The doctor is in!

>The question: how can i cure the frustration?

By realizing not ALL women are like this. Some are quite traditional. And look at it from this point of view, the strongest men you know are only here because their mother's raised them to be who they are.

If you stop generalizing and look invididually, you'll see women aren't really bad.

>Bonus question: should i stop caring? If so, how?

Stop doing blanket generalizations on a sex, you'll see they have diverse points of views, not as you'd expect from how they are portrayed in everyday media.

Woops forgot to namefag

Sure doc. Here's one for you.

gf of two years never wants sex. We cuddle sometimes, we kiss, we hang out all the time. All is well and she isn't cheating or disinterested (100% sure).

I'm starting to think that I'm either doing something wrong or she's (for lack of other words) fucked. Am actually worried at this point.

Trying to be subtle about it goes completely unnoticed and being blunt about it always gets me "now's not the time". It's never been "the time". I'd love to know what's going on here.

And yes, I've just asked about it. The reply I got was that I just suck at timing, apparently.

He's beta, he thinks by giving you gifts you will be romantically interested.

If you use him, he can probably use that as emotional leverage over you. "Wow, I bought you this and that and you wouldn't even do this for me".

And you're right, it would be easy to abuse this guy. I know plenty of stories of girls taking cucks out on dates, making him buy plates of food for takeout, and have him drive her home for work. Only to tell him that they should only be friends. Basically, she just got dinner and a ride home from this clueless cuck.

What should you do?

Absolutely nothing. You can refuse the gifts as you are.

But, the buddhist in me is also saying, it's rude to deny gifts. As long as you take his gifts and tell him that "we're just friends okay?" then you wouldn't be ethically in the wrong, as you are only accepting a gift from a friend.

How do I tell when a girl is flirting versus when she is just being a decent human being? There have been many instances where my friends told me a girl was trying to flirt but I didn’t give them the time of day, this is especially the case when I am at anime conventions. These days women are hypersensitive (especially the types that I tend to be around) and I don’t want to offend anyone so I’m afraid to even really talk to them let alone attempt flirting. I’m sick of being flamed by friends and family for not talking to/ignoring girls.

I am not the doc, forewarning.
A common complaint I hear from women is that their partner wants sex "from nowhere". Like as far as they are concerned, the dude just comes up to them but they're busy with other things so hell no.
What I would suggest is try to lead up to it over a little while. Lingering kisses and touches, flirting hard with her, complimenting her, teasing her gently, etc. If you do this for about an hour and then try to lay her, if she's genuinely interested in you then she'll be putty in your hands.

Well she could be asexual.

Do you make sex seem transactional? It should be organic.

You say you guys snog and cuddle, can you not transition into fingering or spooning? Ease her into it.

Or maybe she does have problems of her own, could be anything. (Though you shouldn't press her on this too much).

And if this is a dealbreaker for you, then I'd be more than happy to prescribe my favourite medicine of 'leave the cunt and find a better one'.

I am dating a girl almost for 2 months now. I made this thread so you know her character Honestly I've been thinking about ending the thing (we are not even bf/gf yet) but I also think it's a coward move. I mean, I do enjoy spending time with her, she can be sweet and caring when she is not a bitch, and I do care about her. I've always thought that this things requires effort from both sides, in my case, to be tolerant and patient. Love cannot be built otherwise. But on the other hand, her "tantrums" (for a lack of a better term) makes me want to cut the whole deal, for at least a couple of hours after it, then I just forget about it, but that doesn't solve anything. I'd say I feel 50/50 about this. She is coming home in 3 hours and I am still thinking if I must make a "we are over" conversation, or a "I am not comfortable with this but we should work it out and I need X from you" thing. What do you think?

Basically, any conversation beyond small-talk and business can be considered flirting.

But then again, tone plays heavily into this. You guys can be making small talk but if she's smiling and touching her hair, then she's interested. She's more apt to flirting.

Flirting is playful. If she's playful then she's probably flirting.

I am 27 and have been in a handful of relationships, but every one of them was set up for me by my friends without me having to do anything so I never learned basic things like asking a girl out. All the relationships set up for me didn’t work out so I don’t let them anymore.

Yeah I'm used to dudes buying shit and then trying to use it against me, it's why I'm so pissed about this situation. I am not, in any universe, accepting his gifts, purely because it may get back to my boyfriend and yeah that doesn't looks great. I'm trying to navigate this without upsetting my partner but also without breaking this poor insecure dude's fucking face.

>By realizing not ALL women are like this.
>Some are quite traditional.
>the strongest men you know are only here because their mother's raised them to be who they are
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Yea, sure thing doc.
I suggest that you study more if you want the truth.
But in the end, it ain't worth it.
Truth cuts as deep (and as efficently) as laser.
Stories are better, so thanks for giving me one.

