I know women don't really appreciate random male attention...

I know women don't really appreciate random male attention, since trying to find a man that is interested in them is literally no effort. but what about feeling attention from someone you like, what really separates it?
I just don't get how you can really love attention from an average guy you are in a relationship with, while not only not appreciating, but actively disliking attention from other average guys.

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femanon here.
personally i find most random male attention ego-boosting, long as it’s not creepy or sexual. when it crosses the line into harassment is when its clear youre trying to make me squirm. you can compliment women just dont be wierd about it

>you can compliment women just dont be wierd about it
provide examples, or is the weirdness just based on how attractive the guy giving you attention is?

>at work
>cuckstomer wont leave, instead he makes intense prolonged eye contact
>don't look away because am alpha bitch
>"WOW. You have beautiful eyes"
>he's trynna eye fuck
>coworkers trying not to laugh
>cringe
>"thanks sir... have a good day"
>"Oh, I already did"
>look down to see him pat his junk
>coworkers spend the rest of the day saying I made a dude cum with my eyes

this is why women don't appreciate random male attention

As a lad, I wouldn't advise it. The area is incredibly grey with something you'd say to a female being slightly acceptable among peers by outright embarrassing to strangers. You can either learn from experience (dating apps are a solid place to start since physical rejection is far less painful than online rejection) or you can avoid the entire ballgame all together (which I, and actually quite a lot of my attractive friends do)

>(dating apps are a solid place to start
that's what I thought till I failed to get any matches on shit like tinder

It's a bit of a tough situation. My brother who is an aging 37 year old still gets likes from girls younger than me (I'm 25). He's confident in his appearance, (smiling, looking into the camera at least) and he gets matches.

I have two matches, both unmatched shortly after.
Some dating apps can be more serious like PoF although I wouldn't spend any money on any since I'd rather avoid the virtual world when trying to find a partner. Do you not have any female friends? They're usually the best people to approach since they'd have other female friends, and chances are if you're on good terms with them you'll get invited to parties.

Also, avoid females that have a fair portion of male friends, the stereotypes are true.

dont be wierd, i e dont make me uncomfortable. a good baseline is like, if an ugly ass girl said that shit to you how’d you feel? an it doesnt have shit to do with how attractive you are, getting your ass slapped on the bus doesnt feel any better when its coming from a crackhead then it does coming from a gorgeous dude

>personally i find most random male attention ego-boosting
hi
would you kindly consider being my girlfriend?

And my absolute last piece of advice I can give, (inspired from this absolutely useless post here )
Don't ask the opposite gender for advice. They're giving you information based on their own personal desires, which could translate completely different in reality.

You're genuinely better off asking the males you do know that are good at dating. From what I've seen
>Some girls enjoy not talking what so ever, some enjoy commanding the entire conversation
>Stray compliments work on first dates. Appearance mentions go well ('you look great' is a good start, but having it wallow into something self depressing can ring alarm bells)
>Be prepared to embarrass yourself slightly
>Don't lie, it's honestly too much effort
>Don't beat yourself up if a date doesn't go the way you intended/you don't get a number
Dating has drastically changed from how it was several generations ago. You could go on a date with a person now and they'll literally arrange a date with another person that same night

>Don't ask the opposite gender for advice.

This x100,000. You don't ask a fish how to catch fish, you ask a master fisherman. Women don't even know what they are thinking themselves, in studies measuring their attraction to various pictures or volunteer men by measuring their heart rate, pupil dilation, cervical mucous, etc. there was a huge disconnect between when their bodies were aroused and what their conscious minds stated they were aroused by. Ignore what they say - pay attention to what they do and do not respond to.

You have to spend money in order to get matches, if it doesn't work, this might be why. You have to be megachad to get likes as a regular user.

that's really depressing.
then again, I've never seen a woman say "this is what you could have said to convince me to date you"
Would be nice.

