My dad died in 2000 at the age of 49. His favorite videogame in the world was the original Castlevania; he never played much after the NES era.
Three years ago, my fiancee and I were discussing NES games, when she said that Castlevania was one of her most hated games ever. "The controls are clunky and the games are way too hard. People only like them because of muh nostalgia."
She had no idea that my father loved Castlevania so much, nor that it was by extension a huge source of sentimental value for me as well. She apologized profusely once she found out, but truth be told, I've never fully forgiven her. I know these feelings of mine be irrational, but every time I think of those moments where she bashed something my father held so close to his heart, I feel the same burning anger. It feels as though she's spitting on his memory, despite the fact that she's forced herself to become a Castlevania fan since then out of guilt for what she said.
How do I overcome this anger at my wife-to-be? What is the antidote for this poison?
All nes games were shit but atari may as well have been analog.
Andrew Cox
What a sensitive bitch lmao
William Perez
I don't think you understand how much I loved my father or how protective I am of him.
Owen Hughes
sorry dude but sounds like youre being a bit of an asshole here. she had no idea it was your dad's fav and has tried to make up for it, shes clearly remorseful. and shes also allowed her opinion on a game, whether your dad loved it or not. this is something that shouldnt have to be forgiven bc theres nothing to forgive.
Luke Collins
fpbp
Joseph Jackson
My gf doesnt like to read the books my dad reads. She doesnt like watching tennis or F1, or playing chess either. Should I dump her OP?
That's how dumb you sound
Caleb Morris
>"The controls are clunky and the games are way too hard. People only like them because of muh nostalgia."
She is right. Just because the game holds sentimental value for you doesn't change that fact.
Jose Richardson
Truth be told, I don't think my father would wish me to harbor this resentment either. He was a kind, forgiving man who always put others before himself. I dropped out of high school when I was 17 so that I could take care of him. By this point the cancer had progressed so much he was bedridden, but he was far more scared of me finishing high school than the cancer that was killing him long before his time. He was one of the best men I've ever known.
Blake Rogers
*not finishing high school
Jason Wright
You're being far too sensitive and acting like she's making fun of your dead father. You're acting like a child. "I hate you because you don't like this game that reminds me of my dad"
So she doesn't get the appeal, thats no reason to throw an autistic fit
Oooookay... Number one, you're a nutterbutter. What she did was the equivalent of turning around in bed while sleeping and accidentally hitting you with her arm. It was completely unintentional, she would never do it on purpose, and she feels remorse even for accidentally hurting you. There is absolutely no malice or ill intent on her side.
Your problems aren't from being "protective" of your father. Do you think he would give a shit that someone else on the planet didn't like his favorite game? No. He wouldn't.
You have taken care of your father so much that it has become an identity to you. That's why it's such a big deal. Her not liking the game is a personal attack on you, because you consider liking that game a part of your identity, a part of who you are. Hence, in your mind it is not possible to dislike the game without disliking you. At a rational level, this is obviously bullshit, but identities aren't rational. They just are.
So, if you want to solve this, you have to come to terms with who you want to be. Your father doesn't need you to take care of him anymore. In fact, if he was a great father, he wouldn't want you to take care of him. He'd want you to go on with your life and be happy, to finish up school and have your own future. He'd want you to move on.
In short, stop being his caretaker. Let him go. Stop clinging to the past.
Good luck user; I know what it's like to lose a father that's also your role model.
Daniel Evans
One day I had asked my father to rent a particular game, now you have to understand that parents aren't always up and up on that thing. But he got it right, and I flew into his arms to give him a hug because he went and did it. That guy. I don't get mad when people insult it though. Nor do I get mad when people insult the first game my brothers and I really worked together to beat and progress in.
And the SNES, it was-- nah, still is!!-- the family console. We bond over that shit. My brothers and I could likely spend a whole weekend just playing SNES classics for hours and we'd still agree to come back and do it next weekend.
But look, it's a game. The controls are kind of clunky in that NES way and it absolutely intends for you to 'coin sink' it where you just keep losing til you don't, basically. Even though I love the style, I recognize its flaws and limitation. She, like everyone who insults the SNES to me despite it being so rooted in our family that my mother is super fond of it, meant absolutely nothing toward your sentiment or any meaning it holds whatsoever.
To note that it's clunky and relies on a difficulty that alleviates with memorization isn't an insult-- in 2019, it's just patent fact. And the sentiment might be a perfect excuse to try it with her.
Xavier Reyes
I think the most important thing to realize is that if your father heard her talking shit on Castlevania, he wouldn't get upset and he wouldn't throw a tantrum. In fact, within seconds he would have moved on entirely. Why? Because you father realized that a video game is just a fucking video game. Why can't you?
Henry Brooks
My father died at 44 in 2008. Rome: Total War was his favourite game. The diplomacy system is completely broken and the AI is absolutely retarded. The enemy generals regularly ride in front of their troops and charge straight into a phalax.
