ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

After how much time is ghosting not really a concern?

I'm super paranoid about being ghosted/rejected by the men I'm seeing, because all my relationships have fizzled out pretty quickly. I'm in my longest sustained relationship now of 5 months, and I'm still paranoid that one day he's just going to ghost me. Like right now, I haven't heard from him in 6 days which is long for us, and I'm already convinced he hates me and wants nothing to do with me ever again even though nothing happened.

I'm 22 and the minimum age I would ever date is two years younger.

>5 months
>6 days not hearing from him which is unusual
That sounds worrying to me without even thinking about whether he was getting out of the relationship which, if he was, kinda seems like a dick move, but IDK. How often does he normally contact you?

I asked this in another incarnation of this thread, but I missed the answer, and the thread got pruned.

girls, what is up with the cheeky shorts? Shorts that leave the bottoms of the butt cheeks exposed are really popular. for a while, it looked like they were on the verge of becoming mainstream. I mean, sole in Target-level mainstream.

what are the average femanon's thoughts on the bottom of her booty being exposed? is this deliberate, or are you just following trends? does it seem sexual to you? is that the point, like wearing a low-cut shirt? do you wish styles would show more? Like, thongs in causal settings. what are your thoughts on butts, in general?

I am a guy, so whatever answers you might think I have to these questions, they are probably true. No, I don't secretly record girls wearing tiny shorts. that is creep shit. but I definitely appreciate people who do.

31 yo guy here.
>Also, what should my skincare routine be like?
Depends on your skin. Go to Reddit's skincareaddiction section. Seriously.

>Anyone who used to have acne but doesn't, what products do you use on your skin now?
Well... Some context:
- I had severe acne until about 20
- I have very oily skin
- I still have acne, but almost nothing
If I could go back in time, I would try accutane, but on a low dose. This is what I recommend for you.

What made me have less acne: getting older, controlling my anxiety, never forgetting to wash face (2 or 3 times, depending on the temperature), applying azelaic acid (I apply on spots where I feel like the acne will appear).

>No, I don't secretly record girls wearing tiny shorts.
Fag

How do I make a girl to have sex with me again

Girls,
what's a good first date plan?
what was the best first date you have been in like?

Maybe once every 4-5 days. It's always just to plan meeting up, as neither of us like to text chat. Last time I asked him to hang out but he was busy. I don't want to reach out again until I hear from him.

Girls

Is it possible to find girls in their late twenties and early thirties who didn’t do casual sex?

>cheeky shorts
That's a cute name for them.

I don't wear them, but going on other items I assume it's threefold; they're fashionable at the moment, they're a bit revealing so it makes them feel sexy/get attention, and they like them. I'm quite sure they know their butts are hanging out.

22/23, but I date women, so I'm not sure if that counts. I'm 28.

Is it a good idea to fap before sex? First time with a girl

maybe if you want a mormon
everyone's got some baggage mate, yours is being a khv

Yes. I didn't, and most of my friends growing up didn't. However, finding them and telling them apart from everyone else might be a challenge.

Le bamp

I’m not khv
Yeah that sounds like a problem desu. It makes me sad

Ok, disclaimed in the FAQ

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
>We're not in their head, we don't know.

But I can speculate. She might have liked the validation but wasn't interested in dating. She may have only liked the chase and lost interest once she had caught you. She might have a bf and is regretting her choices. She simply might have changed her mind. Honestly, there could be any number of reasons

i've done that and the answer boiled down to any and all of:

>I felt really confident at the time and thought he was cute but then later realized that i wasn't into it

>he texted me something weird/cringe that turned me off and made me think he was clingy (therefore i won't respond because he might start sending desperate texts)

>someone else i liked better asked me out

>I got busy and would rather hang out with my friends than take the time to get to know someone else

It's a numbers game just move on and find a girl who respects your time and effort

I was dating this girl but she dumped me after six months because she was "Unhappy", I know she hates herself for a multitude of reasons and is fairly depressed, but the sex was great and I was loving and attentive. It's been two months but she still occasionally contacts me and views my shit on social media. I know she's talking to another guy, but she said things are moving a bit fast and he's an introvert. I'm doing no contact, Whenever we talk it's not because I've contacted her, its Whenever she decides to contact me.

How do I get her back, or should I just stick with the no contact?

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Girls:

When we (guys) adjust our junk through our pockets, is it obvious?

How do I get a gf like this? Do any of you girls have a friend in your circle blessed with big boobs? If so, what kind of guys does she date?

