ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

so i've been talking to this girl all semester and we've become good friends
i gave her an australian opal (pic related) today and she looked so happy. i've never seen her smile like that before, and she said thank you in such a genuine way. i'm so glad i did that

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Why do girls giggle so much, even when there's nothing funny happening?

Oh I hate that

It's so stupid and fake. Fake laughter is one of my biggest pet peeves. At risk of sounding autistic, I actually call people out on fake laugher. (worth it imo)

Girls, how easily can you tell somebody is attracted to you.

Also how would you prefer a guy you don’t know to initiate conversation.

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>Girls, how easily can you tell somebody is attracted to you.
Depends on the girl. Personally, very much so.

>how would you prefer a guy you don’t know to initiate conversation.
Have a credible excuse to talk to me. Take a hint if I cut the conversation after we're done talking about whatever your excuse is.

Question for wamen

How much of a turnoff is it if a guy talks to you and is visibly nervous/anxious?

Obviously it helps and is attractive if you’re confident but is it really a dealbreaker If you aren’t?

Must we be perfectly stoic and manly.

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I honestly love if a guy is generally pretty confident and chill, but gets visibly anxious when he talks to me. A cute guy spilling spaghetti when he talks to me just makes my heart melt.

Obviously if I don't like you it's not like I'm going to start like you because you're sperging.

That’s good to know lol because otherwise I’m doomed. It’s so hard for me to keep my composure around attractive women.

I mean I have a girlfriend and everything but it’s still hard talking to pretty women.

As long as you get your point across in a rather timely manner, no problem at all. I understand awkwardness in conversation - I have severe social anxiety, and before the meds I was a mess. Can relate to visible spaghetti dropping.

I'm always smiling in general and giggle a lot when I'm nervous. I do try to keep it down but it's a bad habit of mine. I do laugh sincerely a lot though, it's just easy for me to laugh in social situations.

>I mean I have a girlfriend
Then why do you care if a girl likes you?
Don't be a cunt, be faithful.

Giving feedback on the social interection. Giggling is pretty neutral and inoffensive. Could also be awkwardness, anxiety or insecurity, as well as a buffer for the next topic of conversation.

It's to put men at ease because men can rape or beat them to death.

Obviously this is unlikely, but that's why they do it.

This is more for writing than pure curiosity but women: Could you describe your attraction to masculine men?

How exactly do I tell the difference between a guy being friendly, and a guy being interested and flirty?

Asking because a coworker of sorts is going out of his way to talk to me, and I've been advised to report it to HR, but not only do i not mind, i also dont even know if it makes sense in the first place. But it got me thinking, if a female coworker saw it as a potential #metoo thing... does that mean it isn't just him being friendly? And how do I tell which one it is?

I like qt nervous boys but you won't hook a Stacy with it. My bf of 4 years sometimes stutters when i flirt with him its good and cute.

I am faithful but I have this annoying affliction called “being human.” I’m still attracted to women it’s just I get nervous around pretty ones.

Yes, but you shouldn't care too much about impressing the pretty ones since you already have a girlfriend.

You’re right I guess. My ego often goes unchecked and it gets me into trouble.

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None, because "masculine men" are gross and gay.

You're either a saint for giving an ugly chick attention or you're deluded if you think giving a girl rocks is going to make her touch your penis in the future.

Just because it didn’t work when you tried it doesn’t mean it won’t work for him.

I'd give a handie for some opals, with the prerequisite that I find them attractive.

Femanons, do you use crystal cafe? If not, why? Are you worried that if you offend some girl, mercurial female hackers will trace your IP and try to kill you and steal your identity? Or is it the strict gender guidelines? Or the plausibility of it being inhabited by mentally ill transvestites pretending to have vahinas?

If you do use it, what do you like about it? The format? Overall design? Convenience? No boys allowed rules? Its unique culture?

Thanks

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Been on Jow Forums for 10 years, don't feel like getting into petty Jow Forums for 10 more.

If you were born female then I'll say this...

If you're really so naive to think a co worker is interested in you, then you should probably find another job

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Its not a deal breaker if I know you're an anxious person but if you're smooth around others and anxious around me in just gonna assume you're afraid of me and that's not very attractive.

Every woman (and man) is going to have a slightly different opinion on what masculine is. I'm not sure what you mean by "describe attraction", like what I'm attracted to or how I feel when attracted?

Never even heard of it

In her defense, if the guy talks to her like a human, there is a good chance he would fuck her if she wanted. He might not be looking to date her. Might not be day dreaming about fucking her. But if he takes the time to have real conversations, he would if offered. That's just how men are.

Idk what that is and I don't care to learn.

>female hackers
Is this even a thing?

We don't even if it's a her.

According to Angelina jolie. Then again every hacker probably needs a bj every now and again

They probably already fucked and she just wants to know who here is gay and whether she should get him fired and take his job

Girls,
Do you enjoy assplay?

