Girlfriend is attractive, she’s going to the clubs with her best friend (chick), two guys she knows and 8 other guys she doesn’t know. She’s taking mdma as well.
I told her to be safe but honestly I don’t feel comfortable about the situation, my gut feeling says she can’t be doing this but I don’t know if I should just trust her... maybe I’m overreacting?
Any advice on what to do?
Trust your gut, leave the hoe
Don't be such a self hating pussy
Dump that fucking thot
>doesn't talk to her about it
>says "be safe"
You sound like a pussy parent in this scenario. Why isn't there communication? Why aren't you telling her how you feel? You're coming across as an apathetic pushover. I wouldn't want a relationship like that. I would talk to her honestly about it asap, and if she won't or that doesn't work, end the relationship knowing you both failed, and learn from this experience.
>I told her to be safe
Sorry but lmao. Are you here dad
Anyway, you have the classical case of fear. Fear that you will lose her or you’ll be betrayed.
Be fearless. She cheats then she cheats. You can’t control it or heck you may not even know.
Be observant, unless she’s a high level sociopath she won’t be able to hide the fact that she cheated on you.
You're actually advising this guy to stay in this obviously toxic relationship?
Why wouldn't you be going with her? Either way, its best not to get too attached to women. This situation could be fine, but why would i give this girl the benefit of the doubt? There seem to be a lot of influences that will drive her to be unfaithful. The other side of that is maintaining trust, but this girl doesnt sound very mature or insightful at all
Look, this is a matter of insecurity on his part.
He doesn’t have agency over her, she doesn’t seem to have a history of cheating, so statistically he has no reason to doubt her.
Personally I would go to the party with the girl. Op didn’t explain why he didn’t come with her
>She’s taking mdma as well.
That's honestly really risky. Personally I wouldn't date anybody who does drugs and probably would break up with her after that, but if I didn't care I'd probably just tell her that I'm not comfortable with what she's doing, but she's free to do what she wants and if she feels she's safe enough to go then go (then dump her).
Why the fuck did you not go with her
I mean MDMA with your girl in the club, sounds like a blast
Also why the fuck would she not want him to come with her? That's why I think they should break up. I would never want to try MDMA without being around my SO.
You’re being stupid user. Your gut feeling is there for a reason. As someone who got caught in the same loop of “no im just being paranoid and overthinking” rather than listen to my gut, please listen to your fucking gut man.
Look at the facts.
>Your gf is going to a club
which is a sex scene, doesn’t matter what she says that’s what it is.
>She’s taking mdma
Idk if you’ve ever rolled but simple shit like touches from another person feel amazing, fucking a chick who’s rolling is embarrassingly easy
>she’s going with 8 guys
Even if there’s plenty of puss in there they will try to fuck her when she’s drunk and rolling her face off
This isn’t gonna be easy but you need to just shoot her a text, keep it simple and just say things aren’t working out or that circumstances have arised and you need to focus on yourself, keep it vague. Dump her and then block her on everything. It’s both the hardest and easiest way, the best way for you.
It’s either you dump her or you become a fucking cuck. Any man with self respect shouldn’t even need to think about this.
Where is it stated? Given that OP is here and sounds like an insecure fuck, I doubt he'd go in the first place.
HAHAHAHA shes getting drilled lad you fucking ape why'd you let it happen?
>where is it stated
You’re so fucking stupid it’s actually sad. He didn’t suggest OP wrote “and she told me not to come” but just in the fact that he wasn’t invited to go with her while she 1.) goes to what’s essentially a sex bar 2.) takes a drug that decreases inhibitions, she’ll also probably have a drink 3.) hangs out with 8 random guys who will no doubt try to fuck her if she’s as attractive as OP says
That’s not being insecure you absolute beta soicuck, that’s OP realizing even if she doesn’t cheat it’s super degenerate and she’s a trashy human for this being what she does for fun in the first place
Not the fag your u replied to
>the fact that he wasn’t invited to go with her
Again, how do you know? And how do we know that she didn't tried to invite him a few times before only to be told no?
