As a heterosexual male, I have always felt not very in tune with sexuality when it comes to women. Example, I feel that showing sexuality towards a woman is predatory in nature. I have no desire to be a predator to anyone. However, I love to admire women. I think many women are very pretty in their own way but I could never ever tell any woman that. I fear being a creep. I have no bad intentions and I would never deliberately creep a woman out but I feel like there is no way to express male sexuality to a female and have it not be weird. Why does it always feel weird for me?
What am I not getting about sexuality or attraction? I actually don't think a woman has ever been attracted to me. I don't think I am goblin tier ugly but I am average. Maybe even below I guess. However, I don't really talk to women on a personal or intimate level.
Being creepy is mostly about being dishonest. Feeling physical attraction to someone and pretending to be their platonic friend is creepy. Being sexually forward is just a dude being a dude. Just learn how to ease into it. Talking about dicks or masturbation (in a third person objective way) is more acceptable than talking about you having sex with her, but it primes her for that sort of conversation. You escalate the sexual nature of your relationship gradually.
Grayson Lopez
>it primes her for that sort of conversation Isn’t any form of social tact just a variation of manipulation? Being creepy is about being dishonest, you’re not wrong. But being blunt and honest can also be creepy. (Hello, succulent tits you have there!). Maybe it’s about intent? Restraint? Idk it’s hard to draw a line exactly, even though pointing out creepiness is obvious.
Just b urself (if you like her, show her, if she don’t like u back then back off bru)
Cameron Morgan
Being creepy is more about being ugly
Grayson Johnson
Deep down when i want to do this it's because i feel marking territory like by stating that i only fap to her exclusively would mean that she does the same.
Mostly curiosty and jealousy gets me.
Wyatt Hernandez
>I feel that showing sexuality towards a woman is predatory in nature. And they love it. That's why they cheat, manipulate, lie, obfuscate, and are mentally inferior in the first place. They're prey to be taken.
there is creepiness and creepiness just to be creepy.
ofc it's yours to decide.
yikes creppy like incest.
just the worst that came to mind.
Cameron Baker
Maybe I overdid it a little bit, but youget what I'm saying don't you? Every woman wants to be loved and desired.
Mason Young
Cannibals are likes Zombies and Vampires, why is it that special ?
just hate the way you're using that word for nothing.
John Price
Creepiness is real ...But some hot people can get away with it. Honest ugly dude = win, hardmode tho creepy hot dude = win, chance to fuck you up tho
best bet = work out and dont be creepy
sexuality is fine. sex is not. learn to flirt without sounding like a creep. subtlety is a must
James Morgan
I get you man. Sorry, I was being edgy and jaded and I went a bit overboard with the lecterposting. I’m in the midst of quitting smoking and I’m a fucking disgusting sourpatch atm
Predator/Prey is some real existential shit, was mostly playing on the edginess of the archetypal “hunter becomes the hunted” zombies and vampires also prey on humans but they are not human so it doesn’t make as much sense in context.
Luke White
OP here,
so what would be the proper way to tell a woman that you like her BUT not in a friends kind of way? My main issue I think is that women have not liked me back. I always feel that women don't like me as much as I like them. I feel like a ant in the eyes of most women. It would seem as if they are not thinking of me as much as I think of them. Which I can't change, I know that.
It sounds like you're humble by nature but further humbled by a world that's A) painting guys as very rapey for some reason B) being very rapey as guys for some reason and C) being aggressively sexual overall while turning around and saying it's wrong. For some reason.
What I would do is not think of things as wrong or right and find a woman who likes your type of lovin'.
Matthew Rivera
You want to admire them for qualities, not for being a woman. I admire my one friend because she's achieved a great deal with her life, A) without needing a man to do it and B) without blaming her past for any of her shortcomings.
Like I said, I think you should focus on finding someone who makes this less about 'proper ways' and all this conduct, but someone with whom it all feels a little more... eh, natural, as opposed to forced-- you know, thinking less of right ways and times and more thinking of, it's what I feel and want to express to this person.
>I feel like an ant in the eyes of most women. Actually, again, it kind of sounds like you feel like an ant in your own eyes. A lot of the problem seems that you're not willing to put your value down as much more than an ant.
It's not that you need to value yourself the Chad Thundercock of every room you're in (although feel free to try), it's just that you have to have enough of a spine that people know you'll say, "No. I'm done with this shit."
James Evans
I understand what you typed but I have no idea how I would apply that? To me confidence seems so alien. In my own mind I never understood how I can think I am better than anyone. I would almost never say or even think " I am better than you" in almost any situation. Does that mean my spine is weak? I have always had a hard time believing in myself mostly because I have felt that I always let myself down. I want to be able to develop self confidence but I have no idea how.
Jace Bennett
I think, if you are as shy as I am, you have the tactfulness part under wraps.
What you need to focus on, next time you are with a girl you like, is to be really courageous. It will be almost impossible to overcome but if you focus on it you can beat it. Objectively focus on the fear (it is not a typical kind of fear; but all fear is fundamentally crippling regardless), you CAN have confidence/mojo/etc.
You gain momentum from this sort of thing, and the first time you face that feeling and overcome it will be the hardest (which is a great thing, since it’ll only get easier from there)
You’re a sweet dude OP I hope you find love and become a good man for your love.
John Powell
*also I have yet to fully overcome that shyness so I have no right to offer any advice regarding beating it, but I know it just as well as you do, so my input at least is contextually relevant.
Michael Fisher
Society tells men that our sexuality is disgusting and creepy to women, which is confusing for young men. Like women, the truth is actually a lot more subtle. You can show sexual interest and intent, but it has to be in the "right way". I'm pretty autistic myself, I don't know what the "right way" is to showing interest, but you're allowed to make mistakes. As long as you have good intentions you never have to be ashamed for demonstrating interest, and being rejected doesn't mean you're a creep. Just learn from your mistakes.
