I seem to be bothered by my girlfriend's previous sexual experiences. I'm not sure if I'm jealous or just insecure. What's wrong with me?
I seem to be bothered by my girlfriend's previous sexual experiences. I'm not sure if I'm jealous or just insecure...
>What's wrong with me?
You're likely either jealous, insecure, or both. You said so in your second sentence. Why is this a question?
nice trips. This feeling will never go away. Your feelings are normal and healthy and it means you are somewhat of a normal and adjusted man. Find a girl with less of a body count and more of a consevrative life outlook. No matter what way you cut it youll never fully rationalize your girlfriend letting so many other men plunder her holes. I've been there and done that. Don't let the literal cucks on here tell you you just need to "man up" or get over "insecurity" I have a huge dick and last forever in bed and I'm not worried about previous sexual partners, its just gross to me. You have these feelings for a reason, listen to yourself. Don't let roasties win, i took my girlfriends virginity and were getting married
i understand you bro, it's a bit of both and i would say its somewhat normal to feel like that. if the girl is worth it you really just need to get over it the past is the past, after you fuck her and the bond between you two grows overtime you will end up just not caring about that
What were her experiences? Was it just with previous boyfriends, or did she have hook ups and FWB?
Nice trips. This is bait.
Yo I’m not OP but your post helped clear up a lot of shot for me, and I dumped the bitch 2 years ago. I remember I tried to express this to her but didn’t fully understand it. I was confused if I was just insecure or not but after reading your post I understand it was internal conflict because I had feelings for this girl yet viewed her as a hoe
im the same guy that wrote that. I dated this brazilian girl that kissed admittedly 30 dudes and fucked several, had a FWB for years. After i found out her true past i couldnt sleep at night next to her and broke it off. It was the best decision ever and I found my kissless virgin nerd waifu and i want to give her babies. Its not about insecurity, its about knowing the girl you love so much gave herself freely to so many other men. Don't let sluts and beta men tell you your natural masculine feelings are not justified. Godspeed user I wish you all the best and good luck
stop making this thread every fucking day
Yeah, totally sounds natural to be upset your girlfriend kissed another guy.
might be all or none of what you listed. but if a girl been with some men of course it will bother you, especially if some of these men were hookups and not relationships.
men strive for sex, women for relationships, if she just hooked up she was basically used like a sex toy, and then tossed for a better sex toy
do you want a girl that was used and dumped? no, and this feeling wont go away
if you think you deserve the best, why settle
She was raped by an older, extremely violent man, but actually developed Stockholm Syndrome for and fell in love with the guy before he met a violent end. She also had a brief affair with another bad boy type. I think he was a mercenary or something. Then he just disappeared from her life one day.
The worst part is that she actually compares me to the first guy, the rapist. Apparently he was significantly taller than me and she has a hard time accepting that.
user, what the actual fuck. this needs to be satire. please tell me this is satire
Real OP here.
She hooked up a few times at parties and clubs. That's what bothers me.
you're probably realising you don't want this woman to be the mother of your children therefore beginning to question your relationship.
i'd never get involved with a whore who has fucked random dudes at parties or clubs; this is a sign of degeneracy which can most likely lead to unfaithfulness down the line. i'd break up w her.
Any femanon here? What's your opinion on men who has had many sexual relationship already?
Sex him probably but marry and build a life together, NOPE
I would totally fuck him but never marry
I’ve only had one boyfriend before my current one, we had sex a few times but the relationship ended badly. My current bf always gets so mad and jealous which I understand, but he’s gotten to the point where it’s hard for him to even have sex with me because he’s made himself so self conscious :’(
Femanon with few past partners here. So basically, if someone is sleeping around constantly/unsafely, that is gross to me. But a few hookups, I now understand. I view myself as immature for judging others for this in the past.
Here are my thoughts. I want someone with a good sex drive. A good sex drive means you want to have sex. At the same time, it is unhealthy to be a serial monogamist. So what happens when a mentally healthy person is waiting for the "right one" but also has urges? If someone needs to just fulfill an urge and can do it safely and respectfully, I don't care.
Further, isn't it okay to take some risks when you're young to see what works for you? I have never had a ONS, but I sometimes wonder if it would give me insight into what I want and how I could handle such a casual encounter.
At some point, being jealous of others pasts can also cross into controlling behaviour. See
The way I see it, you’re both. Something you need to learn is that whatever she did before you does not concern you. People change and those experiences before led them to you and them to be the person you care enough about to be in a relationship with. Get over it. I used to be the same way and then I grew up.
It's Game of Thrones. He's describing Dany
i wish my boyfriend could think like you
It's a difficult one. First of all, ''a few times'' is female language something in the 5-10 range. Don't be fooled and think it only happened 2 or 3 times which ''a few times'' would imply.
Problem is, 9 out of 10 girls you meet nowadays have had these hookup experiences. We live in hookup/FWB/fling/pickup culture where women are regularly used as sex toys and then kicked to the trash can by PUA's, Chads and other attractive guys she didn't manage to get commitment from. I understand your jealousy but if you only limit your dating pool to virgins or girls who have only slept with 1 or 2 ex boyfriends, you'll likely be single forever.
Lmao
Hooking up is not me but at least 4 of the guys I had sex with I didn't expect it to just be a hook up when I had sex even though we had sex shortly after meeting.
toppest of keks
Nothing's wrong with you. Only a cuck would be okay with dating a whore. So stop enabling sluts and shaming guys that feel weird about dating girls like that.