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Sometimes, I like to just flirt with guys as practice so i can raise my confidence, but I don't usually approach him first.
One time I met a really sad shy guy who looked poor so I tried to cheer him up by saying something like hey sexy and he thought I was flirting with him when I was just trying to be nice.
I don't understand how he got that idea. I mean, I feel bad, but why would I go out with someone like that?
Sex appeal is the one most important things women have as a tool, so at least I tried to help him.

Girls, what should I say on a date? I've been on a few "you want to go and get coffee sometime?" dates before but this is the first girl where it's completely unambiguous. Me and this girl have decent enough chemistry but I feel like whenever we talk, or really whenever I talk to women in general, it's just me asking questions and sometimes them asking the same one back. Is that bad or do women just really like talking about themselves? Also, second question, how do I guide the conversation away from politics? She's a liberal who's really into social justice and I'm a commie who thinks idpol is retarded. She brings up social justice stuff sometimes and the best I can do (since seriously discussing politics this early would be stupid) is just smile and nod, is there a better way to steer the conversation away where I'm not basically just agreeing with stuff I think is stupid?

maybe if I were 16, I would try it. I am too old for that shit. it would not end well, for me.

Yes

Is staying in a fwb with someone who you have mild feelings for just a recipe for heartbreak? I don't know if he wants to go further than that by suspicion is he doesn't, but I'd rather have a fwb with him, and then not have him at all. I don't even like him that much, so I think I can handle it, but I'm not if I'm being really dumb and just setting myself up for failure.

How do you go about starting a conversation in a bar or some other similar setting?
I'm not anxious regarding women, and I can take rejection. What holds me back is that I have no idea how to initiate a conversation. Is offering to buy a drink a legit starter or just a meme from movies?
And I also think that I am too polite/respectful and not forth-coming enough. I don't know how to steer a conversation into implying that I want to "escalate" things.
In short, unless the woman herself has the initiative and is very explicit about her intentions, I am completely lost.

Pretty sure that would poorly regardless of your age, user.

did i dun goof my wrists?
>by used elliptical
>be bored on it
>realize i can play my nintendo switch for get my workouts up to 45 min no problem
>fucking carpal tunnel syndrome symptoms start
is it even possible to have carpal tunnel syndrome come on it just a couple months like that?

Assuming this isn't bait,
>I saw a really hungry looking dog one day. I said I was going to feed him to make him feel better, but then he started following me around? Wtf
You are this stupid.

>Date a jewish girl

>It's a numbers game just move on and find a girl who respects your time and effort

Thanks user, that last line was good advice, I do need to just move on, in the past I have been "clingy" with one girl its something I'm working on. Plus, maybe I just saved myself from the potential of being crazy, she did have a couple of "yellow flags" to me.

>I like to just flirt with guys as practice so i can raise my confidence
I get that, but to actually flirt and then give a number out and say something very leading on at the end is a bit too much for me and very misleading.

The fuck kind of response do you want boy?
No you can't control for breast size unless you date sex workers.
Why even worry about it? If you and/or your SO get enough money, you can get implants any way so who fucking cares? Its not like it changes anything.

>One time I met a really sad shy guy who looked poor so I tried to cheer him up by saying something like hey sexy and he thought I was flirting with him when I was just trying to be nice.
>I don't understand how he got that idea.
Bait

I'm almost gonna be 21 and my acne is still as bad as it was in high school. I have really oily skin. I can wash my face and just an hour or two later it'll be greasier than a chicken mcnugget again. I'm not interested in accutante because I've heard some scary stuff about it having permanent psychological side effects even after you get off it. I'm in college now so reducing my anxiety will not happen until I graduate at least. I will look into azelaic acid though.

They don't like you. They are being nice in person, you're mistaking it as flirting (not always your fault), then they don't want to reject you to your face so they give you a phone number and try to ignore you. Moral of the story is to stop putting effort into them if they don't respond.

Some girls will have zero attraction to you because of it. In my experience, girls who also have acne seem to warm up to me much more quickly, look for those. Make sure you have a clean haircut and dress decently. If you look unkempt and have acne it looks like you just have it because you're dirty.
Everyone's routine is different. I've tried damn near anything under the sun and surprisingly proactive is helping more than even accutane did. I still get the odd pimple but I haven't had a real breakout in months. Worth a shot if you haven't tried it yet.

Eh maybe ill never know and its fine. I deff know she has been eyeing me for a long time and has had a crush on me for around a year or so. Even when I was leaving she said "there's more where that came from" in a really sexy tone and she winked at me and did this weird girl tongue thing.

W/e, moving onward is the only choice atp.

