How the fuck do I avoid running into this pic-related conversation again? I remember having this exact talk with the last dumbass I dated and it was annoying and it sucked, and this excuse is total bullshit. Ugggh I just don’t want to run into this bullshit ever again I’m so pissed. Hell, what are some ques a girl should pick up on that suggest a guy is unsure of his feelings and will probably not want anything long-term?
How the fuck do I avoid running into this pic-related conversation again...
Jaxson Johnson
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Daniel Thomas
Just be straight-up after a few weeks. Cues are a dangerous game, but if he's not making an effort to plan dates, if his attention wanders a bunch when you're together, or things like that, he's probably not that into you. They use excuses because they think it's nicer than saying flat-out "Now that I know you better, you really don't interest me at all. Good luck."
Logan Long
Friends first method. If he is not willing to be around you just for your company then that means he only wants sex. I was friends with my girlfriend for 4 months before we started dating.
Nathan Sanders
Thing is, the last guy I was with was really good at making it seem like he was serious about me and he was initially enthusiastic. I don’t think he was manipulating me, I think a lot of what he said came from a place of that “honeymoon” phase or that initial infatuation phase, and because infatuation wears off after a while, he became incredibly anxious of what the two of us had. I say this because towards the end of things he became real nervous and shit about where things were headed. He’d go off about how I was asking for too much and how I was setting too many expectations for him when I really wasn’t doing either of those two things. I really do believe he lost interest in me and just didn’t want to admit it. Fucking sucks that I’ll never get an apology out of him.
Nicholas Jones
sometimes things don't work out, it's impossible to avoid that
Robert Morgan
Its not about other guys, its about you. Sure, you might get burned once or twice, but you gotta realizewhat about you attracts shitty men or what you actually want in a man.
Noah Nguyen
this
girls like a guy who is a bit aloof or busy but dont confuse it with actual affection if he doesnt laugh at your jokes
Charles Diaz
>a guy is unsure of his feelings and will probably not want anything long-term?
If you want to avoid a guy making this lie, well then, the FIRST STEP is to stop believing it.
You're asking us how to avoid a guy who feels that, but he doesn't feel that, he just doesn't like you.
It's like asking how to avoid guys who say they love the feeling of drowning in pools.
You know? It's just a lie
Anyway to find a good man, you need to first be a good person. A common mistake people make, when they find the wrong person over and over again, is that they continue to blame the other person. At some point, you have to realize the problem is within yourself and you need to improve. Good attracts good. So make yourself something good.
I always point to virtue at the first start
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Alexander Hughes
Don't give it up quickly and be direct. I flat-out asked a guy after about 9 dates if he wanted to be official, he tried to warp it into a "don't like labels" convo and I just never spoke to him again. Then met my bf a few dudes later, was fine committing to me and waiting because he actually liked me. Just basically paying attention to chemistry and learning what warning signs are of a flakey or emotionally unavailable guy. Looking back I was very dense, overlooking a lot of red flags in guys because they were cute or THERE or sunk cost, you know? It's ok to say "sorry I'm looking for something more serious" and move on. Don't be like my buddy that got strung along by a girl by a year and finally got the bf label just to be dumped for her ex she promptly married (made him soooo butthurt he still hasn't recovered). Don't be anything except #1
Jace Kelly
I’ll put it this way, if he is into you he won’t say those words. I’ve never met a guy who said he wanted to avoid a a new relationship with a girl he likes because he just got out of one. If he likes you he will not make this excuse.
Landon Gutierrez
If you constantly get short-termed it's probably because you come off as a slut. Guys who want long term are usually fairly open about it, and are almost always interested in discussing such topics.
As for you and your problem, you probably won't get by it if you keep doing what you're doing. Make friends, THEN start dating. Going for these guys who wanna date after a whopping fucking week...
Liam Howard
Yeah he pulled the whole “I don’t like labels thing” on me too goddamn. Why are so many guys like this?
Hudson Adams
Because you keep rushing in to date them after a record what? Care to fill in the blanks for me? How long do you know these guys before you decide to date them?
Luis Brown
I wouldn’t say it’s that. I’ve only slept with two people ever. I’m weird about having sex with people right away too.
Levi Perez
I think it really goes across both genders. I've been fucked around with by men and women alike, but I get how you feel. I hope that you have better luck soon dating and you find somebody you click with that doesn't fuck you around. I swear it's mostly luck, felt like I was searching for a ruby in a pile of rocks at one point but that's just cynicism
Bentley Walker
Because they don't want the baggage of being in a relationship with you. Probably has more to do with them and their own insecurities
Justin Evans
Trying to figure this out because I know YOU wouldn't say you're coming off as a slut, fuck, even sluts won't admit they're sluts anymore.
What I'm SAYING is that your modus operandi is bringing the slut image forward, and because now you reveal you're tight in the legs, I can guess these guys get disappointed because you come on easy, but aren't in reality.
That's my guess.
What's your average time wait before you date?
Xavier Peterson
I kind of don’t want to fill in the blanks so I’ll just admit things do start fast when I date someone and I guess you could say I am the impulsive type and the guys I date have a tendency to be the same way. The only thing I find helps control this behavior is taking stimulant medication, which not only keeps my impulsiveness under control, but also helps me think rationally and accept criticism as well. (I’m on them rn which is why I’m willing to admit I’m probably part of the problem as well). Anyway, that medication only helps to extent, and even while on it, I still give into people’s approvalquite easily.
So like even if I am recognizing the problem while reading this thread and I feel like I won’t make the same mistake again, I also don’t recognize when I’m making that same mistake at the same time.
Elijah Anderson
Wish the girl I met was more impulsive. She's too sensible to get in to anything with me right now... it's pretty painful. I don't know though, I think it's kind of why I like her. What a conundrum.
Ian Johnson
Like at least 2-3 dates in, but that’s not relevant here because this post isn’t about the other guy I’ve slept with, but one guy in particular (I’ve slept with only 2 people in my life) but yeah there’s only one guy that comes to mind regarding this issue, and so of course, I don’t want to run into this “type of guy” again
Aaron Anderson
If you're the one doing the dumping. Just say it's not working out.
The older you get the easier it is to be blunt and straight to the point
Julian Morris
Sounds like I should be more like her. She's probably been through the same shit I have and most likely doesn't want to go through it again. But idk, what's the story with you and her?
Hudson Wood
I was constantly told that the second a girl thinks she got me she'll get bored of me and see me as less attractive. And it seemed true for the few relationships I had.
Ian Edwards
This most obvious cue comes in the form of words.
"I am unwilling to commit to anything other than [blank]."
Try asking them what they want. You'd be amazed that, on occasion, some of them tell you the truth. Works the same in reverse.
Dylan Harris
So you'll rather be a retard and never commit. Wew