Hey, I can't give alot of details or say a whole lot as it'd risk what I'm about to do. But I'm about to rescue my girlfriend from a cult that she grew up in her whole life. I didn't grow up there personally. She's above the age of 18.
My question is, how am I going to help her adjust to life outside the cult and not want to go back? She doesn't have a driver's license or know her SS number. She doesn't have a high school education. She has never been allowed to make her own decisions and had to ask permission to go anywhere despite being an adult. She pretty much was taught to behave like a girl in Saudi Arabia. Most of her immediate family lives in the cult. She has some uncles who aren't.
Any tips to help her cope and adjust? She's going to be living with me and I'm preparing for alot of crying. I hope she just doesn't chicken out when I come to pick her up.
I'm not sure either what we'll do about getting her health insurance without any identification. There has to be ways to find out what her SS number is with no other identification? I don't think the cult will tell her her SS number. Hopefully they do.
Jordan Rogers
what cult it is?
Jaxon Morris
nunya
Charles Smith
Anything that makes us decadent. Star bucks, McDonald's Jow Forums, Vicodin.
Luke Carter
So much potential for you to be wrong about this. Even if you are technically right, being legally wrong about this will cost your entire life. If your "girlfriend" accepts your sociological white-knighting, she is your job for the rest of your life, and you basically just married her because she's incapable of knowing anything else.
Hmm. Would this be your motivation for white-knighting?
You sound like a worse cult-leader than the one she has, considering that her existing cult-leader feeds her enough to interest you.
Call the fucking FBI. Don't call Jow Forums you fucking nitwit.
Elijah Walker
Can't you two take this up with police, and probably more prominently lawyers???
Dominic Johnson
what are you talking about. besides here becoming a big responsibility. You saying I should just leave her there and say good luck?
Chase Bennett
>You saying I should just leave her there and say good luck?
I'm saying you cannot unilaterally decide that she is in a cult, much less decide that she needs rescuing.
Call the fucking FBI. Last answer I'm giving you, because now I think you're more interested in poaching a dependent vagina than you are in rescuing anyone.
Connor Watson
I think he's got a different plan entirely, Anonymous...
You literally know shit about how we met or what's going on. But i'll keep in mind what you mean about authorities. We'll probably stop in the police station after leaving.
Logan Myers
Fuck propaganda and fuck manipulation. >She has never been allowed to make her own decisions and had to ask permission to go anywhere despite being an adult. She pretty much was taught to behave like a girl in Saudi Arabia. I hate our system in western society more than you can imagine, and this shit seems worse. Between the totalitarianism of a cult and the nihilism of western culture, I’d choose the one that allows freedom any day. Freedom to choose hell, or to choose to avoid hell. Not this whack cult psycho narcissist bullshit.
Rescue this girl and bring her to light, so that she has freedom, don’t keep her captive
Thomas Hughes
And her ID? Social security? Birth certificate?
You dumb son of a bitch, get your ass to a lawyer before her parents get one on your ass for fucking kidnapping. How the fuck you ever thought you were smart enough for this idea... Go to the police. Go to the hospital. Your dentist. Your doctor. Talk to literally anyone else but Jow Forums, fucksakes, about how to reintegrate someone from a cult into society, assuming they have virtually nothing both clothes on their back. Maybe they know their birthday. I hope.
Bentley Johnson
How would it be kidnapping if she is over 18?
Ethan Young
I sure the fuck hope you have a better fucking defense than that in a court of goddamn law you dickless wonder I'm not razzing you, I'm telling you to get the fuck off Jow Forums and start ACTING like the adult you are desperately assuring a bunch of fucking strangers on Jow Forums that you so apparently are.
Get the fuck out. Go to every legal body you can think of with these questions. Go to your library for books. Go to a law school. Fuck, ask your parents, but please do not come to Jow Forums as if that is anything but one of the least constructive things you could possibly do.
Samuel Morales
Get her some therapy.
Carter Stewart
Yeah I'll probably get in contact with a lawyer and medical help professionals before getting her.
Jackson Morris
What do you call it when a man snatches a woman off the street and locks her in his basement, doofus? The "kid" part doesn't mean it only applies to children
Austin Peterson
best case scenario they evade paying their taxes and cannot l2 due process.
still extremely solid advice; do your homework OP. also note that these people might be fucked in the head and do things “the old fashioned way”, with no regard for due process, so be careful when dealing with bumpkins and best of luck helping this girl become an adult in a crazy manipulative world.
