>been dating a girl for three months >constant affection, she treats me like the greatest person in the world, sex is amazing >yesterday, she lets me in on a little secret >she's engaged >she's been in a relationship for three years >"Is your fiance abusive?" >"No" >"Does he ever cheat on you?" >"No" >"Is he a good person who always treats you well?" >"Yes" >"Then why have you cheated on him with me?" >"I don't know... because I like you better?" (Word for word reply.)
I told her to pack her bags, leave my apartment, and never speak to me again. She's sent me a few text messages, the first of which I replied by coldly telling her that she means nothing to me anymore and to never speak to me again, and have ignored the rest.
Did I do the right thing? How do you ignore someone who's begging for your attention and crying about how ignoring them is making them feel abandoned? I don't hate her or anything... the exact opposite. She wormed herself into my heart very deeply. I just don't want to play a role in helping the fiancee of a perfectly nice person betray him.
OP sounds like you made a pretty reasonable decision even with your affection for them, just stick to it, if you need to either ghost em, or tell them you aren't interested in seeing them anymore. IMO you made the right decision on this one
Adam Price
>Did I do the right thing? Yeah if it lines up with your moral values I'd say you did.
Kayden Cooper
Thanks, anons. It's just so hard to ignore her. She's sending me messages every 10 minutes talking about how she's hyperventilating, that she's holding a knife, that she can't believe I would do this to her, etc. I never want to ignore anyone who's in pain.
Cameron Gomez
The primary problem is that lying to you about having a partner the whole time she's been with you. How didn't you know this? How was she able to stay with you? It would be a different story if you both discovered each other and she'd always made you aware of her partner while planning to leave him if she found herself falling in love with you. But lying to two people who love her at the same time outs her as being quite dishonest. Right at the beginning of your relationship with her too... Unless she has some kind of reason for any of this that you can seriously empathise with and understand then you did the right thing, OP. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Charles Bennett
You absolutely did the right thing. That's crazy to think otherwise, and you cant expect anything good out of a person like that. Both cheating and the way shes being manipulative towards you with texts and stuff. That's disgusting and please dont back off your morals.
Logan Reyes
Wait so you would have been okay with it if the partner was abusive? Is that okay?
Because my ex was abused but always reached out to me and I just thought maybe he was lying and being a cheater but it got really bad and he managed to get away and won't reach out anymore..
But as for your post I agree you did the right thing.
Brandon Richardson
>holding a knife Threatening self harm is emotional manipulation 101, dontl't let it get to you.
Angel Hall
>Did I do the right thing? The only thing you did wrong is not telling her fiance. That poor guy needs to know.
Noah Perry
Good job, op. Sticking with her would only make the inevitable heartbreak devastating. She sounds like an utter oblivious child that doesn't value love.
Ethan Edwards
This. This poor guy wants to marry her. Worst case a child gets involved (propably not even his) and they split. She gets half the stuff and child support. Tell him now to spare him at least the financially ruin. She tries to manipulate you? Guess what she does with the fiance...
Carter Ortiz
Assuming this story is real, then yes you did the right thing. Cheaters deserve public execution.
Liam Hill
I think the point is that this lends a justification at which point OP can, regardless of his dick, help her get out of a dangerous and potentially life-threatening situation to get her life back on track. As far and away from you as it may be, the concern for someone's well-being is an insanely fucking tight response to this situation in which most guys would have tied her eyebrows to her ass hairs and bowled her off the balcony. I guess in short, don't be that guy. >all this teen girl reaction A person of such dubious mental fortitude probably shouldn't be dating at all, much less fucking pre-wife'd. You didn't just dip on a bad bitch, you dodged a fucking bullet.
Chase Reyes
Bitch is crazy
How could you maintain parallel relationships like that?
If she was just fucking around that would be one thing, but to actually date another guy... How did he not know? sounds fishy.
Good call nigger, nail then bail
Tyler Ward
Post messages, this seems fake to me been here for a while.
Grayson Fisher
Pic related. Sorry op, some people are incapable of monogamy.
Yes you did the right thing. Think about it. She was cheating on her fiancé. So, even if you decided to keep her, how do you know she wouldn’t cheat on you with someone else?
The only other thing you should have done is contact her fiancé and warn him. But other than that, yes you did the right thing
Carson Lee
you did the right thing. once a cheater always a cheater is so true
Tyler Allen
I'm calling BS on this story. Engaged? And yet you're spending time with her, going out, fucking her for three months?
There's no way this situation would hold up. There's no way she could keep both lives separate. I mean hell, once you get engaged you usually end up seeing that person more.
I'm calling shenanigans
Connor Ward
>There's no way this situation would hold up. There's no way she could keep both lives separate. You know men get caught having entire second families hidden from each other now and then?
Dominic Torres
She sucks. When the guy I’m in love with was treating me really terribly I felt suicidal but I would never tell him that. It’s so manipulative and selfish.
Eli Long
>She's sending me messages every 10 minutes talking about how she's hyperventilating, that she's holding a knife, that she can't believe I would do this to her, etc.
Notice that every single one of those things is about her, and has absolutely nothing to do with you, or what she did to you, which was lie, deceive, and betray your trust.
I’m sorry, but the brutal truth is:
She didn’t love or even really like you, what she really liked was the way she felt.
That seems like it’s splitting hairs, but it is a fairly important distinction, because it was always about her, and never about you or you two together.
Aaron Lewis
>Did I do the right thing? Almost, but no, the right thing is to tell her fiance somehow. Put yourself in his shoes, even if he is a massive faggot she's fucking him over and it needs to stop.
Ethan Cooper
tell the husband what happened. he deserves to know.
