>Be in an absolute dream of a relationship with my dream girl >Pretty much zero issues, true soulmates, etc.. >Supposed to get married in a 2 months >5 days ago she tells me she wants to wait another year for the wedding so we can save up more money to make it her dream wedding >She begs me not to be angry and break up with her >I took it pretty hard because I was so ready for it but I didn't have much choice but to accept it so I did. >Yesterday she tells she is breaking up with me because she doesn't want a relationship right now because she wants to "focus on herself" and "do whatever she wants and make mistakes to grow as a person" >She says she still loves me the same way but just doesn't know what she wants with her life and she may come back to me when/if she figures it out which could take "a few months, maybe years" and also she still wants to be "best friends" and talk everyday
What the fuck just happend? I feel like fucking shooting myself right now I have no fucking idea what to make of this.
You're not special, you thought all the horror stories about women you read online were the exception but they're the norm. This is how modern women act, how they're brought up to act. I'm sorry user, I hope you'll find in you to move on and eventually settle with a good person. She thinks she needs to make mistakes, but she has already made the biggest one by leaving you. Find a better girl. Good luck.
Kevin Hill
Jeez user, when you're about to get married you should tell the news to everyone and their pets. That way the social pressure will make it harder for her to back out.
If I were you, I would disappear for a while, take a break of things and hopefully she would change her mind when you return. It's better than looking at that gun you're currently holding.
Levi Howard
Kill her, then kill yourself
Lucas Perez
Pretty much same happened to me. You need to get your shit together, this will be the toughest time in your live up to now. Drop the idea of ever coming back together with her. Tell her. Don't keep contact, it will kill you when you see the photos of her fuckbiddies and boytoys on her social media.
Whatever you think you need to do, don't even think about suicide. Don't kill yourself. No matter what.
Move on improve yourself, get better than your are now. Connect old friends and talk to them. Forget her, dick down a few stacies, do more sports, learn a skill.
Good luck, you are in for one hell of a ride.
Ethan Young
user this same thing has happened to me, take my advice. Move on, yea it was good but there will be someone better who loves you as much as you love them, she wants you to wait around for her to figure her life out but dude you deserve better than someone that would fuck you over like that so forget about her and DO NOT LET HER PUT YOU ON THE BACK BURNER while she lives her life
Brandon Young
Fuck you, beta virgin. Shit like that happens, grow a pair.
>Find a better girl. Good luck. Unlikely. She's fucking perfect, save for this bullshit she just pulled of course.
For our whole relationship she has been exactly the opposite of what most shitty modern women are and that's why I went so hard for her never had any doubts. I have no idea how she pulled a 180 so quickly. Mind boggling.
I think now I'm just gonna wait a week or 2 and then talk to her and lay everything out. Gonna tell her exactly how I feel and what I think about her decision and going to make it clear I'm not gonna be her friend or wait for her. She just needs to grow the fuck up and I'm going to tell her that. It will either end everything or make her snap out of her bullshit. Hoping for the latter but if it still doesn't change anything I'll have the closure I need to find someone else
Dylan Lopez
I would admire your persistence if I didn't know the horror it leads to. If she ends up marrying you you're only going to get divorced down the road, maybe even after a kid and everything. If not, she's only going to keep you strung along forever. This is women, user. This is what they are. You would be better dropping this rotten fruit, because it only gets more so.
Owen James
thats a good idea user but start talking to other girls now so if she doesnt want things you already got bitches lined up and if things do work out you can just ghost the hoes or sum
Austin Ramirez
She wasn't perfect, you are infatuated and can't see she has other bad traits outside leaving you. Be rational, be a man.
Andrew Thomas
She probably already has taken some other dick, women very rarely leave a man if another person isn't already available. Send her a message and ask, she'll tell you because she probably wants to confess to feel less guilty and then you will see how she really is. Then you'll move on(but please don't kill yourself).
Charles Stewart
>modern women Found the teenager who thinks women were all pure and chaste and loyal in previous generations.
Samuel Mitchell
Look, all Im saying is that if we started killing dem hoes who do that it would happen a lot less
Nathaniel Ortiz
No, but women never used to care more about their "careers" and going to school than they do about getting married and starting families like they do now.