Nolan Davis
if she wants to go it’s consensual and not kidnapping you’re retarded
Jonathan Long
I say that cause she's consenting to me picking her up so if that's so how could they have any legitimate claims?
If she were 16 it would be a whole other story.
Noah Lopez
That guy is still right as any anecdote comes down to “he said she said”; regardless it is probably wise to err on the side of caution and look into the logistics of any legal issues that might arise, covering extra bases takes time, but here it might be worth the take it takes to cover a few extra bases.
Grayson Peterson
>best case Why would anything nice ever happen?
Nolan Anderson
tld;r
>decides girlfriend is in a cult >decides to "rescue" her >pwned in court for [insert reason] >dont care, believes can sell "love" as legitimate motivation for stupid egocentricity >says "probably" way too much to have certainty about the life of another
Miss anything?
Noah Powell
Fine, then, don't get wise and watch as her parents effortlessly deliver a warrant for her bringing back as a dependent or something equally legally dubious but espoused by a lawyer.
You're out of your depth. Stop thinking like this and GET FUCKING HUMBLE ABOUT THIS JESUS CHRIST WHY IS YOUR HEAD SO FUCKING BIG ABOUT THIS
YOU DO NOT HAVE NEARLY AS MUCH CONTROL OVER SHIT AS YOU THINK
Hunter Jackson
Just so you know OP didn't say that someone else did. OP said I'll make sure to see a lawyer prior.
Angel Garcia
You'll also want to talk to a registry or something similar to discuss process for getting someone an, I'm guessing, essentially fresh set of identification and to get them into the system (I'm guessing they're not a birth registered in the system). You'll want the lawyer because it's your prerogative to protect her rights (which she doesn't know she needs protected as such) and that way you have a response for the warrant the cops come with. I'd suggest taking her into a hospital. I don't mean to add insult to injury but this bitch is probably going to need eighteen years of backed up vaccinations unless her parents are part of an absurdly responsible cult. You may want to preemptively ask a hospital or your doctor about what you're going to have to do to get her in the health system and get her inoculated ASAP. I would consider looking up education programs. You don't want a functional dependent these days... dysfunctional ones tend to have less raw resource demand, but someone functional is going to have a lot of time in a day that they won't be happy frittering away on block toys or the same three books. You'll want to know what your options are for getting her education.
This isn't a small fucking operation. You're basically adopting a child from the aether, one who hasn't been part of any system; part of your responsibility as her henceforth guardian is going to be integrating her peacefully and without a mountain of stress that overwhelms her, while making sure as much overhead work is done preemptively because you're apparently going to be socially integrating her as well. Then you two gotta figure out how she's going to make money.
I don't think it would be wise to expect, or accept even, the system doing the brunt of the work. It's not typically super great for people like that.
Owen Ramirez
Ok let me describe how she lives and you can decide if it's a cult.
Works plus 40 hours a week and doesn't get paid. Commune decides what to buy her. They often own hardly anything that's not practical.
Can't leave the commune unless the leader says so. She has to ask permission to go to town and can be told no. They live in the middle of no where. Nearest town is like 20 miles away. If she is allowed to leave the commune she has to go with another member. A guy specifically as women aren't allowed to learn how to drive.
leadership tells you if you can get married. Although luckily they don't tell you to marry someone specifically. They just approve or dissaprove for what ever arbitary reasons.
Leadership regulates everything your allowed to do in your free time and if you get any. Everything from banning musical instruments, tv, to bikes.
Kevin Collins
We didn't but at a glance OP has missed pretty much the entire fucking forest for a tree named "BONER".
Ryan Watson
You're such a cunt lol. You don't know anything.
Alexander Allen
just because what he’s doing isn’t gay, doesn’t mean it isn’t right.
Voluntary communes imho are based and redpilled; this shit sounds awfully tyrannical.
Oliver Powell
My sole suggestion is that OP hasn't thought this through for shit and is going to get fucking rekt by his tremendous lack of foresight and absurd arrogance regarding something that can go south in so, so many ways.
It's very much the kind of plan I'd expect to involve, specifically, a woman being pursued by a man.
Tyler Phillips
Assuming this is OP, you just described every country with passport rules and you've transliterated the most liberal of today's governments into a "cult."
