So how do you go about the "join a club" advice everyone always gives? I've joined a club, found a girl there I like, we've gone out to eat a few times after club activities but never only the 2 of us.
And what now? If I ask out and she rejects it'll be incredibly difficult and awkward to hang around her like never happened. When you ask someone out a change in relationship is bound to happen for better or for worse.
What's the supposed next step of this general advice everyone gives? Or is it not for getting a gf in the said club but meeting their friends?
Just take the risk. If she says no just pretend it does not make you feel awkward, have fun and only pay attention to other people. Then over time it will be normal and you two can laugh it off. Really it would only stay awkward if she felt she had hurt you or you were hung up. Worst thing to do would be to stop going or be upset at that club after she rejects you. As long as you don't do that it's fine. Keep building up this relationship and see where it goes. Gluck user
Aiden Ross
So just continue normally and look for openings when I can ask her out nonchalantly? Like she mentions a movie she wants to see and I say yeah me too let's go together? That sort of stuff?
How long and slow can I go like that?
Liam Johnson
Try to set things up just between the both of you. Like if you're both into music invite her to see some band, or just say something like "hey i'm going to the city, wanna tag along and get some {stupidly unhealthy thing she likes to indulge in}. Basically make it a date but don't call it a date. Make sure after you gon done the thing there's an opportunity for you to be alone together as to make a move/makeout. Who cares about meeting her friends honestly, it's between you guys.
Silence Emo Ted, your whole existence is yikes. When you ask someone that it is basically asking them out, you don't have to call it a date but the intent is there and it is known by both parties. About the friend thing, I'm talking about the "join a club" advice people give on here when someone wants a gf. Are you supposed to join a club and then get a gf inside the said club or join a club to widen your social circle and then meat friends of said friends and go after one of them
You're gonna continually meet new people the more you invest into the club, so there really isn't any stopping point where you say "ok this is who I want to go out with". Don't pressure yourself, if you like her enough to go on a date, go on a date with her. If you don't know yet, just continue to search around and who knows, you may gain a better perspective out of what you want in a relationship or find another reason to like her.
Justin Gutierrez
Guess I'll just continue on as usual with hope of a chance of me asking her out casually coming.
Ayden Gutierrez
>your whole existence is yikes. Says the guy that Photoshop people for no reason, kek. You are here 24/7, cringe.
How? We're always in a group. Even then I want to ask casually and not literally just ask for a date.
Jacob Hall
Do you actually talk to her? Or is she just some random person in your club that you like from afar?
John Nelson
We talk, I'd say I talk to her the most out of the group when we all hang out.
Aiden Wright
Do you have her number? If not then get it. That’s a good way to talk to her one on one if you’re never alone with her. Aand when you talk to her have you ever had an opportunity to ask her to hang out? Being in a group shouldn’t really stop you if you want to treat it like a casual hang
Jacob Roberts
I do have her on social media but we never talked and it's bad to ask someone out like that.
Chase Wilson
>it's bad to ask someone out like that Why? Are you just going to keep making excuses and hope for a miracle or are you actually going to make an effort and ask this girl out?
Jaxson Harris
>Why? Well people here told me it's bad. If I don't muster up the courage to ask her out normally or a chance emerges I guess I'll ask out over text even though Jow Forums was heavily against it the last time I asked something similar.
Joseph Sullivan
It’s totally fine to ask a girl to hang out over text. And like you said, you wanted to ask her out nonchalantly. That’s totally doable in person as well, even with a group around you. The only one stopping you is you.
Carter Parker
didn't read your gay post for fags but Jow Forums should just look for other hoes. Cosplay thots are not the best choice for a fitizen.
Women let you know if they’re interested, no harm in flirting a little but if you want to put the cards on the table go for it.
Kevin Nelson
Yeah ask her out and get fucking rejected or have your fuckin dick sucked. Won't know till you try. If you do get rejected don't act like a fag about it and just move on. Thats called being a grown ass man.
Might as well if I don't irl. How do they let you know? It's more complicated than that chief
Wyatt Howard
At least try to ask her irl first. It’s really not that hard to suggest an activity while talking with someone.
Connor Nguyen
Well what's the point in asking online after then, it's either a yer or a no after that. If there's a chance I'll use it if not one until a deadline I set to myself I'll ask over text.
Michael Cruz
My point was that if you feel it’s impossible to ask her in person you can ask over text. Like a backup plan.
Luke Kelly
>It's more complicated than that chief It really isn't dude.
Ok so she shot you down and you still go to the club.
Bro I literally asked for a girl's number at my job last week and she laughed outa embarrassment and said she had a BF. Guess what. I moved on and it aint awkward between us because I don't care. Shes a supervisor too btw.
