I thought getting a gf would be the holy grail of existence. But its not

I thought getting a gf would be the holy grail of existence. But its not.

Sure the sex, kissing, cuddling and fun moments are great but 90% are very fucking mundane boring every day shit. Problems at work, problems with her girlfriends, pretending to care about the new clothes she bought, acting like you like her new haircut even if it looks exactly like her old one.

The first weeks were fantastic but now its more and more about every day stuff...

This is not what i thought having a gf would be like.

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sounds like you hold no romantic feelings towards her.

And she puts up with your boring bullshit. That's what it's like user. There's no advice to give aside from, if you don't learn to accept and work with this you won't ever have a relationship last longer than 6 months.

Almost like we fucken told you so but your dumb ass had to assume YOU were right about this and not any of us, despite the fact that the last time you could tell your ass from hot rocks, you were pre-pubescent.

That's what a first practice gf is like.

hey user
most of life is everyday stuff
just thought id let you know

break up with her

it took me a year to realize i was happier single than with a gf but i needed to go through that at least once

are you honestly surprised? have you ever talked to women?

>The first weeks were fantastic but now its more and more about every day stuff...
The duck did you expect? A relationship is just friendship with physical intimacy, it is about as mundane as it gets. Seriously it's about enjoying life whether or not you have An SO. Getting a girlfriend is not going to change your state of mind past maybe giving you a little confidence.
Go out and do thing together and have fun with he. Again seriously what did you expect?

lol I feel bad for everyone in this thread, Everyday is exciting with someone you genuinely love. OP dont settle, you just havent found the right one

>relationship is just friendship with physical intimacy
No it is not. Being genuinely in love with someone is not like being friends with benefits.

>Being genuinely in love with someone is not like being friends with benefits.
>don't love your friends and family
For me physical intimacy is the difference, I hold unconditional live for all my friends and family.

why did people even had kids in the past

No birth control. And social consequences if they didn't get together to raise the kids, plus church-induced fear of eternal hellfire.

>I hold unconditional live for all my friends and family
That's an unintentional lie user

>That's an unintentional lie user
Just because you think infatuation is love doesn't mean I dont know true love. When you know true love you need nothing in return, not even their acknowledgement. Unconditional love is something I have not seen in many other people. Everyone create confides in which they must operate, give conditions to their love. This gives rise to all sorts of issues as most people will struggle to fit perfectly within your confides.

Don't listen to he's parroting modern antinatalisst nonsense that he's never critically thought about before. No birth control is definitely part of it, but there was (and really still is) innate utility to having kids. For a normal person more kids meant more workers and therefore more potential family income. You didn't have to pay for things like daycare, vaccines, insurance, school, etc, all you really had to worry about was feeding them until they were old enough to bring in more income than they cost, which was well before 18. Nowadays you have to invest hundreds of thousands to have a successful child and they're not going to be self-sufficient until they're in their early 20s. Additionally, there was no support system for old people prior to the mid-1900s so if you didn't want to be entirely destitute or literally worked to death when you were old you needed to have enough kids to support you.

I do love my friends and family. I'm not in love with them romantically.
I don't have the same level of intimacy, emotional closeness, romance, tenderness and desire for any of them.

>romantically
What is romance beyond physical intimacy. Literally the only difference in my relationship with friends and family vs S/O is physical intimacy. I go out for coffee/lunch with my family, I go to movies and shit with my friends. Literally only difference is I dont view them in a sexual light.

that's why you go for the girl who is more to you than just a hole with two legs and a mouth attached (among else).

I light up when my boyfriend smiles at me. The ultimate validation, for me, is knowing he finds me beautiful. I care for him on such a deep level that I never sleep well unless I can touch his chest and feel it moving under my hand. I share things with him I would never share with anyone else, I can confide in him fully and have complete emotional intimacy with him. I can't wait to build a family with him, to carry his children, to be his wife. Touching him calms me down. I live to serve him, and he lives to serve me - we truly feel a sense of belonging, both to each other and with each other.
It's just something else, it's nothing like friends and family.

gay

So fucking much, you have no idea.

Gays can’t get pregnant dude.

I'm a girl, dummy. I have pretty homo feelings for my boyfriend, but I'm definitely a girl.

Your delusions won’t change reality.

Okay, I guess. I don't care enough to change your mind.
Have a good day.

Yeah, it’s basically just having sex with a female friend. Life is a lot more complex than that.

Living for the orgasm is the same as being addicted to drugs and having a girlfriend is like having a friend which I already have.

I’ll have girlfriend but I need hobbies and shit.

>I can confide in him fully and have complete emotional intimacy with him.
Must be sad being so distant from your family you can not confide in them. I seriously talk to my family about things I'd never mention to anyone else. They are a part of my being.

Didn't any of us tell you?

Wheres that other dude that keeps posting here a GF would complete him and then argues with all us non virgins about how it's not that big of a deal? He needs to see this.