I enjoy bait like this, and hope you aren't literally hoping to "rescue" some poor dependent vag in order to replicate Samwell's wildling wife in GoT. If you are, then I'd love to introduce you to a nailbat.
Brandon Evans
Is this bait? We met as I'm an ex member you asshole.
Insults insinuate that your beliefs don't hold up to scrutiny.
Let me guess; as a child you were afraid of dogs but thought it was the dogs' fault?
Matthew Jackson
hey, the Samwell part was pretty funny though.
Andrew Brooks
OP seems defensive due to receiving loads of skeptical replies imo his heart is in a good place!!
Zachary Campbell
if she's over the age of 18, isn't she allowed to legally leave? Don't understand what all these posters are saying about 'kidnapping' if an adult is leaving a location of their own volition.
>taught to behave like a girl in saudi arabia is this just an analogy, or is this a reference to the cult being islamic?
Caleb Parker
what? never heard of it
Carter Anderson
Thanks for the advice user. It's a tough road ahead but I'm sure we can surmount it.
Landon Lee
None ya business lolololol
I'd tell you except I don't want them potentially catching wind, as unlikely as that'd be as I doubt they read Jow Forums, and making us have to call the cops to pick her up.
Jordan Morales
Maybe you should have the cops do it. Then they're the kidnapper and not you. This handles 99% of the valuable objections you've ignored up to this point.
Fucking moron. Too bad for her she couldn't attract a smarter white knight.
Dominic Morris
>I doubt they read Jow Forums
FYI, stupid assumption. Abbreviate to "stupid ass" at your leisure.
Samuel Allen
>girl listen you'd get more help if you just admitted you're talking about Etika
Lincoln Cook
dude don't get so hostile, these guys are trying to do you a favor, you're clearly too blinded by pussy to think clearly. This girl has spent her entire childhood in a cult, been brainwashed by these people in all likelihood, if she escapes with you and they somehow find a way to get in contact with her what's to say they won't use the mental power they have over her to convince her to come back and then testify against you claiming you forced her to go with you? It'd be their word against yours at that point and you could get seriously legally fucked.This is likely a seriously psychologically fucked up chick who probably needs years of therapy and counseling much less some stupid white knight. Contact lawyers and law enforcement before you try to have any further contact with this girl, in any case this is probably not going to turn out in your favor, I just hope that in the event it doesn't end up in your favor that it only involves her leaving your ass and not you getting arrested for kidnapping.
Parker Young
that's what I'm confused about and what OP is being retarded about 1. if she can't leave and is literally being held against her will, then OP doesn't need to get involved at all, this is a matter of law enforcement since it's actual false imprisonment, he should call the ATF, FBI, any other alphabet soup agency and get them to handle the situation and hope it doesn't turn into another Waco.
2. If it's voluntary and she can leave any time then she's just being a stupid cunt wanting a white knight to sweep her off her feet and he's putting himself in potential legal jeopardy, she doesn't have a drivers license or social security so how can he prove she's actually 18 and that he won't be kidnapping a minor if she runs into his possession or worse comes and gets her from the cult?
Josiah Garcia
This sounds like any hyper conservative middle eastern government all of which happen to be recognized by even most liberal democracies as legitimate countries. If they were marrying children off to adult men or she had tried to leave before and was physically forced to stay then you'd have a leg to stand on but as it stands from even your biased explanation it's just a weird unorthodox group of isolationists but hardly anything illegal. You're just deciding that because you don't agree with that style of life that she's in need of rescuing and that you're the answer to all her problems, that's self centered and egotistical to say the least.
Robert Ward
She litterally asked me to pick her up.
Matthew Davis
>She litterally asked me to pick her up.
This is the only response you (presumed OP) offer after a wall of advice regarding the legal quandary in which you find youself?
I think an earlier user was right in that you're master-baiting. The only people this stupid vote Democrat.
Hunter Powell
By earlier user you mean you right?
I know what you're saying about potential legal trouble. I'll make sure to contact a lawyer prior to going.
Camden Ramirez
>By earlier user you mean you right?
I have some earlier posts here, yes, but no, I am not interested in self-citation and don't quite get off on that. I only quote myself to the truly helpless, and assuming you are the OP, you're not quite there yet, though you're getting close. Really close.
At least you didn't say "probably" this time.
David Reed
I'll also make sure to stop at a police station with her and let them know in advance to her commune potentially calling the cops.