Not asexual for sure.

We'd cuddle and do other cute shit but i'd always ask if we should keep going in the end.

Perhaps my politeness was my downfall. Next few times I'll just shut up and keep going.

If it doesn't work I'll follow doc's advice and try to keep her as a friend instead of wasting our lives.

Thanks for your time lads.

I just had some girl say to me that I'm 'cute'. Ever since a bad rejection a year ago I've forced myself to believe that any girl that talks to me is just doing it for a joke or to get their kicks.

Pls help doc.

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Well, you seem dead set on it so why did you ask me?

I try not to have any preconcieved notions about anybody and only asses people invididually. Now that doesn't mean there aren't observable patterns in groups, it's just that I don't carry a set of beliefs that I apply to people when I meet them invididually.

>I suggest that you study more if you want the truth.

Well are you gonna enlighten me then?

>>>the strongest men you know are only here because their mother's raised them to be who they are

Study women in Ancient Sparta.

Gonna have to step on some toes, sis.

Keep refusing the gifts and carry on.

>Perhaps my politeness was my downfall

better to ask for forgiveness than permission.

Best of luck to you

TLDR just relax and test the waters.

You shouldn't believe something so idiotic.

That said, it can mean anything. A joke. Irony. Teasing. Flirting. Perhaps an attempt to get your attention.

Go to that girl and introduce yourself. Talk for a bit. Ask her to do something with you. Coffee is fine but very textbook and boring. Ask her what she likes and invite her to do some activity you'd both enjoy.

Worst case scenario: She tells you to fuck off. You no longer have to worry about it!

General scenario: You've made an aquaintance.

Best scenario: You end up getting a girlfriend.

not OP.

Insecurity.

And fear.

Get rid of fear. Stop overthinking and analyzing.

When a girl says Youre Cute, that's it! She thinks youre cute.

Build some confidence though, find your purpose, improvee your body and mind and financial situation. All the best.

This dude knows!

But usually I just take compliments instead of doubting them

I do a muay thai class and there is this girl I'm kinda into. How do I go about asking her out for a drink or get her number. Reason is that it's just weird asking her in the gym and I don't know if it's frowned upon doing so in a martial arts gym. How do I do it whilst making it feel natural and not make her think I'm some slobbery virgin.

Chat her up. Ask her name. Make some rapport.

Build this up. Say whats up to her. Spar with her.

You know little things like this builds interest. Ask her good questions, and listen well. Bring up those things (not hamfisted-ly) in later conversations to show you're listening. Talk about things in your shared situation, muay thai in this case.

Be charming, and funny and playful. Sbout 90% manly, 10% jokester.

Then when the time is right for you, after class, just ask her out for some ice cream. Set a definitee time and place. Naturally you will exchange contacts.

If she says no well, you tried! If youre persisten you will take it well and not be hung up about it. Keep building and ask again a second time. (usually I advocate 2 attempts at MOST).

Best of luck to you!

>Well are you gonna enlighten me then?
Women have the monopoly on reproduction, and as soon as they get power and freedom, they neglect to do the only thing that they should do: inject life into the system.
Why? Cause it's hard, and they would ahve to sacrifice, and honestly, who likes that?
That's why they ALWAYS kill the society that is kind to them.
I't not their fault tho, it's in their nature.
They can't understand morality, and how it's important to them to sacrifice.
They don't even understand that the new conquerors will just rape them, and take thier power away in an instant.
They, simply put, are slaves.
And they always win, cause they ultimately decide who gets born, and who doesn't.
And that's why, sooner or later, we will create an artificial womb, and we will exterminate them.

>Study women in Ancient Sparta
Women were more traditional there cause men FORCED them to.
Cause as soon as you give women a hand, they won't take the arm, they will take your life.
And they won't do it with hate in thier mind, that's the chilling thing.

>why did you ask me?
I just hoped for honesty, and good advice on how to not care anymore.

Doc, could you please give me your insights on ?

>Women have the monopoly on reproduction
Takes two to tango don't it?

>they neglect to do the only thing that they should do:

That's pretty base and carnal. It's true, but modernities allow women freedoms to do whatever she wish.

>They can't understand morality,

And men do? Men know about morality sure, but do they always do the moral thing? Men aren't entirely blameless.

>They, simply put, are slaves.

Smh.

>And that's why, sooner or later, we will create an artificial womb, and we will exterminate them.

You're fun at parties, I'm sure.

Im resorting to ad hominems because I really can't get into this right now, maybe when I visit Jow Forums we can.

This is about love, relationships and breakups. Not mass immigration, culture, and (borderline) qmisogny.

