I've been working for maybe 9 months. Fresh out of college. Computer science. Making lots of money and I have about $80,000 in my savings right now. Problem is, I live with my parents, I barely drive(i take the metro to work), I have my license though. I am in LA though which probably has some of the worst traffic out there. And I dont feel "mature" enough to make the steps of independence to go out there and get my own car, get my own place, move in with my girlfriend, maybe get a little bit more in shape. I'm probably autistic or something but maybe it's because I feel too "settled in" where the idea of changing something, even for the better, feels "scary"? or something? Sometimes I'd look back at a weekend and realize I just stayed home and played games and bought some computer parts or worked on some huge personal project that no one cares for(but looks fucking good on a resume I guess, I'm like an autistic god at my work).
tldr: Neet-minded, living with my parents and settled into immediate comfort, terrible sense of delayed gratification, making chad bux and can't seem to discipline myself to move out despite having the financial security to do so.
If you live on your own you are largely going to do the same shit that you did when your mom was cleaning up after you, except you'll do a bit more cleaning. Your life won't be as different as you think. At least, that's how it was for me, but I was scared too. I live alone and have never had anyone special in my life though, so YMMV.
Not in LA, but in parts of the country, 80 grand can buy you an entire single-family house with a lawn.
Blake Reyes
Better off not living alone in LA. Either find a roommate or move to another state. I would suggest saving as much as you can before doing either.
Think you guys missed the part when I said "move in with my girlfriend"
Logan Brown
how old are you
Cameron Kelly
24
Benjamin Powell
if you are worried about living with your girlfriend then don't live with her. Moving out from your parent's home is one thing, but moving in with someone his a huge step in the relationship you shouldn't take if you aren't comfortable.
Dominic Miller
We both know. The first step is me moving out. She has stuff to do before she moves in and it would happen maybe 7 months after I have completed moving out.
Noah Butler
>move in with my girlfriend >richfag OP Just start buying a house you two. The only problem is that you're in fucking L.A. so you're good on that public transport thing; however it is still crucial to keep a driving record given the assfucking car insurance. Also, you're becoming nervous since it is the first time you're truly becoming independent. This is temporal but it will fade away quicker if you and your gf have a secured home, job and savings so you two can live comfortably and well-off.
As well don't be stupid and don't get in debt or some shit.
Hunter Nelson
why dont you have a bunch of kids yet? Your really just an autistic tranny with daddy issues.
Nolan Hall
The fuck is having kids supposed to do to this situation
Christian Brown
Source?
Jayden Cruz
ask your parents for advice and tell them just like you told us
Grayson Walker
OP here. I wanted to focus more on my unassistedly moving out due to another variable. My parents are both pretty fucking abusive and my mom especially has had violent outbursts in response to her empty nest syndrome(after hearing about me trying to move out last time). Realistically though, she has no power over me but I won't be getting much help there. If any of them got insight on how much money I have they would immediately try to "charge" me for "rent"
