I haven't fapped in a month, and i havent had sex in years. Since i stopped fapping, my sex drive has plummeted and i rarely get boners anymore. I think about sex often, but no boners.
is this healthy or unhealthy?
I haven't fapped in a month, and i havent had sex in years. Since i stopped fapping, my sex drive has plummeted and i rarely get boners anymore. I think about sex often, but no boners.
is this healthy or unhealthy?
you might need to fap more then. Also you might need to go out and be around women to get that testosterone feeling back.
the thing is, I feel mentally much clearer if I don't fap. I feel lethargic after fapping. Plus, I felt bad about myself from it. So, in a way I'm glad i stopped. As far as women goes, im virtually never around them. The only place women can be found here is bars, and i really hate bars.
well you may have been doing it too much. A once in a while fap shouldnt make you feel that bad, if it does it's only temperary.
Less sex, less sex drive. Just how your body works. a healthy sex life, masturbation included, does seem to affect mood and mental health in a positive way. You do you, just try not to force anything on yourself either direction. No fap meme is just a meme. Addiction comes in many forms etc.
You’re flatlining bro. Give it time. Also your dick may work better than you realize. I went through total dead dick periods but then as I got in contact with girls, like giving them hugs and shit, I actually got a srs boner so who knows. Try having some girl contact and see how your body responds
I was doing it every other day
i feel healthier without fapping. But i do notice that i get angry quicker now. My mind seems much sharper though.
I don't have any way to have girl contact
>go outside
>see a random girl
>hug her
It's that easy, but make sure you hug her tight, so she wouldn't have the opportunity to knee you in the balls.
You know don't know any girls? School, job, anything? You could just go to a bar once, I know you hate it but use it as a dick test for yourself if you got nothing else
>I was doing it every other day
limit it to once a week.
No.
then you are fucked, not really but I ran out of helpful tips.
Sounds like a terrible idea
Nope. None. Going to a bar would be very out of place for me, so I know it wouldn’t work
That wasn’t OP
Hm, ok that makes it difficult to test it that way. Perhaps get dates through online dating?
ph well user, you can fap all you like. Thing is when I stop fapping until my next session on the day I have fap like 3-4 times in that day.
>online dating
No. I will never do that again. I tried Tinder and Okcupid, out of the thousands of girls I liked on Tinder, less than 10 likes me over a course of 3 years. None of those girls would message with me. On okcupid I’ve never had a girl reply to my messages. All online dating did was make things worse
That’s why I am trying to permanently quit fapping. I don’t like to relapse
>relapse
what? it's not like I didnt continue every day after that, it was one day and then it's back to normal or I go even longer. I just dont try to not fap I just chill.
To add, I was even told by a girl to not use online dating. 2 years ago, at my job I had a female co-worker (who was a total slut). Once we were just talking because we had to work together and I saw her swiping on tinder. I asked her how many matches she gets on average and she showed me she had over 1,000 matches. I was stunned, and I told her I never get matched. Do you know what she said? She said to me “look, I know that online dating is hard for men. I mean, when I get on tinder, I only swipe usually the first 3 profiles I see. Because I don’t want to match every single person. So, in the case for many men, and you include, most girls probably will never ever see your profile.”
There was a period of time when I was falling 3x a day. I broke from that to just once a day, and from there to once every few days. Eventually to once a week. But after some point, I caught myself fapping 2x a day again. So that is why I stopped completely. I think it’s better if I never fap again
>taking a slut's advice
Although I'll admit she's not wrong, on apps like tinder women have much more say than men. You could use other dating websites that don't really deal with the somewhat harsh nature of swiping though. Apps like tinder are generally more for hookups.
As I said, I did also try Okcupid, but more or less it has the same results. Every guy ends up messaging the same few girls. Any girl with an attractive profile will have an inbox full of messages from every single guy. There is no way a girl will reply to every person or even view every profile
As a 30 year old virgin who jacks it maybe once every 2 weeks id say its ok. I dont think anyone ever dropped dead from not getting pussy.
That’s not healthy. Men need sex
I'm just like user,
haven't had sex in years, haven't fapped for more than a month.
I only fap when I can't fall asleep, and it works very well.
And I'm perfectly healty, so don't worry
Fapping helps you sleep? It never did for me
How so? Theres more to life than women/ getting laid.
How old are you now? How old were you when you fapped? A 30 year old won't fap as much as a 16 year old does.
Also, if you're depressed or stressed, your libido goes down. If you got fat, your testosterone goes down. If you live a sedentary life, it affects your erections negatively due to circulation issues.
I’m 28, I am not fat, I exercise regularly. I fapped nonstop my entire early twenties. But when I think about it, I think it was more out of habit than actually being horny
For me yeah.
Head that it doesn't for some people, because it turns your brain into 'horny' mode or smth like that.
I heard it can make people have headaches
absence of illness is healthy
That is true
Neither. It's just what happens. It'll come back when you want/need it.