Not really, it's a bit complicated depending on where you live:
I'm based in London and I've next to none success with anything related to dating apps. I've tried Reddit, talking to girls on a night out and all the dating apps.
My brother has tried just dating apps and has had success with girls that are mostly students. His pearls of wisdom were:
>Try to sound interesting. Little white lies about your occupation are only useful if it's to divert attention away from how boring you sound
>If they asked about his occupation, he would open up with how he's a social media manager looking after small clothing brands.
>He doesn't really see it as an issue, since he's typically lying to get laid
>He mentioned that online dating requires you to outline what you want, fast. If it's hook ups or long term dating, go in with those intentions and don't change your idea half way
>Because otherwise you'll be left in awkward situations on your 3rd date
>Learn to cut your losses, online dating doesn't mean you're guaranteed a partner. Everyone is attempting to woo everyone. If she doesn't reply, then try to double message your way back into her heart
>I cannot stress this enough, be ready to pay for some drinks

My brother has slept with 97 females, with at least a good 10 coming from Tinder

Your brother is a ho

Yeah he is. Don't know how the madman does it but he is

Because he's built up his life around chasing women. It's what validates him.

I disagree. He had to work pretty much from the get go (our mother abandoned us) in order to ensure I got into university. He recently went back into university himself to finish his degree in engineering. He's quite an attractive guy and his charisma just seeps out of him naturally. Extended family often suggested he do stand up.

I don't think marking off a man who has slept around is the same case of doing the same for a woman (which I can slyly feel you've picked it up as), but my brother is a bit more than a guy who's only purpose in life is to get laid (I know other people who are like that, trust me, they don't make sit at home making Star Trek models)

that really depends because women mark each other off for sleeping around but guys I roll with dont give a fuck who slept with who or how many as long as we are the next one in line and hopefully at the end of the line.

I really don't know what you're trying to illustrate with your response. You guys basically don't care who you sleep with because it's assumed that the same female will be passed around or that everyone is only concerned with their own affairs?

>Someone you like

Be hot. Women are vapid kek

>in studies measuring their attraction to various pictures or volunteer men by measuring their heart rate, pupil dilation, cervical mucous, etc. there was a huge disconnect between when their bodies were aroused and what their conscious minds stated they were aroused by
Do you really think this means anything? The human body institutionally reacts to external stimuli regardless of what your developed human brain is thinking. It's no different from when you involuntarily laugh when tickled. Also, both sexes will usually show signs of arousal if they get sexually assaulted, even though it's obviously not something they want.

No it's more like we dont care because you are with us and we are excited you are here for us to notice anything about your past. So any bad shit you have in your past I wouldnt care about because you are with me now and that's what I would care about.

I'm a bit confused. Are you talking about my brother, success with online dating or your friend's success with online dating?

This also helps, a lot. A lot more than people are willing to consider since it's a very painful truth.

oh I just jumped in to give soem useless info about how guys dont care about a girls past, so in the long run it has little to do with your point as a whole.

That's true if you're only concerned with sex. You can give questions, answer questions and obey other social nuances but in essence, you're only really listening if you're trying to break down the barrier. You can usually save yourself the time by skipping this out by asking if you both have similar intentions

All males are equally ugly and have equal amount of degeneration ,some of you become creeps,rapists, some become murderers shooters some are feminist fuckbois. Depends how degenerate you are

All females are equally ugly and have equal amount of degeneration ,some of you become creeps,rapists, some become murderers shooters some are feminist fuckbois. Depends how degenerate you are

well yeah, but the thing is is that many of us guys want to get rid of those social cues altogether and just say I don't care who you slept with and that you're trying to follow the social Norm but I think that we work well together blah blah blah blah. Your last point though usually makes things a lot easier.

this is why girls should get violently raped so they dont have to worry about the social connotations of flirting

>I know women don't really appreciate random male attention
What.

As long as you're not being a creep about it they usually adore it. Just make sure they know you like/appreciate them as a person, not just as some fuckmeat. Because generally they aren't. Find some common interest to talk about or trade stories about life experiences. If they're not into you, then you'll end up making a friend. If they are then you have a potential partner. It's a win-win either way. And practice makes perfect after all.

Chicks with boyfriends also like knowing that other people are into them as long as it doesn't give off desperate vibes. I don't think there are too many people that get upset at casual attraction. It's a nice confidence boost.