I rarely notice girls with acne because most of them probably cover it with makeup. Plus to be brutally honest I'm not sure I'd want to date a girl with acne as bad as mine. It's that bad. I feel ugly every time I look in the mirror because of it and I wish I could get rid of it or even reduce it to a "normal" level.

I used to have somewhat bad acne but not cheese pizza level.

Best I can advise is do NOT pop any pipmples or dig around your face, this will cause scars. I have just a few and regret those.

Learn about your skin, maybe hit up /fa/, they have some good facial care skin threads. If need be go to a Doc and see if there is anything that can be done, I would go all natural if possible.

>21
>21 and over

I've dated quite older men but I can't get into the idea of dating a guy younger than me. Even guys my age I'd rather not date but I'm not strictly against it

Girls, what's the sluttiest thing you have done that you will never admit irl?

Cope

Bump

I used to wear a bikini but I wear one pieces nowadays because they don't make 2pieces that are small enough for me.

Azelaic acid only prevents/treats the acne, it does nothing to oily skin. When I was looking for a "cure" for oily skin, I found that the only thing that can reduce the oiliness is accutane. I tried to get it for myself, but the doctor said that I don't have acne to justify such treatment.
Props to you for going to college, despite having such an annoying problem. I wasn't as bold. :(

Don't wash your face more than once per day. Eat a balanced diet. Stop eating and drinking garbage.

How is that slutty?

>Don't wash your face more than once per day
Bullshit.
>Eat a balanced diet. Stop eating and drinking garbage
It helped very little for me, but I support these, anyway.

> don't pop pimples
Wayyy too late for that lol
> /fa/
Noted, I'll check it out
I don't want to try accutane unless all possible alternatives have been exhausted. I try not to worry too much about what people think of my acne. It hasn't stopped me from making friends in college. But dating is a whole other game where appearance matters much more. Girls never express interest in me and I feel like it's because my acne prevents them from even being seen as an option for dating. I can't really blame them though because like I said, I probably wouldn't be attracted to a girl with acne as bad as mine.

how small are you?

Girls
How do you cope with feeling like everyone wants only to bone you, use you, treat you like a trophy, or get you to fix their life for them?

No sugar no carbs
Thank me later

Homosexuality

Flashed my tits on Omegle

No such thing as lesbians tho. Except that fat ugly ones that no one wants anyway. Must be you?

you filthy whore

Don't you think it's kinda funny that you say "everyone" but what you really mean there is "every man"? Most men go through life getting attention from almost no women and most women go through life getting attention from almost every man. That's just how it is unless you turn yourself into some kind of androgynous asexual. Maybe stop focusing on men so much for friends.

I'm just going to direct this at both genders.
What's a good way to pick up. There is an event next week that's sort of work related. There is going to be a chick there that I see every other day at work and we get along well enough. I just don't know how to go from normal conversation to leading into something more. How do I move conversation in attempt to pick up?

you make your intentions clear.

i would say you're clear by now. send him a message yourself. also, are you sure he's all well?

Seriously what does that even mean. Just straight up tell her I think she is cute?
If you had not guessed I am rather socially inept, I can hardly hold a conversation and people just accept I have fuck all to say. I can make friends easy as, just about everyone I meet outside of work ends up a friend, I just have no idea how to "make my intentions clear"

i'm pretty sure he's fine. he's had periods where he didn't reach out for a while but that was when we first started dating.

i was thinking i would wait til the weekend hits because if he doesn't ask to meet up this weekend i feel like it's a telltale sign. we've been meeting up like once a week, usually weekends, and so to not hear from him i'd think something was definitely up.

and if that does happen, i don't know what to do at that point. i'm too prideful to text him again, so i may end up waiting til mid next week to set something up for the weekend. even then i'm just gonna feel desperate though.

yes, just straightforward inform her you consider her cute, possibly in a one-on-one situation. inform her you would like to spend more time with her, because (your reasons) . playing the social misfit card works only against you.

so let's get this straight: is he the only one in your pair to ever initiate conversations? when was the last time you sent him a message on your own?

no, it's both of us. however last time I asked him to meet up (6 days ago), he said he wasn't free and the conversation ended there. Now I don't want to be the one asking again, and if he wanted to hang out I feel like he would. This is why I'm getting worried.

I just dont want to come off desperate by being the one asking again.

Do girls ever browse these threads? Skimming this make it seems like it's just horny guys trying to get laid

it's not desdperate by an inch. my advice is to get such ideas out of your head, because it's very frustrating for others. if i had to write a girl, knowing that she won't bother to contact me otherwise, i would give up on her. you are supposed to like and care for each other. every second day at least ask him how was his day. this is not desperate, this is caring and longing. best you can give. write him now. say hi, say you miss him, say you hope he's fine.

sometimes a lone umicorn comes accidentally to this forgotten place

>playing the social misfit card works only against you.
If your talking about my calling myself socially inept, I do my best to appear confident and not call myself socially inept in person.