I don't use it because I never heard about it. Also female centered communities tend to be so catty and petty I can't stand it, despite liking drama (artist discords, sims related communities, tumblr etc).

Yes. I can orgasm from anal but not from vaginal penetration ;_;

So you basically join other girls inadvertently in whatever endeavor features a male as the fixture of everyone's attention?

What about performing assplay on guy?

Girls, what does it take for a turbomanlet (5'5") to get in those pants?

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Irl I have 0 issues with my female friends but female centered communities online are a fucking hellhole. People obsessed with calling each other out, making perfect hugbox communities and autistically reinforcing ridiculous rules and then that same community falls apart a month or two later because one of the mods had a breakdown. As much as it's entertaining to see it crumble down and fall after the nth time it becomes tiresome and not a place I'd like to hang out in. Not to mention the constant walking on eggshells as to avoid becoming the next call-out target.
On Jow Forums nobody knows my gender and in most situations it's not relevant.

based and red-suppositoried.

Sure thing. I wish my boyfriend expressed interest in that honestly, I might bring it up sometime.

I mean finger in the bottom or something more (like strap-on)?

Femanons, I don't mean to be offensive, but I have a question about race. A few asspulls on Jow Forums makes me think that americam Caucasian women dislike Asian women. I worked security at malls and I noticed that Asian women were of the source of ire for many other women. Asian girls weren't shy about flirting with the guys doing security. Neither were other girls but I've seen non Asian women throw literal fits at Asian women for some rather innocuous things. Maybe they just want my attention too?

I've even heard some pretty cruel things said when I dated an Asian girl from my own family.

Where does this come from? We aren't really inundated with female Asian stereotypes in America . The last ones were just kung fu masters and sushi chefs. There isnt 300 years of slavery or the holocaust or extensive history of Sino american history taught in schools.

Asian neighbors dont drive around blasting music and doing graffiti everywhere. I don't see Asian hookers everywhere seducing everyone's husbands/brothers/sons etc....

So what is the source of THIS perceived conflict? I just don't get it. Is it really just, jealousy?

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It does make you wonder how many spurgs are actually girls. I know the worst ones in the cosplay board are.

Yeah exactly that. I fingered my boyfriend a couple of times before but never asked about strap ons. Might be a fun time.

It's because Asian women and successful white men go together like perfection. When they click they really click and even pretty white women cant compete. Not having their hot white girl privilege infuriates them.

You will see similar with dark black girls and light black girls. A light black girl can snag all kinds of men. One that acts white can have just about anyone. Darker black women loathe them for having access to all of that.

In short, its jealousy.

White men treating Asian women like they're a blessing to mankind and white women as if they're absolute trash, mostly. Like this guy: I don't think there's much conflict to be honest. At least personally, I never resented women of any race due to their race. I am sometimes a little jealous of pretty girls, but that's not very race dependent.

According to mainstream magazines sites like this are bad bad not good for society and grls. How does it feel to know that the press is using your whole gender to make people believe that anonymous communities like this are a threat to things like "women's rights". Please dont feel obligated to patronize me in any way...

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Same fag jere. Now that you're out of ammo you should know I don't treat women like trash. See if you can dodge this Asian girl with a gun:

Pew pew pew

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You're a guy. Plus I was raised around light skin black girls so I'm kinda grossed out by them so when I found my dad's Nubian black girl porno DVD u can imagine what that was like.

There's no guaranteed way to tell. Assume he's just being friendly until he clearly indicates otherwise.

It's just the race traitor instinct kicking in. As much as people don't want to admit it in this current political climate or whatever, we're still pretty tribal and have some "behind" ways of thinking (subconscious or not) when it comes to people dating outside of their race, nationality or religion. I'm not here to argue whether it's a correct or natural way to react to things but it's certainly there.
Despite me growing up in a catholic/atheist family with open minded views my father wanted to disown me when he found out I was dating a jewish guy.
But there's also this aspect to it Race fetishizing, yellow fever etc. is the other side of the coin, equally annoying in ways I can't properly explain right now so I'll pass on that.
Cute nun.

To be fair I'm European so that alone might make this off base, but the suggested reasons seem universal and I can honestly say that I have never heard of this from either a woman or a man, nor have I seen it in my life. Not about Asian women not about white man/Asian woman couples.

I don't really see why jealousy would be necessary. Sure Asian women have a lighter build/frame, tend to age well and can be lovely (like women from any race imo), but men can be real asshats about "no ass" or outright implying Asians all look alike or even all have the same personality. Honestly by far most comments in the public domain I've heard about it were rather derogatory and offensive/mean.