Levi Phillips
Idk man. Really tough spot. Hope you're okay after all of it.
Jacob Russell
Can't argue with that logic. *Honk honk*
Christian Price
Bitches ain't worth all that user. Quit being a puss. You don't need her for a fucking friend. Tell her she can talk when she wants to fuck.
Sebastian Wood
That's the best time in your life! Had two women like that, now happily married for five years. Without wedding. No ring, just said yes in an office!
You learn which women you should avoid and which you want! Learn from it!
Carter Lopez
>>Find a better girl. Good luck. >Unlikely. She's fucking perfect, save for this bullshit she just pulled of course. So she isn't perfect. Look what she does to you. >For our whole relationship she has been exactly the opposite of what most shitty modern women are and that's why I went so hard for her never had any doubts. Never 'go hard' for a woman unless her legs are spread. It's all 'shit tests' or whatever you want to call it. >I have no idea how she pulled a 180 so quickly. Mind boggling. Because it wasn't a 180. She enjoyed what you gave her, and realized she can get what you gave her AND MORE. This is women, always seeking better. Men do this too, but this thread is about you and you facing reality. There is no saving this relationship. Lets say you two 'talk it out', you will tell her how you 'feel' (something she won't care about, judging from her actions). You get back together. What will you tell your children when they're 20something and ask fatherly advice? 'Yeah me and your mom had some rough patches. Right before the wedding she broke up with me because she needed to 'find herself', but we talked it over. I told her how I felt and she loved me again. Now you're here son, follow my example.' Could you imagine your dad telling you this? Love yourself user.
Ryan James
she is having cold feet and commitment issues. Also you taking it pretty hard could have pushed her over the edge. And focusing on her self is just her way of saying she doesnt feel anything for you anymore.
Bentley Richardson
Exactly this. She got spooked about a huge commitment. She voiced her concerns to you and instead of patience and understanding she has to >begs me not to be angry and break up with her so either you're an asshole regularly or you were freaking out.
OP, try getting your shit together and apologizing. Tell her what you're telling us - that you love her and everything about your relationship, and that it's not the wedding date you want but her. Apologize for being selfish, and tell her you were so happy and excited that you got carried away. Ask her to let you try again, say you can wait as long as she needs for marriage, and treat her like a new woman.
If that doesn't work, it's because she really does need her freedom. Tell her you can't be friends but you wish her the best, and stay low contact.
Adam Fisher
What you need to do now is stop reaching out to her, stop blowing her up. If she hits you up you can respond. If she wants to see you try to seduce and fuck. Make her want you again. Do not go out your way for her anymore till she says she wants to get back together. Keep your options open until then. Get your game back and flirt with other women. She may never want you back, but if she loves you'll she'll come back. I repeat do not hit her up only respond. You might just get out of this yet
Carson Diaz
woe, nice PUA advice user. I bet you really like eminem too.
Benjamin Brooks
His voice and lyrics a little whiny for my taste
William Carter
>woman tells OP she doesn't want to get married anymore, and wants to break up with OP but leave him on the back burner in case >Anons tell OP he needs to apologize to her fucking mind boggling the kind of shit advice that gets thrown around here.
Aiden Price
One of the many differences between men and women is that women can love/like on a kind of sliding scale while men are all-or-nothing. So she is not lying or being manipulative when she says she loves you but not quite enough at the moment - she just doesn't realize that your male heart and mind don't work that way.
Hunter Ramirez
i told she wants to fuck around stop hanging on to this girl. when shes done she'll probably look for you to take care of her wrecked pussy
Christopher Wright
>Pretty much zero issues, true soulmates, etc..
You aren't being honest with us or yourself and you know it. It's so easy to skew the situation to get sympathy from the neighborhood misogynists rather than acknowledge faults, but that's the nature of men anyway.
Tell the whole story or gtfo.
John Martinez
>op literally gave a one sided story where he looks perfect and like a victim and blames everything on the girl >you don't know either of these people or the situation
You're right the shitty advice is common, it's from all the bitter dudes taking out their frustrations with their low self esteem on women.