Anyway thanks, probably some of the better advice I have gotten on the matter.

Every now and then they do. The problem is Jow Forums's demographics are young adults, a young women don't have real problems. What is a 22 year old woman going to ask in these threads, "how can I choose between the two dozen guys that want to be my boyfriend"? Any problems a young woman has wouldn't have anything to do with her gender so she wouldn't need to come here.

Anyone can answer this. I'm a 31 year old guy.
I've had a gf, lost my virginity to her. Not quite NEET total fucking loser but, at best just under normie tier. I get conflicted feelings about finding a gf. On one hand, objectively speaking I'm better off alone. I'm better off being single for the rest of my life. Brothels are legal north of where I live so I can find sex and pay for it.
But, part of me wants to find a gf again and just be a good bf. I'd gladly give up all the porn and all the loser shit if I could land a gf.
Sometimes I really want to find a gf but, lately all I've been getting is ghosted or just left on read.
I'm part asian and well, I'm not really attractive in the face at all. I've gained some weight but, I'm not obese.

Either how can I be more successful in finding a gf?
OR
How can I stop this feeling of longing?

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>when you're just being light hearted and user gets nasty

Oh user, you card. For the record - my BMI is 20, and I have had plenty of attention from males and females. You'll have to try quite a bit harder than that if you're trying to upset me.

I do, and I'm a femanon. I noticed that I have similar problems like the other people on here, and sometimes actual good advice comes around

Women like giving advice though, and this advice is asked directly of them here (usually). I've never asked a question here but I respond semi-often. I like the thread for the most part

Don't have to look for girls with it as bad as yours. Even ones with a few blemishes are usually understanding as long as they like your other features. But when you see a girl with perfect skin and a toned body... yeah, kind of have to accept that she's out of your league.

Still, you need to learn to be an entertaining talker. Guys like us never have girls fall for us immediately. Our only way is by building rapport with a girl over the course of a few weeks and then moving onto asking her out. I'm not saying you need pick-up game, but you should try to learn stuff like holding eye contact and smiling (guessing you struggle with it, I know I did), and how to carry conversations and make people laugh.

What's the best way to ask out a girl who doesn't have a method of transportation? Tried asking this girl out today and she told me a time she could meet me for lunch on-campus on a few days, but I have work on those days. Would it be too forward to suggest that I could pick her up from her place and then we could go out? We've only had small chats, don't know eachother well yet.

I honestly even think it is easier, most of my friends my age or a little older didn't whore around much.

I've done absolutely disgusting things with my boyfriend.

everyone, share your very first sexual experience

Awkward sex with my first boyfriend.
Neither of us came. It hurt a lot for me, I bled a bit.

i picked someone that I knew I wasn't going to date or even love, and who knew the same about me, but was nice and could leave with a nice memory. It wasn't bad. We laughed a little and had fun. I did some cringe things. but overall it was just a nice memory that didn't get soured by us breaking up or anything.
i just remember us kissing and laughing in the room, which was an attic? and it was sunny in the morning. the sex was alright.

Masturbated with my sister

that girl wanted me to play some game or whatever. she was 8, i were 5. i was supposed to hold flowers behind my back, pretend to knock on imaginary door, she would turn around, open, throw given flowers away and lay down with me. she encouraged me to put a hand down her panties.

>21
>18
I switched majors recently so I'm stuck with a whole lot of 18 year olds. There are actually some pretty nice, mature and chill guys there that I was surprised, I wouldn't mind dating them., hypothetically speaking.

>25
>23
I've had a crush on a 23 year old once, but normally date older guys.

>first sexual experience

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male

why do I always fuck it up within the first couple lines? A girl can be *hugely* excited to talk to me and within a minute and a half to three minutes, she's completely over me. I guess nobody can really answer that question.

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So you’re a socialist then? Marry me.

> first sexual experience

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I have one in theory, but after 10 years untouched I honestly feel like it was someone else's experience. I don't even know how to kiss.
Male, of course.

Guy who I used to date for years told me, while we were having a fight, that it was only sex for him. Since then I stopped talking to him at all, for three months there was no contact at all. Then, out of nowhere, he started texting me, out of "curiosity". He has gf, but still would be curious about my life and so on. Why is that? I don't get this kind of behavior. He told me to leave him alone and so on, but now he is texting me and stuff like it...

Do you want to date me? I'm very lonely.