Alright we know what gets a man's dick hard during a casual encounter but what gets a woman's panties wet? What can a man say or behave like to make blood rush into the woman's vagina during a casual conversation?
Alright we know what gets a man's dick hard during a casual encounter but what gets a woman's panties wet...
That‘s unfortunately absolutely not how female sexuality works. People itt will tell you all kinds of shit advice, but you can not arouse a female that doesn‘t WANT to be aroused, because her biggest erogenous zone is her brain. Her brain will always guard her arousal, meaning that if she doesn‘t think you‘re fit for breeding and the situation/circumstances are right, she‘ll never get aroused, no matter what you do or say.
You can only start to play that game after her brain gave green light on arousal. Then it‘s just a matter of doing stuff to make her feel feminine and notice your masculinity. That‘s all there is to it.
>but what gets a woman's panties wet?
Wealth
“Hello miss, would you like to suck my cock?” Ask as many women as you can and by Friday you’ll be swimming in pussy.
At least once a month, for a few days, blood rushes into womens' vaginas without you having to anything at all. Just time it right, hombre.
Jokes.
My ex gf said that I "Made her ovaries drop" (her words) on our first date when we went to the zoo, some little girl was being difficult with her parents and told them what animals she wanted to see in a really bossy way and I jokingly said " you heard the lady."
Funniest thing is that I meant it as an absurd joke that was poking fun of how outrageous that little girl was acting, but when she told me that it made her hot about a week later she thought I was making a joke about always having to listen to what the girl wants to do. Needless to say she she ended up being a controlling person lol.
That only worked because she was already into you.
It's almost as though this would depend on the individual, not the gender. Almost as if sweeping generalizations are a consistent problem with you...
Oh are you asking like do women have "random boners" because no I don't think they do. I thought you meant like when you see a random chick lick her lips or whatever and you chub up lol
Fpbp because it's 100% correct, but that answer is ultimately unhelpful for dudes who don't know if the chick is into him. Plus doing specific things that people find attractive means they're more likely to notice the fact you can be attractive. Here's a little list, I'll try to think of more.
>deep voice (for him, meaning he's explicitly pitched his normal voice down) in the right situation
>Rolling his shirt sleeves (that actual fit him) up to elbow
>Talking about something he's passionate about but he's trying to keep his hype down
>Confidence in a nervy situation, not arrogance or rudeness
>Genuinely interested in what you have to say, feeling like you're his sole focus
I guess if you mean generally I like discussing kinky things I’ve done and I like when someone tells me how they would see a new situation that fits my same kinks.
As soon as they start mentioning things I’m not into i get turned off.
A lot of people are making good points about how difficult and individual this is but I just wanted to stress the general point of advice that men FAR overestimate the power of their sexual interest to a woman. They are used to their own frame of reference where a woman coming out of nowhere wanting to fuck them would be the most amazing thing ever. For many women that's just life. Even if they are not attractive enough to have men flocking to them on the regular, there's still a reasonable chance that if flat out offered the same man not making an effort would still gladly take her home.
Of course a woman likes knowing/feeling a man is aroused and into her, but only once he became a person to her with certain characteristics or qualities, a specific individual. "A random male suitor" needs to be strikingly handsome to still make a dent.
Best you can do is FLIRT which is showing off your personality: your charm/smile, wit, intelligence, listening skills, goofiness, anything at all. A woman willing to go home with a strange man is going to be acting out of her comfort zone so setting the mood for impulse and adventure is good. Dance with her, banter, ask questions that put her in a fun mood ("what game were you best at as a kid", "teach me something", "what's your best story that you never get to tell"), do silly spur of the moment things, if you get her to take off her shoes or hitch up her dress or accompany you to a wholly different place these are all great signs.
It's not for nothing that in movies they prolong the will they or won't they part so much, it is endlessly more exciting and passionate than the quietly happy couple. You want her to get the idea that you are into her (because of how you look and smile at her for example) or at least might be into her, but you don't want her to feel 100% sure. You want her to feel excited thinking there's a chance you like her, not smug that she knows that you do and now she can lean back and make her own mind up.
You do this both by not groveling and drooling all over her, but also by making her work for you as well. Don't laugh when something she says isn't funny, don't hang on her every word when she's rambling on, let her feel you will generously give her attention but she's not going to have it by default. Why would she try if it is obvious from every action of yours that there's no need to, that you might not even appreciate it, you are ready to applaud because she has a pussy and a decent face? You want to work for someone who does not give approval away for free, who sees and appreciates what makes her a person rather than just another girl.
And yeah when the moment is right and for whatever reason you don't want to make a move yet, but chemistry's high and the tension is there, then you can talk about sex. Personally I would stay on the safe side and ask questions like "when did you feel sexiest/what makes you feel sexy" rather than straight up "so what's your kinks". Not everyone appreciates the latter and it's actually an easier question to answer that brings you less close to feeling something than thinking of a memory in which they felt on fire.