Besides let's face it white women (and men for that matter) are vastly vastly overrepresented as attractive. Why else are eyelid corrections etc so popular, because there's pressure to be attractive in this particular way.
If anyone feels Asian girls are too popular or whatever that's a personal issue.

> (You)
>Cute nun.
It's from one of the crying freeman chinese live action adaptations. I don't remember which one and theyre not very good anyway

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sex has been on offer from her since like two months ago

You say you're european. I'm assuming you're Asian from europe? Am I understanding this?

>making small talk with a girl I've talked to a few times
>mess up something with my speech
>she finds it funny for some reason and bursts out laughing but quickly apologized saying she didn't mean to laugh
>the atmosphere got sort of awkward and I left
don't know what to make of this

It's more of a "how do I actually tell" question, since apparently someone thinks this is reportable... which doesn't make sense to me if it is just plain friendly behavior, which is what I have assumed it was until now.

I am a girl, sorry if that wasn't sufficiently clear.

Alright then, I'll just continue as I was. It just kind of occured to me I might be missing some subtle clues, but I wasn't sure. Guess the safest bet is to just assume it's just casual friendly behavior, rather than anything more.

It just confuses me so much when a coworker seems to think he is being "inappropriate" somehow.

Thank you user I might watch it one night when I get slightly drunk or really tired.
I think they're chiming in as a white european. We don't really see many other races around unless we live in the big cities. I've only ever interacted with asians once, same for blacks.

No, I'm a white (Dutch) woman.

I've been fangirling you on adv for 3 years.
Nice to see you're still around, I think you're the best poster of this board.
Have a nice day.

I have definitely been friendly/interacted with different races. I work a call center job in a big company, pretty entry level but it pays well so we get a very mixed group including Muslims/Middle Eastern people, Asians, black people, you name it. Many young folks too, or well, thirty and under.

I was friends with an Asian girl in high school. My university is very white though, but also niche.

maybe because im just a highschooler and ill probably gain more experience with dating, but i can never get a bf unless they're someone that just wants to fetishize me?? i'm asian and i know i look a little young for my age and i wear makeup to not look like i'm a child, but i just want to experience whatever other highschool girls can do like flirt and have fun??

Just as one example, your coworker might be jealous that he's not giving her similar attention in hopes that it would be romantic toward her.

It's 2019, there are plenty of guys who don't care about race like that. Your best bet is to be wary of any guy who makes an unexpected first move before you even noticed his existence.

To be fair I should have clarified I'm eastern yuro. Over here I only encounter other races in the form of students from abroad or tourists. The immigrants don't even want to come near our country lol

That is so kind of you to say, thank you. I have been on Jow Forums for around ten years now and although I wouldn't want to miss the insight into the thoughts and lives of faceless strangers, I have seen so much I did not want to see and it is odd having so many memories/"data" of people you know also exist in the real world out there and maybe work jobs or run into you, but still this site draws in a specific crowd and as a result you don't know how much you should infer from what people express online.

So it is really nice to hear that I can have a positive impact on someone coming here and experiencing maybe some of those same things, some pretty fucking toxic ideas around here too for impressionable young boys, I just hope I can pay forward the benefit of the doubt and the sharing of experience for others like many great people have done for me over the years. Cheers, have a good night (/day?), I hope life is treating you well or will wisen up soon.

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Oh okay. I wasn't sure because you seemed to be airing out the frustrations of Asian girls. Are you posting with a friend?

>I think they're chiming in as a white european. We don't really see many other races around unless we live in the big cities. I've only ever interacted with asians once, same for blacks

I see. Good to know

She probably just got nervous, she might be shy with someone she's still just getting to know or maybe she likes you/finds you funny for some other reason and is already on edge and then something unexpected happens.

Don't make too much of it. It sucks, but we're all human and apologizing is really all she could do here. It's easy to say she should've explained or something but that's hindsight and she was on the spot in an uncomfortable situation of her own doing.

Just don't mention it and hit her up next time like nothing happened. Be a little extra friendly. If she's cool she'll move past it, especially if you did say something before leaving.

> (You)
>No, I'm a white (Dutch) woman.
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back of the neck

Oh okay. I wasn't sure because you seemed to be airing out the frustrations of Asian girls. Are you posting with a friend?

Would it be a good idea for a guy to go on no fap for 3 years and avoid women so he can focus on lifting and getting in prime shape?

It should not take you three years to get in prime shape with lifting, fap or no fap. This reeks of making up excuses to fail.

As a dude, if a girl doesn't actively seek me out and chase me in the slightest, she's not interested at all right?
Say we know for a while now, and Im with friends. She comes and starts talking but I only glance, she doesn't even tell me a word, and keeps talking with them, there's no reason to pursue right? Im practically invisible to her even though we had a lot of conversations, deep ones, many times. I just stopped paying attention to her because she seems to love only the attention I give her and nothing else.

