Femanon here, when asking a boy for coffee, what exact words should I say?

Definitely the day before. Some people can't drop things straight away to go meet up for coffee unless it is convenient

My only problem is that I want it to sound super casual and chill and asking the day before makes it sound like I’m planning it all in advance. Or am I over analyzing?

Overanalyzing

No, ask him the day of or he'll asume you like him, just don't be bummed if he says no because hes busy. A no in this case isn't a no, ask again in a week or two.

Wanna have sex... and coffee?

just say "wanna get a coffee some time?" I'd imagine most guys would be pretty happy that you made the first move like that

Tell him you'll only be at the coffee shop for the next 45 minutes. You'll get every other answer you need by the time 46 minutes have passed.

you can wait for someone to read your mind, or you can just go get what you want, and get them into bed 3 weeks sooner. Don't people usually hate it when women play mind games? why are you encouraging them? that crap is cancerous.

“You’re handsome/cute. You and me should go on a coffee date! Are you free sometime?”Get the fuck out of here. If’s 2019, for Christ’s sake.

maybe he is suggesting a friend, because he doesn't want to sound like he is volunteering. like, he is hoping you will go with him. seriously, no one suggests you do something without them. this is literally contrary to human behavior. unless he really hates hanging out with you, in which case, why would he hang out with you?

regardless, you like him, he is friendly with you. this sounds like a no-lose situation. if its just friends, then you just had coffee with a friend. if it is more than friends, bring a mint. coffee tastes bad, second hand

Well a no is a no if he doesn't suggest another time very soon.

This exactly.

Because you're retarded and don't understand what op is evening asking.

Neither do you. Bitches who don't read the thread, and look at that, my instinct was right because I have experience with this position.

The other posters don't seem to understand your position in this. You ask the day of as a last minute thing. If he is busy he'll make time for you. If not forget about him altogether even as a friend.

"hey girl with a penis, let's get coffee, NOW"
OR
you busy later works just fine

This one is unironicaly great. Flirty, fun and confident. FPBP.

Too try hard.

That sounds cringe-y.

SOUP NIGGA WANNA GET SOME HOT BITTER DRANK WIT ME?

>resorting to posting the current year

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>what exact words should I say?
What does this question mean? Did you really make it to adulthood without learning how to invite somebody to something?

.....or is this question asking for help manipulating him?

You want to know the exact words to say, to get the result you want. You're not asking him out, you're basically telling him, and there's only one right answer he can give you.

By advice to you is stop being a manipulative cunt trying to control everything. Just ask him, give him a fair and unpressured choice of saying yes or no to you, then happily accept any answer he says.

This is just like those betamale losers who try and trick girls into relationships with them by asking sneaky questions.

And my other advice is this because, sorry, no man on earth will have respect for you if you ask him out. He'll feel like you weren't a "catch" and he'll never feel the sense of primal security he needs. There's no way around this. There's a reason why men always ask women out, it's because it works, and the opposite doesn't. Do you honestly think this has never been tried before?

Either way, you're dumb for asking him out, and manipulative for the way you're doing it. Your relationship will fail until you can learn some maturity.

> no man on earth will have respect for you if you ask him out. He'll feel like you weren't a "catch" and he'll never feel the sense of primal security he needs
Bullshit. Being assertive is pretty attractive.

>Bullshit. Being assertive is pretty attractive
Says the guy who struggles with women.

I didn't say assertiveness. She can be assertive all day and night. You know? Because that's not what I said.

I said she shouldn't ASK HIM OUT. Instantly lose all respect, and blow chances with him for life. How can a guy respect you if you just throw yourself at him? He'll rather work for the prettier girl and feel satisfied at his accomplishment

>He'll rather work for the prettier girl and feel satisfied at his accomplishment

Most people on Jow Forums never ask girls out though.

>I said she shouldn't ASK HIM OUT.
That's how you're being assertive. You want something, you get it instead of waiting for it to happen.

