My boyfriend cheated on me I think...

my boyfriend cheated on me I think. I looked at his phone and there are like these gaps in messages to his study partner. I don't want him to leave me if I'm wrong but like I went to the library where he says they study after class and I NEVER see them.
I got cheated on last boyfriend too.
What am I doing wrong? I don't understand why they keep doing this to me. I don't deserve it.

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I don't

some guys are douchebags

I mean look at me

I am a roman soldier that wanders the world looking for a gf and I've never cheated. Only built memorials

and here I am comforting you telling you that you need to calm the fuck down and dumb this faggot cause any guy that cheats and only thinks with his dick is actually gay or can't pair bond

you want pair bond

If it's reached a point where you're looking through his phone behind his back (and he's seemingly aware you do this, hence him potentially deleting messages) the relationship is pretty much over. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Talk to him about it if you need the closure, but the relationship is as good as dead.

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>you want pair bond
thank you romanov
Should I cut his balls off you think?
i don't want us to break up though. I don't have anyone else to be with or spend time with right now and im not that attractive.

>I don't have anyone else to be with or spend time with right now and im not that attractive.

You want to be in a relationship where you're constantly going to be suspicious and upset because your boyfriend is (possibly) cheating on you; and all because you fear loneliness? What is preventing you from meeting other people? If your current boyfriend knows he can cheat on you, has no morals or conscious, and knows you won't leave him for cheating, why wouldn't he cheat on you?

Two things are going on with you in particular it looks like.

You are still in the aftermath of your previous relationship where you got cheated on, and you also hold onto these insecurities that cause you to doubt your current boyfriend's loyalty.
>I don't have anyone else to be with or spend time with right now and im not that attractive
You will have these insecurities with literally any boyfriend that you have unless you do something about them.

Even if he WAS cheating on you these are feelings that you'll just have with "the next guy".

Also of course there is the relationship aspect of it all where if you honestly want you optimally share your time on earth with another person and have an honest companionship then you need to have a grounds to communicate certain things. Not "are you cheating on me" because that is feeding the wrong mental animal but maybe ask for reassurance in a "what do you love about me" kind of way.

stop spacing like that.

is there anything I should say to him specifically to get him to admit it? I'll do it right now.

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theres no magic words to really solve this and you probably shouldnt trust that an anonymous image board full of antisemitism people are going to write you a script to fix your relationship.

you know the situation better than anyone but as a start I think you should doubt the cynical and insecure side of yourself more so you can stop "testing" him and doing recon and proving to yourself just how much you doubt others rather than doubt your cynical thoughts.

If you want reassurance, then get it out of him in a way that does not directly accuse him of cheating. Like asking him stuff he likes about you.

I don't think him messaging his study partner, which is probably something he actually HAS to do and is out of his control due to his academic setting, is enough for you to think he is cheating.

If you are early in the relationship you will have these insecurities when you hear about your partner being around other "potential mates". But you really should let certain aspects like trust and communication develop early in the relationship if you expect it to last.
Imagine how strong the relationship is going to be when despite both of you being exposed to -other- people within your sexuality, that you ended up being loyal to each other anyways.
Imagine a relationship where he has been exposed to many other people within his sexuality and chats with other people and still exclusively picks you.

The worries stated in your OP aren't enough to think he is cheating in my opinion. And maybe you're convincing yourself of these cynical thoughts out of previous mistrusts and insecurities

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just suck dick better op

I do understand your paranoia, I seem to attract the type that cheat. Ask 3 girlfriends I've read cheated.

I wouldn't say he cheated on you until you already know.

Though if you have gone through his phone and give a weird gap it shows that you don't trust him. Which while a bit reasonable I'm not sure how well this will come out in the end. Your relationship looks to be already on thin ice. Does he know you looked at his phone?

I just asked him if he had been to the library lately because I hadn't seen him there. Then, he picked up his phone and asked if I was looking through his shit. I said no and then he told me he knew I looked through it and then he left. He's going to break up with me for sure haha
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thanks romanov, i guess

Most libraries have study rooms and shit. You may be fucked but idk if you have sufficient info. I never cheat but I have deleted shit where I think a girl got a little inappropriate so as to not offend my snooping significant other.

Start being really passive about it saying if anyone ever cheated on you, you would be so distraught and it would mess you up and then further say I'd love it if they just told me they were starting to like someone else instead of sneaking behind my back. After that, say to him but you would never do that to me. If he is offending, the guilt will eat him up and he would be more inclined to confess

>hen, he picked up his phone and asked if I was looking through his shit. I said no and then he told me he knew I looked through it and then he left. He's going to break up with me for sure haha

You really didnt listen to what anyone said did you.
Your paranoia is going to cost you a relationship.

Say that you're still recovering from a previous relationship where you got cheated on and communicate your insecurities to him so he knows how to reassure you?

idk, you probably arent really listening anymore

You need to deal with these insecurities of yours because it will literally make you undateable

>because it will literally make you undateable
willl it really? I always think about this stuff and I can't stop.

everyone has some kind of background noise cynisism going on in their head.

It's a defense mechanism. Everyone has it and it gets stronger when you have previous experience to back it up with.

Some people are better at surpressing it than others. A strategy i heard of once was "pretend that cynical voice in your head is some 12 year old kid on xbox live" and you'll really realize just who that side of you really is.

The minute you take action to those thoughts, and give that side of you energy. The minute you start doing "tests" to try and settle the "is he cheating on me?" court case in your head. You already lost. You're giving it ammo, you're giving it(the screaming xbox live kid) energy.

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ironic that this thread was made during the projared stuff

wait, your boy friend fucked another girl? Or is talking to another girl?

this is very good advice, I'm not OP or the user you are responding to but I will take this and try to apply it. How ever I cant recognize it when I am being cynical in my own head. what do you think is cynical thinking?

You're fat and men keep finding better than you.

Probably when you're always imagining a cinematic parallel to your current unfortunate matters or something.
not being in the moment
etc

ICONIC

>I got cheated on last boyfriend too
whatever type you are going for, you need to stop. there are plenty of guys you can be absolutely sure won't cheat on you.

I'm laughing! I was having a bad day but this really made it better. Thanks OP!

>I throw my pussy at douchebags and get surprised when they cheat on me

Young men are basically raised to think that they have a free pass to treat anyone and everyone like shit as long as they're young enough and sex is the objective. Boys are just boys, and it's just a phase anyway so who cares? Some of those guys are great at reading your body language, watching who you do or don't hang out with, picking out girls who don't feel good about themselves or don't have friends/family watching their back. The solution is to work on liking yourself and trusting your guts.

Soooo, now that your relationship is over...

What's your discord sweetheart?

> I think

Stopped reading there senpai.

imma be honest sis. he's cheating. "study partner"??????? LMFAO BITCH IS THIS THE FUCKING DISNEY CHANNEL????? you said hes never where he's claiming to be. sis. stop being a dumb bitch. seriously

The kids are online

go back to plebbit lol

Look at this oniony-boi and laugh

Found the teenage boys. Maybe if you ask your parents nicely, they'll send you to a fun summer camp or sign you up for a team sport and you'll develop enough social skills to get laid without going after their self-esteem first.

hahaha how weird to accuse them of being teenage boys. Were you hurt by some teenage boy?

Do you swollow and do anal? Guys want that.

It's only weird if you think it's weird that 1 + 1 = 2.