>if a girl doesn't actively seek me out and chase me in the slightest, she's not interested at all right?
She might be shy. Look up "datinglogic" on youtube, he has short talks about what you can infer from day-to-day interactions and how to go about seeing if the girl is legitimately interested in you or not.

How do I make him fall in love with me? I want to be better.

Pubescent boys love others simply for existing. Men love others for how those others impact their lives. Add to his life in as many ways as you can. Make it better for being there.

For women. Why is my face so offputting for you? I was in a tinder thread on here asking for advice and got told that I’m straight up too ugly and to give up. My personality is never giving up. Will there be ways to make up for having this issue I have with physical attractiveness? Even if a personality wins somebody’s heart I’m sure I’m being dismissed for anything but that. I’m 27 and I’ve always been single and I’m concerned. I know an 88 year old woman who never had a partner and I don’t want that to be my fate as well..

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>don't be weird about your height: don't joke about it, don't mention it, don't mention/resent my potential heels, don't ask my height
>show conversational skills, don't do a song and dance trying to entertain, pick up lines are absolutely not done, just straight up ask a simple open ended question, even something like "so was today a good day for you" can be a start, just show sincere interest, listening skills, relate to what I tell you so it's not static talking-listening but interaction
>tell me stuff about yourself that is appropriate (no exes, traumatic shit, crude sexual details etc), like an anecdote from when you were a kid that you can relate to who you are now, subtly showing off an "interesting" hobby like mentioning how you always used to play [instrument] to deal with frustration from x [light/funny annoying thing in your household] as a teen
>laughing together is important more so than making me laugh, just recognizing the same humorous little obstacle in life can be fun
>if you just want to go home with a girl she will need to be in an adventurous mood so get a little silly, try to find a spur of the moment thing you can do, stuff that makes her take off her shoes or hitch up her dress or even just going outside together is good
>if you feel relationship potential, ask personal questions that require her to think of emotionally charged memories, like the worst pain she's had in her life, or what she wanted to be when she grew up as a kid, if there's tension you can ask when she felt sexiest
>flirting is huge for anyone who does not fit the conventional categories of attraction, showing off playfulness/wit/insight/kindness are huge, attraction happens in your brain and the idea of sex is wholly different when you have an idea of what they might also bring to the bedroom, flirting =/= witty sexual wordplay but teasing her, making her feel beautiful with your gaze, touching her just a little here and there, showing her a good time

I actually agree with the other user, it's possible she has feelings and is afraid of somehow revealing that if she talks to you a little more personally with others around. For many people when they really like someone their face can visibly light up talking/laughing with their crush and if someone witnessing it is sensitive about those things it could definitely give it away. Just bring it up sometimes, if you drink together at times wait until you're both feeling it but not full on drunk.

Fuck off Brandon there's nothing wrong with your face you're a desperate tweed and most of the time you need a shower.

Every girl I've ever gone on a date with or who has expressed interest in me has immediately asked about my past romantic history. A number have even been so blunt as to ask "so why don't you have a girlfriend?" It's my understanding that asking about this sort of stuff on the first date is very rude. How am I supposed to respond to these sorts of questions, especially if I have no romantic history and women tend to see that as a red flag?

You have a cute and nice face. Only flaw I'd say is that you don't stand out too much but that's the thing, I know a lot of men that look like you that are in relationships etc. Pretty young looking too. Was the tinder thread on /soc/? That place is brainlet central.

>read up on sexual technique, you can learn more than you'd think from that, this is a GREAT website moderntantra.blogspot.com/p/better-sex-101_21.html
>don't forget that you are also judging her, it's not just good to keep looking out for those red flags but she will also respect you more when she can tell you are holding her to certain standards and forming an opinion on her as you get to know each other better
>if you have it in you to be the kind of guy who tries to take a party to the next level, go for that when there's no good opportunity to talk to an interesting girl, everyone in a situation like that is hoping to run into someone upbeat to have fun with, it also looks attractive to just do your own thing vs waiting for something to happen while you wander around
>keep some cute gifs of animals on your phone to show/"come across" in an idle moment, if you have someone send them to you you can show the chat log and tell your favorite story about (you and) said person, nice for siblings
>make sure your haircut flatters you, pick out a good place and ask the employee for the best model for your face shape, wear clothes that fit well and have some color, many male clothing is gray (black/grey/brown/navy) so wearing something brighter is good, you don't have to work out but at least some activity is good even just to move more supply and feel more at ease in your body

Cheers, good luck.

"Because I keep dating women who ask rude questions."

Grow a pair. Dates are a dime a dozen. Spend some of your free time trying to figure out why you keep dating such shitty women, though.

That’s why an entire thread about tinder was telling me that my face is too ugly and then went on about how high the standards of women are?

Just stay vague. "I was very focused on school", "I haven't really met a person I clicked with yet".