid, but not impossible. Try to maintain a distance, don't try to know each other too well.

Yeah, under two conditions. a) you're not interested in having sex with her and/or b) you're an adult.

Most of my friends were girls in highschool and everyone thought I was gay despite my big tiddy goth gf

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Yes

This but with a grain of salt. We're human; in getting close to a woman, it's natural that you start developing feelings for them when your intention was platonic at first. It's possible but, in this sense, against all odds of things working out.

Yes it is. It's just hard to maintain it if one of you is secretly (or not so secretly) in love with the other.

Yeah, why wouldn't it be?

>But thats just fucking with yourself and denying your nature, and for what? For a female, who is probably not even that interesting? Come on, I dont even have time for male friends due to the uselessness of most, let alone adding the burden of enduring the feeling of wanting and not being able to have. Please, user, that is just inflicting suffering on yourself.

I don't consider it suffering. When I spend time with friends, it is to fill a variety of needs. Someone to play Chess with face to face, someone to talk to, and so forth. Nothing in this denies my "nature."

If you consider it suffering to be friends with someone that also attracts you, then the suffering is of your own design. Of course, by outsourcing your own problem-solving to nature, you justify this self-inflicted suffering. Close parallel between your answer and Catholic guilt, come to think of it.

Yes, obviously. You dumb?

If the guy is gay or asexual, yes.

Yes if you're both ugly

No

I am trying to have that right now.
There are two girls I have met through a hobby and both are pretty cool people.
They are both in long term relationships so I can't consider them relationship material for myself.
They are both cool people as friends so I am actually fine with keeping it that way.

Femanon who’s probably gonna be called some retard shit like sausage gargler here. I have been best friends with a male for 3 years. I’ve had about 2 more close male friends this past year or two. All have been single. All are not fucking weirdos who think that women are sex objects.
Men, think of it this way. Imagine you meet a super cool guy, and has the same niche interests as you. You’re good friends for a while, but then they start demanding you have sex with them. They say you owe it to them. That you’re /denying/ it to them.
You’d freak the fuck out because:
1) gay
2) no one is entitled to another person’s body
3) you don’t have any attraction to this person no matter how attracted they are to you

This
It takes TWO specific kinds of people. As soon as one breaks it it becomes tough. I have a close friend who goes through confessing feels for me about once or twice every six months, and it's kinda awkward but even with that we're more valued as friends for each other.

yeah sure why not?

It is, actually. Some people, however, are simply incapable of pulling it, even if their life depended on it. And heterosexual friendships with the opposite pretty much always carry risks like romantic/sexual tension that can easily destroy it.

So it's possible, just less easily than with someone of the same sex.

Only with ones I have no interest in to begin with.
If I have ever had any prolonged feelings or interest towards any girl I can't really have a platonic friendship with them, as I will still be attracted to them/have feelings for them and keep wondering about asking them out or think about why I was rejected.

Hence, my only solution is to just cut off women I have feelings for out of my life if I cannot pursue them or they reject me.

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Imagine trying to be someones friend and their social expectations lead them to think you're just trying to get your sausage gargled. This shit works both ways.

Based

Currently in the situation and it’s not good, was talking to this girl from work we got close fast and i fell for her hard. She did too but got over me fast, it’s been like 6 months and I still can’t get over her

What should i do ?

>What should i do ?

Get over her, and thank her when she pawns her weird friends off on you. You can still be her wing man, if you are thusly dependent on sex for self-esteem.

how can you be straight and have female friends? do you think like a female? have female interests?

based and redpilled as all hell

Sure, given a few circumstances

>she's gay/asexual/some other LGBT neanderthrashing
As long as you're not some desperate powervirgin, being long-term pals with your lez/ace friend should be easy. Your future gf/wife/slampiece/bodypillow with a fleshlight won't get jealous (unless she's got BPD or some shit) because they know that only a rapist can get with a lesbian

>you're okay with one day no longer being close with them
If they're straight, sure you can be good buddies until one of you gets into a serious relationship/marriage. At that point, it's only responsible to stop seeing each other, at least IRL. Sending memes and chatting online is probably chill, but after you're hitched the only responsible thing is to remove your liability of a friend from your immediate circle

>she's uggo
If you don't wanna fuck her, your partner has nothing to worry about

>you're uggo
If she doesn't wanna fuck you, her partner has nothing to worry about and you probably don't have one

>you're in a relationship with her
Here's the real big one: don't fucking date someone who isn't your friend. If your gf isn't someone you'd hang with if you were single, then she's a fucktoy and you may as well just treat her as such.

I have a very close female friend since high school. She asked me out but I rejected her cos she wasn't attractive. I did it in a very delicate way and managed to preserve the friendship. 8 years later, she's smoking hot and tied for my longest running friendship. Sometimes I wonder why should I search for a girlfriend, when she's right there and we already get along so well, but back then I made sure she never looks at me sexually again and told her I see her as a sister to me.
I don't regret it though. She's a great asset and I value her perspective. I was a very emotionally constipated in high school and we'd most likely both be worse off if I had dated her with my old mindset.

Yes, but other men will advise you against it and say its all predicated on hopes of sex. I dont really ever agree with this, since I've had female friends I was never attracted to. A lot of people just think its "biologically" impossible to control the urge

Being attracted to them isn't even a dealbreaker if you're not some ape who can't control himself.

I wouldn't mind fucking any of my female friends and I'm pretty open about it, never had any issues neither with them nor their boyfriends/husbands.

>this
It's OK to be attracted on like a subconscious level but you just have to put the friendship first and not develop Oneitis or anything crazy. Usually by the time I'm super close to a female friend, I see the flaws that would make her a horrible partner and it helps.

We just talked a bunch and hung around eachother a lot
Sometimes we had interests that overlapped
Sometimes we just laughed about stupid stuff
A few of them were lesbians so I couldn’t have made a move if I wanted to

But a question arises. If you get along so well, and both are also not hideous and look handsome/attractive, and you are both single, what is the reason for NOT having sex or trying a relationship?
Then something is not right.

damn, that described my last exgf pretty well, she had not watched back to the future a single time, everytime i referenced some popular movie like rocky or star wars, she had no idea because she had not watched anything.

I ended up asking what the fuck has she done with her life and dumped her. She was 38 yo, for fuck sake, there is no excuse to not having watched all these 80s blockbusters.