>girl denied me sex last two times we saw each other >dating about a month and had sex early on >been seeing each other about twice a week >have usually had 1-2 dates planned and lined up in advance >always really enthusiastic to meet up >rarely chit chat over text message
first time >comes to my house for dinner >spendingthenight.jpg >9:30 lets go to bed, she puts in her retainer >wtf >rock hard tell her I'm horny and caress her >doesn't reciprocate at all >she has to get up super fucking early to beat traffic >why'd you even spend the night.jpg
second time >at her house hanging out >planned on spending the night (said this morning after the last time) >she just curls up next to me and closes her eyes >once again doesn't reciprocate at all and seems surprised when I go to kiss her >both fully clothed and she's full on asleep >tell her I'm going home and she isn't really happy about this >gives me a really passionate kiss >don't have any plans lined up
What's going on here and how should I handle this? Kind of sucks to really feel like we are physically connecting and then go all week without sex. I'm pretty annoyed and it seems like a bad sign.
yeah you rushed the sex. Really sex is s pivotal moment in a relationship and going too fast and expecting a relation ship is like you guys skipped a step. In the end You two were horny but felt obligated to eachother.
Lucas Morales
>yeah you rushed the sex Third date? I agree to me that's early on, but seems like a relatively normal timeline in this day and age So are you saying that now she's trying to take it slow in hindsight?
Sex isn't everything to me, it's just strange to move backwards like this. I really like her and think she feels the same. I don't think we're seeing each other out of some obligation.
Zachary Hernandez
then it seems she likes your company but the sex may have not been good. she could have lost her sexual attraction for you and now she is trying to get it back by taking it slow again.
Ian Hall
>>girl denied me sex
You wrote a half page after those four words, which tells me you missed the point quite some time ago. You make me glad I don't date anymore; I'd hate to have to un-train the complexes left behind by partners like you.
Asher Roberts
Fuck this is accurate, but from what I read it's always kind of not great initially and was definitely getting better each subsequent time. Sexual attraction is way more than just sex isn't it? What should I do? I'm very inexperienced.
Can I ask word for word >why didn't you want to have sex last time? Or is that too forward?
What is this point which you didn't bother to articulate?
Austin Perez
>What is this point which you didn't bother to articulate? There is nothing to deny because you cannot be denied something you are not owed.
Oliver Perez
All week? Could she be on her period?
Noah Phillips
Please argue semantics in a different thread.
Maybe but wouldn't she say something? And she's on birth control so it would probably not be all week.
Brody Barnes
>Please argue semantics in a different thread.
Please stop claiming that you can be "denied" sex and using it as a launch-pad to justify being human trash. In this and all threads.
Leo Brooks
You are just projecting your own insecurity. I never claimed to be owed sex, you came to that yourself. I just want to know what's going on in my relationship and why things changed the last two times.
Asher Campbell
>I never claimed to be owed sex
What was that about semantics? You claimed to be denied it. Because "it" belonged to you.
I repeat my last assertion: you are human trash. Furthermore, I hope she has the good sense never to breed you.
Isaiah Martinez
>Please stop claiming that you can be "denied" sex and using it as a launch-pad to justify being human trash.
Roastie "Healthy at any size" cat lady detected.
Bentley Morris
Oh fuck off, go spread your bitter shit on reddit.
Jason Torres
Guys please just ignore her.
Can I ask her over tonight for dinner, I wrote this up after last night. Don't even want to fuck anymore cause I yanked it when I got home, but she won't know that and might think I'm desperate or pathetic. Feel like I might have been too cold leaving at night and I should have slept over. Really don't want to mess this up.
Hunter Fisher
Oh and should I totally leave it to her to initiate intimacy next? Like she can climb onto me if she really wants it, I'm not going to be grabby or anything next time.
Landon Cox
>why'dyouevenspendthenight.jpg
fixed
Christopher Ramirez
Dude not him but yeah when you complain about being denied something that implies it was expected.
Landon Morris
This. Boohoo, no sex for the last two dates? Cry me a river.
Look OP, all you have to do to solve this is to just ask her why like an adult. It could be a million different reasons, we're not going to know what Random Girl #674 is thinking or feeling. Be a man.
Brandon Allen
The thing is that even last night I didn't care that much but made a move because it's basically expected of me. Girls get super weirded out if you just cuddle with them and don't try for more. I know that from experience.
You all have your panties in a twist because I said denied. Obviously neither of us is obligated to do it, but from the past few times I was certainly expecting it.
You're right I will point blank ask why she wasn't into it.
Josiah Jenkins
imo she’s worried that all you care about in the relationship is sex. She’s your girlfriend, is it really so bad that she spends the night cuddled up to you without sex?
Carson Adams
>this day and age Yeah and a few weeks is about how long a relationship lasts in this day and age...
Why rush to sex if you want something long term? If it's to be long term, what's the damning problem?
Luis Reyes
> I was certainly expecting it Glad to see you get it finally.
Jonathan King
I hope it is this. It makes me insecure that she's not attracted and has nothing to do with abstaining. I went several months without cumming recently just cause. Also we go on actual dates. In fact the time we went to a really nice place she was all over me. Hmm.
And uh, is she my gf? I'm not dating anyone else and would be upset if I learned she was, but neither of us has put a label on it. I kind of figured to just wait and let her do that. We don't know each other's histories except a couple of comments. Basically I'm fine to do all the gf shit, texting to check in and what not, but I don't want to spook her and seem needy. Haven't been in a relationship since hs many years ago, so cut me some slack with the stupid questions and hangups.
