My fiance died in a car wreck last week. I would never admit this to anyone outside of anonymous strangers on the internet, but I'd fallen out of love with him and am actually somewhat relieved that he's dead because that means I don't have to call the marriage off (something I never would have been able to do since I'm terrible at saying 'no' to people, and all of my family and friends were pushing us forward). It feels as though fate took mercy on me and saved me from my troubles. Be honest with me, am I a bad person?
My fiance died in a car wreck last week...
Ngl u kinda are the man lost his life at a v young age and instead of being sad u are relieved because u dont have to marry him now thats v selfish of u plus i get that u have difficulty saying no to others as i face the same problems but damn thats v mean of u
you're a pussy like women are. you saved yourself of problems later dont do it again.
Stfu cunt hope u die so that other ppl in ur life are relieved
>a poor lad's thread looking for advice died for this bait
People are too complex to break down into purely good and purely bad. We are all one giant shitty mix of both. "Good" people do bad things; "bad" people do good things. Which you are is based on perspective. Is what you're feeling bad? Most people would probably say so. But that doesn't need to define you as a "bad" person, any more than one act of compassion defines you as a "good" person.
Thank you user.
I'll try not to let this bother me then. I have the right to my own feelings and I shouldn't be ashamed no matter how I feel about anything.
You posted that yourself you fucking retard, learn how Jow Forums works
What?
You type like a nigger
>Be honest with me, am I a bad person?
For not breaking it off sooner, yes. Having flaws and weaknesses is one thing. Letting them control you is another.
>For not breaking it off sooner, yes.
Or for, you know... being glad that someone died in a car wreck.
Yeah, more weak and a coward though but still pretty bad.
I hope you get brutally raped.
You just wanted to hear what you wanted to hear, not the truth.
So what is the truth?
12 years too late, btw.
yes. yes you are. You lied to him and now he's dead. Its better to tell a man the truth then to lie to them. Its not even the fact that you've fallen out of love its the fact that you're relieved that he died.
>Its better to tell a man the truth then to lie to them
>then
You would be right if you had used the word you actually wanted to use, but now you are wrong and stupid.
nah, so long as you never trouble another man's life ever again
get yourself a cat or four and fuck off
As someone who's also very bad at saying no (although a guy) I completely understand where you're coming from
Good people still have bad thoughts, dont be too hard on yourself.
100% though learn from this and dont be in a situation like that again.
anime with bait
great thread faggot
No lol, but maybe work on the saying no thing because I don't think fate is gonna have your back like this twice
Is the only feeling you have relief? Do you care that he's dead other than for this single reason? That's where your answer lies. If you honestly only care because you're free now, you're not a very compassionate or empathetic person and you definitely have failed as a human being.
I had thoughts similar to yours before in bad situations but eventually I got the will to call things off. I get the feeling, but it literally happened in your case whereas mine was a scenario.
In short, if you only care because it saves you from the inconveniences, then you're a selfish and bad person probably.
You're not fucking bright.
Your feelings towards his death have nothing to do with whether or not you are a good or bad person as long as understand that killing, lying, cheating etc. are always immoral. What makes a person good or bad are their actions, not their feelings.
A death is one of those occasions in which WHATEVER response you have is the honest and true one, and by definition the right one for you. You can regret that you can't grieve more, but you have no reason to feel guilty about it.
>but you have no reason to feel guilty about it.
Because this is Jow Forums and you people don't believe in feeling guilt over anything. Utterly disgusting board.
Of course it’s bad to feel that way. I mean, at least you have the moral perception to realize that something like that could be bad. But still, you feel it nonetheless.
Someone you once had a connection with is now dead and gone. As far as I’m concerned he cared for and loved you. Instead you lead him on because you were to weak to end it yourself. His heart has stopped and no more blood flows through his body.
And here you are happy because now the problem is dealt with. You didn’t have to put in the work to end it. Putting in the work to end it would be painful and hard.
So, of course it’s bad you feel that way. But it is what it is. Maybe you’re not a bad person but you have a bad perception. And you come here looking for some kind of repentance?
Sorry, it’s your mind and you’ll have to live with what it.
Don’t mistake my comment for being pretentious though. I have bad thoughts too.
We are human
if you resent your fiance, and he faith took him. that's good for you. why the negativity?
imagine a soldiers sent to kill innocent family, and the soldiers felt guilty but still do it. the point is it's reality, no one can change it.
as long u don't announce you are happy because he's gone. play the acting game, until everything dies down.
u can use his death as sympathy move, many guys fall for this and will try to help u a new life.
the thing is no need to tell everything to anyone. some secret best kept unturn.