>8 other guys she doesn’t know
OP you know as well as I do that at least one of these dudes will try and bang her. It's up to you to know whether or not she's the type to be faithful but she's gonna be rollin' and possibly drunk too. I must say it isn't looking good but it depends on her character.
Sorry guys for not replying, thanks for the replies but let me clarify things.
Initially she was going with her best friend Cindy, she bailed and i told her i'd come along (since she offered MDMA if i came). After an hour she tells me her cindy is coming so she's going with her Cindy's boyfriends group (she knows only a couple of the guys). She then reluctantly asked if i still wanted to go because she thought i might get into a fight with someone, so i said i'll pass going.
It's pretty much what you said, i don't think she would cheat but her behaviour seems degernerate/trashy.
But that being said, her ex-fuckbuddy was one of her best friends and she ended it with him but remained as friends. I spend almost everyday with her and she's shown no signs of fucking around. Should i force her to not be friends with him? or keep cool untill i see any sketchy behaviour.
Legit i thought the exact same thinking as you but based off her character i'm trusting her but my trust is on the border. I'm on the verg of not trusting tho because this behaviour seems too close to crossing the line.
She thought you might get into a fight with someone..? What.
It's a tough one bro but your comment about her being trashy and having former fuckbuddies brings out the redpill in me. Are you the type to get into fights with guys? Because from the way you said that it seems like she knows those guys are gonna try and fuck her and you'd get mad. Is she a sweetheart or a hot girl type, because i've been with the hot girl type before and no matter how much I trusted her and defended her, she clearly cheated behind my back. Go with your instinct OP. And don't let her give you that 'you just don't trust me!' shit
This just goes all over the place dude. It sounds like you’d like to dump her but feel you need more justification to do it. Just do it man.
Just ask to follow her because you're bored. Does she have a reason to say no?
Hmm... thank you for the response man, really insightful. She's a mixture between both, bitchy/sweet, i honestly feel like she could be a good girl but i need to talk to her about this and see how she responds. I have to make her choose, either have me or continue doing things that seem sketchy.
Thank you everyone for your advise, even tho it's tough it really helps me come to a good conclusion for what i should do.
fpbp
She's not your gf. You are her wallet.
MDMA doesn't make you lose all inhibitions. When I was on it I kissed a few friends on the mouth but only because I was already single and because I wanted it from the heart. Unless she takes an insane dose, she's going to be very clear-headed. So if she cheats on you on it she'd cheat on you without it. It really depends how much you trust her in general.
You should've gone with her. If drinking makes you an asshole who gets into fights then just don't drink
No problem brother. The way you describe her it sounds like you haven't been dating very long? Also try and discuss it honestly and show you care because it doesn't sound like she's being shitty on purpose from what I can tell, but just make it clear that this shit makes you uncomfortable because she's hot and drugged up around horny dudes; you're only reacting like any caring bf would. If she reacts in any sort of bitchy way to this, you know the answer.
Super hot girls can be very iffy when it comes to this stuff. I dated a super hot bitch and although she had heaps of guys around that she might not have fucked, they can still give them inappropriate attention that if you were there you would disapprove of. E.g. is it cheating if a drunk horny guy at the club buys her a drink? No. But is it something a boyfriend could be concerned about? Very much so. Act wisely OP, some people especially hot chicks can skew situations to appear as if they're not in the wrong on technicality. Once again tho depends entirely on her patterns of behaviour
The best way to judge this situation is to flip the roles and see what the results are. If it were you going to the club with ya bois and meeting up with a group of chicks that your girlfriend has never met and you told her you were planning on getting hammered and taking mdma - would SHE be totally fine with it while she sat at home?