>Women were more traditional there cause men FORCED them to.

Well it takes a woman to raise a traditional household. Wether or not they forced to do so, they are still part of the family unit that brought us here today.

Love is patient they say. If it’s worth it you just gotta grit your teeth and be that solid unreacrive and playful presence.

When my girl gets pissy I just laugh at her and make her realize she’s angry about the stupidest things.

But it’s also worth considering is it worth it? Do you want to find someone better more suited to your likes? Then end it and don’t look back.

That's the way it is:
>We went out with some friends to drink
>A friend and I stayed talking to this girl about movies, she's a friend of both of us.
> He knows that I like her
>As it turns out, we really like the same movie.
>My friend proposes that we meet one day to watch the movie, next week, at his house.
>We all accept
>The days pass, until today
>She contacts me by instagram, she wants us to meet a few days earlier at her house to see the film. Her parents have gone on a trip and she will be alone. She also tells me to tell my friend.

I said yes. Everything is ready to go next Sunday to her house. Should I tell my friend not to show up so that I can be alone with her at her house? For now she's just a friend but I could try.
Or should we all go and just have a good time watching a movie?

My ex broke up with me but last night she called me drunk saying she misses but still just wants to be friends i still love her and want her back I don't know what to do.

You close with this friend?

If so, he could definitely do you a solid.

>she misses but still just wants to be friends i still love her and want her back I don't know what to do.

You want her back but she just wants to be friends and shee's dumpeed you? What do I always teach over here?

Call her when she's sober.
Say "Look baby, I',m only interested in being your lover, if you change your mind give me a call."

Fuck the friendzone (unless if thats what you want). Walk away and never look back.

Yes, he's been a friend for many years.

So the plan is to go to her house alone with drinks, snacks and alcohol, and when I get there tell her that my friend has had to do something important? Will that work?

Can feign to get a text and say, oh so-and-so said he can't make it.

bump

>5'1"
>4.5" penis (erect)
>Average at best face
>Poor social skills
Am I doomed?

What the best way for KHV to even start?

Ok, I will try. I hope to not spill many spaguetti out of my pockets.

I’ve had a crush on this girl for over a year and she recently broke up with her controlling bf. We have a lot in common and can actually have a conversation. I want ask her out, but I don’t know if she feels the same way and don’t want to ruin my chances with her. She’s flirty with me but I don’t know if there’s any meaning behind it. I’m 16 she’s 18

On him/herself. Physically, mentally, financially, beeing purpose driven.

Having thee right mindset on women, that is that they shouldn't be a souce of your happiness rather someone to share your happiness with.

Once you "love yourself" and the love you have is overflowing, you can begin to look for someone to offer your love to them.

Well if its too soon, I would give her sometime. Just talk to her and keep contact. You don't want to be her rebound.

When the time is right, ask her out! Show her a good time so she associatees good times with you!

All the best

What a coincidence. I've been thinking about how jaded and just how much self hate I have. I guess less of that is where I start.
Just what the doctor ordered. Thanks!

If you put your heart into it you will fall be suprised, amazed even, at the person you'll become.

It's gonna be a wonderful journey user, keep us updated.

No. You're just playing on hard mode. It'll feel better when you win.

Oh I wish i saw this because i just made a thread for my problem but. How do I enter I don't care about a partner and itll come when it comes mode? Everytime I'm single for I'm awhile i enter a state of desperation, lonliness,depression amd completley irrational thoughts like im the ugliest guy there ever was and ill die alone, no one will ever love me evt despite that ive slept with a decent amount of women and had girlfriends. How do i just surrender it.

Your reality is not theirs

Learn to be alone.

You don't need others for happiness

How do I distinguish between "friendly retail worker" and flirting?
I get a smoothie pretty much every morning because fuck breakfast, and there's a grill that works there that's started making small talk whenever I walk in, asking me what my plans for the day are, if i have anything fun planned for the weekend, etc. And it's never a "oh well that sounds fun" or "bummer" or whatever like usual, she always follows it up and asks more. She also always writes these cutesy messages on my cup instead of my name and greets me more enthusiastically than she seems to other people who walk in.

Writing this down, it feels fucking stupid and she's probably just being friendly. But it doesn't feel that way, she seems just a little *too* interested for it to be idle smalltalk.

I want to marry my gf but I’m scared I’ll regret it. 25 in grad school

Is it bad to not have Instagram? Many friends have told me that I should get one because you get to meet a lot of people, but something about it just feels false. Like, stories and post are just set-up parts of someone's life. Should I get an account?

Honestly it's odds are that she is just doing her job. But you say you regularly been there and she's escalating a bit so why not give it a shot?

Ask her out to ice cream and set a definite time.

Best of luck