To cheat or not to cheat

have you considered confessing this to your gf?

>How did you start quit giving fucks??
Maybe you have heard form those who kicked addiction. Like, "the feeling's going to go away, regardless of if you have that cigarette or not." Just get on and do something else. And you can think about whatever you want when you fuck or spank the monkey. You are being ruled by nothing. Don't be pathetic.

Yes

I'd recommend either of those or even a sexologist, though the latter tend to be whacks.

Don't get me wrong, i would love the get those toughts outside my head.
I'm with her for 3 years, since 1,5 year i started to get lightly frustrated wich became more more frustrated wich ended up in actually considering cheating with a sexworker.

I have told her about my fetish multiple times, i don't want to tell her that it has come to this. Imo that's psychological blackmail? is it not???

i mean, if i had to choose, i would cheat on her a thousand times before i would put her in the posision where she would be forced / put in an ultimatum like that

Go get that ass SMASHED.

i should have specify;
I would prefer advice from someone who is not a virgin

Not a virgin lol
Go get that back door pussy rammed.

You are an emotional faggot that craves attention. There's plenty of fags that cater your need. Start with a gay chat room, someone will listen to your crying you faggot.

I have the opposite problem. My girl prefers anal and rarely wants to have normal sex. I've cheated in previous relationships and it's really not worth it in the end. I got away with it each time, but it ruined the relationship for me. It ended up becoming a thrill to get away with cheating and eventually I got bored with the relationship I was in. I told myself I'd never do it again, especially since I really care for the girl I'm with. Don't do it, OP. You may say now that you'd only do it once to get that itch scratched, but you'll just do it again and again, especially since anal is your fetish and your gf refuses to do it.

Have you guys ever even tried it? Do you do things for her that she's into, but she won't even indulge in your fantasy?

Do you honestly think that if you need anal sex this much, doing it once is going to make you happy for the foreseeable future? Just break up with her already.

You need to admit what your real problem is OP.
Think about it.
You like the feeling of anal.
You like that poop covered smell after you pull it out.
that feeling of grabbing hips, then reaching around for that hard cock.
You just need to admit you're gay and you can change your situation. It's OK to be gay these days. Enjoying being the pitcher and not the catcher is normal for gay guys. You need to find yourself a nice bottom and enjoy what comes naturally. You may even enjoy trying to switch hit. It's up to you.
Either way, be truthful to yourself and make sure you're not making a mistake by liking girls.

>masturbating 3 times a day to anal porn
Do I even fucking need to say anything?

If she wants to make you happy she should be willing to do those things for you.

If she doesn't agree to anal even after you've explained how important it is to you, then it's time to cheat. And after that you really should consider leaving as your GF doesn't seem interested in your happiness.

>everything the OP wants to hear
Truth is the exact opposite.
It would be better for both of you if you leave her.

I don't understand this logic. He is not willing to regularly fuck her pussy, or to write off anal, and that's fine. But she should do something she hates to appease him?

I don't know if you should let a fetish have this much control over your relationship, my dude. Vaginal sex is plenty for most people.

I understand wanting to try anal, yolo after all, but I would say communicating with her is a better alternative than seeing a sex worker. If you have to go so far as to see a sex worker it indicated you might have problems. Most rational men (and women) are able to understand not all fantasies come to fruition in life. Especially sexual ones.

I want my girlfriend to worship my dick. And sometimes she does. However, the reality is that my cock is so thick it hurts her jaw. So while I want more blowjobs ideally I understand I can't have them because it isn't something that is healthy for our relationship. Both physically and inter-personally it could be detrimental for my relationship. Relationships are about balance and a metric shit ton of communication.

It's a relationship. He should do things for her, and she should do things for him. This is clearly a case that's important to OP, and as such is an obvious thing she should agree to. If she feels equally strongly about the opposite, it is better for both to see other people that might better suit their needs.

If you are more into the neither should do what they don't want approach, there is a category for that already. It's called friendship, and it doesn't place any restrictions on either party about whom they may or may not have anal sex with. Should the parties involved be interested in a more exclusive relation, they also need to offer more to make up for the added restrictions. That is after all why there are so many problems with sex frequency in a relationship; the parties have agreed to not have sex with anyone else.

>will cheating safe my relation?
go to fucking hell

>tfw my girlfriend begs "fuck me in my ass"
I think maybe you should consider a partner who doesn't make you wanna cheat
That's my consideration. Sure my girlfriend can't really ride dick like a champ but the idea of cheating over it is far away.

The only reason I can think that it's so close to home for you (and I've been in mine for 7 years, not 1.5) is that you're not really into this chick.

I think you are right, anal is not even a big deal.

Why every female is a whore EXCEPT MY GF holy shittttttttttttttt

Or it could just be that sex is important to OP? For some people it's a big thing.
Pretty sure that people can be really into religion, sports, politics, fitness, and other things, and quite willing to break up over those. Sex is no different, and is naturally an important part of a relationship. It's often the place where we feel most connected to one another, and rejecting your partner's needs in that setting is not as trivial as saying no to another beer at the pub.

Not saying it's your case, but there are a miriad of dishonest reasons to be with someone instead of breaking up or cheating.

I have always give 100% of myself on a relationship, and when i see a unreasonable "No" from the other part or just a negative attitude, in this case, when it comes to sex. It's a huge deal breaker for me.

No girls like anal. Theres nothing there to actually please a woman they only pretended to like it for you. Its actually extremely painful no matter the prep if you took the girls backdoor viriginty.

Uniroincally get a tranny gf or something at least they have prostates

Sure, guy, that's what I'm saying. Communication soesn't seem so hot between the two of them as is, and he's not having his needs met and thinking of going off the rails. Dishonesty, desire or just plain indolence, OP is considering it. I've considered a lot of things with my girlfriend but the idea that shit is so boring I'd need to cheat

It's like going to the theatre only to find excuses not to watch the movie. Why go? A relationship really isn't gonna benefit from being strung up on propriety.

This sounds like an opinion from a man who's coping because he doesn't have a QT who offers up brown town. Try polishing your syntax so you don't sound like you're coping.

yo dude, sometimes you gotta accept that you don't get everything you want with a partner, you have to decide what you can and cannot live without

I am into bdsm (nothing crazy) but if the girl isn't into being talked down to, slapped and choked, I don't want to date her long term.

You need to be upfront with the next girl, and tell her like it's a dealbreaker for you if she won't try anal in the long term

Your will is so low i could pour a foundation on it.
Is it that hard to wrap your head around the fact that she's not that kind?What are you? a dog?

If your need for a girl's brown eye is that intense, you probably oughta just break up with your gf. Cheating won't do you much, and you'll just be hurting someone for no good reason when you could just get what you need elsewhere after the breakup.

Are you a virgin? Most girls enjoy anal, and orgasm harder from the ass than pussy.

Most people would treat it like psychological blackmail/an ultimatum because people are stupid and treat a breakup like the end of the world. That said, at the core of it you'd just be explaining your stance on the subject. I would just say you really feel unfulfilled without it, and if she still says no it's probably time for a new relationship

>Do you do things for her that she's into, but she won't even indulge in your fantasy?
Yes, actually. Most of my gfs have had relatively mundane kinks though
>user, will you dress up like a lumberjack~?
>Oh user, I really want you to tie me up~
>Can we try a threesome, user?
Of course, even mentioning diaper fetishism makes them laugh uncontrollably. Fortunately none of them ever actually found out that I get off on it.

>he doesn't know that the clitoris is an organ that stretches all around the myometrium
>he doesn't know that the clitoris therefore has nerve endings that can be stimulated in the ass