If she'd be ok with it - then that either indicates she trusts you and is secure enough in her feelings for you and your relationship that she knows you will behave. If she's NOT ok with it - well then, you two should probably sit down and have a solid conversation about this. This is something that you two would have to figure out and it should also sort of raise a red flag in your brain.
If it all goes to hell in a handbasket and she admits to fucking other guys while she's out having fun, then that to me would be a deal breaker. If she doesn't have the self control not to ride dicks while she's out being wild and free, then that means she's going to do it again and again and again. Which makes you the wagecuck that she parasites off of during "normal mode". Slam dunk her trashy ass into the garbage where it belongs, cut her out of your life and move on.
Hopefully, she's trustworthy and it's just you over thinking things. However, I've seen enough shit to know that gut instincts shouldn't be completely ignored for your own self protection.
A lot of women cringe at insecure little boys like you who think a girl going to a party instantly means shes going to cheat. Why are you insecure?
So you don’t seem to trust her to party without you but you also refused to go when she asked? I hope you realize you created this situation yourself. It would be sketchy if she never invited you but she gave you the opportunity to come with her.
Break up by text before the sunsets. Not even joking.
UPDATE GUYS:
So she has work at 6am and that she'd leave to go home at 1am. It's 2am and she's told me that she's taken 3 caps of MDMA (i told her not to take too many before). Asked if if she's coming home, she replies with a "No" and i tell her to go home and again with a "No".
Next time i see her i'm going to dump her, no respect for me at all.
Thanks again your advise is spot on.
Reread what i said
Cuck.
Everyone knows clubs are for sex. ESPECIALLY since she’s taking drugs and with other guys.
Oof, soz my dude.
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Lol my girlfriend is extremely average looking and she thinks she's lucky to be with me. Attractive women are garbage
>Asked if if she's coming home, she replies with a "No" and i tell her to go home and again with a "No".
You sound like her father of course she's gonna rebel
What you chase flees, my friend
I'm glad she'll flee because if she cannot behave like a decent girlfriend i'll just search for another. I don't have time for stupidity, i was lenient enough to let her go and take MDMA but she outright goes overboard about it. She's bloody 48kg taking 300mg of MDMA, the fuck?
Dude. You sound like a joke for even letting your girlfriend go clubbing
Eh move on, learn from your mistake.
Next time don't let your bitch go clubbing without you
>Boyfriend who allows his girlfriend to go clubbing while he stays at home waiting for her.
You're the definition of a modern day cuck OP.
If your girlfriend wants to go out clubbing, that's fine. But only if she wants you to go with her. If she's going without you i guarantee she'll cheat on you sooner or later.
>Reread what i said
You didn’t trust the situation and you refused to come with her. You said you didn’t think she would cheat but you clearly were wary about the guys she was going with, so why the fuck wouldn’t you go too? This was a situation of your own making
Um wtf??? I would rather die than think letting my S/O doing drugs at a club is safe.
I would be fine with them hanging out with other guys/girls but doing drugs?? Nah.
What would Guts do? Would he be crying about it?
In all seriousness kid it's not going to work out. If your hot girlfriend is dabbling in hedonism, that's a bad sign. She may not cheat tonight but she will eventually, just move on. Find a girl who isn't retarded, doesn't take mdma, or act like a thot.
>party
>clubbing
Virgin
Honestly, just ghost her user, her lack of reaction to you dumping her in person will only irritate you. Just block her on everything
Have you ever been to a club?
If you have then you know why having a girlfriend who goes out clubbing is a big red flag. Clubs are basically human mating grounds. People generally go there to get drunk and hookup with members of the opposite sex.
If your girlfriend regularly goes out clubbing on her own (as in, not with you), there is about a 95% chance she'll cheat on you sooner or later.
are most girls like this now? is this what I'm in for when I start dating again?
Don't worry, no one is interested in you.
damn bro i know how you feel
my ex gf went to a party without me once and made out with a guy while being shitfaced drunk
gave her a second chance, i regret doing that
the relationship ended few days ago because she let if fall apart