I realized that literally everyone i know has been in a relationship except me, i'm severely disappointed in myself and i can't shake the feeling that i'm a fucking loser (which is true to some extent) but jesus christ one of my friends, who's literally a retard like me just got a fucking gf and i'm sitting here just wondering how the fuck did he manage to do that, any tips on how to stop feeling like shit?
I realized that literally everyone i know has been in a relationship except me...
Well I can tell your attitude is one of the reasons you're single. They're in a relationship because they talk to people OP, do you talk to people?
start working out to improve yourself physically but also mentally. You can see a physical improvement with yourself which will be a self esteem boost.
but really the most important thing is to put yourself around girls more often. Don't think of every one of them as a relationship candidate for yourself but just a friend and it will make you more comfortable around them and when you finally find someone special you will be glad you didn't rush into something (I was in your same situation a year ago and now i'm exactly where I want to be with a girl I love it gets better)
Some people are just unapproachable on the surface I think. Try not to read into it too much and realize that you're probably not putting yourself out there as much as you think. Are you comfortable being alone? Do you want someone else in your life? Both can be true and that can cause serious discord in your head.
>start working out to improve yourself
Why aren't women held to the same standards? I mean I know why but why is life unfair?
That's another thread by itself but think of an ovum with millions of sperm competing to fertilize it. We're just living that drama on the macroscopic level.
Well, statistically, as a man. Am I better off ending myself? It doesn't seem that farfetched.
All of our pointless life extension technologies prevent nature from taking care of that itself, but yes, historically life has been suffering for 80% of men except during transient periods of stable civilzation.
I'd like to believe that I'm a, temporarily inconvenienced, successful man but it doesn't seem all that rational. Do you reckon there's more to life than what biology tells us, or more than struggle and validation?
I will add that this current time is even worse. Although you would have conscripted to die hunting mammoths for cave-chad and cave-stacy in caveman times, the one release you had was the opportunity for rape. Now that we live in a decaying society, women get to enjoy all of the benefits of sexual liberation with none of the dangers of prehistoric times.
I would advise you to find some outlet that reminds you you're a man and that they can never completely subdue you. Be like a living Joker meme in your own way. It might make you feel alive again.
I am in the same situation, coping gets harder every day
>Do you reckon there's more to life than what biology tells us, or more than struggle and validation?
No
Got all that?
You speak as if we find ourselves in some sort of defective reality but here we ARE. We can't change the manner in which the pieces are placed. Is there a short cut? I know I sound a bit crestfallen but I'm just trying to find a way out of this.
Christ. Life is so crude, isn't it? Heroin it is.
A short cut to what... just sex? Do you really, really want to be in a relationship or would it overwhelm you?
>A short cut to what... just sex?
I don't know. Sex is just that, sex. I'm asking if there's something that transcends mere built-in desires.
Stop trying to use woman to validate your existence. You need a purpose outside of woman.
>I'm asking if there's something that transcends mere built-in desires.
Doubtful but I own a freaking sex doll so I'm prejudiced, of course. My life has given me one of the most extreme perspectives on this that you'll ever run into. I consider myself strange.
Then tell me the path to purpose. I'm all ears.
Fascinating that I find myself in this situation at all. Expecting life to be more than it could possibly be. Fuck I'm just delusional and pathetic.
I try to talk to people but I'm never in an opportunity where I can meet a girl that is potential with:
>work colleagues & college classmates
They've known me for 8 months now so they know I'm a sperg
>volunteer stuff
They've known me for years now so they know I'm a sperg
>random college places like hallways libraries
Till now all people I randomly strike convos with are only weirded out
>night club / bar
Everyones too wasted to talk and girls there aren't looking for long term stuff
>college parties
Stopped getting invited to those after 2 months into the year when classmates found out I'm a sperg
>gym
Local gym is only attended by literal boomers, no college age girls
What else can I do?
Only thing I have left is trying to meme myself into being gay and try strike it up with the twinky nerdy gay guy I met at an IRL discord server meetup.
Is existence is fully valid dumbass. Doesn't mean you can't feel bad about not having a girl. Jesus Christ.