Why does she do this?

Why does she do this?

Tldr my gf never wants a date with me and dont see each other for months at a time

Im going to break up with my gf. But before I do I want to know why she does this.
To sum it up, she never wants to see me. Were about half a year in and she never even initiated a date once. Not a single time. We barely see each other once a month. Whenever I ask her it takes me us a buttload of arguments so shell agree. But whenever were together shes really falling for me. Until the date ends and it seems like she doesnt want to see me again.
A few points that explain some points to a degree:
>religious parents, not allowed to have a bf, shes extremely paranoid someone will catch us
>im her first bf
>shes insecure
>we both dont have much time because we go to college everyday until 6 or 7

I try to understand it. But mostly I dont. This doesnt explain everything. Why does she never initiate anything? Why is she hesitating so much to see me? Wouldnt you miss your bf after not seeing him for 2 months? Even if she has to hide our relationship, why doesnt she realize shes destroying it with her behaviour?
>Inb4 talk to her
I did and we argue everytime I ask her for a date. She mentioned the points above and the last time she said I was right and she needed to change that. But again that has been a month and she didnt change anything
>Inb4 underage get out
Pretty young but not underage thanks

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Only kinda scanned but it sounds like she’s cheating IMO. Takes arguments to get her on a date? Only you initiate? Months without seeing each other?

Ghost her, starting right now. Just remove her from all social media and stop texting her. Don’t block her, but set all your hair to private and unfollow/unfriend her. If the texts start rolling in, you get the last laugh as she acts desperate for that attention from good old user. If she doesn’t, well then fuck her, she’s common, nothing special. Just make sure to get with other chicks as soon as you can or your feeling for this girl will linger way too long.

One more thing: COMMIT TO THE GHOST, DO NOT CAVE AND HOLD YOUR FRAME OF MIND

Seconding this.

Im not as naive as I may sound. I had cheatin gfs before. But this is not it. Ive known her for years and I know every detail of her life. I would also think that she cheats on me but she was like this the second our relationship began. Hell even when we were friends she would hesitate to go out with me. But she actually seems to love me because no girl has ever been so loving but also so distant to me. But as I said I already planned on breaking up. I just dont understand it and if shes not willing to change herself than it seems like were not compatible. The ghosting idea is good for someone who actually cheated but I dont want to hurt her too much. Ill just say how it is and go my own way.

Bump
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Then just tell her that you think things won't work out between the two of you because you barely see each other. If she says she'll change tell her you've already given her opportunities to do so.

She doesn't actually like you that much.

As I said, im already planning on doing so. Just wanted to know why she actually behaves like this

Why did she want the relationship in the first place then. How can you not like someone enough to wanting to see them more than once a month and proceed to build a relationship with that person. Whatever seems about right

Some people, especially girls have an attraction to people of the other sex simply for the status of not being a "loser" she keeps you st bay so she can tell her friends who get railed every weekend by some random that she had a 'boyfriend's

If it was a true intimate connection, youd see her more than once a month and she'd put some effort into seeing you. Just tell her it's over as there's no intimacy to keep you interested. Find someone who's into you just as much as you are into them.

That hurts to be honest. But seems to be the most reasonable one

Reality Check: She's not your girlfriend. At least not in her mind. She sees you as an occasional friend, no more.

you aren't her bf. She's probably fucking someone else, too.

Why don't you ask her?

sounds like she is seeing other dudes. She sounds she is also under age, and also months apart? are you sure she is your GF?

>ghost her
Why the fuck ? Why are you people always so wimpy and disrespectful ? Ghosting is only appropriate for cases of harassment, and it's especially pointless when the problem is that the other person doesn't get involved in the relationship.

I started doing this to an ex of mine when I began to realize how incompatible we were, not to mention I had 80 hours of homework a week and he usually didn't know when to go home.
I wasn't cheating on him, he just wasn't worth the effort due to how different we were.

You're not worth the effort . If you do think that she loves you and its a relationship then why can't you propose to her and talk to her parents about your relationship. You are just a loser who expects the girl to keep you as a secret. You ain't all that you're just a pussyboi

You're not worth her losing the relationship with her parents you wimpy boy

>>religious parents, not allowed to have a bf, shes extremely paranoid someone will catch us
This is really bizzare but it completely explains why she doesn't want to have a coffee in a public place if it is going to kill her. I assume Muslim or cult, where they kill people who fall outside the lines because anything else would mean OP is a pedo and I don't care if he kills himself or breaks up with his victim.

Either way, it is your fault and you have nobody to blame but you.

>Wouldnt you miss your bf after not seeing him for 2 months?
Take a guess for yourself ffs. Yes ofcourse she would miss you IF SHE ACTUALLY WANTED TO BE WITH YOU.

Hasn't it occurred to you in any way that she might just not be that into you? If she was madly in love with you she would do everything she can to be with you. But she doesn't. And no, the whole religious parents thing doesn't matter. Again, if she liked you enough she would figure out a way to make it work.

>b-b-but if she doesn't love me, why hasn't she broken up with me?
Girls are insecure, fragile creatures. Often times they simply want to be in a relationship because it makes them feel more secure and safe regardless of how much they like their boyfriend. You're the security blanket boyfriend. She goes off, does her own thing, cheats on you maybe and when bad things happen to her or she has an emotional breakdown she knows she always has you to fall back on for comfort.

Break up with her and find someone better.

If you want the girl to initiate then you're probably a gay tranny . I doubt that she initiated the relationship ,be glad she even spoke to you inspite having religious parents. I bet you're too coward to face her parents but you expect her to do things for you .You're just wasting her time

I doubt this coward wimpy occasional bf can give any woman any security. He seems like he's fragile himself and seeks security and secret sex from her

Fuck

Read the op

Shes 18

Why not just break up then?

Ok this seems like a fair point. Seems like she likes me barely enough not to break up

They arent that extreme, but she has incredible guilt issues because of this. The last time we talked about this she broke down crying telling me how difficult it is to lie to her parents
>Muslim
Yes

Fuck again

Congrats on winning an argument I never made? Id gladly meet her parents but the close family that already knows about us said that its better for us not to tell them yet because they wouldnt accept it.

Why did this thread turn into a rant against me? Whatever yes I am indeed very insecure

She's not entitled to not being ghosted

Fpbp

Every human is entitled to respect.

do this

>western women
>deserving of respect
holy fuck you’re serious lol