>just throw yourself at him?
Asking people out is not throwing yourself at them. You have a desire to accomplish, the other person can help with that, why the fuck would you wait for them instead of just asking and seeing whether they can do the job or not.

Dont. Most attractive guys will think you look desperate by aking them out

>Most people on Jow Forums never ask girls out though.
Most people on Jow Forums are single.

>That's how you're being assertive.
Going to a job interview and threatening the boss with a gun is also assertive - doesn't get your he job.

That's a fallacy. Assertiveness has nothing to do with this, as I clearly said in my last post.

>Asking people out is not throwing yourself at them.
REALITY
DENIAL

let me warn you guys about girls that ask you out. you aren't the only guy she's doing this with, she has a cloud full of guys who she asks once then they are sitting there hoping she'll ask again. femanon asked me out and the whole time was on her phone, texting and smiling and only time she looked up was to tell me she's going to the ladies room and to ask if i would split the check.

"coffee, tea or me"

Fuck off retard, you dont speak for all men. The reasons men are usually the ones who ask the girl out is that we're more assertive and confident on average. Also, social standards. Not because "no man would respect a woman who did that". Get out of your head mate, not everybody thinks like you.

covfefe

You struggle with nuance, friend.

"Please go out with me" has nothing in common with "I want to do X, wanna join?"

what do you expect from a tripfag?
Just ignore him.

these two work just depends on how nerdy the guy looks

Cringe whiteknight virgin detected.

Girl, ask the guy out. Nothing is hotter than a girl that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to take it, even if that means breaking socially accapted habits based on male/female roles.

Just say this: "wanna drink some coffee"?

This has to be bait. Ppl like this can't actually exist.

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I had the exact experience lmao did these women form a club or something?

honestly? I'd probably keep it in mind that she might be a total slut. Else she wouldn't ask the guy out. What kind of girl does that anyways? Your stereotypical 'strong' girl who gets fucked by a different guy every week because she keeps talking to random strangers and asking them out..
I wouldn't trust this at all.

have sex

I would, but then I would definitely not consider her a possible long term mate
if she's that easily fuckable then there must be something wrong and I definitely wasn't the first one she threw herself at

Are you behind your computer alot?

I wanted to ask a boy for coffee. I literally just sent him this text:

"hey are you single and if so are you down for a coffee sometime?"

He said yes, we went on a coffee date, had fun. Grow some ovaries and stop overthinking shit.

"You want to get some coffee?"

BRILLIANT

"dick and coffee please, sir."

Seriously, the advice of "the guy should ask you" is bullshit. Just grow a pair and ask him. To say otherwise is to put you down and make you lesser than someone.
If you get rejected, fine. Rejection is natural, there are times where you will get rejected, but its a learning experience.

There is no exact guide to dating. All there is to it is growing up, putting yourself out there, and asking them yourself.

Also, if you get a friend to ask him for you, you don't deserve a date.

People like you are making things unnecessarily difficult for guys.

>he’s telling me I’m not a friend and he never wants to hang out with me so I’m worried.

Obviously I don't know him and I wasn't there but I'm almost 100% certain you're over analysing this. Guys don't usually 'hint' like that.

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Ask him in the evening then.

No need to spin your words into poetry when talking with guys. Its best to say things clearly. "Wanna get coffee sometime?" is enough.

Buy coffee for yourself.
Go to him.
"Got this coffee but can't finish it, want some? it's really good"
or
"Got this coffee but forgot already had one an hour ago. Could you take it off my hands? Makes me feel like a junkie..."
Insta-coffe-date.

Stop with the bait.

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want to get coffee

what is all this advanced trash, just ask him if he wants to get a coffee

“Let’s grab some coffee, user.”
> The guy should ask
As a card-carrying member of the cis straight masculine gender from birth, with a strong love of all that is normative, I have never had a problem being asked out by a woman, and it cam certainly lead to nice things. It totally depends on the couple and their feelings about gender roles, but lots of guys are looking for a woman with enough nerve to initiate things.