Chilled with some of my best friends Saturday and had a good time. Sure the couple in the room bickered but that’s it. It was a bit awkward and kinda dampened the evening but fine, who fucking cares it’s not the end of the world. Sometimes dumb shit happens with alcohol
Woke up Sunday morning just fucking livid with them. Told them how fucking pissed off I was and had a giant argument with them Monday and Tuesday when I went off on them and said how much they fucked up the night. I was god damn angry, I was grinding my teeth, imagining so many paranoid slights against myself and getting worked up over nothing. I swear I got a headache just from how mad I was. I sent texts saying shit I didn’t mean. It took me until today to realize how shitty I was being to them and profusely apologized. It’s like I was fucking possessed or something. Now they have forgiven me but I am being cold shouldered. I deserve it, I am so fucking sorry. What the fuck was wrong with me? Sure I’ve been anxious and under stress but I have no idea why I blew up like that. I feel like either throwing up or crying. What the fuck do I even do at this point? I cannot forgive myself for this one
Last bump. I’m not sure why I acted like that and curious if anyone has any idea
Asher Turner
You need to learn to get control of your emotions and anger. You can't blame alcohol, it just emboldens how you really feel. I suggest you start by reading some information on anger management and learn some coping skills.
Logan Gomez
I’m not blaming alcohol, I wasn’t mad at all while drinking. It was the next morning it really hit me. I’ve been anxious as hell recently and I’ve always been one to suppress my emotions and be stoic as possible. It’s like I woke up a different person
Hunter Lopez
im confused what triggered it, could it have been triggered by a dream? what were u saying in ur texts?
Camden Young
we all got problems, the only thing that you can do now is learn from your fuckups. Think before you burst, i learnt that the hard way, i got beat up by my dad for raising my voice to him. Even though hes a mad asshole, he's still my dad and I got to respect him for it. Sadly i can't say i love him.
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Angel Ortiz
Apologize. Apologize. Apologize.
Don't "try to be stoic" because that never really works 90% of the time, you have to get emotional at some point, the smart thing to do is to be emotional by yourself or with your wife/parents which doesnt put your relationship with others at risk.
Also you should forgive yourself but realize that you made a mistake, "everyone makes mistakes and learns from them" is not a meme. Hold yourself accountable but dont dwell on the past because you literally cannot change it at all. Wish you all the best bro
Jack Morales
not OP dont blame urself user ur dad has no right to hurt u just for raising ur voice, remember to not let him manipulate u into thinking its ur fault.
Hunter Cox
I listed off what they did to piss me off. Even shit they said as a joke the night before I listed off as a slight against myself. It’s like I was so paranoid and disrespected. I have apologized so much and I really want to make it right in person, but I’m still mad at myself and finding it hard to forgive myself for what I did and said. I’m such a fucking fool. I’m at work right now wanting to throw up
Liam Lewis
you're not a fool, you made a mistake; plain and simple. Also good to keep in mind that, since you're an adult, you can just press the reset button on these people if the friendship has been completely ruined. Try to salvage it as much as possible and try to be a good friend (buy gifts, attend their parties, happy birthdays, happy anniversaries, shit like that)
Brandon Anderson
this is a good idea, maybe buy them a gift of alcohol to show ur sorry
Brody Rivera
I’ve apologized profusely but yes I will do my best to make it right. I love these two people to death and I’ve known them for so much of my life. I don’t get how I let my emotions control me like that
Carter Miller
find something to release stress. find somethinh that u guys used to enjoy doing together. something that will remind them why their your friends _nut before tho, so ur chill_
Joshua Rivera
I don’t know what to do to release stress. I had a rather rough childhood where I always bottled up how I felt. I guess that translated to who I am now
Jeremiah Richardson
shoot guns if you're an american, lift weights otherwise. Best ways to relieve stress
Brayden Turner
Yeah one of my friends wants me to start lifting with him. Maybe I should start doing that with him. I really do appreciate the advice from everyone in this thread
Jaxon Bennett
dont shoot guns. just go to the gym, youre helping yourself and the friendship
Kevin Torres
Could've been as simple as hangover, dehydration, not enough sleep, not enough food, etc. You threw a tantrum, plain and simple. I can catch myself with those irrationally angry feelings if I'm tired or hungry sometimes. Your brain just makes an incorrect connection from "I am feeling bad" to "someone else is MAKING me feel bad."
All you can do is humble yourself and apologize and explain you weren't really feeling like yourself, as you've already done. But you can't take back the things you said, and it's likely that your friends will be walking on eggshells around you for a while, in fear of another blow-up. Just be steady, don't let it happen again, and it will all blow over and be forgotten soon enough. Everyone can get a little snappy sometimes
Aaron Martin
This will happen again. DITCH THEM, they aint worth the headache in YOUR ONLY life. Source: My Life
I need to. I need to get back into shape. I’ve never woken up irrationally angry after a hangover before like this. At most just a simple couple hours of a anhedonia and some Netflix watching. I’ve been at my limit stress wise with shit going on in life. I’ve felt like I’ve wanted to throw up all day from stress. Maybe a rough night of sleep after drinking and the stress combined into me being a complete shithead. I’m really worried about seeing them anytime soon. Like there’s a cloud of shame hanging over me
Dominic Lee
So the last time I got this fucked I basically swore off contacting her about it. I decided three things immediately, and this was assuming the anger was uncharacteristic of me (I don't anger easily); 1) I was too angry to make a proper decision on anything. I'd be out to vindicate the anger because anger is as anger does. 2) If I DID do anything, it would be hurtful more than helpful. I would make a point at a cost to display what happened to make turnabout fair play. 3) I was going to do this regardless of the ramifications despite being aware of them.
So I decided to just sort of be mad, which ended up in a broken phone but that's life. I still haven't forgiven her, and I probably won't anytime soon, and I don't think I need to. I don't think I'm going to. She crossed the one, single boundary I have and that's dead people and she fucking went there. Threw me under the bus for my friend's suicide with 'if you were a better friend.' Killed the evening and frankly we haven't really had any social gatherings since just because it's easier for all our mutual friends to hit me up far separate from her and her boyfriend (and easier for her boyfriend to just sort of hum and haw about it). I don't really know where to go from here, because she doesn't deserve my forgiveness and I care very little to give it to her, but there's no construction in this. But if I offered forgiveness now, it would be hollow, a total gesture with no substance.
Anyway OP, my advice is to dwell on it less. Move forward. If it's a burnt bridge, it's burnt. You move on in life because many more will burn before you're dead. Pic related, my face when that fucking cunt had the balls to even say that anywhere within earshot of me