Ultimately whether or not she'll be up for it will always have a lot to do with circumstances outside of your control or even consciousness so don't bother trying to overanalyze all the details of a single encounter trying to improve yourself. Only patterns matter, there's too many blind spots to know what you did or did not "do wrong" otherwise.
Especially if you're at a party/concert/festival, everyone gravitates towards people who are having a good time themselves. You are not just a combination of looks and "stats" like height, you carry a certain energy, and if you look like an open, friendly, upbeat guy who's having a great night that's a lot more welcoming to hang around than someone who visibly feels self-conscious or bored. If you see no clear opportunities (yet), work on having fun.
>Her brain will always guard her arousal
If that's true why do so many women orgasm from rape?
That's a physical reaction. Nothing to do with wether they're aroused or not
Not that user but the brain isn't great at telling stimuli apart. Maybe you've heard of those little experiments where people report bigger attraction to interviewers when they are seeing them on a high, adrenaline-inducing bridge, or after watching a scary movie. Or maybe you've experienced that if you are already a bit horny, shivering from pure cold or moaning for the sake of moaning increases your real desire.
When you get raped you are obviously having sex, you are wet (a given, to prevent or try to reduce internal damage), and your whole body is on a huge wave of adrenaline feeling 1000% alive, goosebumps all over, feeling your heart in your throat. That's how being afraid for your life feels, physically. But also how really amazing sex feels, physically. Basically slapping an orgasm out of the body even though the mind does not enjoy it.
If a man came up and started fucking your ass hitting your prostate with every thrust, you would probably feel scared, disgusted, whatever. But you would also come. That's just how it works.
Solid fucking advice. Thank you Anons
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Yeah but this is 4chains.
>men FAR overestimate the power of their sexual interest to a woman. They are used to their own frame of reference where a woman coming out of nowhere wanting to fuck them would be the most amazing thing ever. For many women that's just life. Even if they are not attractive enough to have men flocking to them on the regular, there's still a reasonable chance that if flat out offered the same man not making an effort would still gladly take her home.
>Of course a woman likes knowing/feeling a man is aroused and into her, but only once he became a person to her with certain characteristics or qualities, a specific individual. "A random male suitor" needs to be strikingly handsome to still make a dent.
How horrible. I know it's the truth, but it's liked you picked the worst imaginable thing to say.
I don't know if I could ever be in a happy relationship.
Being raped as a woman sounds awesome
Are you saying that menstruation is an inside job? Because it sort of literally is.
Chad here.
I agree with most of what's in that image except for 2 things.
> Don't ask permission
Uh no constantly commanding is not gonna work. Sometimes you do need to say "do you want to go to the movies tomorrow?"
> Don't fuck fatties
If you're in a slump you need to fuck something. Something is better than nothing. ALWAYS keep the ball rolling.
Continued...
When you're chad women generally want to fuck pretty quick. But even for chads and everyone else, you need to set the stage. Especially as the sex slows down in the relationship.
Jerry Seinfeld said it best. Men are like firemen, women are like fire. You gotta get the kindling, light a match, blow on it. What I mean is you need to slowly build up the desire. Dinner, dancing, wine, etc. Build that flame all through the evening, so by midnight she's dying for it. Make her work for your dick. Don't give it up in 5 seconds.
>Her brain will always guard her arousal, meaning that if she doesn‘t think you‘re fit for breeding and the situation/circumstances are right, she‘ll never get aroused, no matter what you do or say.
>if she doesn‘t think you‘re fit for breeding
This. This shit right here.
If a female has that primal "I want your seed" sort of attraction going on, there's not much you have to do and there's little you can do to fuck it up.
>Jerry Seinfeld said it best
Unless this is something that's supposed to be funny, I'm pretty sure that it's the preface to literally nothing useful in the English language.
That dude's a hell of a comedian, though.
I mean, who *are* these people?
Eh, I can get that it sounds harsh, but you can look at it from different angles. In general both men and women kind of resent the opposite sex for not showing/feeling? attraction the way they do.
E.g. when men go "wow women need so much in order to like someone, is a girl is cute and sweet I don't care about her CV or her money that's all bullshit", but women often feel like men don't even care about drive, intelligence, talent, you name it, they just want a pretty face and someone okay to be around, like a human pet.
You can view what I said as needing to jump through hoops before a girl will even acknowledge it. You can also view it as girls not being interested in dick for the sake of dick and seeking a specific connection beyond animal attraction. Neither is really false.
>what do women want?
There are too many answers to this question that are relevant OP.
>this is 4chains
Yeah, and you guys have terrible likelihoods of getting laid anyway. In order to get her panties wet, she has to first want to spend more than 20 minutes around you.
>men are thirsty cunts
>this ruins relationships
Eh. You live and you learn. It's even better when people who respect you to your face make moves on your girl behind your back.
Part of being a 'good' person is letting this shit wash off your back like rain.
where are you getting the idea that women orgasm from rape all the time from?
It's one of the core mantras of the incel belief system.
It's what incels tell themselves to feel better about terminal singlehood.
How am I supposed to reconcile this into a healthy relationship? To try to come to terms with each other?